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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/8/2009 4:27:20 AM | I can't believe this thing is still going on' haha
There's always going to be a debate, when it comes to weight, condition, and keeping it real.
So, I missed the clogged up middle part from the middle aged gals who took offense to....well, everything. haha.....It's their own hatred for their lines , their bumps, and their extremely pear shaped bodies, most likely.
I don't see where the OP went off track too much....it's just that the lurkers will get you here...sometimes, there is the tag team lurkers...gotta watch for those, the bitter beef trust, they are....poor baztards.
Look, it's sooooo simple. It' doesn't mean 'anything'. Stop analyzing the simplest freaking reveries and ideas folks......sheeeeesh. I can't help it if you are wrinkley and pear shaped, OK??? Men....would 'want' the chance to stroke something supple...that's all...It doesn't mean they will, or that it would happen...or that it would ever come true....But...it's not open for debate...if someone is daydreaming..they want to touch, caress some young skin....it's meaningless.
Just as all of the post s reply.....Women in midlife...grab a younger guy. OK? Sure, it's hard not to think of you son...or daughter that age..(provided you are not childless and bitter and still giving advice about children)..but it's not a wrong thing...
One thing about the forums...well, there's lots actually....but one thing..If I say this page is Blue....gonna get a lot of pissed off women telling me what a fcuktard I am.
you brought up weight, and you're in good shape...I mean..you 'KNOW' that women already hate you darlin'......heeeeee.
you go OP...you look great. screw em'..I get your point.
ya gotta do for you in this life...whether you're divorced or not
whether you worked out before or after that...or not
I dated a woman on here with severe weight issues...one word, even if I was talking about a paper 'weight', would get her smashing down the phone. Should've known then, there's a reason certain 'perfect' shiit don't stink women only post pics from the neck up
I'm in great physical shape...I admire anyone who take a few moments out of their precious life of niggling, and meddling...to really take care of their temple.
k"? know what I mean?
sheeeesh......hey, lets start a new thread already...
there will still be a couple of stragglers here...don't worrry.....
Kimbo********************(on the road again)*************** | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/8/2009 10:29:27 AM | Mike,
Just a thought. You can exercise while traveling, even seated. You can use muscles all over your body while driving or when stopping. Recently, I traveled by buses over a short period of time. One thing I noticed about all the drivers was their physical shape. Each was male, my guess in their 50's, with well defined muscles in their arms & legs & none I would describe as over weight. Not the typical bus drivers I saw as a child. Perhaps their company offers a gym to use. That crossed my mind. I exercise when traveling, even in a plane. Your health should be your most important consideration. Improved body image is the bonus for good care. Perhaps your snack diet needs improvement. Your profile is interesting. Some ladies might think you have too much hair. Others may love it. I find a person with a body that's been well cared for indicates that person takes good care of other things in their life. I'm not talking about body builders, just average people. Good luck.
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/8/2009 11:02:03 AM | Attention is attention.
As men get older. SOME have more "avenues" that they can travel down...
If that means younger women....then that's where they'll go.
IMHO, since it appears that you don't want younger men....then I'd humbly suggest you make do w/ the men in your desired age range that would be interested in you.
If you limit your choices...your choices are limited. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:27:32 AM | As a more mature man out there there a couple of points that io dont agree with as just because a man is on his own at over 50 never mind 60 there can a number of reasons for that in that he could be a widower and also a gentleman who has by circumstance become alone in his life. So it is very easy to judge people with out knowing the facts .
Just becuase you are old in the body does not mean that your head has go to seed and rest of you. I am in my 66 year and I am very active in fact, people a lot younger than me cannot keep up with me and I still work full time and have many active hobbies and interests and I still am going to school to learn and train in my development of my abilities to help and assist young people of many ages . So what is this age thing? It is all about attitude and to many young people think that when you are over 60 life stops. Well it doesnt and it just gets interesting and my life is more active now than when i was younger and in fact there are more ladies of the late 50's and 60's then there are men out to meet them. So life gets more interesting not less.Most of the ladies i have met of my age cannot keep up with me at all, they seemed to want a guy to be the TV and slippers type and think retirement, what is the ugly word i dont reconise it . | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/9/2009 8:38:47 AM |
"Usually if a man of over 50 is single, there is a very valid reason". I would hate to think that it is true
And this does not apply to women?
"How's that working for you"
You are on here. Tell us. Oh you did, not very well.
The ones that I have "connected" with and dated usually turn out to be very controlling,
The few women I have dated from a site, had us married by the second date. That is not controlling?
there has to be a few reasonably presentable, honest, athletic men out there who have bigger hearts than ego.
O, there are. Problem is we were married to women like you. We are smarter now. Now it is time to get even.  | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/9/2009 8:50:36 AM |
there has to be a few reasonably presentable, honest, athletic men out there... O, there are. Problem is we were married to women like you. We are smarter now.
And the rest of us have guys like buzzy as examples to learn from.
...who have bigger hearts than ego.
Maybe you need to change your headline to "Looking For A Pity Date".
Or the Golden Rule might be a good thing to review. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/9/2009 9:05:32 AM | I have never had any problem with men shunning an older fit woman. In fact, I am somewhat as biased as these guys you point your finger at. I am very active (running and biking almost daily, taebo; and throughout my life have been on volleyball and softball leages as well as still play golf. I have also not had alot of problem attracting older men and met quite a few on POF...really nice guys they were !!!
It doesn't bother me that some men chase 24 y/o's....who cares ???? There are some great men our own age out there and I have never met one guy from POF in person that wasn't fun, entertaining, intelligent, good looking and a great date.
To each their own; if someone wants to date someone youger, they should just go for it. It doesn't ruffle any of my feathers..... | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/9/2009 9:25:50 AM |
I have never had any problem with men shunning an older fit woman
Seeing an older, fit woman is a huge turn-on for me. It shows she cares about herself. If she cares about herself, she'll care about others. For the most part, fat people are lazy people that can't get out of their own way. Can you say ISSUES! | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/9/2009 10:32:14 AM | OK the secret is it isn't your age it is your attitude.
I honestly don't care how fit you are or how great a body you have at 45, 50 or 85 years old. As long as we can still do some fun things together and that's what matters.
I'm not gym rat.
Carrie seems to be very fit and as she says she does not seem to have a problem with getting men in her age group to date her. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/9/2009 2:41:35 PM | They get the nice guy in the end and thier little "master plan" finally paid off. Don't contribute to letting that happen and they will learn.
Master plan? "They" will learn?
Paranoid much?
Don't be a fool. Leave these older women alone and let them become spinsters.
Leave "those" older women alone? Which ones would "those" women be? The ones like me who had a long and mostly happy marriage or live-in relationship with a GOOD man, had children, and that for some reason or another, find themselves alone at this stage in their lives?
By the way, it's hard to take anyone who uses the word spinster as a way to insult and PUNISH women of "their due punishment" for "their master plan" seriously.
Also, most of "those" older women you wish to "punish" aren't spinsters and/or the (archaic) word simply doesn't apply to them or to ANY woman living in this day and age - ie: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/spinster).
Hahahaha. Sorry, but I can't hold it in any longer - must be the evil master planner in me....anyway, people, both men AND women, are free to look/shun/reject/accept/pursue/date/be attracted to anyone they damn well please - that doesn't mean that anyone is entitled to "get" what/who they want, but we are ALL free to want what we want.
And yep, that includes 'em old evil master planners out to use and abuse 'em "nice guys" once we're done with 'em "bad boys"...I mean, who else is going to pay/support our lifestyle and "pay our big bills"?
It's not like us wimminzs work, buy our own cars, own our own houses, our own clothes, pay our own bills and buy (and cook) our own food even or know anything about managing a career, a home, children and an infinity of crisis that comes from simply being human...nah...we're not humans, we're just wimminzs in need of "punishment" for our evil ways. Too funny or too pathetic - your pick (hey that rhymes crimes:).
JMO
Do you have "mummy" issues?
Off you go; nick off out of here. Go and play with the other budding misogynists.
Better still: change your sexual preference and save some poor women from your repulsive attitude. You really need help.
Yeah, that ^ too.
PS: For some strange reason, I'm suddenly starting to believe in reincarnation and I'm not even a "believer". Ah well, must be something I ate (cereal, even though I'm a lover (or even thinking about weird stuff, like oh say, ultimate heart surgery) does that to me sometimes.
;)
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/9/2009 3:50:56 PM |
So you admit in your past that you were the overlooked nice guy? The caring guy? The thoughtful guy? And you admit that you were getting turned down by girls when they were IN THIER PHYSICAL PRIME (late teens, twenties) for losers and jerks! And in spite of that you are comfortable with being put on the shelf and they finally "came around"? Hahahaha!! Are you really that desperate to get a women that you would accept s0mone wh0 did not accept you for who you were just because it now suits her?
You assume a lot.
I said:
I always knew that, after an attractive woman had been jerked around by the pretty boys and players several times, a man of sincere integrity would start looking pretty damn good to them.
I never said I now date them.
In my experience, people (men or women) that are snobby when they're younger are usually snobby when they're older, as well. You're treading dangerously close to fitting the symptoms at your young age.
It is unattractive. A caustic attitude never serves one in the long run. If one holds onto an unattractive attitude at a young age, it often becomes entrenched. Making one unattractive later in life as well. Thus, my suggestion of re-thinking the karma/attitude.
But, do as you will. It's your life.
On topic:
Since I was a young teenager (say 13) and had a crush on a girl my age, that had a crush on an older boy (say 16/17), it was explained to me that girls/women mature more quickly than boys/men. And, that women are therefore attracted to older/mature men.
That seemed to suffice for both genders for decades to come, all the way through my 20s and 30s.
Suddenly, now that I am in my 40s (only slightly longer) many (not all) women my age no longer subscribe to that theory. However, it sure seems the men caught-on rather well!
just a few thoughts | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/12/2009 2:02:08 AM | As I've ventured into dating men my own age (I generally have dated men on average 7 years younger than me throughout my life)....I have found that they have erectile problems, and even sex drive problems. Viagra is an expense and if drive isn't there it doesn't solve that. Men have a LOT of issues. Some 50% of men are having these problems in their 40s and by the end of their 50s, 80% do. It's very exasperating to have to slow down sexually and work hard to protect the fragile egos of men. Sex just isn't much fun.
So hey, a 20 year old female, they aren't that into sex generally - at least not most of them. Romance, being 'taken care of', finding out about themselves (self absorption), etc. etc. are far more important than sex to those in their 20s. Sex becomes paramount in your mid 30s to early 40s and on. Sure, romance and other things can still be important, but a man can easily control and fool a girl in her 20s. He can't possibly defer a horny woman in her 40s or 50s!
It's also a man's last hurrah....his viagra based mid life crisis is something he has a lot of trouble dealing with. A 20 year old who wants an allowance and isn't demanding sexually because she's not interested in him sexually and she's not that interested in sex - is the perfect thing for his ego.
Meanwhile, the woman in her 40s/50s doesn't need that kind of man. She needs a hot and horny 35 year old....and one that is intelligent and romantic would be even better....but if you need a last hurrah yourself, that doesn't matter.
We'll all be losing our sex drive and drying up soon enough. Meanwhile, we shouldn't begrudge each other our much needed May/September daliances! | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/12/2009 6:06:18 AM | | Wow I must be strange.......... I just recently joined and I really don't care about the man's age or what kind of body he is wearing ( unless he's ill ) ..It's only what a person lives in....I care about what he says, thinks and does........Some really interesting subjects in these forums.. I'm enjoying them!!!! | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/12/2009 10:20:12 AM | Here is a thought, Maybe just maybe those younger woman aren't being chased by these older fit men. Maybe it is the other way around? Could it possibly be that those men a charming and witty. They have interesting things to talk about and those younger woman find that his fit body and charming personality are just what they are looking for?
It's not always about sex and looks. | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/12/2009 10:51:36 AM | The reason I don't believe in intelligent design is that the bulk of biological design makes no logical sense. Pretty much any woman will tell you that her sex drive reaches its maximum in her 30s and 40s...NOT when she is 18-24. And women in their 30s-40s aren't dried up prunes. I see 22 year olds in my gym change room with breasts that are flat and saggy every day and mine are still perky. Your generalizations hold no water whatsoever.
And woman are in the 'peak' of their childbearing years later than 18-24. In fact there are far more spontaneous abortions in that age bracket than any other, and a good number of birth defects.
You should really do some research on this before you open your yap because it's clear that you are extremely ignorant on a lot of matters and haven't read much on the topic - and have zero experience as you are neither a woman or a man over 45, right? Instead of trying to do an extra negative Howard Stern here, you might want to try to educate yourself on a few of these matters.
I have sex and relationships with men of all ages. The only ones that can't get it up without drugs are the ones 45 and up, and their ability varies. They have this problem no matter what the age of the women is. It will happen to you soon enough too, if it hasn't already.
As for your comment about marrying a nice guy, I did. We were together for many years and had a child together. They are both died many years ago.
I easily pass for 10-12 years younger than my age and people laugh when I tell them my age. Nothing like good genes!!!!! And I am in good shape, I work out 2 hours a day 5 days a week and enjoy doing a lot of physical work taking care of my home and extensive grounds all by myself.
Modern immorality? You are too funny! Don't put your dinosaur values on me. Too many women fought and died for women's rights for me to accept a little punk mysogynist like you judging us! | |
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| Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that?
Posted: 6/12/2009 11:20:00 AM | As someone past 45, I can attest that not ALL of us need help with drugs to get it up, and keep it that way. It is much more about being fit, active, and in shape enough to not let those arteries clog to the point of needing help to have blood flow to the penis.
I am happy to enjoy any woman my age that is also fit and trim, in shape to be active, and has not let themselves go with child bearing, and to many years letting the sun and gravity take over without taking care of themselves. Unfortunately for many of us, they are just as hard to find, as it is for those women in shape that want a man their age to be as well.
It becomes much easier to just seek those that have not experienced all the years of abuse, neglect, and normal aging, and enjoy them if allowed. I for one, prefer to date and know those that are much closer to my age that have stayed in shape, worked hard to keep themselves thinner and active, and would not be against enjoying those 10 years younger or older than I am, if truly attractive and in shape.
If you offer what you seek, there should not be a problem, and age should be one of the last things on your list to consider. I will let those I am with decide for themselves if I am worth knowing, enjoying, and yes having sex with often(without help), and neither their age, nor mine will be the real indicator of what we can do with and for each other.
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