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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/24/2009 7:58:56 PM | Back when I was 26 my mom got laid off from her job of 29 years. Now I had no dad around so for all those women who may ask "Couldn't your dad help her out?"
So I took over paying ALL the bills in the apartment...this included ALL the rent, phone, cable, buying food and paying for AND, yes AND doing laundry. I did this so my mother who raised me could get out of debt. Remember we do not plan to lose our job and so we do have some sort of debt, and so I told her to get out of debt, and this way she could have some savings. I did this for 4 years...sure it may have "cramped my style" and most women thought I was full of shite because men always mooch and never contribute in many women's eyes. But you know what? I have no regrets. My mom got out of debt, she got savings, she got a new job and 14 years later I am proud of what I did. And if it happened to my mom now let's say? I would not hesitate to tell her that I would get a 2 bedroom apartment and she can move in and I would do it all the same so she could get out of debt and on her feet.
I am surprised at how many women do frown upon this. Also I am shocked at how many women feel other family members should help her out if needed not me...I got this from tons of women over that 4 years. Well newsflash, I am her son, she raised me and so when in time of need I will gladly and happily be there for her.
Oh and for the record ladies, my mom was set dead against me doing that back then. She said "I don't want you to put your life on hold" and my reply was "You are my mother, you raised me and worked hard. I am going to help you no matter what."
You only have one set of parents. Well I only have one parent, she means the world to me, and if some woman said she would not date me because my mother was living with me, knowing the circumstances, I would tell her that she was not the woman for me.
I am grateful that I did that for my mom, made me responsible financially and responsible in general. | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/24/2009 8:10:21 PM |
Ya know, my mom's business partner is worth over 10 million, as such, you'd think he would be judgemental like so many American are about living at home. I had told him that I thought that maybe I should move out and get a apartment in order to expand my dating pool. But to my surprise, his response was: "steve, man, if I were you, I wouldnt worry about what other people think. Did you know that in most of the world, there are people struggling just to find a way to stay alive and feed themselves? Why worry about such a irrelevant thing as what people think about how you live your life. If the american girls are so shallow as to make judgments about you based on that, its their loss. You should go find yourself a foreign lady who could care less about something like that., there's plenty of foreign ladies in the US these days, so it shouldnt be a problem. "
Point is, he is also very well traveled and he already knew that foreign people dont really see that as an issue. Why are you seeking out people here and at home to cosign what you know deep down is a lie. A man your age living with his parents (without a heart breaker of a story) is PATHETIC. Get a spine, a newspaper, a job, and an apartment. Grow up Steve | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/25/2009 6:14:32 AM |
Someone sounds bitter. And for the record, I don't drink cheap beer or smoke.
I think you forgot to preface your statement with "I really have no sound argument against that, so I'll just instigate with something that has nothing to do with the point at hand......" | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/25/2009 6:47:47 AM |
Other than YOU, who has said that EVERY SINGLE person living at home automatically means they are mooching?
Have you even read the thread? "reallycleverone" has condemned everyone living at home past the age of 15 to be irresponsible mooching infants that require 24 hour parental supervision.
I find it rather immature and silly to consider that anyone living at home doesn't have the same responsibilities to bear as a person living on their own. Please read the definition of "freedom." Having "freedom" only means 'responsibility' for those that are not responsible to begin with, whether you live in at home, alone or in a polygamist sect in Utah. Further, please explain to me the additional responsibilities YOU have living in a dingy three room apartment paying money to some shady landlord that probably breaks into your apartment when you're gone and steals your undergarments??? PLEASE TRY! I also have bills to pay every month (HELL, I probably pay more rent every month than you do). I also have a new truck to pay for. I also have to clean and maintain the house. I also have to feed myself. I also have to be at work 5 days every week too. The funniest thing is that though I do indeed have a lot of toys, I also have a financial plan that I'm pretty certain most "responsible and independant" people cannot even comprehend (which is afforded to me by having a high paying job - which is one aspect I do consider myself extremely lucky to have) .
People who believe living by themselves make them look like a "grown up" are only compensating for some other short falling in their character. It's the most feeble of power trips. It's the most pathetic entitlement. The worst part is it's actually a crystal clear beacon as to why the America housing market crashed and burned as bad as it did - house first, money later..... | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/25/2009 7:37:27 AM | I really just can't understand this "living at home" stuff.... I mean brain doesn't get it...
I moved to a different country at the age of 18 all by myself, couldn't even speak the language .... I thought it'd be one hell of an experience... since then I've been all by myself...
so it's really very hard for me to understand a grown up man still living with his parents...or even with roommates after a certain age... | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/25/2009 7:51:36 AM | This discussion has no head or tail really, but what the heck... Personally I don't care where or how somebody lives as long he/she has a home to go to.
As for sharing the ap/house with other people... Some people here seem to be too independent for their own good. In that case it's equally wrong to share your place with a partner, too. Remember, if you plan to change your status it probably means that your "all by myself" days are over and it's time to let another person into your life no matter how much that thought stabs you in the heart. | |
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