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| Okay so I RE-WROTE almost the whole thing! Check it out! Please?
Posted: 6/8/2009 5:47:05 AM | Well I'm willing to dive in the deep end and give my thoughts 
Delete the 'updated June..... ' 'updated May......' info it's not needed and is irrelevant.
I would keep the first 3 pics and delete the rest .... then take some new ones. Maybe when you're at your Dungeons and Dragons meet? You're a good looking guy and most of your current pics don't show this
I WORK WAY TOO HARD, WAY TOO OFTEN, without breaks, without pay, even without rest, sometimes for days on end without sleep, DESPITE 10-year long chronic and lifelong painful yet healing disability, only because I fully and truly believe in what I do.
Woah!!! Too much info and makes you sound very very negative. You could reword it by saying for example 'despite ongoing medical problems I like to give my time doing ..... as I truly believe in it'
I would delete everything in the First Date box. Why is all this info in this box? I would like to know what/where you think would be cool to meet up. What do you think would be perfect for that first meet?
The rest of your profile is honest and seems to be 'you' so I wouldn't change any of the content. It's your profile so while one person might not like it that special someone will love it!!
The only other thing I noticed was all the wording IN UPPERCASE .... is there any need for this? In a lot of the cases no .... and detracts from the important statements when you are wanting to make a strong point and then wording in capitals is needed
Hopefully some of this is helpful
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| Okay so I RE-WROTE almost the whole thing! Check it out! Please?
Posted: 6/15/2009 2:52:39 PM | The wording i did put in ALL CAPITALS WAS NEEDED to sound STRONG in them areas. I did not write the whole profile in capitals, obviously. I put a lot of the words I did write in capitals because I DO feel THAT PASSIONATE and THAT STRONGLY about the things I did say in those sentences. Kinda like now lol
People have a hard time with me because I come off as EXTREMELY INTENSE. Not just on the internet but in real life too (even though I am normally very reserved and I am often found rather "disengaged" until the right moment strikes).
I put the "updated" dates in there in case people who had viewed my profile before, might get a hint that I myself (and my profile .... who i am) has CHANGED. I think this is important because unless a person is open to change then they can't be seen as a healthy person. A person who is not willing and open minded to change can't be healthy. That's why I put it in there, not just because I re-wrote my profile but to indicate that I have grown personally since the last time I wrote the last one.
As far as my photos are concerned, I have already explained: I AM NOT ABLE TO GET NEW ONES YET. I HAVE NO OTHER WAY TO GET ANY.... ANY .... PHOTOS. Please ... no more requests for this until I can do what I can. For the foreseeable future, IT WON'T HAPPEN! Why? Okay sure it sounds like a "Tough!" response but the HARSH REALITY of my life is that I live on a VERY FIXED INCOME, and literally I am POOR AS DIRT okay? Nothing can be done about it any time soon. People need to just accept this and LOOK PAST my damn ugly photos ok? Thank you!!!!!
My medical issues ARE negative! I feel and am 10-years CONSCIOUS of how UGLY my medical issues make ME FEEL and how others PERCEIVE me also. THAT IS NOT SOMETHING I CAN DO ANYTHING ABOUT beyond basic hygiene and weekly medical visits. Sorry but if you don't like me then PLEASE MOVE ON... I am tired of having to explain everything to everybody everytime I meet everyone new ..... sighs I do it anyway if people are NICE and POLITE but when people are not then I tell 'em WHERE TO GO!
The extended "intro" paragraphs in the first date box, have to do with my past and present ignorance (honestly) of what dating IS. I really don't even know how to start talking to a woman nor how to "break the ice". Like I said, I HAVE NEVER DATED (officially), so I REALLY DO NOT know what I am doing and that is why I put all of that in there to LEAD UP TO what I would guess would be a way to START OUT. THIS IS ALL I KNOW OKAY? Please don't prosecute me too hard as I really have no freaking clue how else to explain how i am when I say I have never dated. So that is why that text is in there. BECAUSE I DO NOT KNOW WHAT THE HELL I AM DOING. sighs
Yeah I am perturbed in this post because I have had to re-iterate all of this so many times before that people just do not remember what I said (mostly because people are too busy and take NO CARE to remember me!!) NOT MY FAULT.
BTW saying that I am a "good looking guy" but that my "pictures do not show it" ???? Kinda contradicts your statement, crosses out the whole intent and meaning ... you were better off not saying anything at all :-( Thanks a LOT!!
I am very disturbed today because people do not even bother to take the time to GET TO KNOW ME before criticizing what I do and why I do it. Shouldn't that also be a part of this "profile review" process? 1 of you was very evil in their comments (a man no less), and the woman whom I am replying to, although you may mean well, I have explained almost all of this before. And I wish you had read it before writing your reply. THAT is why I am disturbed. | |
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| YOU ARE DOING EVERYTING WRONG
Posted: 6/21/2009 4:24:23 PM | YOU NOT ONLY LOOK LIKE MANSON YOU RAMBLE AND ENGAGE IN NONSENSE LIKE MANSON. IT IS CLEAR THAT YOU ARE EITHER CAPTIVE TO ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT OR REALLY SUFFER FROM SOCIALIZATION ISSUES. IT MIGHT BE EXTREME NARCISISSM BUT THAT, TOO, CAN BE CRIPPLING.
SADLY YOU THRIVE ON THE ATTENTION THAT YOU GET FROM PEOPLE WHO TRY TO RESPOND RATIONALLY TO YOUR DISTURBING IDEATION AND YOU TOY WITH THE GENTLER INSTINCTS OF OTHERS. I DO NOT HAVE SUCH INSTINCTS. I HOPE THAT YOU GET THE HELP THAT YOU NEED AND IT IS NOT TO BE FOUND ON A DATING WEBSITE. IT WILL BE A LONG TIME BEFORE YOU ARE READY FOR DATING. AND BEFORE DATING IS READY FOR YOU.
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| Okay so I RE-WROTE almost the whole thing! Check it out! Please?
Posted: 6/22/2009 11:51:51 PM | Delete your last 5 photos. Who cares if you can't get new ones just yet. Get rid of those ones. You do smile/laugh once in a while don't you? Can't you muster a better effort than the second shot and still be you? Can you not see why people are comparing you to Manson etc? And what point is it to use pics that are so damn glary anyway? If you must insist, obliterate the last 3 for sure, add to the caption that you're in concentration/thinking/serious mode (if you want to deflect the mean/aggro perceptions) and get rid of that glare. You may have a great understanding of yourself and not see these comparisons (hardly objective right?), but to an audience of strangers who only have a profile to go by, it's no wonder people get a disturbing view of you. The pictures on their own are enough of a fright - your profile might only be read out of curiosity. I believe people have taken a cautious approach in their responses, possibly to not risk a verbal attack. See what you're conveying? Some posts here have shown a lighter side to you..You purport to offer balance. Show it in your profile.
Still, frankly, I wouldn't be suprised if you were thought of as another Unabomber. Impression: you rail against corrupt government, live a solitary loner life and are too serious and intense. Not that you'll jump out of the computer. People look for indications of how you might behave in real-life, whether it's correct or not. Justifying your pictures til you're blue in the face won't do much good in the dating world. Your intelligence won't help overcome the obstacle of appearing like a nutter. You ought to take heed of what people are saying, not approach it with single-minded tunnel vision. Just as well you can't run after people..lol..awww..c'moon, I'm just joking. For a person so confident of what they have to offer, you're too bent over concerns about dating. Don't give it so much weight. It should be a relaxed conversational get-together. Ease up on the desperation. However before all that, I think easy2like does have a real point in his last post (28). You need professional couselling for your issues.
Some problems I noted. You're so defensive:
Yeah I am perturbed in this post because I have had to re-iterate all of this so many times before that people just do not remember what I said (mostly because people are too busy and take NO CARE to remember me!!) NOT MY FAULT.
What? Perhaps it's because your profile and posts are quite long, making it harder to remember (or want to read) it all. Sigh.
Profile has improved but it (plus your whiny retorts) still cast you in a negative light:
I am a Dominant, and I have a "Type A" personality, very strong-willed, strict, ultra-literal, and uncompromising.
Nope, no good. Relationships are about compromise, not take and no give. Assuming it's your views on other things, don't disallow other's opinions. Clarify what you mean.
If i am in love with someone then I am the complete opposite. They are all I ever think about and dote over ;-)
In "normal" circumstances some consider this obsessive, but with your overall character too....you get where I'm going.
Beautiful, loving, sensual, open-minded, kink-friendly, bi-sexual women (this Gentleman prefers large Doe-eyed, very long-haired brunettes!), with a sincere desire to please and be loved-on, if not totally OWNED for Life
Quit it dude. No-one owns anyone, not even their own kids. All are individual and need to be given their freedom. Gives credence to my previous remark.
BTW saying that I am a "good looking guy" but that my "pictures do not show it" ???? Kinda contradicts your statement, crosses out the whole intent and meaning ... you were better off not saying anything at all :-( Thanks a LOT!!
No, not contradictory at all. Look at your expressions. Someone mentioned the V-Brows.. arghh.. is there no getting through to you here. You've explained in your profile you are serious. I think that would be sufficient. Actually, I looked again, and you haven't ..I give up  . | |
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| Please review my profile? What am I doing wrong?
Posted: 6/26/2009 1:57:25 PM | Hi Ryan,
Wouldn't a "...resourceful and internet / technologically savvy... " person be able to figure out a way to post pictures more recent than 2006?
I know you've asked us to lighten up on the picture issue but the problem is fourfold;
1. An IT guy should be able to figure it out. Period.
2. A reader might assume you are hiding your 'current' look
3. A prospect might also assume you have no life if your only shots are in front of a computer.
4. The pics are frightening.
Don't shoot the messenger. But seriously, what kind of intelligent, self-respecting woman would ever respond to your somewhat demented overtures? | |
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| Please review my profile? What am I doing wrong?
Posted: 6/26/2009 2:06:52 PM | Ryan,
One other thing as we strive for consistency in your profile. How does a guy who has "Seriously" never dated know that he is attracted to "Beautiful, loving, sensual, open-minded, kink-friendly, bi-sexual women (this Gentleman prefers large Doe-eyed, very long-haired brunettes!),"?
Maybe a little clarification on your relationship history or lose the 'never dated' business. | |
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