indymx
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Joined: 1/25/2009
Msg: 26 | |
| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:44:42 AM | I give up.. I don't get you women. I have no idea what you want from us or what you want to hear.
I've read that I should write interesting emails based on what I've read in your profiles, and that should get your attention. I've read that I should write things about what I like to do, what makes me tick in my profile. I've read that I should have a few good pictures that show my face, so you can see what I look like.
So, I do all of that, and out of about 40 messages in 2 months, I get 38 read/deleted.
And I'm not exaggerating. It's that much.
I'm starting to think that this place isn't so much about meeting people.
I've had better luck walking up to random women on the street. | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:26:50 AM | | No offense, but I just read your profile, doesn't sound like someone I'd be willing to know when you call all the women on this site rude. If you are this unhappy, why stay? Have you ever attended any of the POF parties? It is a great way to meet a lot of singles, both women and men, and just have a great day without trying to deal with the pressures of that first meeting. At least you would know that everyone at the party was single, looking to meet someone, and willing to put themselves out there to do it. There is one being held in Indy on the 27th at Eight Seconds, there's over 100 people signed up and I am sure if you went, you would at least make some friends. Think about it. | |
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indymx
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Joined: 1/25/2009
Msg: 28 | |
| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:12:52 AM | Well, what's on my profile now is new.. I assure you, it's not what has been there for the last few months.
I'll probably remove my profile in the next couple days..
I went to a party at that place on the east side a year or so ago, and felt like I was in high school again. I'd try the one at 8 seconds, but I'm on crutches right now, so I'm going to have to pass. | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/14/2009 1:27:58 PM | I'm on crutches and I'm the host of the party on the 27th and I will be there so that's no excuse Mister!!!!! hehe....we honest would love to have you. It is not always about meeting the love of your life though it is also about getting out and meeting some good friends and if you do meet the love of your life, all the better!
Criss | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/15/2009 3:50:47 AM | | Criss I agree with you in many ways. The internet has made many things quicker and yet im-personal. you mentioned having guys not call you after a date but then you mention you don't answer emails. The internet can be a easy way of connecting and easy way not connecting. Part of life I guess. He is out there somewhere. | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/15/2009 6:31:18 AM | | You gotta remember that girls on these kinds of websites get WAY more emails than guys. Probably the ladies near bigger cities (like Indy) get 20-30 messages a day at times. You gotta make yours stand out. Don't just be like everybody else. | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/18/2009 7:09:44 PM |
You gotta remember that girls on these kinds of websites get WAY more emails than guys. Probably the ladies near bigger cities (like Indy) get 20-30 messages a day at times. You gotta make yours stand out. Don't just be like everybody else.
This is the frustrating reality for men. Trying to catch women on POF is like having to hunt your own food. You must have perfect equipment, skill, razor sharp mental acumen, crisp reaction, situational awareness, and an encyclopedic knowledge of your prey: its tendencies, preferences, fears, non-verbal cues, and behavior.
The reality for women? Catching men on POF is like ordering Chinese food: they select from a huge menu; its fresh, hot and at their door in 30 minutes or less and ALWAYS free (if they want it that way); or they can wait and go out to a fancy Chinese restaurant where their food is delivered slowly in 4 separate courses with meticulous attention to detail. If they decide they've got a craving for Hunan food and Mongolian arrives at their door then they can just throw out the Mongolian or put it in the freezer because some Hunan food is sure to show up in the next day or two. After all, they get 20 meals delivered per day so just play the percentages.
Other women are quite narcissistic. They like the attention that comes with having food delivered daily. It makes them feel, special and important and bolsters their self esteem when they can send the food back knowing that something more suited to their tastes will arrive shortly.
Oh, and by the way ladies if you've been on the site for over 4 months, get 5+ NEW e-mails per day, have been added to over 125 favorites lists and STILL **** that you can't find the ONE then maybe, juuuussstt maybe, you're the problem?
God, I'm sick of the bars: I'm getting older (pushing 30); the girls are getting younger (21-25); I can't beat a hangover like I used to; and I can't bounce back the next day quite so fast but hell, at least I had FUN there. Meeting women was enjoyable and mostly positive no matter how the night ended. It was laid back whereas meeting most women off here is like interviewing for a damn executive job promotion. You send out hundreds of apps, get a half-dozen replies, the interview takes 30-60 minutes and you usually never hear anything after that. | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/19/2009 12:49:39 AM | well mr jjohnnym65.. why not approach this as going out for the evening.. making friends.. be yourself.. and quit concerning yourself about finding a woman?
Women don't understand men. Men are simple creatures and women try to make more of them than that. You say green.. she says green? lime? neon green? and whatever color she can come up with. Women pick you apart to find the intricate details of you where men just wanna go out and enjoy the evening.
(ducking the tomatoes from the females)
I just don't understand why everyone has to be so determined to be on a site and find the love of their life in 10 days. Why not lower the limits a bit? Why not listen instead of look? Everyone is so critical of the other! You can't have Barbi and Ken! Geezzzz!
they weren't real people!!! Barbi never had 10 lb babies and look that way!!! Ken never worked 50 hour weeks and dealt with kids at the ball diamond!
This is life. Each person on here is real. If you want eye candy on your arm then you'll be a lonely man! THERE IS NO EYE CANDY!!!!!!!!!!!
Be brave! Venture out to a POF party! They are held for YOUR convenience!!!
Just because one is in a bar doesn't mean you have to drink! The place has food and cokes believe it or not!
And btw.... you see a profile that seems interesting. Why not say hi? It's not a marriage proposal! | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:51:54 AM | This guy hit's it right on the head..................
A lot of " Broken - Winged - Birds " out there that wanna fly and meet but are too afraid to meet face to face because holding on to past relationships that they did have.
Why on a dating site than I ask and having a " hope " that the guy might, might, get a e-mail reply.
I sent out about 140 emails in a 11 month period. Meet one woman. Called to meet and do something again, said she was booked for next two weeks. Coressoned with about 4 than they stopped I wrote back to start the email conversation again - no reply. Two did not show up at the time and place we aggred on. And about 99% of my in-depthed e-mails got deleted with out even giving a reply back saying not interested sorry. A lot of looker woman and no doer woman that take a step to meet. | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 6/20/2009 6:11:21 PM | Any one who knows me, knows I only date one person at a time and when I like a guy or am even interested in dating someone, I don't feel right talking to other guys...it is just not who I am...so some times it is just a matter of timing when someone emails you and you don't write back. I have had people get really crappy both ways, if you write and say you are seeing someone then I'm a tease or chastised for being on a dating site when i am seeing someone but I love the parties and love hanging out with my POF friends but I have deleted my profile on here twice when I felt the relationship was going somewhere but in both cases the guys dumped me almost to the day i deleted it(thanks Marshall and Gerry ...hehe )so I am a little more hesitant to deleted now. and if you don't write back then people send you nasty emails about that so I honestly don't know how to handle it when I am dating. I think lots of us are one here like that. So it doesn't mean just because someone might have a profile on here that they are actually looking for someone at the moment.
Criss
Ps...by the way, i have been on here over 4 months, am on more favorites list than I am comfortable with, and do get emails and I know the reason I am not dating sometimes is "me"and that is ok.... | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 7/1/2009 7:51:28 PM | I would just like to say. I am lucky to get 1 or 2 new emails a day. I have responded to every new guy who has emailed me. I also respond to everyone who has put me on there favorites list. I went to 8 seconds and 1 guy talked to me. Way to old for me and was drunk. Granted it was my first POF party. I do plan on attending more. I am a bit shy and I don't put myself in the middle of things. No matter where I go it is the same thing for me I feel invisible.
I would like to add I have been stood up a number of times with no response as to why. Also for what ever reason, it seems like the men I have met. Were only trying to get sex from me. I was told by one man to expect to give it up on the first meeting because I cant expect that a man be attracted to me and not want to have sex with me. I told the man no and after a few minutes I left. He informed me at that time that he would not be talking to me again. Honestly that was good news for me because I didn't want to talk to him again after that.
So here is a question for all you men. Why is it that I tell a guy before I meet them that I do not want to have and will not have sex with the day I meet them do they insist once I meet them that I have sex with them? | |
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jimnu
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Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 37 | |
| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 7/10/2009 4:48:43 PM | Hey ladies, what I can't understand is when you guys are always saying at the end of your profiles, must not be looking for intimate encounter, but before that is a pic or pics of you with half of your breasts hanging out, and being males, you expect us not to pick up on that temptation? Aren't some of you out there, and you know who you are, being a bit hypocritical? There are some of us out here with a good deal of testosterone left girls. What are you up to doing that?javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 7/12/2009 4:45:40 AM | | I agree with you there....let me expose my body to the world...."Hey mom and dad look at me!" | |
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jimnu
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Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 39 | |
| Ladies whats the deal?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:55:49 PM | | There is a woman on POF with half of her breasts hanging out, bragging that she is a sexy Christian woman of Jesus Christ. Does anyone in their right mind actually believe that if you were to meet Christ and we all will, that he will want to see you with half of your breasts hanging out of you blouse? I love cleavage as much as the next guy, you just can't believe how hypocritical women can be with it, and if we say something about it, or admire it they swoop down us like vultures, screaming sexist, I'm a woman and I should be treated with respect, never mind that I'm tempting the hell out of you with my breasts hanging out and you had better not be looking for sex! What kind of woman do you think I am? Try slut! | |
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