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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/5/2009 2:36:38 PM | | Holy smokes, OP ... what a transformation. I know you had a little assistance with this .. and I've got precisely one guess who :) ... but, hey, who cares? It looks great! Now all you need is to improve your picture situation and life can be good. Nicely done. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/5/2009 2:40:17 PM |
Holy smokes, OP ... what a transformation. I know you had a little assistance with this .. and I've got precisely one guess who :) ... but, hey, who cares? It looks great! Now all you need is to improve your picture situation and life can be good. Nicely done
Thanks, but you are right the credit goes to "You go First", and before I used it I did wrote her to ask her permission to use it | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/5/2009 2:57:40 PM | There's a French Canadian saying "Il n'est pas tres vites sur ses patins".
If you want help in how to attract a woman, then listen to the advise you are getting from the WOMEN here!
Dating is like a job interview. Before we waste our time on the "interview", we want to read the "resume" to see if there is a match. Tell me why you are the best candidate (guy) for the job (date). Do you like the same things I do? Do you have interesting hobbies? Are you funny or serious? Do you like jazz music (Ella Fitzgerald) or Heavy Metal (AC/DC)? These things matter to us. We want to know something about you.
Tell us.
And spell it right. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 6/23/2009 8:16:13 PM | Dude, your probaby a cute guy, but please leave the glasses off in the pic. You need to look up in the camera and strike a pose.(flex a little bit, you are probably cute, but you can't tell from the pic. You can wear your glasses on the date, but pic another frame.
Also change the name rat-7 it leaves bad images in a women's mind. Try to find a women friend to help you get a makeover.....you look cute,,,,you need to show it. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 11:36:05 AM | I tried just about everything, but I still can not understand how I can attract
I think that I am too horrible looking or something like that to be able to attract anyone
Nothing is even happening, even on this site | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:18:52 PM | Hey! I was just thinking about you the other day.
You still need to get someone to take some photos of you, casual shots, smiling head/shoulders shot, possibly one or two outdoors. This is really important so it doesn't give only one impression of you.
There any many guys here that don't have your additional challenges that are still waiting to meet someone, so it's not just you. Maybe we can add a line or two in there about your qualities that make you unique... "I am that guy that cannot lie to save his life. " Talk to you later. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:24:59 PM |
You still need to get someone to take some photos of you, casual shots, smiling head/shoulders shot, possibly one or two outdoors. This is really important so it doesn't give only one impression of you.
Sorry there is no one to do that, nor will I let anyone try to either, I hate having my picture taken. Beside my picture would just scare people away
Maybe we can add a line or two in there about your qualities that make you unique...
I do not know of anything to say | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:46:38 PM | 1) Photo - if there is no other option, use the computer webcam but wear a shirt that is a solid colour - preferably blue, it looks nicer in the picture. If you can, please turn to the camera and use the basic smile manouver - you don't necessarily need to show a big cheesy smile, but that would actually help. Otherwise - a nice smile facing the camera will suffice.
2) Cut and paste this in the 3rd paragraph position:
I am that guy that cannot lie to save his life. If you ask me something, I will answer you because I expect that's why you asked! Definitely not a game-player here, never developed that psychic ability to read women's minds. Honesty is easier and you'll always know where you stand. I think that's the biggest part of developing a relationship. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:52:26 PM | I do not really understand what you wrote but never the less I pasted it in the profile
As for the photos, I do not even have a webcam, that would be the same as having my pictures taken | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 12:57:46 PM | What that paragraph meant was simply that you say what you mean, and mean what you say. No attempts to lie or hide any meaning. (Exactly like what you've done here in your thread) With the Aspergers Syndrome (did you ever get a formal diagnosis?) it makes no sense to lie and then have to remember what you said. It's my favourite quality.
If you have any other questions, please feel free to email me directly. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:02:18 PM |
Aspergers Syndrome (did you ever get a formal diagnosis?)
No, I can not get a family doctor, the only thing that I can get is a walking clinic, but they do not do that kind of thing, I was told to get myself a family doctor, but in Ottawa, it is impossible to do | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:07:41 PM | OP, death doesn't start at 40. There's still hope.
My suggestions.
1) Lose the glasses, in pics and in real life. Get Laxic, I got it. It's a miracle come true.
2) Start exercising, get a membership or something to get out more
3) Get multiple pics, whether you spend an hour with your camera or hire a pro
4) Take up ballroom dancing. The ratio is 10 to 1 and they are all DYING to dance with a guy who can dance. In one year you'll have more women than you can handle.
5) When with a pretty woman... any woman, ask questions about her, have a genuine interest in her. Comment on her, something nice.
6) Have a genuine interest in something... anything. I met a woman when I simply asked about wine, which I know nothing about. She gave me the "close in, brushing elbows, hand on shoulder" conversation. And I just asked about wine. Sheesh! This happens all the time. ALL the time, and I'm no Han Solo or Brad Pitt either. Women are just dying to talk to someone a) cute/handsome b) with a personality of something with opposable thumbs c) not a Jeffrey Dalmer. Another woman was at Kitchen Kaboodle. I was getting into those cool expensive rubber grip utensils and just commented to a nearby woman that I loved them. She responded with the "close in, brushing elbows, hand on shoulder" conversation.
Good luck and listen to the ladies here. | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 9/28/2009 1:20:16 PM |
1) Lose the glasses, in pics and in real life. Get Laxic, I got it. It's a miracle come true. I need glasses to see, I have some nerve and a muscle dead in one eye, there is no other way
[qutoe]2) Start exercising, get a membership or something to get out more
A spina bifida, prevent anyone from any kind of excersise, except in my case walking, which I do to go to work everyday
4) Take up ballroom dancing. see above
5) When with a pretty woman... any woman, ask questions about her, have a genuine interest in her. Comment on her, something nice.
I would like to di that, but it is very hard to when you are always alone
6) Have a genuine interest in something... anything. I met a woman when I simply asked about wine, which I know nothing about. She gave me the "close in, brushing elbows, hand on shoulder" conversation. And I just asked about wine. Sheesh! This happens all the time. ALL the time, and I'm no Han Solo or Brad Pitt either.
I do not know how to get a conversation started, so when I go shopping, I do strictly what I need to do, and then go back home
[quote}Women are just dying to talk to someone a) cute/handsome b) with a personality of something with opposable thumbs I am just the opposite, even Frankenstein look like a supermodel compare to me
c) not a Jeffrey Dalmer. Who is that ???? | |
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| how do you attract when you are over 40
Posted: 10/3/2009 7:18:28 AM | The more I see things on this site and the more I realise that I am both way too old and way too dumb to begin this dating thing
Too old: I have never dated before, and I realise that I am too old to learn any of it
Too dumb : I barely have finish high-school, and everybody here as at least some university, so no-one would be interested in someone like me
Thanks to all of you who helped, but unfortunately that was all for nothing | |
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