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Sannia
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Joined: 9/11/2009
Msg: 354 | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/17/2009 1:02:50 PM | ^^^^^BS there are some men that do and some that don't geez. It isn't a guy thing. Some women like older and some like younger. Personally, I like men period, it isn't the age.
But I will admit when I was in my teens and twenties we always said dirty old man if men too old hit on us. If I saw them looking or talking to me, yeah, it wasn't a turn on but a turn off. Some older men think young women get a kick out of it. I know I didn't, I got pissed off. Instead it gave the impression that the man had problems. I am sure young guys also have thought that with men or women hitting on them. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/17/2009 1:46:16 PM | Dawn...Thankyou for your input...I am over 50...(57) and I am single and have been since my wife was killed by a drunk driver...1984...The other reason is I find it difficult to find a woman who would enjoy living on a sailboat...If a younger woman were to become attracted to me 20's or so, I would get the"I am old enough to be your dad" syndrome.On the other hand I have to laugh when I get my "Your Matches" alert...Most of them are old,fat and ugly....Wonder what that valid reason is...?Heres to beautiful woman...No matter how old...!  | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:01:59 AM | OP Stagecoachred:
I never mention my exercise regimine on any of the forums for concern of being labeled arrogent. If only you were a bit closer you would find this 58 year old interested because most (though not all) women at this age aren't interested in a rigerous workout regimine.
Primarily I enjoy weight training. My warmup is 225lbs and my maximum one rep is 335lbs. After 45 minutes in the weight room I use and eliptical machine for 15 minutes until the Yoga class starts. I love Yoga (non-meditative). I've nicknamed the instructor (female) "Sarg"e because she pushes us to our limits. The class lasts one hour and after we are finished I walk the YMCA track for 10 minutes to cool down. The final activity is using the jaccuzi (the executive workout). A great way to relax muscles. I do this two, sometimes, three times a week. On Saturdays I take a 2 hour ballroom dance class. Besides learning how to dance it's a great source of aerobic exercise.
I have no interest in women my daughters age (30). If I could find a single woman my age who enjoys exercise, along with other outside interests I'd probably latch on to her as fast as possible. The only women I know like this are married.  If you ever decide to relocate somewhere nearby I'd love to meet you. Flowers in one hand and barbell in the other. 
There are a few of us mid-50s in shape men who are looking for a mid-50s in shape woman.  | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:54:24 AM | | I can only speak for my own self, but the only women I try to meet are within 10 years either way of my age. As for your comment on being placed on someone's favorites list, I'll write to them and I have yet to receive an answer of any kind. So tell why a absolutely beautiful woman of 68 years young would place me on her list, and than I write and she never answers? I see that she is online daily. That is the biggest problem I have with this and any only site is that no has the courtesy to write back and say they're not interested. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:58:04 AM | they like women who can count their wrinkles, us ladies at fifty something have to put our glasses (well not me I dont wear glasses) on to count them correctly!!!!! lmfao rotf (SHUSH THEY THINK IT MAKES THEM LOOK COOL) we all know its well known all over the world the younger lady goes with the younger car, so he dont look like he completely lost his mind   | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:01:52 AM | MSG 358:
you are right there, why dont they match up the fit and healthy with the fit and healthy, would help
But sorry hun nothing on this earth would get me to live on a boat, too far gone with the comfort of a home, a bed and carpet under my feet.
Is this "Buying a Boat thing for men the new Sports Car", cyber meeting lots of men who are living on a wreck that will one day be a boat they can sail round the world in??? Anyone ?? | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/20/2009 8:50:07 AM |
There are a few of us mid-50s in shape men who are looking for a mid-50s in shape woman
I agree--I don't go to the gym but I do dancing 2-3 times a week, walking, hiking and bicycling-----------what do I get? Emails from men whose idea of exercise is to walk to the frig for the next beer.
nothing on this earth would get me to live on a boat, too far gone with the comfort of a home, a bed and carpet under my feet.
I wouldn't mind the boat for weekends but I like the yard to putz around in with my flowers and for the dogs to have a place to run--as well as being able to go dancing. I taught dancing on a yacht once and when everyone moves in the same direction--you get the picture.......... | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:09:39 AM | I find the whole issue of there being a "generation gap" surrounding the folks whole date with a 10+ year gap. a non issue to a point. The women I've dated who were younger certainly related to different frames of reference where the "pop scene" was concerned, but I've always found that just a very superficial difference. Unless a person is completely wrapping their whole self identity in these things, they are much more than their superficial connections to pop culture; minimal at best. There is so much else left to build upon. There's the commonality of our humanity for one thing, this transcends all of those silly issues about whether or not we know the same pop stars etc.
Remember as well, at my age a 45 year old woman is 15 years my junior and the age difference factor is not he same as 40 yr old dating 25 yr old. As we age the real age difference ratio decreases to the point that at 65 yrs, a man dating a 50 year old woman draws no comment at all. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:44:02 AM | Now, I have a twin brother, so I know a bit about men in our age group. I have friends who date guys the same age as their children. Because they are compatable in everything but age. I used say, "are you crazy?" but now I totally understand why they do it!
Men our age are intimidated by us, especially if we look good, are independent and successful, but most importantly because we have the same amount of life experience and can see their inadequacies more clearly than a twenty or thirty something. Try being in my shoes, working in mental health, I'm TRAINED to spot red flags and I always do. So, just date men who ARE attracted to you, and don't worry about the rest! | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:48:45 AM |
at 65 yrs, a man dating a 50 year old woman draws no comment at all.
You got that right, damassteel! That is the norm. In the singles community in our age group 10 years is usually the minimum age difference and 25 years is about the practical limit. Most men I know around Newport Beach prefer to date women about 15 to 20 years younger. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:55:59 PM | HaLapid Give me a break with the "they are intimidated" crap. I am not in the least bit afraid of any woman and what she has as far as looks or money or relative success in life. I scoff at anyone who thinks a college degree is some how any indication of superior intellect. Why do you gals think this stuff? It's lke the welfare mamas and their "you jus' jealous" on the Springer show. The real reason I had a 20 year old girlfriend when I was 45 is she chased me and she cost the same as a 45 year old to take out. The moral of the story is "why buy the cow when the calf costs the same?".
I have no trouble going out with a woman my age but they seem to have unreal expectations and an inflated sense of self worth. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:05:33 PM |
I have no trouble going out with a woman my age but they seem to have unreal expectations and an inflated sense of self worth.
What are these "unreal expectations and an inflated sense of self worth" you speak of?
Why buy the cow when the calf costs the same?
Wow...just wow.
Is it just that thinks there are a LOT of angry pissed off people on fishes?
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:06:03 PM | It's not inflated sense of self-worth at all. It a greater need for due appreciation following the disaster of divorce. When people divorce the fight stops before it is finished. Then for a while dating is where it gets resolved. Being extra careful to avoid anything less than adoration is understandable. In the context of the stage of life, the relationship history, the need to recover, you're dealing with hopes and egos that are less than robust.
What if the husband went casing after a younger woman? That could make the woman question her attractiveness.
What if she spent years struggling with abuse? That could make her sensitive to any slight.
We're not without special needs now. Some understanding and patience go a long way. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:27:04 PM | I dance---Argentine and American Standard Tango, rumba, samba, waltz-country and ballroom, east and west coast swing, cha-cha, the country and ballroom, foxtrot, polka-and several others, any man that can lead worth a flip--in my book--not his, I can follow.
Would love to find a dance partner--one that can keep up--dancing on Fri, hike Saturday morn, dance Sat night, church on Sunday morn and then Argentine tango on Sunday afternoon/early evening and then to dinner with dancers. Yes, life is good. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:57:06 PM | | snapington: I think in light of your post you would have trouble dating a women your own age simply because they generally do have self worth... and they would not waste it on someone who did not appreciate them. So it is probably best all round if you continue to date those that would have you...whatever age that might be... Good luck with that!!! | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 9/21/2009 4:25:30 PM | ^^^^^^absolutely! Multi-lingual, multi-cultural, well read, articulate, talented, attractive, knowledgeable about world affairs and politics, gourmet cook and fine wines, travelled, well respected in our careers, social outlets, loving--------------our only sins-----------------we aren't 25.............but you know what? If a man does not appreciate us.............he does not deserve us.
The flip side, I have lived though the same history and experienced a lot of the same things...........and I would appreciate him and be interested in him..........not his wallet! | |
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