| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 10:47:36 AM | Put up a fake profile on craigslist advertising for personal attention for men.
When people respond, give them her cell number. She'll get so many calls her bill will go through the roof. One way or the other she will have to up the money.
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 11:15:45 AM | you got 2 choices forget about it and her, chalk it up as a learning experience, and if you believe in karma, it will come back on her twicefold.
Or you can take her too small claims court (for 300$) and get your money but this is still no guarantee you will see it anytime soon. Whatever you do don't start going by her work or home, this is stalking and she can file paperwork and then you will never see the money again for sure.
I suggest forget the money, her and her number and move on. Next time you want to lend money, have them sign some kind of paper stating all the details. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 11:22:58 AM | Calling her new beau a douche bag only means you are jeaaaaaaaaaalous 
Too bad about the money....she is not nice. Its ok karma will fix her someday. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 12:01:54 PM | If you loaned her the last three hundred dollars you had, it was not a good move.
Let's face it, you probably did it to keep the sex flowing. And then she cuts you off for the new boyfriend.
In other words, she played you. But you don't seem too choked up over it, so I guess you were trying to play her too. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 12:03:29 PM | MORE $$$ THAN YOU CAN AFFORD TO LOSE. It's that simple.
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Like my parents told me!!! anything over $50. consider it a gift.. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 12:18:03 PM | From your story it seems like she just kept the after relationship going just because she was getting favors from you; rides to work, money here and there and stuff.
It's clear that she was trying to get you; one way or the other. I don't think confronting her is going to solve anything.
Learn your lesson and move on | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 1:31:15 PM | I deal with what is and not what is said; you were not over her and did all these things in the hopes that she'd come around and get back with you. She used you.
The second she got a boyfriend you got ticked; you had hope that she'd come back; for you this was a relationship; you were like a puppy doing everything for her, and in return she played like there was a chance.
She now has a new boyfriend, and moved on.
It's your fault; this is on you; she used you and you let her; the only thing you can do is take her to small claims court but winning the case will be hard; I think the judge will say this is sour grapes on your part because she is with someone else.
You were very foolish IMHO. When she leaves this guy and she sweet talks you again, dont' be fooled again. I think you are out $300. She isn't into you anymore, and you need to realize this so it doesn't happen again.
We are only victims in relationships if we allow it. She used your affections for her and you let her. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 1:55:22 PM | There's one major rule for lending money to family and someone you've had relations with. (There are more, but I think this is the most important.)
Never loan money you can't afford to not get back.
Practice these words until they are automatic and can be uttered sincerely...
"I'd like to help, but I really can't afford it right now." | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 2:03:42 PM | | Do not go to where she lives, do not go to her job and stop texting her and don't call her, you've already done what you should have....well except not lend her the money and not putting it all in writing. Take her to small claims court because I think writing it off as a loss is why asswipes like her get away with this crap. Sue her for the money even if it costs you more in the end because she deserves to be put on the spot and held responsible, in fact it may be the nicest thing you've ever done for her, to make her take responsibility. Also I would totally stop the FWB situation, even after she runs off the new boyfriend, hookers come cheaper than this bytch and probably will give you much more for your money. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 11:11:57 PM | Thx everyone for your thoughts... And at this point its really not ALL about the money anymore.. Its a respect and principle thing now.. I was never the let someone get over on me type.. I dont care if its my mother.. BTW, my car actually cost around $600 to fix, but a part I need is around $300+, the other $300 is for labor..
First off a few things..
1. Yes her ex is a douche bag.. He left her, and didnt speak to her for over a year.. Pops up all the sudden a few weeks ago and she takes him back in less than a few days lol.. Im not gonna sit here and lie. That kinda pissed me off.. All she did was complain about the guy when we first got together.. I figured I was a rebound at first but grew out of that after a few months.. Guess I was wrong.. But I can tell you this.. Im 1000% sure, her dude isnt as good as me on any level of LIFE period.. He's a druggy scumbag.
2. Ive text 2-3 yesterday telling her I was disappointed.. Nothing disrespectful at all really. No foul language or threats.. But Im not rolling with the whole, write it off thing.. Im gonna try and get my money back.. This has nothing to do with missing her, being hurt, sour or any of that... Principles is what its about and sheer disrespect.. She'll get text from me whenever its nearing her payday.. She's really lucky im a nice guy.. I could really destroy her life if I wanted.. Lets just say I have pics of her in... Compromising positions.... Im gonna keep it classy tho..
3. Im definitely done with her.. No, I wouldnt get back with her if she asked..(for whoever said that) But the whole silent treatment thing did piss me off.. I was mos def used.. You guys were right, I did spoil her at times and never really made her pay me back anything when we were together.. Im guessing she was surprised I actually really wanted to be paid back since we werent a couple anymore.. Clearly, she knew she wasnt paying me back when we agreed she would.. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 11:20:14 PM |
She's really lucky im a nice guy.. I could really destroy her life if I wanted.. Lets just say I have pics of her in... Compromising positions.... Im gonna keep it classy tho..
The fact that you even brought that up is unclassy  | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/7/2009 11:34:30 PM | Yes her ex is a douche bag
When you added the ‘douche bag’ part in your post, it’s an attack on your ex’s behaviour. It means you are really angry with her. What you two had has ended. Hey, I don’t blame ya! But, it shows you are affected by it still. That has nothing to do with the money she owes you. You used the money thing to vent your frustration. Nothing wrong with that.
I wish there’s an effective way you can get your money back. You either write this debt off or continue to beat your head in over this woman’s mean act. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/8/2009 12:04:37 AM | | How about sticking your hand out and telling her to hand you the phone since she won't pay you back. You may not want a 300.00 phone but it's better than nothing. But really, I'd sue her in small claims court, no matter how uppity she may act about it, you know she'd be chitting her pants thinking she isn't going to get to walk away. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/8/2009 12:08:01 AM | OP try visualizing the $300 bank notes are flying out of your pocket and you won't get to see them ever again.
We heard the following words of wisdom over and over again, lend money ONLY IF you:
- have no intention to have the money back, or
- are prepared to unveil the ugly side of someone and make them disappear from your life
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/8/2009 12:10:12 AM |
you know she'd be chitting her pants thinking she isn't going to get to walk away.
I bet she'd be walking funny. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/9/2009 5:07:58 PM |
if your ex had repaid as you agreed at $25 a week it is unlikely that you would have had the money to use to repair your car Excellent point. I think most of all you are just hurt and disgusted by her treatment of you which I can completely understand.
Kiss the money goodbye and accept that you would not have the $300 as a solution to the problem with your car had you not loaned the money, you still wouldn't have the $300 in the bank. The two things are unrelated and by continuing to see her as an option for the money, you are just making it take longer for you to figure out how else you are coming up with it. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:05:28 PM | | You learned a $300 lesson about setting healthy boundaries. Maybe she sees it as payment for the sex...which would make her a ...well, you know. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:17:24 PM | | ha... my ex owes me alot more than that. I think you've seen the last of your money. and looking at the past payment history of my ex.. 25 bucks a week is impossible to pay. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:23:56 PM | | As someone once told me, don't lend out money unless you can afford to take the loss if it comes down to it. | |
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| So my Ex owes me money....
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:27:08 PM | | Something tells me the $300 was an insurance payment? Funny how she got the phone and THEN told you she had a new BF, which pretty much insured that you would no longer be getting any. | |
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