"Honey, I'm bisexual, so would it be okay if I have sexual relations from time to time with another man?" Yeah, right, how often do you hear about couples having those honest discussions? Answer: very, very few.
Flash back to reality, you have a bisexual man -- a man with a real part of himself, with real desires -- who can't act on those desires because SOCIETY puts such an incredibly tough stigma... on him. So he remains closeted. Ultimately, his desires get the best of him. He's a human being, not a perfect robot.
Back to the glass house analogy, imagine having a strong part of your identity being cast aside and ridiculed by society. Imagine being made to feel bad about it, ashamed even. So I think it's not entirely off base for a bisexual man to cheat from time to time. I know those words sound terrible to the black and white crowd, but I think it's a by-product of an intolerant society. Kind of a "what did you expect" sort of thing.
Yes, I think we should all strive for honesty in a relationship, but I think the bisexual factor is unique. If you're going to use the word cheating in this instance, then it should have an asterisk beside it.
Zebra circle you have a valid point and I think this goes well with my post above.
But I wonder if there are truly bisexual men? Seems like bisexuality for men is just a stopover on gay lane before they attempt to move into full fledge homosexuality.
But cheating is still cheating and the bisexuality factor is NOT a unique exception. No matter if bisexual man is with a man or a woman, if they strive for monogamy he should try to be faithful and not sex the other sex. If I was having an exclusive relationship with a bisexual man (and he told me he was bisexual) then I still could reasonably assume he would not cheat with ANYONE. If the desire to have a man is so strong, then we need to end out intimate and personal relationship and maybe be friends. The same should apply if he was trying to have a mutual monogamous relationship with a man and desired a woman.
Why would we allow a bisexual man to act on his desire to be with a man from time to time and not allow this for a hetero man who wants to be with woman from time to time? Unacceptable and no double standards for that.
Now you can have an exclusive monogamous relationship with 2 people - a man and a woman - if you all so desire. Or even more than that. What it means that no matter what the amount of people are in it - you all are agreed to have sex and be intimate only with each and not outside of it. If anyonon else is brought in, it has to agreed upon by all others - and that's before you have sex with that person! That how they do in polygamy and that.
I think I could deal with a situation like that. Call it polyamory or whatever. I don't think it's open relationship tho. I don't mind casual sex and FWB but I don't particularly like the thought of them sexing someone else I don't know and haven't met. A sex circle where everyone has met and been tested and is exclusive among each other wouldn't necessarily be bad thing. But I don't like the thought that someone might get caught up and... cheat! It's not the cheating that scares me it's what they could bring in from that cheating. 
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