| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:35:34 PM |
Your posting in the over 45 age group.......and your 43 yrs old..... So are you to old for your age group? Or won't they play with you? But my friend just to let you know.....since you aren't as old as most of us...you too will be this age. And you to are closing the gap as not being sexy.....just you wait and see. Now go home and play nicely with others.....and they might let you back in..... My Dear Sweet Ms blueyesrsmiling ,  I concur and affirm your post..  Isn't it amazing how the "perfect" people, the "wanna-be's", etc... all seem to "know it all"..?? But ONLY when they think the REAL "bad-boys" are away....  Jeepers... bet if some of these "folks" keep it up... a LOT of " closets" will be opened..  As for me... I am fine and doing well.. and I know.. I KNOW..! (that my "photo" looks like a "heavily altered David Bowie") What did ya expect..?? General Westmorland..??...  I'm outta here..  --- ? ---  | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:21:03 PM | I'm with Ismene and the others about some people being so stuck on themselves they're a turnoff. Whenever I see "I look so much younger than my real age" or "my freinds all tell my I don't look my age" I see some insecure as hell with their own aging process, and also someone that's liable to fault me for my own age.
Then there's the ones that look so good you can't understand why they're still not taken, until you finally see a truly current photo put up.
I'm not especially tall or classically handsome, but I'm fair looking, healthier than most men my age, and smarter than 90% of the people I meet. Intimidated? Never. Realistic about whether a woman will find me interesting? Very. Why waste my time with the estrogen producing Peter pans? | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:40:10 PM |
I see "I look so much younger than my real age" or "my freinds all tell my I don't look my age" I see some insecure as hell with their own aging process, and also someone that's liable to fault me for my own age.
I'm fair looking, healthier than most men my age, and smarter than 90% of the people I meet.
I can't find the difference between you and those who say they are younger than their ages. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:50:42 PM | The difference is I can quantify it. I scored 1300 on my SAT my sophomore year of high school, I scored in the 98th percentile on the State of Oregon's placement tests for employment, and I'd say i can only get about one in 10 guys around my age to go on the full distance of the walk I take every day. I also eat healthier than anyone else I know my age.
If you look at my profile, I don't go into being smarter or healthier, I only talk about valuing health and intelligence. I don't go on about "My freinds all say I'm the smartest person they know" or "Only women with resting heart rates below 60 need apply".
That's a helluva lot different from some 42 year old woman that you just KNOW is at least 44 going on about how she looks 30...... | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:12:59 PM | | just an observation...i went on a speed dating event recently. it was an older men/older women event that was cancelled. age range was 40-55 for both genders. 15 women and 2 men showed up. the event planner said that is often the case. in his experience, older men dont want to date women in their age range., fo rwhatever reason. it doesnt seem to me that intimidation is a factor. they will hit on me when a younger woman isnt available. they also arent lacking confidence when they take my 25 year old friend to dinner and then to the channel boutique on a first date.lol... | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:54:16 PM | Now see, Kennedy is a truly hot 50 year old that I WOULD guess to be younger, but nowhere in her profile does she go on about it.
Kari, My boat is a 1967 Grand Banks pleasure trawler. Never was a commercial puker, though it might have been in a charter fleet at some point. 36 feet, 4 feet of draft, 24,000lb of teak, oak and mahogany and powered by the original 98hp Ford Lehman deisels.
She's a sexy, hefty older lady with real curves and a whole lot of class  | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:31:49 PM | in his experience, older men dont want to date women in their age range I disagree with this because it is not my experience, nor the experience of other women I know. As well, note blues1963's message above. I would imagine,Kennedy, that a lot of men in your age range (45-55 or even younger) would be delighted to date you, you're gorgeous. I think possibly that 'event planner' was incompetent at his job. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:02:44 PM | Maybe, just maybe, older men aren't so much as intimidated by an older sexy woman, but rather....startled.
In my experience, it's rather rare to find a fit older woman. Not trying to be mean, but a lot of mature women want to rationalize the "few extra pounds" rather than do something to reduce their weight.
Ever notice how many suddenly single women go on a diet?
just a thought
EDIT for below: The knife cuts both ways, no doubt. But, that wasn't the topic. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:08:43 PM |
Maybe, just maybe, older men aren't so much as intimidated by an older sexy woman, but rather....startled. In my experience, it's rather rare to find a fit older woman. Not trying to be mean, but a lot of mature women want to rationalize the "few extra pounds" rather than do something to reduce their weight. Ever notice how many suddenly single women go on a diet? just a thought No. But I have noticed how many men should go on a diet and not post "athletic" as their body type.  | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:14:45 PM | I'm fine with dating women my age, but, c'mon ladies, get some decent pix taken!
The profiles for the 10's and the 5's read pretty much the same, the only difference is the picture. Put some effort in and you'll get more response.
Don'ts
Camera pic w/mirror
Obvious old pic
Pic that looks like it was taken from orbit you're so far away
"Just looking around/checking things out" in description.
2 line description
Do's
Professional, recent, pix. Good head shot, good body shot.
Pix should project confidence, and ultimately, you.
Put some personality in your profile. How are you NOT a typical female. Teach me something about you.
If you don't like your body fix it. If you do, show it.
Do yourself a favor, search for women and your age group and read their profiles. Then write something not at all like those profiles. Be different and you'll get responses even it is just "Cool profile". | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:24:56 PM | Do mature women intimidate mature men..? No..
Does their sexuality make a man uneasy..? No..
Do mature women scare the hell outa immature boys..? Yes..
Duh..
Jim
And by the way.. the term is not 'older'..
It's 'chronologically advantaged..'..! | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/4/2009 10:57:47 PM | *In my experience, it's rather rare to find a fit older woman. Not trying to be mean, but a lot of mature women want to rationalize the "few extra pounds" rather than do something to reduce their weight.
Ever notice how many suddenly single women go on a diet?*
It doesnt seem to matter levi, I am thin and I am not getting many dates. I recall being 20 something and getting hit on by men 40+. I suppose older men still try to hook up with younger women. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/5/2009 3:01:45 AM | All I know that if someone doesn't like me because of my age.......so sad to bad. I can't control others thoughts, feelings and attitude. But I can control what I think and say and do...
Men and Women have a problem with weight gain. Men have other problems as they get older just as women do........ED, hair loss.....women hormone swings, both are fighting weight gain. But many of us take what we have and make the best out of it. And work hard at eating right, staying fit. But that doesn't make a wonderful personality. It does however makes us look better which is more appealing to the sexes. I have seen both sexes with drop dead gorgeous people that have the personality of a snake. I don't have a problem with the other sexes wanting something that makes them shine a little brighter even if its looks instead of personality.....
Me.....I want someone that makes me smile, enjoys coffee early in the morning and someone that can keep up with me. I perfer laughing loud.....so if they aren't as shiny and new as they use to be that is okay.......neither am I......... | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:54:07 AM |
hey there clockwork lime...
by your own admission you only have 2 years left to sex it up...
then you had better retire to the "unsexy for ever more" forums...
Well, I don't consider myself "sexy". I don't think I ever have, even when I was younger. It was rarely something that bothered me.
"Sexy" is best left to the young folk. After a certain age (maybe 25 or so) people who desire to be viewed as "sexy" still haven't learned not to measure their own worth by what others think of them.
A bunch of 40+ yr old people calling themselves sexy. Give me a break. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:45:03 AM |
All I know (is) that if someone doesn't like me because of my age.......so sad to bad. I can't control others thoughts, feelings and attitude. But I can control what I think and say and do...
Best-expressed approach to life I've read yet, even to the hint of the taunt. Lol
But many of us take what we have and make the best out of it. And work hard at eating right, staying fit. But that doesn't make a wonderful personality. It does however makes us look better which is more appealing to the sexes.
Geeshh, open-minded, as well!
I have seen both sexes with drop dead gorgeous people that have the personality of a snake.
I've stumbled across a few of those- they slither, too. And take every approach as a threat, get goose-necked, and strike at ya. Ugh.
I don't have a problem with the other sexes wanting something that makes them shine a little brighter even if its looks instead of personality.....
Lol. Not sure how many "other sexes" you can see, but my primitive thinking still counts just the two, with subsets. Still, what a great mindset, turning all our lights on!!
.....I want someone that makes me smile, enjoys coffee early in the morning and someone that can keep up with me. I perfer laughing loud.....so if they aren't as shiny and new as they use to be that is okay.......neither am I.........
All this from a kinda earthy beacon in Mizzou who has a thing for "stinky animals". Lol Ya know, it's a shame everybody on this site, and in this plight, doesn't have to take an oath of allegiance to this lady's generous outlook, pretty much as she lays it out. Somewhere at the threshold of this site, Markus reserves the right to ban anyone who is patently "unfit to date". Lol Blueeyesrsmiling strikes me as eminently "dateable".  | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/5/2009 9:51:41 AM |
"Sexy" is best left to the young folk. Sexy has far more to do with personality than with looks. Have you never seen, for example, a celebrity who looks very 'sexy' in photos but who in person, when you get a sense of his/her real personality, you see they are not really sexy at all....just a kind of dud. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:41:05 AM |
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Sometimes we are, especially when they have power tools and know how to use them.
Oh dear ... DO have power tools ... ... ... and DO know how to use them.
Been playing around with power tools since I was a kid, but it never kept any men from liking me and dating me and wanting .......... well, you know. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/5/2009 12:03:22 PM |
Well, I don't consider myself "sexy".
Sexy is attitude.......and you don't have it....that's why you don't feel sexy.....to be sexy you gotta feel sexy........
"Sexy" is best left to the young folk
Just a little follow up.........but aren't you 43 yrs old? And isn't this the over 45 yr ?
You are feeling way to old for your age.....you might wear your age with grimace but as young as you still are it is a shame you wear you feelings and attitude of that of someone who is way older than the rest of us........to be so dour shows. Shows in the way you write. I can only hope one day your heart starts healing. Age is a number. Sexy whenever you want or are with the right person is as easy as smiling and having them smile back, a smile that reaches someone eyes and you know its just for you or someone reaching and grabbing your hand.....sexy is sometimes defined by the media as movie star good looks.......but that seldom happens for most of us. To see sexy is to be in the moment with someone that only they will do....and for that moment you are amazing. I lost my Husband whenever he was one year younger than you. I decided right then and there not to let life pass me by. Right now my friend you are stuck in a rut with your attitude. And you never know how long your life is going to be. So instead of being a Dour person get busy with the exciting life of living and quit focusing so much on age...you are a handsome man...now make your heart fit your outside. | |
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| Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 11/5/2009 1:36:01 PM |
Been playing around with power tools since I was a kid, but it never kept any men from liking me and dating me and wanting .......... well, you know.
The question was 'sometimes intimidated', nothing to do with liking, dating, wanting.
Once we get to know what the tools will be used for, we will be much more at ease and probably lusting by then. | |
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