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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/10/2009 9:18:52 PM | One thing to remember when you're wondering how he could have moved on is that he had more time most likely to go through the process.
Also remember that you aren' t alone. Most of us through one process or another suffer great losses in life. Allow yourself to go through the different stages because you'll heal sooner. In a lost love you can get over it trust me on that. I've suffered through it 3 times in my life and felt like I wouldn't be able to breathe and not to mention the best diet I ever went on... (lighter note)
I have lost a great friend recently through death and it has been through the process of losing my parents that I'm able to handle this loss. You never get past losing someone you love through death but it does become bearable.. sometimes it is like they are on this vacation... I don't know.... | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/11/2009 9:09:04 AM | | WELL HUN, TO BE HONEST YOU DONT STRAIGHT AWAY,IT ALL DEPENDS WHAT YOU WENT THROUGH TOGETHER,HOW LONG YOU WERE TOGETHER, I FINISHED WITH MY FIANCEE LAST NOV, COS SHE WAS VERBALLY AND PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE TOWARDS ME, SHE WANTED TO COME BACK BUT I MADE A DECISION NOT TO, IM NOT WITH ANYONE,IT DOES KNOCK YOUR CONFIDENCE AND YOU DO START TO BE DEPRESSIVE, BUT IT DOES GET BETTER, THINK OF WHAT YOUR WORTH, 4 EVERY SETBACK THERES A COMEBACK HUN, TAKE CARE, YOU WILL BE FINE.X | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/11/2009 2:46:12 PM | | I dont have an answer for you but I just wanted to tell you I have the same problem and I miss her so much and all the little things we used to do. I remember the first day I saw her and fell in love with her on the spot. What ever happend to the wedding vows we said when married ? I changed my life for this woman and she ended up ruining mine but I cant get her out of my mind and again I miss all those little things we did like you did. Well good luck, I hope you and I can get over these Ex's, it will be tought !!!! | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/11/2009 3:08:41 PM | | I wish I had some good advise. But I don't. Time heels all wounds? It's been almost a year since me and my ex of 5 years broke up. Wanna know the f'd up part? I broke up with her. Because we argued a lot, and I guess I just gave up. Biggest mistake of my life. I tried getting her back, but I guess as it ends up, she wanted out of the relationship more then I did. Now she's with another guy, and possibly knocked up with his kid. I've moved on. I've dated a couple of people. I'm currently dating a great girl. We get a long. Have a lot in common. I have a lot of fun with her. But there's nothing there. I don't feel the love that I should be feeling. So it's been almost a year, I've moved on. And the wanting is still there. I guess all you can do is hope and Pray the right one comes a long. Maybe you'll find him on this site. Because as much as you think you want him, he doesn't want you. And that's not the kind of person you really want. | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/11/2009 3:33:20 PM | I think it's "time wounds all heels." =)
Apart from an inordinate amount of time or a massive head wound, there's nothing that will stop that feeling of loss, so you just have to find some way to manage it.
"I'm a romantic—a sentimental person thinks things will last—a romantic person hopes against hope that they won't. " --- F. Scott Fitzgerald
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/11/2009 4:02:59 PM |  I was with a guy off of her in jan he broke up with me in feb when he broke up with me it was the hardest break up i have ever been thru i was very depressed for awhile then months went by and i couldnt get him out of my head i wanted him back still and just wished for him to just be back in my arms again well that wish came true last month he asked me back out again! So of course i said yes when he asked me to be his girl again and weeks went by and he wasnt the same guy i knew he changed on me he was getting a little controlling and saying some mean things to me! Well i said to myself i cant put myself thru this again im not going to be heartbroken over some stupid guy i loved him so very much and couldnt get the words out to just say i cant be with u anymore! So while we were together i was putting myself thru the heartbreak even know i said i wouldnt do it but i did =/ so i could get myself ready for it when he dumped me again cause i had the feeling he was going to do it again! So last sat he dumped me i was heartbroken but wasnt that heartbroken about it because i put myself thru it while were together im still a little heartbroken from it but not the point where all i can do is cry! So my advice to u is he isnt worth your tears some amazing guy will come along and PLEASE dont give up hope on guys i been thru hell and back with guys but im not GIVEING up i know my mr right is out there for me! Try to be strong all u can do rite now is move on it probley will take awhile but u will get over him eventually and feel so much better!! This might be the hardest thing u might ever have to go thru being heartbroken is the worst feeling anyone could ever go thru i hated every moment of being heartbroken! | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/11/2009 7:06:17 PM | Dear 1UniquePerson"
I can totally relate...
I met my ex 7 years ago..
we had an unplanned pregnancy...
we were together for the birth and we grew together like a family...we played house, did parental stuff...I was game for life...
For sometime, I asked about getting married and finalizing everything...
on Christmas I found a secret email account, condoms and had my heart, family and home destroyed...I felt as if my life was in ruin....
My daughter could not understand and my pain was profound...he was never in love with me....
In order to get over him...
I moved...four hours away...I had to move to get away from everyone who knew what I experienced...I cannot tell you how bad it was....it was horrible.
Today I am happy, content and feeling wonderful...I changed my life and remind myself that I expect and deserve better...
Give yourself your year to reestablish yourself...do stuff you want to do...no one will love you if you do not love yourself.
celebrate good will... | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/11/2009 9:06:08 PM | | In reading all of the posts, I can't seem to forget my ex either..I was married when my husband set me up with my "someone" so he could have his and I still believe, to this day 1 month after our breakup, that he was my soulmate. When I say that there could not have been two other people in the world so in tandem with each other, it was he and I. I cannot get him out of my head, because I know down to the very core of my being that he is what I have been wanting and searching for all of my life. But he turned a complete 180 and told me after 7 months that he feels nothing and the break up didn't even cause a hiccup in his life...everywhere I look, every song I hear, every smell, every accomplishment or disappointment in my life, I think of him and realize he's not there to share it with..I also miss him kissing me and touching me and laughing with me and all of the other wonderful things that had me on a cloud... | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/11/2009 11:36:07 PM | i know exactly how u feel i just lost someone who i gave my heart and soul to u feel as if you meant nothin to them i have tried so hard to forget but then something or someone reminds me of the pain and heartache he caused and the bitterness of what he did comes back three times over
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/12/2009 12:23:07 AM | | its gonna sound tough even harsh but ur only 22 not even fully developed in terms of maturity, go out n be yourself AKA a youngster growing up , instead of whinging about 1 of many boys your gonna play with. sorry but im just somebody , but everybodies "somebody" | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:57:29 AM | I'm sorry sweet heart...i honestly belive nothing but time will fix it...and for the amount of time..i think its up to each individual person.... My guy left about 5mths ago and i still miss him heaps...wats worse is after he said i wasn't good enough he went back on this site to look for someone else......so now every time i log on he still appears lol, ironic but not funny really... I feel for you, but sorry there is nothing nayone else can do, there's a saying that goes... "can't take my mind off of you...until I find somebody new" maybe thats it...after time youwill meet someone new and it will take your mind off your ex lover... hopefully
Its so hard I know....i hope your only young and not 38 like me before you found someone you adored and had too lose...regardless of age i feel scared every day that I will never feel like that with anyone again......just time...and maybe it was what it was and it may be just somehting you will hold onto forever in secret...thats life sweety...cruel...heartless and sometimes hopeless...but better too feel all this than be numb and a non-participant...in a way experience it and take it on board....at least you haven't been boring and never took the chance XXX | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:11:13 AM | | MISS CONTEMPLATIVE thats very easy for you to say.obviously you havent had your heart broken before you dont look the type that gets hurt easy.obviously the person what started this thread is very upset,your comment hasnt helped.the person is looking for advice and sympathy not some dumb ass comment. | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/13/2009 2:13:05 PM | | Hello im just another of meny that lost a husband through another taking him away from me....moving on is hard and there is nothing that can be done about it....best thing to do is get out of the house and meet new people have a companion other then a boyfriend... keep it totaly plotonic between you...i have done this and i find that male company seems to take away some of the hurt but not all of it.... i was with my ex 15 years and he totaly brought down my world... there is meny of us out there suffering today due to other woman that cant seem to keep there hands to themself's...i know its not all 1 sideded but hey nothing ever is... look at it this way he is now happy and you are suffering dont let it happen....he is not worth it you will always have good memories of what you did togethter and noone can ever take that away from you...so take those memories and keep them with you always.... the pain will get easier and it will fade slightly....but never ever take him back... thats the worse thing that you will ever do it will never work although you hope and hope it does... this world is round and its no were nere perfect....take life by the horns and live it i do and im a better person for it he may not want you but there is another out there somewere that does xxxx regards shirl xxxx | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:26:58 PM | | When you lose someone so close it is perfectly ok to feel how you are feeling and completely natural to think that it will NEVER get better ... However it will get better in time ... Do not feel bad for having time out and if you want to brood brood!! There is nothing unhealthy about sitting in the corner for a period of time whilst you heal your emotions .. this is natural!! One day you may wake up in and say right - I HAVE TO do something else as I am getting bored with feeling these feelings ... the world is waiting for you and it will still be here for you when you are ready ;) ... a little recipe is drinks warm milk and honey at night time, reduce caffiene after pm and read a good book, even learn an instrument to surprise everyone!! ;) xx | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:36:04 PM | I lost the love of my life a few months before I got deployed my first time. During that period, I also lost my brother.
It took a few years for me to even think about it because I had hit a major depression after I returned. I only focused on the mission and would not allow anything else to enter my mind. It was hard. Some things in life just take more time than others.
You need to be busy, and force yourself to think on positive goals in your life. Go out and do something you haven't done in a while. Re-open old doors that made you the person you are today, like an old hobby you gave up or work on something you neglected because of him.
Don't put yourself in a position you aren't ready for, like looking for a replacement. Once your head is on straight, your soul will be ready to move on. Your heart will always be in the same place you left it. | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/13/2009 8:18:50 PM | Another thing you can do is try writing into a journal. For some people, it's a way of unloading these feelings and unloading these emotions.
Another thing you can do is also take this time to rebuild yourself. At this point, you feel like in order for you to exist, that person has to be in your life. But you know what, invest in yourself, step back and find out things you enjoy doing, hobbies, anything.
Even take a step out and travel alone to find yourself again. once you do that, you can move on but right now you are depending on someone else for your happiness. | |
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| How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard...
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:23:43 AM | | All I have to do is remember how badly my third ex treated my daughter,me ,my friends,my daughters mom, and the fact that my third ex remarried 30 days after our divorce. The only thing I would miss is watching her drive off a cliff with her "new hubby". | |
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| Find Joy in your heart from the simple things...... it might take off some edge off you pain.
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:49:28 AM | | Read your post. I was separated from my ex husband a little over ten years ago. We were together for 10 years before that. Our twins were only 1 1/2 yrs old then. It took me two years to get over him. I didnt date at all or go out cuz my kids were so young plus I had a daughter 12 at the time from my 1st marriage. My ex is an alcoholic and when his mom passed he drank more and gone mean and abusive. I cried alot and felt sorry for the whole situation. But, I threw myself into God, going to church functions, work, and my children and got through it. Talked to friends constantly for support. Then one day I started going out with a friend and talking to other men and the first boyfriend I had since the separation took 3 months of him asking me out before I would go. We had a five year relationship. It happened when I least expected it. I feel for you and wanted to give you some hope. My dad always told me that everyday changes things even in the slightest and no situation can stay the same forever. I hope I helped you out. | |
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