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Posted: 6/5/2009 7:04:53 PM |
diamondgirl2727 Just wondering, if men don't care about or like to see lingerie then why are companys like victorias secret and fredericks so popular?
My quess is that they are popular because women think it's sexy and a turn on.
If your under 25 years old an 5'8", 125 lbs, with a thin, tight figure and your partner wants to see you in lingere, he may have a fetish. If you're in your 40's at 5' 4" and weigh in at 150lbs or more then he may want you to wear lingere to cover up while he dreams of what you looked like 20 years ago.
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Posted: 6/5/2009 7:16:59 PM | whytwater,
burlap hurts, I think that's kinda punishing! | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 8:07:57 PM | | wow ya caught me red handed-lol. I only get that way one week outta month | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 8:59:39 PM | | Well, I'm an "every second day--er" so I would think that if a man has 10 times the testosterone I do, he's probably that horny most of the time. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2009 3:02:21 AM | It's testosterone.
Causes the high sex drive in men.
I remember a story about a woman taking some in an experiment.
Only took half as much as a male teen.
Said all she could think about was "sex".
Testosterone is a blessing and a curse. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2009 5:19:25 AM | whytwater,
burlap hurts, I think that's kinda punishing!
So's alot of the lingerie get-ups out there!! Tedious, too!!
I'm a liberator, Lisee, a fence-cutter, adorer of the unadorned female form. As synapse-snapping as the sex may be, it is often the sight of that steep sloping curve from her hip to her waist, while she's lying on her side, in repose, sheet at her c-cked, jutting hips, that sticks in my mind. I do deeply appreciate that sort of artistic expression, and would be delighted to decorate my mattress with it, daily. Lol.
Clothes-on sex, to me, is kink, even a mild c-ckblocker. Rabelais reveled in a fuller form than my meatless diet includes, but for the most part, on the clothing issue, our minds met.  | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 8:41:37 PM | Just had to stop by and correct you for an errant remark you made there...
The "lights off" kinda gal gets a huge FAIL from me not because she lacks body modesty or has an innate amount of shyness...it's because we ALL know that pound for pound they are trying to HIDE something from plain sight. That sucks and is so juvenile to me. You like me enough to wanna get naked and have sex, but you expect me to do it in the dark? Hell, just hand me a friggin' blindfold then and save the hassle - BigDaddyJinx
Sorry if I mis-interpreted your intent, all I saw was:
The "lights off only" kinda gal. FAIL. -
Now that I see where you are coming from somewhat, I can understand your opinion better, although I don't still agree with it 100%. After all, if you are sensible enough to realize:
I have hangups too, like most do
one might think that you could be a little more understanding of their hang-ups, since you are aware of your own (which many people are not). And it isn't always about having
something to hide, either. Even when I was younger & slender, I was still very shy in a new relationship. Building trust & intamcy takes time. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 10:21:24 PM |
And it isn't always about having
something to hide, either. Even when I was younger & slender, I was still very shy in a new relationship. Building trust & intamcy takes time.
I disagree still. Remember you and he/she are about to get NAKED and HAVE SEX. This mention of trust and intimacy falls on deaf ears for that reason alone. You wouldn't very well be intimate with someone you didn't trust...and you're about to do just that very thing.
So yea, sorry...they're just trying to hide something. Some "perceived" flaw they feel they have.
This trust and intimacy you mention has been established once the last garment hits the floor. If not, then what the Hell are you doing sleeping with him/her?? | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 7:55:00 AM | | Not all men are the same, just like no two women are... and lingerie, its a visual, men love it... eventually they get to the skin, and thats an exciting adventure. I love it because it feels sexy sometimes, it can feel naughty.... | |
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Posted: 6/29/2009 10:01:16 AM | I think healthy men and women masturbate regularly.
Be careful what you believe as there is a lot of garbage research and claims floating around.
Everybody's different about what they like.
You would think things work a certain way but you'll have better luck if you let people tell you what works for them.
It's common that men like women not to be naked.
Clothing is a means of expression.
I once took a lady to see a choir. She said that she didn't enjoy it because they weren't wearing matching outfits.
If outfits can matter for one thing, then why not something else? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:51:26 AM | yes we are that horny..... and beleave it or not many men masterbate out of bordom.....
and i love lingerie! it lends a bit of mystery to the experience. that way its not just here it is! this is it! now you know! | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 9:57:49 AM | All me are different, just like all women are different.
Personally speaking...................
I LOVE sex and am horny on regular basis and tend to like getting it on regular basis. 
As for Lingerie or Naked body...............
That depends on the mood and the teasing involved there. Having lingerie on and teasing the man seems like a hot idea.
But..............
I also enjoy seeing a woman naked around me all day long and get it on with her over and over too. 
Of course with breaks in between. :) | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 10:15:15 AM | | Twice a day, if I don't get it I start climbing the walls. Porno helps, but you can't take porno into the shower with you (unless you get it laminated, and that's a degree of dedication I am unwilling to attain.) | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:38:27 PM | | I don't find lingerie a turn on and I really don't know anyone who does. I always thought women wore lingerie because it turned them on. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 12:41:23 PM | ok are men really that horny where they have to be masturbating every day, looking at porn and jacking off or having sex on a regular basis?
and i've always wondered but why does lingerie turn on guys more than a girl naked? you would think that a woman would no clothes on would do it more for a guy but in my experience, having sex in lingerie is hotter to them, any reason why?
Not all men masturbate every day although it's not healthy to go without orgasms for long periods of time, it's a physical as well as an emotional release. If I'm not in an an intimate sexual relationship I might go a couple of times a week.
Regarding women and clothes..speaking for myself I think a woman is so much sexier partially dressed, and I'm not even talking lingerie. I'm talking perhaps an evening gown that she's been wearing all night, pulled up to expose her panties, which I pull to one side as I bury myself between her legs and then replace my tongue with my penis.
Even a Tshirt and panties are sexy, and again, leave them on for sex but perhaps one breast and nipple is exposed, the other hidden, and the panties still worn, but rolled over to one side exposing that wonderful body part that provides such extreme pleasure for both of us in so many ways.
Clothing enhances the sexual act, even if it needs to go to the cleaners when we're finished. I'll gladly pick up the tab.
Sorry I got carried away there. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 1:39:52 PM | My libido ebbs and flows, as does my rate of masturbation and frequency of sex.
I assume it's the same within male and between males.
I know of males who masturbate 2-3 times a day, some who very rarely do b/c they have no sex drive at all, and some who just don't like masturbating as much as sex so they go without.
Variety is the spice of life.
I did ask a guy friend, the 2-3 times a day guy, what makes him decide he wants to masturbate. He had a hard time putting it into words, but basically sometimes the urge just plain hits him. Like BOOM! HORNY TIME! and he's hard and ready. If he has access to a willing female, sex is on. If not, his hand will do. He's a very healthy male, mid 20's. It wasn't something he really felt he had control over (when the urge hit). But obviously some times were going to put him more in the mood than others. Not like he was getting hard at work while in a meeting an dhad to excuse himself to relieve it or anything. (although that would be kinda funny).
Lingerie makes ME feel sexy because I like the way I look in it. I think I like it more than most guys I have dated. But again, I'd say it's all about variety. Black lingerie 24/7 gets boring. So does no lingerie ever. Lights on, lights off, candle light, fireplace light. Living room, bedroom, kitchen. Mix it up and keep it fresh. At teh same time, listen to your partner. If he loves you in a thong, wear a thong a little more often. If he comments on how sexy you look after sex wearing just your panties, then do it. If she loves you in boxers, then wear boxers when she's coming over. Etc...
Lingerie is designed to make a female alluring. To show off her ASSets the best way. To tease, show a tiny bit of panty or azz under the nightie. Low cut neckline w/a pushup to push the breasts out the top. See thru fabrics. It's a type of clothing designed to turn on your lover, so why wouldn't lovers like it?
Nekkid chick (or male) can be a turn on, but like everything else, it gets boring if it's all you ever see. And when you're married, nekkid mate means he/she is getting dressed, showering, etc. not necessarily offering sex. The meaning it has also adds or subtracts from the sexiness. If you know she wears lingerie when she's in the mood, then hopefully you'll be turned on when you see it (b/c you know it means she's horny). If you know nekkid man means he is getting dressed to go bowling, might not be so sexy. LOL
It's not rocket science, is it? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 1:45:46 PM | Lingerie- personally I like even more clothing. I'm a believer that more is less. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy naked women as much as the next heterosexual guy, but it's just my thing.
It's the hint, the tease of something which gets us going, the thoughts of what may be waiting for us. This also proves that sex and sexual connection with a partner is more in the mind than what the body does.
I like it when She puts on a show of slowly removing her pants/panties, but I'm also fond of 'inconvenient' sex- when it's the least practical I'm the most turned on. heh.
As for masturbation, porn- I've slowed it down lately, I was 3-4 times a day, with the first time being roughly an hour or so session, usually after working out. I have a flexible schedule, so my day permits such things. As stated I have slowed it down to once a week- more sex getting in the way, heh. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 1:54:19 PM | Excessive? When no one is/was around, why is it excessive?
It's all subjective, in the same way I could suggest you're frigid. Fun passing judgment isn't it? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 1:56:52 PM | | Frigid? Hardly honey! Yep I masterbate but I don't let it control my life. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 1:59:40 PM | Masturbating 3-4x a day for up to an hour at a time could be viewed as "excessive", especially in a 30+ year old male, as compared to societal norms.
Interesting that the poster in question through in the disclaimer of "no one is around" as if that matters?
Look if you're wacking off while traveling on a crowded bus there are bigger issues here.
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Posted: 7/5/2009 2:03:09 PM | Nothing wrong with masterbating at all as long as a person doesn't allow it to control their life. If someone is allowing it to do that, then they have serious issues that require counselling. Several times a week works for me :)
I believe someone who masterbates 3 or 4 times a day is taking it to the extreme. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 2:08:25 PM |
Frigid? Hardly honey! Yep I masterbate but I don't let it control my life.
But you still missed the point- you were passing judgment where it wasn't needed. And worse you quipped that it controls my life, without knowing anything about me. This reveals quite a bit about you.
I digress...
As for societal norms- sure, but I've never been one much for giving more than lip service to many of those norms, clearly society and what it has taught us isn't everything it was cracked up to be. If anyone has read enough of my soapbox stances on society, then you'll see where I come from (it's almost copy-pasta).
Maybe I have/had a libido issue, never thought too much about it. As for no one around, meaning I wasn't seeing anyone during those times, heh, but honestly there are those times when mutual fun is had. In a sense I'm rather pleased with my libido, that it hasn't faded, though I'm only in my mid 30s.
I'm not one to judge a person and their habits if they don't affect me, I wrongly (and knowingly) presume others would hold themselves to that as well. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2009 2:20:38 PM |
Men are very, very similar to women, except that their triggers can be a little different. I don't see anything wrong with a person wanting to have sex or masturbate every day. Nor is this limited to younger men, or even just MEN for that matter. A man is a visually-triggered creature, so he may look at porn and think about sex. What do YOU think about when YOU masturbate, laundry soap?
Lingerie creates mystery. This means that a (visually-triggered) man's imagination will fill in what he doesn't see. When imagination and reality are in conflict, imagination wins, every time. Therefore, his imagination will make whatever is under that seductive lingerie (or clothing) even hotter than what is actually there. YAY!
QFT -- nice. | |
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