| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/10/2009 3:06:48 PM | | Due to my job, I get a lot of emails that at times I need to respond to in a pretty prompt manner. Even though I have just joined this site and have yet to go out with someone from here, I would let them know WELL in advance that my cell phone would have to be with me, but it will be on vibrate so as to not interrupt conversation, etc. If it bothers them, I will excuse myself to the washroom to check my phone, but I will always be polite about it. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/10/2009 8:50:27 PM |
Why do women pursue guys who are players ? I don't believe there was not one red or yellow flag.
girls date guys like that because they want to be swept off their feet and guys like that know what to say and this guy obviously wasnt enjoying his time with you and needed a way out or hes just the dumbest guy ever | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/11/2009 9:37:36 AM | Mhiggins:
Girls date guys like that because they want to be swept off their feet and guys like that know what to say. This guy obviously wasn't enjoying his time with you and needed a way out or hes just the dumbest guy ever .
Sorry had to correct your really bad sentence structure, it was bothering me. Oh and if you would have read the thread you would have known he tried to hide it from me. Also you would have known he tried to get me to go out for a second meeting four more times.
I love how people like you just type.. no rhyme or reason, just because. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/12/2009 9:06:49 AM | It is rude to text on a date unless its an emergency and well if you have your phone off you would not know.
It is Rude to check out other men/women while on a date. If the person your with does not capture your attention enough in one way or another. Why Bother.
It is Rude to be on pof when you have dinner company.... I mean it is even rude to check pof as soon as he/she leaves your sight. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/12/2009 9:53:01 AM | | Rude to send a text, why? My familly worry, I will send them a text just to say I arrived safetly, how is that rude, x | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/12/2009 9:55:25 AM | I kinda meant and guess i should have said like this... Exessive texting as though you are not interested in the person your with I have had people get a phone call during a date and I know its a friend asking if everything went well and I think thats great so people know you are safe
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/14/2009 5:47:08 AM | OP says
Sorry had to correct your really bad sentence structure, it was bothering me
That's pretty rude too, don't you think ? 
Maybe your date was checking out how to structure his next verbal sentence before he expressed another opinion?  | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 5:21:22 AM | | I don't see a problem with this. A first date is not a marriage. If you arrange to meet someone from PoF....it would not be unusual to see them check their inbox. Maybe it was the only polite way he could let you know it was the 'last' date. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 6:29:35 AM | No question whatsoever. When you're on a date, your focus should be your date. If the chemistry's not there, you find the appropriate time (and tact) to end the date while preserving their feelings.
Off-topic - those chastising those that got off-topic on the "home" date. Women really can't be too careful these days - too easy for them to become a victim. Sad state on how our society has changed, but this is the case. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 7:19:39 AM | I think the rudest thing I have ever heard of on a date happened to a guy friend of mine. He arrives to pick up his POF date and her ex is there; she then asks my friend if her ex can go on their date with them! He, being the sweetie he is, said" ok".
We still razz him about it today. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 12:21:23 PM | tish55 :)
You did not read the thread... He tried to get a second date and tried to hide the fact he was on PoF.. Yet again, someone just typing for no rhyme and reason. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:51:21 AM | ^^^^^wrong.....read everything, same conclusion....guy just wasn't into the date. Don't see where a second date was ever requested, only some messages sent next day First or even second meets from a dating site, hardly require exclusivity...from either person.
My comment was in general. People who are avid Pof users, cannot resist the temptation to peek at their inbox. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/19/2009 9:12:53 AM | That's horrid!
Whenever you're on a first date, technology shouldn't be involved. Cell phone on silent, away from the computer.
My vote is definitely a no! | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/22/2009 8:23:51 PM | tish55, let me say this one more time...
He was into the date... asked me in person to stay longer when I said I had to go, asked in person for a second date. What he did was hide PoF when I walked into the room. This has nothing about exclusivity for either person, all I was asking is it rude to PoF on the first date? How about you just stay on topic?
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:53:43 PM | | I think that this site can be addictive to some people, just like gambling...they are always waiting for someone better to come along, thus they compulsively check their email. You can't have a truly intimate relationship with 50 different people (how do you even keep them all separate?). Really getting to know someone takes time and effort. You get out of life what you put into it. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:26:38 AM | I would have hoped you met this person a few times before going to his place.
Hopefully you must of had a short or long coffee meeting before you went on a 1st date to feel so comfortable with this person.
Lets face it. Either quickly checking your email, facebook msgs, POF mail or answering text messages from friends and family is rude while on the 1st few dates.
Far as I'm concerned guys and girls should turn of there cell phones or silent it.
Everyone should contact there closest friends before going out for the date.
But for safety, always bring that cell phone with you.
I would expect all the closest friends know that you are out on a date with hopefully someone special and that they know it will be hard for them to get a hold of you until the date is over.
If I was to go out with a girl and she was continously checking her text msgs on her cell phone while we were out for supper, if it wasn't her kids, then that girl is history.
Although, I can see maybe 1 phone call or text for safety measures in front of the date letting the person know their friends were concerned they were safe with that new person.
I give full attention on a date as she is much more important than my friends text and my families text message for those few hours. And... i do text!
Even when I am out with my buddy for a drink, I sometimes turn my cell phone to silent and if my buddy is out and needs to talk about things on his mind, then I need to hear him out when he is going through difficult times.
Is my way of thinking wrong???? | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:04:51 PM | | ...absolutley NOT....pay attention to your date first and foremost. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 7/11/2009 5:36:13 PM | | I had a date with a man who did that as well. I couldn't believe it. So completely rude. It's like going on a date and then checking out all the other women at the restaurant, passing them your card. This man had come from out of town to get together with me. He was at my house, on my computer. I was upset and he offered to leave. I took him up on that offer. Rude, tacky and disrespectful. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 7/13/2009 6:32:01 PM | Msg 1,
Yeah, I can't imagine what this guy was thinking. A bird in the bush is worth two in the hand. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 7/13/2009 8:40:30 PM | I would put that the list of things not to do on a 1st date
why didnt you just say G-nite and ended it there?
1st dates at either ones home is a difficult scene unless your there
for casual sex and thats a different thread. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 7/15/2009 7:07:01 AM | | Its kinda funny that I found this thread. I was out last night on a first date and recieved a text. I read the text but didn't respond. I would normally have shut my phone off but my Mom isn't doing so well. So I left it on in case I got a phone call. I don't think that leaving the room to go on POF does not leave a very good impression on someone. It acually makes it look like you really aren't that interested in that person. So why would they go out with you again? | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 7/15/2009 11:15:15 AM | At that point in time if my date did that to me....they would have cme back out to an empty room and my car pulling out of their driveway.
Thats was horribly rude of them and definitely the last time you should be wasting anymore of your time on them. | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:34:31 PM | | Umm...POF on the first date aside. The REAL issue is, why are you going to someone's house on a first date? | |
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| PoF on the first date?!
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:52:33 PM | To be quite blunt... I think it matters only how YOU felt when it happened. No one else.
If you were bent out of shape then you know how to proceed.
If it didn't bother you then you know how to proceed. | |
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