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For the cheaters, what steps have you taken to reform and results? Posted: 10/29/2009 12:11:58 PM
I need to know if I cheated. I look at it as retaliation for someone cheating on me. but I may be just as guilty because that was how I felt. When I was young, 21 my live in girlfreind was caught cheating on me. I became angry due to this, without any offical breakup at the time(I assumed catching her in the act was reason to assume things were over). Two days later, one of her girlfriends I was freindly with for a while, came over telling me about her ex being abusive to her. She may or may not have known about April and I, but I was still confused cause I loved April but was hurting from what happened. I needed someone and Jill needed someone that night, needless to say after smoking a j, I took the step and started making out with her, she didnt refuse my advancement and we ended having sex. I didnt feel bad expressing my affection for her but I did feel guilty about cheating while not knowing where my relationship stood with April. In my heart I knew I couldnt go back with her due to her cheating on me, but here I kind of equaled the score with Jill and I felt bad what I did due to April still in my heart. This put Jill in a ouful positon as well, my fault for that. So I feel I did cheat in retaliation, cause even though she had cheated first on me, I felt guilty for doing it in return. Needless to say things never improved in our relationship. I never cheated with anyone ever again after that incidence. I remember how badly it felt when Someone did it to me. And then the guilt I felt when I did it in retaliation when the relationship wasent completely over, closure, told me I never wanted to feel that way again. I couldnt prevent someone from cheating on me but I could prevent myself from cheating on somoene else. From that day onward I never again cheated although I have had three relationships where someone wasent faithful to me. I will end a relationship offically before I see someone else to prevent such a thing. Some response appreciated What I would like to know, even though I felt like I did cheat I am not sure if it was or not. If someone cheats on you, is it cheating on them if you do it in retaliation for that person cheating on you? My other question is, regarding the three other cheaters. Why do people tell you they are seeing someone else? Why dont they just say the relatinship isnt working out I would like to end it instead of going out and being unfaithful with the person they are with while seeing someone else to replace them? Then letting you know about thier infidelity? I don't understand how someone be with someone and be seeing another behind your back. Cant people just end a relationship if they arent happy and find someone else without getting involved similtaniously?