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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/24/2009 7:58:56 PM | Back when I was 26 my mom got laid off from her job of 29 years. Now I had no dad around so for all those women who may ask "Couldn't your dad help her out?"
So I took over paying ALL the bills in the apartment...this included ALL the rent, phone, cable, buying food and paying for AND, yes AND doing laundry. I did this so my mother who raised me could get out of debt. Remember we do not plan to lose our job and so we do have some sort of debt, and so I told her to get out of debt, and this way she could have some savings. I did this for 4 years...sure it may have "cramped my style" and most women thought I was full of shite because men always mooch and never contribute in many women's eyes. But you know what? I have no regrets. My mom got out of debt, she got savings, she got a new job and 14 years later I am proud of what I did. And if it happened to my mom now let's say? I would not hesitate to tell her that I would get a 2 bedroom apartment and she can move in and I would do it all the same so she could get out of debt and on her feet.
I am surprised at how many women do frown upon this. Also I am shocked at how many women feel other family members should help her out if needed not me...I got this from tons of women over that 4 years. Well newsflash, I am her son, she raised me and so when in time of need I will gladly and happily be there for her.
Oh and for the record ladies, my mom was set dead against me doing that back then. She said "I don't want you to put your life on hold" and my reply was "You are my mother, you raised me and worked hard. I am going to help you no matter what."
You only have one set of parents. Well I only have one parent, she means the world to me, and if some woman said she would not date me because my mother was living with me, knowing the circumstances, I would tell her that she was not the woman for me.
I am grateful that I did that for my mom, made me responsible financially and responsible in general. | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/24/2009 8:10:21 PM |
Ya know, my mom's business partner is worth over 10 million, as such, you'd think he would be judgemental like so many American are about living at home. I had told him that I thought that maybe I should move out and get a apartment in order to expand my dating pool. But to my surprise, his response was: "steve, man, if I were you, I wouldnt worry about what other people think. Did you know that in most of the world, there are people struggling just to find a way to stay alive and feed themselves? Why worry about such a irrelevant thing as what people think about how you live your life. If the american girls are so shallow as to make judgments about you based on that, its their loss. You should go find yourself a foreign lady who could care less about something like that., there's plenty of foreign ladies in the US these days, so it shouldnt be a problem. "
Point is, he is also very well traveled and he already knew that foreign people dont really see that as an issue. Why are you seeking out people here and at home to cosign what you know deep down is a lie. A man your age living with his parents (without a heart breaker of a story) is PATHETIC. Get a spine, a newspaper, a job, and an apartment. Grow up Steve | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/25/2009 6:14:32 AM |
Someone sounds bitter. And for the record, I don't drink cheap beer or smoke.
I think you forgot to preface your statement with "I really have no sound argument against that, so I'll just instigate with something that has nothing to do with the point at hand......" | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/25/2009 6:47:47 AM |
Other than YOU, who has said that EVERY SINGLE person living at home automatically means they are mooching?
Have you even read the thread? "reallycleverone" has condemned everyone living at home past the age of 15 to be irresponsible mooching infants that require 24 hour parental supervision.
I find it rather immature and silly to consider that anyone living at home doesn't have the same responsibilities to bear as a person living on their own. Please read the definition of "freedom." Having "freedom" only means 'responsibility' for those that are not responsible to begin with, whether you live in at home, alone or in a polygamist sect in Utah. Further, please explain to me the additional responsibilities YOU have living in a dingy three room apartment paying money to some shady landlord that probably breaks into your apartment when you're gone and steals your undergarments??? PLEASE TRY! I also have bills to pay every month (HELL, I probably pay more rent every month than you do). I also have a new truck to pay for. I also have to clean and maintain the house. I also have to feed myself. I also have to be at work 5 days every week too. The funniest thing is that though I do indeed have a lot of toys, I also have a financial plan that I'm pretty certain most "responsible and independant" people cannot even comprehend (which is afforded to me by having a high paying job - which is one aspect I do consider myself extremely lucky to have) .
People who believe living by themselves make them look like a "grown up" are only compensating for some other short falling in their character. It's the most feeble of power trips. It's the most pathetic entitlement. The worst part is it's actually a crystal clear beacon as to why the America housing market crashed and burned as bad as it did - house first, money later..... | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/25/2009 7:51:36 AM | This discussion has no head or tail really, but what the heck... Personally I don't care where or how somebody lives as long he/she has a home to go to.
As for sharing the ap/house with other people... Some people here seem to be too independent for their own good. In that case it's equally wrong to share your place with a partner, too. Remember, if you plan to change your status it probably means that your "all by myself" days are over and it's time to let another person into your life no matter how much that thought stabs you in the heart. | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 1/20/2010 8:21:26 PM | Well let me say that i do not think that there is anything wrong with living at home as long as certain situations apply 1. If you are a recent college graduate and are unable to find employment after graduating it is acceptable because the situation is out of your span of control. 2. If you have been trying to get employment in this great time and day of great HOPE AND CHANGE and JOB CREATION *(Which is bull ****) and are unable to it is acceptable. 3. If the job market which you spent tons of time, studying and $$$$ on is down in the dumps it is acceptable.
On the flip side if you live at home because you simply do not care about improving your lifestyle you are in effect a loser and a leech. However sometimes there are situations in which we are unable to control such as a bad economy, bad job market and lack of jobs in the field that we have prepared for. Lastly i wish to say something else it is far better to be an un-employed educated person with a degree that lives at home then it is to be an un-employed educated person with a degree living on the streets. You figure it out so if any female wants to call a male that stills lives at home a loser then they had better take a look at themselves in the mirror and ask themselves one question " Am i really the better person"? or " Am i not? | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 11/26/2011 4:42:23 AM | | I totally agree. i've lived away from parent for large chunks at a time, like when I was in the military, when I was in a serious relationship, when I moved out to Califronia. Believe me living alone sucks! And living with a woman that your not attracted to along with her kids who hate is even worse! I just recently moved back to Florida and in with the parents. Has been a little less stressful but I can get along with them.. they are family. Perhaps I meet my soulmate someday, perhaps I sell a peice of artwork that can afford me getting my own place but until then I will be here. BTW I've withdrawn from a few monetary "responsibilites" only because I disagree with the banking system if you know what i mean. I'm 38 without kids and building my fathers business aside from making art work. So I dont think Im the typical "living in moms basement" dude. But these "american women" are so far... trash. They want to much flash just for a little shitty porno sex. Please Id rather take care of it myself. | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 11/26/2011 12:51:23 PM | | Wow, your lucky but i would not date someone living at home unless there is a good reason. like if there was a job loss or a sick parent that needs help but most women run away because a lot of people that live at home with mom do so to mooch off of them for free food and rent and do not even try to live on their own and to be responsible. I am not closed to dating someone at home with the folks but I do prefer men that are independent, take care of themselves, and d not rely on mom and pop for free room and board. Unless a parent is sick or you went threw a personal crises there is no logical reason to live at home. | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 11/26/2011 4:38:45 PM | Maybe that is why you are single kcladyz. Open your mind, be more thoughtful about other people and maybe you might meet someone who will look beyond your negative points!!  | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 11/26/2011 7:07:50 PM | | I lived at home all but 7 years of my post college life. I didn't make a huge salary but I took all the money I would have spent in rent and put it into investments. I also lived frugally. Now I'll retire in comfort. Didn't stop me from dating one bit. | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 1/19/2012 2:58:52 PM | | all I can say is that sadly in 2012 living arrangements are a big issue. Not saying that to be judgmental but the economy is bad and a lot of men and women live with roommates and or family. Not to mention the people who are working 2 1/2 jobs , nights shifts and don't even have a free night to go on a date. It just makes it all more challenging. I can't tell you how common it is these days for economics to prevent a relationship from ever goping anywhere. | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 1/29/2012 5:23:12 PM | I confess, I did not (and probably will never) read all 6 pages (so far) of this thread...
I read the heading, and wondered what 'living at home' actually meant...
EVERYONE (Posting to this thread probably) 'lives at home'...
Unless there are some homeless posters who are sharing their view when they're at the library or coffee shop using wifi... Or something...
(Wow, I think this may be the only post to use all three homophones/heterographs,
and correctly, I might add! {There. Their. They're.})
Anyway...
Everyone sleeping under a roof that is not owned by the State, Federal Government, some Corporation, etc.
Is living at 'Home'...
It might not be at THEIR Own Home...
Yet, nobody mentioned this on the first page...
Why does everyone jump to the wrong conclusions?!?
Ignorance? Stupidity? Prejudices ingrained in their upbringing? Combinations of these?
(Not everyone - I know...
A poster above touched upon the stupidity by notifying us about his dating the homeless...
And many have not even thought about touching the subject... They are smarter than I!!!)
Well, that is my two cents... Trust me, I do not expect any, 'Change'!!!
If I wanted Change, I would use Gold... Not excrement... | |
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| What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 1/30/2012 5:35:09 PM | | Just saw the history channel pawn stars where a lady was wanting to sell a j Edgar Hoover signed book. Prior to a commercial break, they flashed one of those quizzes. The quiz question was till what age did J Edgar Hoover live at home with his mom. The answer was 43. | |
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