| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:36:55 AM | | It's not a ridiculous question from its own perspective. If a man had 100+ women on his favorites list, or any other form of admiration amassed, he would have no trouble choosing from among them. It's normal for women to collect admirers because men flock to women. Women get flocked to. So, trying to understand why a woman isn't already satisfied when she has so many choices may be puzzling. You look out on a sea of men, while men look at one woman at a time then the next, in sequence. If men and women could switch roles for a day, nobody would be single. The men would be happy with the first woman who suited them. To sit back and hold out for trivial differences would not even occur to men. There is no joy in shopping and indecision, for men. There is only, see if it works with someone you like the looks of. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/10/2009 8:40:39 AM | You are using the "favorites" list as the gauge as to how many men a woman has to choose from?? #1, you don't KNOW how many people SHE has on HER favorites list. You only know how many people have added HER to THEIR favorites list. #2, you don't know that all 100 of those people who have added her are even men! #3, unless you look at your OWN profile, which I rarely EVER do, or even ever did, when I was looking to meet someone, you might go months and not know how many lists you are on!
People add people randomly, and never contact them. Happened to me constantly, people just adding me for no apparent reason. I had 20 year olds and 75 year olds who added me. I had tons of WOMEN add me, from the forums. Do you think those are "choices" for me? Uh, NO. The few people who have me "favorited" right now are my fiance, two personal friends of mine, and the rest are forum people, mostly women! It's a way to "bookmark" people for when you want to email them for whatever reason.
The Favorites list is a joke. There are people on POF who are here for nothing but the numbers game. When you see someone who is on 500 favorites lists, and they run around the entire site "favoriting" people, they are just doing it trying to get people to "favorite" them back, to increase their own numbers. Those people aren't here to meet anyone, they are just playing a game. They are best left alone, if you are looking for a relationship, because that's not why they are here.
Do NOT attempt to use the "favorites" list to decide that women have all these millions of choices, because 80% of the people who "favorite" other people never even bother to contact them!
And as for "the men" being happy with the first woman who suited them," speak for yourself, there are just as many picky men as there are women. It might even be worse. Men on here are famous for blocking women their own age from emailing them. There are a LOT of men in their 40's in my area who have age restrictions so that no one over 28 or 30 or 32 or whatever, can email them. So don't tell me men are just happy to get whatever they can, that's a load of BS. They all want Barbie, and when they don't get her, they post whiny threads about how women have all the choices, and the poor poor men just can't get a break. When I was trying to meet someone, I sent a lot of initial contact emails, 95% of which were ignored. And these weren't even "eye candy" type guys, they were average joes with average jobs and average lives, who think apparently they are entitled to Paris Hilton. (and they can have her!)
Women do not have "all these choices," what do you think, we can just go pick out a man and take him home with us, like a new pair of shoes? Sorry, it doesn't work that way, because contrary to what you seem to think men do have minds of their own, and do have a say in the matter. We do need for the man to actually like us back, before we can just load him up in the SUV and take him home.
The only women who have "unlimited" choices are the ones who are Pam Anderson wannabes, and they are going to attract the kind of guys who would want a Pam Anderson wannabe. They are NOT going to settle for the average guy because the average guy can't afford the maintainence on someone like her. Ordinary, average women do not have the endless choices in men, and the number of Favorites she might be on does NOT correlate with those "choices." | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/10/2009 10:09:09 AM | Who knows, who cares.
None of them have wanted anything to do with me (just like real life!)
I think a more interesting question would be:
"Why are there so many 20-year-old single mothers on this site?" | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/10/2009 4:54:41 PM | Some people try to up their attractiveness, it is my guess, because they are so needy for attention. Why else would anyone pose in a sheet and nothing else, or do bed shots wearing lingere? I have seen women post on the forums who have those kind of pics and after reading some of their responses, they are thoughtful, intelligent women who did not need to resort to such measures to get attention. Who wants that kind of lewd attention anyway? It is no wonder they are added as a favorite, they are overtly sexual and so many men on this site are really only looking for sex from all that I have gathered from my own correspondence with several men. Once they make the point with me that they are really looking for a f**k buddy, I delete them. If you are looking for someone to get to know, you would not get in bed with just anyone. You would not set yourself up as a sex kitten first, a woman worth knowing second.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and honestly, if a man does not have the courage to contact someone because he thinks she is too beautiful for him, then he needs to work on his self-confidence. There are some very genuinely beautiful women out there, inside and out, who are just looking for ONE special man and who do not need the attention of so many. Women like that are class acts and it stands to reason, that many men would find them attractive.  | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:05:55 PM | oh there are dates. there are men interested in good looking women. the problem is that the interesting, good looking, intellectual woman are either workaholics with no time to sit in a starbucks and look pretty or they are not interested in the men that ask them out.
just because you are good looking and sane does not mean you will have amazing dating options.... some women are also picky. but hey... it's hard nowadays...
maybe arranged marriages should come back into fashion. >.> | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:36:29 PM | Because men are afraid to approach them in real life.
Because they're tired of being just looked at as a trophy.
Because they'd rather have a conversation.
Because... | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/11/2009 4:41:29 AM |
"Why are there so many 20-year-old single mothers on this site?"
I guess because there are the exact same number of men who ditched them and skipped out on their responsibilities? Hint: We don't get babies all by ourselves. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/16/2009 5:53:15 PM | Just because you find them physically attractive, doesnt mean they have any common sense, read their profile, you can learn alot about them by their behaviors, what types of personalities they have or lack of. Remember, their trying to coo you into wanting them, their insecure and have that need to be wanted. Dont reassure the wrong in them, but encourage them to be better people. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/16/2009 5:58:21 PM | | Absolutely, then again, there are many females here with higher educationial degree's that still are single and popping out kids, so there isnt much difference, women feel, they dont think. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/17/2009 10:00:27 AM | | In everyday life...men RARELY approach me. On here, it's like they have the courage to say hi. But when I'm out, bar or anywhere, I see the looks I get...but no one will actually act on it. I'm told I'm intimidating...but if anyone acutally took a minute so say hi, they would realize I'm the farthest thing from it. Or they assume I have a boyfriend. Sometimes it's a hit to the ego...I know that I'm fairly attractive and am a great person, a total sweetheart, great career, own house...a great catch for someone...yet I'm only admired from a distance. So guys...when you see an attractive woman...don't be afraid to say hi...I wish more men would! And depsite what people say...we do like to be persued...get out attention and sweep us off our feet! | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/17/2009 2:34:47 PM |
"Why are there so many 20-year-old single mothers on this site?"
Maybe because they are 20-year-old single mothers?
Whaddya think?
There are so many attractive women on POF because there are limited number of me!! | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/17/2009 5:50:09 PM | | There are many reasons. For my age, I think I'm attractive and yet I would NEVER find anyone locally who would appeal to me. I live in a very rural area where 95% are married. The other 5% are frankly the dregs of relationship material. So...I expand my horizons on-line. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/18/2009 12:10:55 PM | lol i just come on here to find ppl to chat or hang out with... i never really had any intention or expectaion so i dont have any to give XD
meeting new ppl is always fun...
and beauty is only skin deep
i hate the word so much beautiful, gorgeous ...?
PUH-LeeZE!
lol i prefer someone who has some coomon ground or just wants to have fun and hang out why does there have to be strings attached??? | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:17:12 PM | I have been single for 5 years and during this time dating has been hard. Guys always come at me first of all the wrong way, what happen to hello how are you? It's always some stupid line or they just act plain silly. Meeting a guy in a club, bar or even while out to dinner has not been a great experience. Behind all of that conversation seems to be this lil white lie they tell me about later like, I am legally separated which means to me you are still married. Then, the one I have a room mate, but we happen to have sex every now and then because we get lonely sometimes. Yea, ok. Last, but not least I want a serious relationship just not right now, I want to date a little more.
OK, I laid my cards out on the table in the first conversation so if you knew you were not ready then why waste my time. Let me guess, you were hoping to get the cookie.
So, many of us are just tired of the games and hope that we can find a man with some moral character, intelligence and truly wants to share his time with someone for more than a night. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/18/2009 3:59:56 PM | This goes both ways. Women do the same thing. I once met a woman who didnt like heavy drinkers and since I had met her had drank more ( because we go out etc ) than I have in the last year. ( i dont drink much ) However when I stopped drinking on one outting she bashed me for it??? It common for BOTH m/f.
Im tired of games too.
hows this tho. I am 29 with a special needs son and financially struggling. I dont have the best car, currently unemployed ( got laid off I live in Michigan ). however im a great person, I genuinely care about everyone and their feelings, very outgoing and open minded. When telling this to a woman tho is fine.. the days to come are not though as I never get returned calls, or anything. Is real life that scary? Dont ever tell me that I have baggage.. My son is NOT baggage. My life may be a little upside down but thats life. it throws curve balls at you and sometimes you get hit.
the world we live in now is FAR from perfect but more and more lately Im meeting women who are looking for the perfect guy, superficial, matierialistic and down right rude / nasty.
Most of the women on this site I contact have children because I know that a woman w/o children will most likely not accept the fact that I do. It dosent matter though, I still do not get replys. Nobody is willing to look past the materialistic things in life to the inner person. Does it bother me... it sure does. Am i going to let it stop me from looking for the person thats right for me? Nope, however it is very very discouraging almost to the point of "why do I try".
Ive tried everything and my emails are original because I put thought into them. Still to my dismay, here I am , single and not dating lol | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:29:46 AM | Good reply.
Im sure theres alot of female players on here too.
I just dont know why people cant be honest and post current photos. Your eventually going to see what they really look like if and when you meet. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:34:18 AM | So, why are you on a dating site?
Its not a matter of geting dates offline, I think people are so busy these days and the site is an easy way to meet people. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/25/2009 2:58:54 PM | OP
Your next assignment comes in two parts - should you choose to accept it - one is to ask some of the women you deem attractive out - the second part is to revisit this subject with a report on the success of your mission.
Usual disclaimers about getting caught or captured during your mission.
Unfortunately - this post won't self destruct and I'll no doubt be subjected to numerous slings and arrows - I'll try to take it like a man | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:31:37 PM | | Not everyone here are looking for dates but, to those who are, these sort of sites are no different nowadays to meeting someone in a pub or a club - just, well - different! :-) | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:09:54 PM | Because some of us ladies are looking for someone very specific.
I meet people from all walks of life everyday. But the guy I'm looking for, well he's hard to find. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:49:52 PM | Seems like there are a lot of people these forums who are quick to generalize and jump to conclusions.
What makes you think that beautiful people have so much better luck with dating? Online dating is just another way to meet people, doesn't say you're pathetic or can't meet people IRL. Some people just have worse luck meeting people because of the luck of the draw: point in case, my older sister has hardly ever been single, yet everyone says we look like twins. Me, been single a lot in my life. Not saying any comment on my level of attractiveness one way or another (you can judge for yourself), but my reasons for being here:
1) It was fun making a profile
2) I'm open to putting myself out there/trying new things/meeting new people
3) I'm bored
4) Its strangely addicting, both reading the forums and "shopping" through profiles
5) Save on gas money :D
6) Saves time compared to meeting people in real life
7) I can make connections quicker and see who's out there
8) I can get an impression of someone's interests pretty easily
9) I can express myself in writing and see who is attracted to it
10) I like to think there's someone "just right" out there, and how else in this big world am I supposed to find them?
10) Mostly 3, 4 and 10
Also, what the hell is the point of the favorites list anyway? If someone's your "favorite", why don't you just message them and get on with it anyways? | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:57:27 PM | I don't know of this favorites list I pretty much ignore it. If someone really likes you they will give you a message.
For the question I highly doubt people would go here just to get male attention. Just because someone is attractive that does not mean they have an easy time getting dates. They may be in a crowd where people are already married or a whole bunch of other things. I see a whole bunch of very attractive men here I doubt they are just here for attention for the most part. | |
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