| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 8:58:59 AM | I've only felt this once. With my first husband. I haven't felt butterflies since and I've had 3 solid relationships that went long term/serious/commitments.
I think our hormones have a lot more to do with "love" than our minds.
Maybe that's why we often realize the person we thought they were, isn't actually the person standing in front of us.
Long live hormones. But they sure do have a way of leaving us bewildered and confused. | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 9:08:30 AM | What you are talking about OP, is attraction that triggers your mental and physical side with hormones that want to do what you can to satisfy that attraction.
Chemistry develops from that attraction, as the two of you get to know each other much better, and have all those compatible parts that seem to mesh and fit in all the right ways.
I have had those that I am attracted to, but never developed enough chemistry that would warrant more then the occasional get together for fun and excitement; and I have had others that the chemistry was there with how we meshed, but I was not attracted to them enough to make my hormones rage, and feel the need to have them.
It becomes the combination of the two that makes the total more than the sum of the parts, and that is how relationships can blossom into potential love, and all those other things romantic novels print in their stories......
As always, looks will get my attention, but it will be brain power, and compatibility that will bring me back for more and more.......
Just my opinion..........   | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 9:17:12 AM | Chemistry, simply, is how two people relate to one another.
Here's a perspective--
Ever mix bleach and ammonia?
Some people have a similar chemical reaction-toxic...it may just be
time-released.
I'm just saying. | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 9:17:46 AM | | Well, chemistry is unpredictable sometimes - I find that good love chemistry can be coaxed along with an additional chemical catalyst - ALCOHOL. | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 9:32:44 AM | As usual OP, this question generates many differeing opinions as well as a lot of misinformation. Make it easy on yourself and go to THE expert on this.
Helen Fisher | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 9:35:06 AM |
It’s All About Chemistry: How the Symptoms of Those Who Experience Romantic Attraction Can Be Attributed to Oscillations in Phenylethylamine, Dopamine, Norepinephrine, and Serotonin in the Brain.
It's a chemical soup. You can start off liking the packaging of the soup but you have to get inside the can and taste it to know whether it's palatable to you or not. | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 10:17:03 AM | Make it easy on yourself and go to THE expert on this
Are you that out of touch with yourself you need the expertise of someone you've never met, who's never met you to figure YOU out?
I have a brain. I have eyes, ears and five working senses. I don't need some "PhD" explaining love to me. | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 11:30:25 AM | Dammit atlast we know the answers to my problems! I suck with a can opener!
You can start off liking the packaging of the soup but you have to get inside the can and taste it to know whether it's palatable to you or not.
Personally I've never understood why I need this "click" the "magic, that "special something" that I cannot explain - I have it. I know it. There are many, many, many, MANY men who have tried with me, whom I have "tried" with and yet sometimes there's just nothing there.
I can't define it, or understand it but after 10 years of contemplating it, I am going with there's something beneath the surface. Call it pheramones, call it fate, call it destiny - call it whatever you want to call it and men will call it one thing and women will label it something else and if you're from the US it's this and if you're living in Canada where Healthcare is marvelous it will be this.....whatever!
It's what makes us tick.
And pulse.
And throb.
And want.
And continue to search.
And wake up from dreaming about finding it.
And go to sleep thinking about how life would be if we had it.
It is what it is.
Illusive and like mercury on a cold countertop. | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 11:41:56 AM |
Dammit atlast we know the answers to my problems! I suck with a can opener!
Nah...you're just likely some kind of gourmet soup and have only found generic soups not to your liking so far. Keep opening all kinds of cans and keep tasting until one tickles your tastebuds and vice versa (not just metaphorically speaking!)
P.S. to GS - saw your message in the other thread because our settings aren't compatible with Emailing and it's all good  | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 8/17/2009 12:04:33 PM | Don't have a clue. All I know is that my battery is low and in need of a recharge!!!  And I don't mean a "jump start"! Need something somewhat more substantial than that! | |
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| What is the love chemistry?
Posted: 10/14/2009 10:10:19 AM | | Exactly thier called pheremones, people expell these invisable scents from glands which act as an attractant usually to the oppostie sex(hetorosexual) In fact I did a written report which had to be done as a verbal presentation in college psycology class on this very subject. It turns out cologne and perfume manufacturers add animal pherimones to thier products to enhance the characteristics of the aroma. One other fact which I was not aware of regarding womens perfume. They dont wear it to swoon you with the scent but use the scent to put themselves in the mood. And all along I thought she was just smelling nice for me, how nieve I was. | |
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