| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 7/3/2009 1:14:53 PM | | I consider myself an attractive woman and most men who meet me say that I am attractive, and that I have a lot to offer in a relationship. The men that I have met on here and two that I have cared for and was hurt badly both times, they were my age, both are alcoholics, one doesn't ever want a commitment, he just wants a booty call and a good time every once in a while, though when he is drunk he loves me and says all the good stuff every woman wants to hear. The other one just needed a place to live and someone to take care of him. He finally found someone to take him in and married her, two months after our breakup. So, whereas I want a relationship and I am attractive, it doesn't matter. You men have been married one, two, three or more times, lost everything you had over and over, so now at the 50+ age you are looking for a woman who is financially well off to take care of you. I understand somewhat cause I was married 30+ years and walked out with nothing and had to start over again and after 4 years I am finally on my feet. I am not bitter, nor a man hater, just the opposite. Love is the only reason I will ever marry again, I can take care of myself. I will never be rich but I am a survivor. The last man I fell in love with is still on here on plenty of fish and I am not over him yet, but I am moving on as he drinks himself to sleep every night. It is no life and I will not live that way. I am in search of true love and it is very hard to find no matter how young, old, or attractive you may be. When you have it, you should cherish it and never let it die. Good luck to all of you. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 7/3/2009 3:49:14 PM | what a dumb question! who, as a young mother, trying to juggle a job & child would remotedly have the time to look for a man??
no wonder you have a hard time finding someone. maybe try gaining a bit more commen sense and kindess. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 7/6/2009 2:47:28 PM | | I disagree w/ disco dancer. I have messaged every lady on here that I am attracted to. Maybe 2 or 3 have replied once or twice. I would ask them something about their profile, something brief. I didn't mention that they were "hot". I too believe that some are adding to their collection. They all love the attention. You would too! | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 7/6/2009 5:11:40 PM | I dont know but:
There may be so many attractive women on here because alot of people (me included) have this perception that if we see an attractive woman on the streets, at the store, at the mall or wherever, that she must be in a relationship. Because our perception is "a woman that attractive MUST have a boyfriend/husband".
A lot of people both male and female think and assume that because a woman is so attractive, she has her pick of men. When in fact, I've learned they go thru the same things the "less" attractive women go thru.
Just my 2 cents | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 7/6/2009 5:24:13 PM | I won't say I'm ALL THAT but in real life I go about my day doing the things that need to get done. When I am at the market or anywhere else I don't even notice if a man is taking notice. I flat out just don't pay any attention. My mind is always focused on something else. I notice a lot of my girlfriends get approached all the time, but not me. Not that I think I'm ugly or anything but I don't get approached beyond an occasional hello by a guy and the ones that DO even bother to speak are never anyone I would be remotely attracted to.
My dating life sucks! I hate being single but I have come to the realization that that may be how I will end up FOREVER! This online dating stuff isn't working either. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 7/6/2009 8:26:24 PM | | Its an ego boost(not that they really need it)when they get tons of replys. Too many women make too much of it though because little do they know, many guys are just looking for some action and thats it. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 7/31/2009 10:29:51 PM | There may be so many attractive women on here because alot of people (me included) have this perception that if we see an attractive woman on the streets, at the store, at the mall or wherever, that she must be in a relationship. Because our perception is "a woman that attractive MUST have a boyfriend/husband".
here's my take on the issue.
some guys know from experience that when saying hello to SOME women, especially the top tier ones, that they don't even get a hello in return. the chick(s) just keep on moving or ignore you. and what do most guys say in response? "damn, you can't speak?" guys know exactly what i'm talking about.
for all the people here talking about beauty is in the eye of the beholder and shit like that, yes, it's true. i do agree with that. but we all know there is a standard of beauty that exists in this world and when we see it, i don't give a damn what your preference is, we know it.
hot girls in real life are just as approachable as any girl. problem is that some bad apples give them a bad name. the stuck-up, shallow ones that base everything on looks. that dress skimpy yet are surprised and sometimes appalled at the attention they get. on the flip side, you got the ones that crave it.
on this site, you got both. the ones that are playing games to get an ego stroke and the ones that are legitimately looking for a mate and expanding their dating horizons. from my own observations on this site, i see top tier women who are still on this site for years and i have to question why? these women have access to any man, anywhere, anytime. that's indisputable. i don't ask average looking cats why they're single. i don't ask those with kids. or overwieght people. in all their cases, it's obvious.
the only ones i question are the hot girls, age unimportant, with no kids. the ones that don't smoke. are (hopefully) light or non-drinkers. don't do drugs. ain't overly religious. in other words, that ain't got hang-ups preventing them from dating successfully.
there truly is no valid reason why they could still be single for so long (excluding geographical location). if there's a good selection of men in their area, how is it possible that literally years have gone by and they're still single? let's assume their looks intimidate others in the real world. don't mean shit in online dating cuz they're the ones getting all the email. dozens or even hundreds. so of that many men (a lot of whom ain't just lookin' to get laid), you're telling me NOT ONE of them has fit the bill over that period of time?
i know damn well if i was top tier that i'd be out there dating and after x amount of dates, someone would HAVE to be keepable. i'd make time to get out there. a busy schedule is absolutely no excuse! you're on a dating site but you aren't dating? you get emails from eligible men but find reasons not to date? yes, hot chicks can be picky. no doubt about it. why? because they can be. but when EVERYONE don't meet your standards, are your standards unrealistic? or is something wrong with you? who's the real problem here: you or the guy? in that case, it boils down to picking better men.
i'll still question why hot girls on dating sites are still single for such a long amount of time when they're the ones getting all the attention, all the selection, and if they wanted to, all the dates. some of the reasons i've heard in this thread are legit but a lot of them are just bullshit excuses. i can see about a few months going by, but years? status never changing from single to not single/not dating, married, or even divorced. just perpetually single and serially dating. so just who are these women going out with on dates, if anyone, if they're really looking for long-term rather than a free meal, a lay, and some bills paid? | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/1/2009 7:07:17 PM | I say this member should be the leader of us all!! LOL
kow does stand for King Of the World. I'll lead bravely and boldly! 
Taking a known person like Jennifer Anniston and looking into her too often publicized life doesn't it seem if this beauty equation were true she'd have long ago been happily involved with someone? Is she merely dating around or can she not see a fool for what he is long before she gets involved and possibly hurt in the process? My guess is she's NOT happy with those fools she's been known to date and dump her, often it being discovered they were cheating on her! Now ain't THAT ironic?
you can add jessica simpson, paris hilton, and jennifer love hewit to that list too. and all of the kardashian sisters who are newly single...AGAIN! kendra won't be far off either. that's just a prediction. all of them are 10's on anyone's list. but all of them, like j. lo in the past, keep making bad choices in men (except paris who's just a whore) and it's all pretty well publicized too. it just proves that looks ain't everything. gotta be something going on upstairs too if you wanna get kept rather than used up and passed around. and not anything psycho going on upstairs either. i mean stable and smarts.
i ain't saying that the pof hotties or other hot girls are crackpots but there's gotta be something wrong with THEM, not the guy, if they're always single for so long after so many dates and if guys don't want them, or they continually go through men like a blackjack dealer through a deck of cards. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/1/2009 9:16:15 PM | i ain't saying that the pof hotties or other hot girls are crackpots but there's gotta be something wrong with THEM, not the guy, if they're always single for so long after so many dates and if guys don't want them, or they continually go through men like a blackjack dealer through a deck of cards
Maybe they are just choosy, maybe the men do not treat them right, maybe they are ****es and hard to get along with, whatever. Nobody knows their personal business and why the hell does it matter? What is beautiful to one if not beautiful to another. Beauty in the eye of the beholdier. God, the labels we inflict on ourselves and others and then, the judgements that follow!
Being single and having the courage to stay the course and hope for the best is hard enough, ain't it, especially for those of us in mid-life? Let's not be so quick to judge others and take glee in their failures. Most of us are looking for the same thing, someone to share our life with, the beautiful ones and the not so beautiful ones. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:48:55 PM |
Nobody knows their personal business and why the hell does it matter? What is beautiful to one if not beautiful to another. Beauty in the eye of the beholdier.
you're right. no one but them knows why they're single. but it matters cuz OP asked a question and we're all entitled to our opinions. and we all know physical beauty when we see it and there's one standard that exists in EVERY beholder, not just one. if you retained your smarts but had perfect 10 looks, no kids, and lived in a major metro area, just ask yourself, would you still be single? | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:54:10 PM | i would have to agree that there are many very strong and attractive women on POF. it's not that they can't get a man "offline" it's that they keep searching hopefully to find a good one.  | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:01:59 AM | | Good looking women especially have a tough time finding the right guy. Some guys are afraid to approach or think that the pretty gal just would not be interested. There really are lots of good looking people on here. Makes me wonder sometimes why it is so complicated to meet someone. Hmmmmmm! | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:02:10 AM | | It can be so much more than just about looks. Some are highly educated and successful women. There are men who refuse to date a woman who is more educated and/or makes more money than they do. Factor in also that many women raise their kids without much respite from the ex, time is also an issue. Then, there are the empty ones, who haven't a clue what they are looking for but just know they will recognize it when they see it. The list goes on and on, it is the same list that could apply to anyone else. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 2:22:58 PM | | it's not fair to conclude someone is overly fussy because their profile has been here for a while. people get involved in relationships that end. then they come back to try again. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 2:37:13 PM | women are players and were put on earth by Satan" Mister logic" you should know that!!
they are collecting data for aliens. Especially the pretty ones. Run and hide while you still can!!!  | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 3:12:45 PM | | DiscoDarling - In my 20's, long after my interest waned for some guy, I found out that the attraction was mutual. I asked them why they never pursued it and they always said they figured I was either already taken, or not interested. In other words, they never tried. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 4:25:12 PM | gosh, this is no brainer. they are atractive and still here because they are so pickyyyyy!!!!! true ... sad but true
oh wait a minute, there's also another very good explanation. let's see, yeah. the majority of people put only good pictures of them. don't you know that? anybody a marketing major? pictures of them when they are younger, thinner, of their best side only, face only pictures since that's the only part that's slim, etc, etc. you might be surprised when you finally meet this attractive pictures, i mean the real women (or men...) behind the 'pictures'. from my exp it's not easy to meet the people in those photos. it's like when you finally meet them you are meeting somebody else. hey where's that person whose pic i've been looking at in their profile?
(exception: very few people you meet actually look better in person, but this is the ... exception.) | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 5:24:02 PM | | Maybe the old ways of meeting people don't work and you want to try something new? Who knows, I'm tired of the bar scene, and the being setup drama has never worked for me...."oh I have the perfect person for you" I've fallen through that trap door a few times......theres only so many ways to meet people and I know quite a few people that have met their one and only online, I have friends that I have met online 8-9 yrs ago and am still in touch....granted they're friends only....I think you get alot of people on these dating sites because they're tired of all the bs and think that this way might be different or you might be more apt to pinpoint someone more compatable....even with that said everyones profile says there are nice and honest......so it has to be taken with a grain of salt because in this wacky world of dating you just never know.......................................... | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:02:11 PM | Well Mr Logic you might be onto something here!!! LOL
From the guys I've spoken to alot of the "attractive women" you refer to don't look anything like their pictures when they meet up. Just something to think about..................hmmm. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:33:45 PM | | Perhaps they have a busy work schedule, they don't go to clubs or bars, and are very picky and selective about who they date (preferring someone whose interests and values match their own) and figure this site will allow them to carefully screen. | |
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| Why are there so many attractive women on POF?
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:15:23 PM | If POF is full of attractive women, that must mean all the unattractive women have found love and left the site?
To Do List
1. Beat self with ugly stick
2. Eat several cheesecakes. Deep fried cheescakes.
3. Wait for the men to come rollin' in! | |
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