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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:56:10 AM | Are you kidding me? He still cares for you and you for him? This is a joke, right?
I would spend a little less time worrying about why he would do it and more on telling him to go f u c k himself. No one deserves that. I live an hour away from my boyfriend. If I moved out to Toronto to be with him and everything seems fine and one day he gets up packs my stuff and drops me off in Cambridge on the side of the road in the pouring rain I would kill him. I don't care if he comes to regret it later. I would want nothing to do with someone who could treat me so horribly. I'm not a spiteful person but I would for sure go out of my way to get my payback.
You do not want to forgive him and let him back in your life. He put you in danger by dropping you off in a random spot like that. Move on. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 8:20:03 AM | Hun I hope that since you are home you are under medical treatment. No way in heck could any man touch all of my belongings to pack. If some man wanted me out, I know how to use a phone to call for a cab if I don't own a car. If you are that successful in life, how is it you have absolutely nothing, not even a car?
I am guessing this man got you out of his life when he asked you to leave and you wouldn't.
Now one of the largest problems I have is the crap in your profile. You should get a profile review if you are seriously thinking of dating someone to become more than just fwb.
I have carried my map of Michigan all of my life. I lived my childhood in Saginaw and my father still lives there. It sure as heck is not Detroit! The city sucks and might be like a small Detroit, but the township is absolutely nothing like Detroit! I can't even imagine why you would make up a lie like that. What purpose does it serve you to compare a nice family town with the motor city? Saginaw Steering Gear became Delphi, but that is about as close as you can get to even being related to the motor city. My father did payroll for the automobile plants and believe me, there was a drive between each. Saginaw was not part of that scene and never has been!
Ok, I finished my rant and feel better. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 11:28:36 AM |
I'd like to see anyone just TRY to pack my stuff and put me in a car and drive me to nowhere.
(I think this is a baloney thread) | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 1:59:38 PM |
What I cant understand is what in the WORLD possessed him to drop me in Alabama like that.
OP -- The answer to that question lies within what you HAVEN'T mentioned in your post. Your talk of panic attacks, and "other stresses" and "problems just like any other couple" hold the answers you seek. You know that already. What you haven't told us is where you'll find your answers.
Clearly, these things were minor to YOU, but not to him. Clearly these "problems" that any other couples face were beyond just problems. You're trying to find a fault in HIM.
He says that he's torn about it. Torn about what? That he left you in the middle of nowhere, broke and alone? Nah...he's torn about his reasoning for going that far OR why he waited as long as he did to do so.
There's WAY more to this story and I don't need a crystal ball to see that. Whatever you didn't say about this whole mess is where you'll find the answer to the question you asked about why he did what he did. But let's get real here, no one just wakes up one day and packs your bags and drops you in the middle of nowhere for NO REASON.
No one is dumb enough to buy that for a second.
Sounds like both of you need to do some growing up. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 2:16:12 PM | | This story makes no sense. There is a lot of information that you have obviously left out. So more than likely YOU are a drama queen that loves to play victims and allow stupid men to do these things to you. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 4:18:31 PM | | I understand how badly you muct have felt being dumped, whether the version is accurate or embellished. I know you feel frustrated that it is over. All I can tell you is that any abandonment which feels this extreme is not worth resoving why it occurred. You need to pick up what is left of YOUR life, and forget that his was ever on the menu. This type of storm doesn't pass. If you invite this back into yor life, it will rain for a long time. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 4:22:49 PM | im sorry....he did this to you????
Thats just unacceptable!! i can only imagine what you had to go through moving around to accomodate him and he wakes you up one morning, given you no reason as to why he packs your belongings and to make it worst just drops you at some corner????
Honey, you are worth more than how he has treated you....now if you had done something terrible for him to react this way, still....there is no excuse for someone to be just left alone with no cash and no family to even run to. What a horrible person.
No one deserves such treatment.
Now i know this is tougher since you obviously have strong feelings for him but if you can move forward without him in your life....please do so.
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Posted: 6/3/2009 4:25:05 PM | I tend to agree with poster number two.
I think you're both nuts.
He's nuts for doing what he did. You're nuts for pondering this beyond the, "What is he, ****ing nuts!?" stage.
You must've been aware that all of your possessions were in the car. I question how this could possibly happen. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2009 12:49:24 PM | OK.
I admit that there is more to this story, alot more, and me and him have talked since because he saw this post, and we have both tried to take responsibity for our mistakes in this, forgiven each other, and are still close though I have alot of things to deal with before I will even think about going back. However, I do admit that there is more to the story and I was very unfair, I was more venting with this post than I should have been. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2009 12:56:33 PM | O.k., so you ask us a provocative "teaser" question and leave out all the details which we might find useful, say, for discerning any form of rationality underlying his behaviour.
Predictably, we conclude (1) he's nuts for doing it, (2) you're nuts for ever speaking to him again.
And now, we get a 180 where you're calling yourself out for misleading by omission?
This is the kind of behaviour pattern that leads to situations like being left by the side of the road in strange places with no cash and nothing to fall back on, you know.
EDIT: Yeah, just read the profile.
"What this means is that you will often be surprised by me, because my personality at any given moment can and sometimes does shift.I can be tender and loving, soft and sensitive at one point in time, viscious, cold, and unrelenting when I need to be"
And that's a direct quote. More living proof that if you are a sufficiently good looking woman, guys will put up with (almost) everything. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 3:51:40 AM | Dear Dove.....
First off, if someone did that to MY daughter, the fvcking, miserable SOB would be a dead piece of garbage. The buzzards would be hard pressed to find his sorry carcass! 
That being said, I've read your profile and your post above stating that there was a lot more to this story than you've let on. It seems a few of the wise fishies were able to suss that right out. My immediate response was to jump to your defense; having a daughter myself, I would be livid if someone treated her that way.
Regardless of the issues at hand NO ONE deserves to be dumped at the side of the road like yesterday's garbage. Rather than trying "talk" with this "guy" and work things out, I seriously suggest that you get yourself some counseling and find out why you feel it is acceptable for people to treat you that way. Only when you can get to the heart of your own issues be them self esteem, abondoment, past relationships....whatever the case may be, you will keep on running into the same problems over and over again.
I wish you all the best and all the luck....please take care of YOU first and leave this guy to be somone else's problem.
Blessings,
AJ | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 4:06:13 AM | Since we now know you're lying in your original post...the only things I can see being options are:
1) go seek mental help. NO ONE just has freaking panic attaks and "stresses" without some cause. If you aren't getting help now, you damn sure need to get some.
2) go see someone about drug or alcohol abuse. Even the most sympathetic on POF are finding it hard to be sympathetic much less empathetic.
3) you couldn't be too torn up over this if you're already looking for a new man...hence the you need help part of my response.
4) in this day and age, for you to have no money, no phone and certainly didn't alert your family before he "drove you to the middle of nowhere", you sound like the worst sort of country and western song.
There's "more to your story"? There has to be for you to have found your way to MICHIGAN. I don't know ANY man, OP, that would have done that to you without just cause. There are some nutjobs in this world but even they need real provocation before they completely lose it.
What did you to do him to make him "less loving"? You don't have to answer because you're going to lie about it anyway. WE DON'T CARE IF YOU LIE TO US. You need to quit lying to yourself though--or this is a scenario that will play out over and over and over again until you either kill someone or vice versa. Hate to say it but it just seems that your grasp on reality doesn't exist.
You have though, done the men on POF a favor (those who can read beyond pictures)--you've given them a heads up that you have isSHOES bigger than bigfoot's feet. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 4:19:31 AM |
OP -- The answer to that question lies within what you HAVEN'T mentioned in your post. Your talk of panic attacks, and "other stresses" and "problems just like any other couple" hold the answers you seek. You know that already. What you haven't told us is where you'll find your answers.
Clearly, these things were minor to YOU, but not to him. Clearly these "problems" that any other couples face were beyond just problems. You're trying to find a fault in HIM.
He says that he's torn about it. Torn about what? That he left you in the middle of nowhere, broke and alone? Nah...he's torn about his reasoning for going that far OR why he waited as long as he did to do so.
There's WAY more to this story and I don't need a crystal ball to see that. Whatever you didn't say about this whole mess is where you'll find the answer to the question you asked about why he did what he did. But let's get real here, no one just wakes up one day and packs your bags and drops you in the middle of nowhere for NO REASON.
No one is dumb enough to buy that for a second.
Sounds like both of you need to do some growing up.
BDJ...I promise to listen to your advice from here on...am I the only idiot that bought the poor me story? | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 4:21:16 AM | | If you constuct a post knowingly leaving out parts that will make you look less favorably makes you an attention seeker, some would call a troll but I won't go that far. Maybe you construct things in your personal life to seek attention as well and he had enough of the childish games. Don't blame him myself!! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 4:50:48 AM | ["What this means is that you will often be surprised by me, because my personality at any given moment can and sometimes does shift.I can be tender and loving, soft and sensitive at one point in time, viscious, cold, and unrelenting when I need to be"
And that's a direct quote. More living proof that if you are a sufficiently good looking woman, guys will put up with (almost) everything. ]
Slybandit, thank you.
Apparently, one forum isn't enough for her. The FIRST time I read this post, I thought that the BF was an a-hole. Curious, I looked at her profile. I was SHOCKED at what greeted me. This young lady is so self-absorbed, she has to put up a disclaimer for the "haters" at the very beginning.
OP, your BF probably got tired of trying to figure out WHICH personality he was going to be greeted with next. Yeah, there is a LOT going on that hasn't been mentioned.
I can understand that, as a model, there is a certain amount of ego involved, but gimme a break! Your profile speaks volumes about the kind of person you are.
A high maintenance drama queen/attention w**re.
Your ex is still an a-hole who had no right to dump you off in the middle of nowhere,
but I can relate to the "gettin' the hell away from you" attitude.
You put your hole-laden story into not one, but TWO seperate forums, no doubt sitting back, waiting for the sympathy to gush all over you. Well, it takes two to have a relationship, have a fight, be incompatible, etc. I don't believe that you are the innocent victim that you are claiming.
Beauty can only carry you so far, before personality ultimately kicks in. I'm guessing that's what happened here. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 4:54:06 AM |
Maybe you construct things in your personal life to seek attention as well and he had enough of the childish games.
Ummm...tee pain...honey...that's called a DRAMA QUEEN. LOL...it didn't really take all of those words to say that did it??? | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 4:56:13 AM | Okay so I just checked out your profile (OP) and just looking at it made my eyes to figure eights. It's confusing like this thread.
afashionlady, normally I would have just said crazy chick but today I feel like being a class act lol! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 5:38:33 AM | Ok, try not to waste anymore energies (or whatever) with this bf and this forum, since what you actually need are:
A guy who is generous Enough to buy and pay for your cellphone ( try blackberry).
Give you monthly allowance , better yet help you buy a place to live.
It is POSSIBLE to find and be with That kind of guy. ( hurry before you're too old).
Don't get too excited about getting 20 emails a day, there are plenty of women here who get that. Don't count too much on it.
It is okay to live off of man. ( but DO seriously plan and act on planning for Rainy days).
Stay physically and Mentally healthy. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 6:20:39 AM |
Ok, try not to waste anymore energies (or whatever) with this bf and this forum, since what you actually need are:
A guy who is generous Enough to buy and pay for your cellphone ( try blackberry).
Give you monthly allowance , better yet help you buy a place to live.
It is POSSIBLE to find and be with That kind of guy. ( hurry before you're too old). OMG!  Yes OP.. this season's fashion colours are a lovely shade of "concubine- red", accessorized with "nice-guy-navy."
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Posted: 6/9/2009 6:44:36 AM | | go back to him but make sure the next time he drops you off on the side of the road its not raining out.......................... | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 7:02:30 AM | Funky Phantom nailed it:
Let's see:
You apparently have:
1) No job
2) No money
3) No close family or friends
4) No ability to ascertain how a relationship is going.
Just some friendly advice...I'd work on the first three BEFORE you get back into a another relationship.
Then...after all that's done....you'll definitely need to look hard at that 4th item.... | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 7:14:00 AM | I have witnessed situations like that and I only accord it to being dependant on him so he felt he can go and do whatever it is he feels because he was your provider.Tell you what young lady always keep your pride and have a plan,Keep a private account for such situations even if a man is the one taking care of you.Never settle for the path of least resistance and always take time to evaluate your relationship.He caught you off guard but by the knowledge of men that I have is there were small clues here and there.
Above all dont give your all to anyone they begin to trumble on you.Stop to see the glass half empty than full once in a while and when the green light is blinking.......flee
I work hard(I practice law) though people feel and I sometimes feel I should be a kept lady.Its because I want my independence there is no man who can tell me he is making me because Ill show him the door instead of him to me.So get ready set and go and I hope some positivity reccurs in your life.(Dont give that nasty dog a bone)
Sincerely,
Delilah. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 8:02:56 AM | I'm sorry to hear what apparently has happened; however, I have two questions for you? Why are you even considering having anything to do with this man? Do you not care enough about yourself to see that you will dumped on the side of the road again if you don't make some changes in your life?
Good luck OP, sounds like you have a lot of issues to work on. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 8:30:41 AM | Popcorn anyone?
I shall place this one in the (non official) JSODP section
(jerrry sprinfer-Oprah-Dr Phil worth to be casted's - forum thread)
So : JSODP! | |
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