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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/27/2009 8:56:16 AM | I had a hysterectomy at 33 so I can understand the question.... it wasn't a volunteer surgery as yours is but at the same time you wonder who you might meet in the future. 30 is young to make a decision about that. Yet I also had two children and didn't want anymore at 33. I would say as soon as the convo makes sense I would say that you are no longer able to have them. I think the children convo comes up fairly early anyway. You have in your profile that you don't want anymore so that helps too. In rl you would just broach the subject as you would anything else. Women in their 30's who want children would come forward fairly early due to the clock ticking.
If you have decided that you don't want to add to the children you have then don't have anymore... don't worry about who you might meet... It's such a personal thing.. | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/27/2009 12:36:11 PM | My observation has been this - If you are a man with enough to offer in the woman's eyes, many women will simply forego having children or will see if they can find some way later to change your mind/workaround it ( i.e. using frozen sperm, etc)
Basically if George Clooney says he doesn't want kids then plenty of women would say they are ok with that even if they really did want kids.
What you have to offer that the opposite sex finds appealing is often the bar on the litmus on what that person will put up with to be with you.
Hmm I said this exact same thing about the NUMBER OF PEOPLE YOUR MATE HAS SLEPT WITH
Some girl gets swept off her feet by some perfect debonair, ladies man, how can she possibly expect SHE was the only one he has ever made love to...
Sheesh. If Brad Pitt has slept with over 30 women, and I would count on it, not many women who have apprehensions about us ordinary men would give a crap about WHO he slept with in the past.
It's a prejudice against the average Joe.
But this applies to both genders, so STOP and think before you freak out and click reply merely because I agree with cerealLover,
Guys who claim they wouldn't date a girl with kids, or a girl who has slept with 40+ men are more likely to change their minds if the girl was a complete knockout, and rich to boot. and actually WANTED them.
And they usually do not...(Want the average joe.) So when a person of weak constitute likes said girl, but she doesn't return the affection, he defaults to point out her lifestyle as a character flaw, rather than accept she doesn't like him.
Hence Soldierfalcons rants on women being immoral. He probably found some really attractive girl, she didn't like him so he went all religous on her and yelled : "Ewwwwwww you are nasty!! You slept with 10 men!!! You are immoral!! I NEVER LIKED YOU ANYWAY!!"
What he really means is:
"What is so wrong with me, that you can't like me?"
The only guys that would prolly talk crap to this woman would be the ones that wanted to degrade her, merely because she didn't want them. | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/27/2009 2:36:00 PM | | Dude, take it from a guy who got it done very young... you want to be sure before going for it. One helping of that is enough for two life times, trust me. The plus side is you got a ticket to ride. | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/27/2009 9:00:49 PM |
I once wondered how to bring up the conversation..."so have you had a vasectomy?"
Easy ........ 'What's your favourite method of birth control in a serious relationship?" The answer will tell you everything you need to know or more, even if he hasn't had the snip. | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/28/2009 4:08:06 AM |
Actually it wouldn't matter one way or the other because a vasectomy can be reversed.
Yeah, with a 95% fail rate.
And you know what? You go down that area once with a knife and laser, you ain't getting another shot. | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/28/2009 4:16:09 AM | So if you began dating a man, and fell for him, then found out he had one later in the relationship, would you leave?
I'd prefer to know up front, but in this proposed scenario that's not an option. Depends on how much I care for this man. Do I love him? If yes, then I wouldn't leave. A vasectomy is reversible. Also, if we were considering having children, adoption is another possibility.
Vasectomies are not really such a big deal, APE. I know quite a few men in their late 20s and older in my social circle who have had them by choice. They've frozen sperm because they do not want children before they're ready. They want to get their respective ducks in a row, so to speak. A perfectly responsible decision in my eyes.
edit: The failure rate for vasectomy reversal depends on when you have the reversal done and the chances for the return of sperm. If it's done prior to 14 yrs and the sperm return rate is 79% with the chance of pregnancy at 44%. | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/28/2009 5:29:54 AM | | I don't want kids, so a vesectomy would be a positive attribute. However, a lot of women want kids, and it would definately be an important issue in the relationship. I think that it is definately something that should be discussed early in the relationship so that you don't waste years of some poor girl's youth dating you! | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/28/2009 5:43:26 AM | | hummm ...well first a man should b honest about it. 2nd the Vasectomy is reversible .if in fact they ever both wonted 2 have any children . | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/28/2009 6:04:17 AM | NESunshine wrote
I'd prefer to know up front, but in this proposed scenario that's not an option. Depends on how much I care for this man. Do I love him? If yes, then I wouldn't leave. A vasectomy is reversible. Also, if we were considering having children, adoption is another possibility.
Vasectomies are not really such a big deal, APE. I know quite a few men in their late 20s and older in my social circle who have had them by choice. They've frozen sperm because they do not want children before they're ready. They want to get their respective ducks in a row, so to speak. A perfectly responsible decision in my eyes.
edit: The failure rate for vasectomy reversal depends on when you have the reversal done and the chances for the return of sperm. If it's done prior to 14 yrs and the sperm return rate is 79% with the chance of pregnancy at 44%.
Hmmmmmmmmm. I respect your opinion, but to say it's the "responsible" thing to do, directly after you tell me it is "No big deal" is kinda conflicting, as most responsible things tend to be very big deals; and moreover this solid fact:
ME AN MY BOYS GO WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY THE FU©K BACK
I respect your opinion, I certainly do, and I like anyone who plays piano, but this is a very personal thing, and up to the perspective of the person being cut on.
Not something to be taken lightly and generalized by some one who does not have testicles.
(Again, I'm not being offensive, please don't take it as so.)
I've always wondered why it was a bit of a competition between men and women as to which is worse:
Vasectomy or Tubal Ligation?
You are both giving up something that makes you inherently human....
The ability to give life. Which is the only part of our meager existence that remotely resembles that in which is primarily thought to be "GOD'S" domain.
So this is a big decision. The decision to give up my boys. To give up my reasonable facsimile of God's own power.
Good thing I am still God-Like in bed.
**Looks at someone in particular
~A.P.E. | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/28/2009 6:58:20 AM | APE... Just to clarify, it's still not a big deal to me. Vasectomy or no vasectomy. I fall into the I'm not sure I even want kids camp, so either or is fine. To me, loving someone has nothing to do with whether or not we can or can't have children to me. When you love someone, you love them even despite some attributes that you may find annoying and you weather the storm with them. No matter what. When you do, you're a team, you find a way to get through all the issues. No matter what. I'm talking that kind of loyalty and dedication. Ya dig?
It's not conflicting. It's only responsible for them because it was their choice. For the men that I know, that chose to do it, it was because they wanted to be able control when they would have children and be responsible for themselves. Their decision, their life, and in their situation, responsible. It has really nothing to do with your decision. Just take it as an example.
Who am I to judge? You are deciding to potentially give up the power to create a Life. Is that really so bad? Would it be so different if you were sterile? It's a serious thing that needs some serious thought.
I respect the fact that you say that because you're a MAN I don't necessarily understand that, but what if were we just discussing tubal ligation? Would I, as a WOMAN, tell you that you couldn't understand that I'd be giving up the power of creating Life just because I'm cutting my tubes so my eggs won't ever be fertilized? No.
In your case, you already have children. You have someone to love. The better question here in YOUR case is... do you think that you'd want more? Do you dream of little babies that are some fabulous combo of the best of you and the best of Divagreen and keep the possibility? Or, do you want it just to be the two of you, with your children?
And now, it brings us back to the original question APE.
Respectfully,
Sunshine | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/28/2009 7:58:04 AM |
Hmmmmmmmmm. I respect your opinion, but to say it's the "responsible" thing to do, directly after you tell me it is "No big deal" is kinda conflicting, as most responsible things tend to be very big deals; and moreover this solid fact:
ME AN MY BOYS GO WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY THE FU©K BACK
I respect your opinion, I certainly do, and I like anyone who plays piano, but this is a very personal thing, and up to the perspective of the person being cut on.
Not something to be taken lightly and generalized by some one who does not have testicles.
Not a big deal to her because of her attitudes but it could be a big deal to someone else, ergo this is information that should be disclosed very early whether it was a vasectomy, tubal or hysterectomy that leaves the party unable to procreate.
While you and your little swimmers may go a long way back, having been sliced and diced three times to bring my children into the world, once more to have the oven removed, big fuking whoop on the scissors getting anywhere near the family jewels. | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 5/28/2009 8:22:26 AM | | I'd be really happy to find out that the man I was dating had a vasectomy. If you are certain that you don't wish to father any(more) children, then you need to do what is right for you. | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 7/6/2009 4:26:00 AM | As a single guy who has not had this done and never had kids... and if i was dating and casually... i wouldnt want it done unless was in a serious relationship with someone i cared for and what was best for all concerned.
If by chance a women was scared being pregant having sex with a new partner, shoudl be least of there worries! Shouldnt it.....
As a single man un wanted Sexual diseases be my first concerned! | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 7/6/2009 7:48:55 AM | | ABSOLUTELY NOT--RATHER A WOMAN WITHOUT ONE,,,,,,,,,, | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:41:06 PM | | i had a vasectomy 4years ago had it done the new way Vas Clip had very little swelling and very little pain doc told me i could have sex two days later which i did and went full bore every night till i was emptied out my gf had 1 mo bc left she did not like the pill because of side effects. doc told me a reversal was very simple and easy. we broke up because she got a job in another state . so im looking | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:07:02 PM | lmao GSB!!! lmao!
so .. 'we'agree that a Vasectomy is in order and gonesailin is hosting the fundraiser .. may I suggest a bake sale?
Cookin fer 'cut' backs?? lol ..
We could have 'theme' treats!!
tadpole cookies ..
"anti-swimmer sweets" .. :)
ok ok .. the guys would probly be better suited to 'name that treat' .. hehe .. one more one more .. Blueball brownies .. lol .. ok ok .. sorry .. I know .. I'm the only one laffin .. but .. I Am laffin!! lol 
E.D.Donuts .. lol .. ok ok ok sheesh..
OT - yes | |
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| Would you date a man with a Vasectomy?
Posted: 7/7/2009 8:09:52 PM | No.....I would never date a man (or a woman) with a Vasectomy.
In fact, I would never date a man with or without a Vasectomy.
Am I being fair?
Ha Ha. | |
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