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I did put you on my faves list for a while some time ago because by your pic I thought you were attractive, and thought I'd indicate an interest that way. Don't think we ever exchanged emails, though I don't remember for sure. Anyway, the point is that there are people who are interested in you - but maybe the problem is that it's not the people you want to be interested in you. In which case, they aren't any more or less shallow than you are.
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Just because you put someone on a favorites list shows that you are interesed, why don't you just send an email?
I have had a couple people put me on their favorites list and when I emailed them I get no response so we can not all assume that they are interested just because they added you.
Sorry to be off topic but I have been to a few events and have found that asians are a minority, not that it matters because I do meet a lot of nice people "Miss Bratty" is one in particular. Unfortunately for you it seems like the events are mostly people in their 30's and up. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 12:39:38 PM | Sorry to be off topic but I have been to a few events and have found that asians are a minority, not that it matters because I do meet a lot of nice people "Miss Bratty" is one in particular. Unfortunately for you it seems like the events are mostly people in their 30's and up.
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OP, why don't you take upon yourself to host events in your area? I'm sure those in y our age group will respond and the result is your friendship circle will widen
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Posted: 6/4/2009 12:42:29 PM | I see SKOOTCHONOVER is making friends with the ladies on here again. 
OP, I found the best way to meet people is to attend the events. In fact the man I have been seeing would not have looked me up if he relied on profiles. It seems that I didn't fit his age classification and I am only 4 months older than him . Good thing for the events!
Poster 11 (Minako79) has some excellent suggestions as well. Do you have any hobbies or something new you'd like to learn (besides auto mechanics, less women there)? That might be a good place to meet new people as well. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 1:06:23 PM |
Just because you put someone on a favorites list shows that you are interesed, why don't you just send an email?
I usually do, just can't remember if I did in that particular case. Mostly, if they don't notice or don't respond to being added to my faves list, they don't respond to emails either. At least, that's been my experience. As a matter of fact, I usually do not get a positive response when I demonstrate interest before he does, whether via faves or an email. But I don't assume it's because all guys are shallow, game playing or insincere. I assume it's because they don't find *me* attractive, for some incomprehensible reason. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 1:21:10 PM |
I see SKOOTCHONOVER is making friends with the ladies on here again.
LOL
There is a huge difference between a realistic woman and an idealistic girl.
For the record, I am not looking for a friend. I am looking for a permanent lover who will of course be my friend. I realized a long time ago that it is very unlikely I will find that here. Women with the qualities I covet probably wouldn’t be caught dead in a place like this.
Any woman that says she wants “friends first” is simply setting the stage for control and a lifetime of jumping through her hoops. Third date rule applies, no exceptions. Make it worth my while because there won’t be any pandering from me. Being a sweet loveable guy is step one in becoming an abused door mat.
In an effort to stay on topic, I do know that there is a huge Filipino community in Vancouver. You’ll get plenty of results if you Google it. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 2:35:17 PM | From your profile you want ...
[What I am looking for is a confidant woman, secure, determined, attractive and well rounded who has her act together and can love and be loved unconditionally. I want someone who is honest, straight forward, kind, caring and sincere.
And you think the woman you describe is going to want to be with a guy who is jaded, cynical and, judging by what you write here, bitter and eager to paint all women with the "liars" and "gold-digger" brush, and who expects her to put out, and put out well, by the third date?
Good luck with that. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 3:51:23 PM | | I viewed your profile and I see your mistake is proclaiming yourself to be respectfull and kind. Women are not attracted to repectfull and kind men,they see thes traits as weakness, this is the myth that our mothers taught us that ruins our "game" with women, especially women in your age group. It took me 40 years of getting shit on by women to finally figure this one out. It is in the last 4 years since my divorce that I have finally come to acceptance of this fact of life. If you really want to get a hottie in your age group you have to get a few cheesy tattoos,start throwing F bombs out of your mouth every second word,get a couple a d.u.i charges and lose your license, take up smoking,spit on the ground everywhere you go. Just generally act like a complete ***hole and they will come running to you. And dont forget that once you get the girl you need to cheat on her and treat her like crap at every opportunity if you want her to respect you and stay with you for the long haul. As for me I am not willing to do any of those things so I expect to remain single forever because women in my age group are no different from the women in yours.......sad but true | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 5:25:36 PM |
I am a Filipino guy...born and raised in the Philippines, but been livin' in Canada for almost 14 years. I've been looking to meet people here and kind of lookin' to what my options are. But it looks like I have no luck. I do not know if people are just not interested in me. Is it because I am Filipino? Is being a Filipino become a hated thing? I honestly don't know. I am a honest, straight-up, normal guy. Just so happens that I am a Filipino. I am not ranting because of my race or nationality. I just want your opinion.
Being an asian myself...the fried rice kind...but if you ask anybody, I look like a Filipino more than my Filipino buddies. Trust me, race is no issue when trying to date Filipinas. But if you want to date outside your race, it's harder but doable. I think online dating is still the hardest form of dating but everyone daoes it for some kind of reason. I still think the best dating form is networking. Knowing the right FEMALE friends to set you up on dates. Women love to be matchmaker, it's in their genes.
But going back to liking other races, like me, I strictly confine myself to liking Caucasian women so I have to use all my resources to do so. Mostly at work or friends of friends or at the club...unfortunately for the latter. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 8:31:54 PM | I've been on here for a year with no success (yet)
I'm not from the Philippines . | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 12:26:51 PM | "There is no fool like an old fool."
Nice double standard whore/madonna syndrome.
*sigh*
It's been my experience that there is no shortage of women who can't cease and desist with brow beating someone once they've started. It is a very rare and precious woman that holds herself above this kind of base immature behavior.
Internet forum are always filled with people who want others to think they are an authority of some kind, aren't they? It's up to the individual to pick and choose what to accept as gospel. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 1:07:23 PM | ^^^Gospel? As in "good news"?
This is far from good news. It seems more like the dysfunctional attracting the dysfunctional to me! And the last time I checked we are ALL a little dysfunctional, no?
I too have met a lot of weird people, but the few that are keepers have made all my time worthwhile. Nothing wrong with wanting friends...works beautifully for me.
It is sad and hard to believe that some people can be so bitter (maybe you are just joking?)...But I have to ask Skootch, if you are looking for a woman of a certain caliber, above the ones here, why are you here?
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Posted: 6/5/2009 1:08:29 PM |
I've been on here for a year with no success (yet)
Got you beat, I have been on for at least 3 years but like I siad I have met a lot of good people on here.
Is it not strange though how caucasian men gravitate to asian women nowdays but does not hold true for the caucsian women or is it just my imagination.
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Posted: 6/5/2009 1:21:02 PM | Just like in the real world they make a 7 second visual assessment and if they don't like what they see nothing else about you will matter anyways. And with some of us they just don't like what they see. - heavyiron
Perhaps I may be one of the few that pays little attention to the appearance of the man in the photo.
I noticed that as a rule most people, especially men, look much better in person. Personally, when I see a photo I look at the type of pic. chosen, the quality and detail he is offering, is he wearing sun glasses and a hat? What is he doing in the photo? The look in his eyes...I can spot sadness and rage in a heartbeat! But also joy and peace.
All that tells me more about him than what he says in his well thought out profile. Nothing to do with his physical appearance.
Food for thought...
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Posted: 6/5/2009 2:13:07 PM | It is sad and hard to believe that some people can be so bitter (maybe you are just joking?)...But I have to ask Skootch, if you are looking for a woman of a certain caliber, above the ones here, why are you here?
The truth is I am a big old romantic softie with a really thick skin.
Why am I hear..? Well I am not going to a pay site because that is just throwing money away. I suppose I am here because I am clinging to hope. Hope does spring eternal afterall.
If there is any bitterness in me at all it can be removed with a little sweetness. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 2:20:35 PM | Well Skootch...saw your profile and you have some great stuff there...it would be a terrible surprise for a nice lady to find a bitter fella behind such nice words....!
I'd say: Change your emotional settings, so you can stop attracting the wrong gals...
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Posted: 6/5/2009 2:48:30 PM | is being Filipino becoming a hated thing?
Absolutely not.
Hang in there, OP.
If you're meant to find someone this way, it'll happen when the time is right.
In the meantime, don't be afraid to put yourself out there.
Go to some events! Meets LOTS of people. Make friends. Network.
Now that the weather is nice, get outside! Meet REAL people!
(Chances are you'll find out they have an internet profile, too!)
You're 22 years old .. have some FUN!
Any woman that says she wants “friends first” is simply setting the stage for control and a lifetime of jumping through her hoops.
Nice.
On behalf of all the nice girls (and guys) out there .. if you (and others) have nothing positive to offer the OP, shut the fuk up.
*packs her bag for Banned Camp*
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Posted: 6/6/2009 9:35:38 PM |
If there is any bitterness in me at all it can be removed with a little sweetness.
Ladies and Gentlemen...
he he he ... do I detect a meltdown?
When the mighty fall, they do fall hard... Me thinks he has crossed over from the Dark Side... | |
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Posted: 6/6/2009 11:15:35 PM | I think the clique-set should refrain from snarling at the heels of scootch.
You are only proving many of his "views" correct.
He is not the topic of this thread. Is he?
OP: You are way too young to be worrying about what it is you are worrying about!
My advice would be to get off this site.
It seems that generally -- people your age ( et al!!) are mostly just on here for fun & games.
I side with those who say that finding your "One & Only" in this pond can happen, but at what cost?
Good Luck to you!
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Posted: 6/8/2009 9:43:11 AM | heh
A good piece of advice for the op. Try something like this in your profile instead....
"If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.
And the feel of the ocean, and the taste of champagne.
If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.
You're the love that I've looked for, come with me, and escape." | |
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Posted: 7/9/2009 11:41:13 AM | Hi,
Don't worry about your race! Really---it's a matter of time and place...
I don't know how old you are but you come across as a very articulate
individual...and believe me, I'm a college instructor!
What are you looking for? It might be time to change your profile
(a bit) to accommodate a larger audience???
I don't know if this helps...these are just suggestions!
Cheers! | |
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