| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/24/2009 9:56:22 AM | I'm not so sure whether the women on this site have that much of an advantage over the men tbh.
It probably gets quite mundane and boring trawling through an inbox full of messages. On top of that, they have to filter out the married men, blokes who just want a shag after a couple of messages, the webcam pervs, the freaks and all manner of blokes who are just not suitable in the first place.
Hardly something that would put someone in the mood to spend time building up a connection with a man for a potential date, and too much choice can be just as stifling as too little, leading to people not even getting as far as the first meet, because they are still looking for a bigger catch than what they are already chatting to.
It's a damn miracle if anyone gets as far as the first meet i say lol. | |
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| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/24/2009 10:15:47 AM |
Only message ladies if they have already viewed your profile FIRST. Then only view their profiles if you are gonna actually send them a message.
Sorry to burst your bubble but there are lots of reasons why someone may have viewed your profile
- couldn't make out your pic
-read your post in the forum
-just browsing
-by mistake
-was interested in the pic but then when they viewed your profile you were too young/too old/smoked/didn't smoke......
None of them necessarily means she has any interest. And many people view in stealth mode (although I'm not sure it's working too well these days) so you don't really know who has visited your profile or why. | |
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| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/24/2009 10:26:43 AM |
Sorry to burst your bubble but there are lots of reasons why someone may have viewed your profile
I agree, even if they did like your photo and wanted to check you out, there's still a high chance that they might disqualify you based on what you've written on your profile, but then that happens in real life too for both sexes, the conversation runs dead, no common interests, didn't like the way the person spoke, didn't look so good close up, the possible list could be endless. | |
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| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/24/2009 10:33:04 AM | Hey Matt,
Come on man! We're trying to put together a plan of action here. Time to adopt Fergie's siege mentality. Forget about the the undesirables... don't see any guys on this thread who fit that category... (but then I ain't viewed their profiles or received any messages from 'em.)
So, we got to work on tactics... how to outwit the opposition,etc... it's no good sticking up for 'em.
They have got the upper hand... but it's a game of two halves... we can still win even if we bend the rules a bit.
Miracles can happen... it's a funny old game...
Dave
PS. Can men message each other in here? We may have to go 'off radar' for some of this stuff. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2009 10:37:40 AM |
Sorry to burst your bubble but there are lots of reasons why someone may have viewed your profile
No bubbles burst. That's just the same as the guys viewing the ladies profile. Level playing field that one.
Ignore the negative aspects... like any game ... it comes down to percentages.
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Posted: 6/24/2009 11:37:25 AM |
Come on man! We're trying to put together a plan of action here. Time to adopt Fergie's siege mentality.
I agree, maybe a mass mail strike lol.
Failing that, i have a devious plan involving flying monkeys like the ones in The Wizard of Oz....
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Posted: 6/24/2009 1:45:40 PM | Hmmm haven't met anyone on here though funnily enough stumbled across a few female friends of mine who had profiles they'd been keeping secret..
Saying that i've kept in touch with a couple people I 'met' through here and we've been chatting for a long time now, friendship basis, but I don't doubt that we will meet up once I move away of this hell hole they call the fens. Something I find odd is that 99% of the women who get in touch either can't string a sentence together or a just downright blunt about what they.. ahem.. want.
Writting to girls results in either a read delete affair or a read, chat for a while, realise that you either have a geographical or interest clash and radio silence.
This place has got its positives, I don't doubt that if I lived in London or a big urban centre it would be great. But in Lincolnshire it seems that even the online dating scene is limited. | |
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| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/25/2009 5:50:22 AM |
I agree, maybe a mass mail strike lol.
Failing that, i have a devious plan involving flying monkeys like the ones in The Wizard of Oz....
LOL! Do we have to get a little dog as well?
But yeah, maybe my plan of joining a social dating site and then hiding in the corner refusing to view profiles, etc ain't the best. Pretty original though.
And Kylers, if you're struggling God help the rest of us.
I dunno maybe this is just like pubs and clubs. Sometimes you can try too hard and then when you least expect it...
Dave
Got a mail from a lovely lady yesterday so keep your chins up guys. 
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| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/25/2009 6:03:42 AM | I have had about 6 dates since joining, but none of them have been 'The One' yet.
Met some really nice guys, stayed in touch with one or two.
Had two reasonably terrible dates, but I take it all in my stride and see it as a bit of fun to keep me entertained!
The ladies on here are often 'blamed' for only wanting to message with/meet the good-looking guys - not true! Well, not in my case anyway. There obviously has to be some sort of physical attraction, and I am a firm believer of there being some sort of spark, be it physical or psychological. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2009 9:25:35 AM |
LOL! Do we have to get a little dog as well?
Nah, just some nets and get them to to fly out, capture women and deliver them to me for a date pmsl. I don't think it'll improve my chances, but hey, flying monkeys are cool!
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Posted: 6/25/2009 10:39:14 AM | im relatively new to this game, but from first impressions it seems like a numbers game for us bloke, tap away at our keyboards to our hearts content and then occasionally get a decent response.
Gotta say so far tho, anyone who has replied has been rather nice and polite which is always nice..
also, i think its quite easy to spot who's genuine and who's just on as they think its the new facebook | |
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| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/25/2009 3:05:51 PM | Some of these posts crack me up (in the nicest way). Good for you, those who are staying positive  Nothing worse than someone whining (for me anyway).
If there is as much humour in your first contact messages as some of your posts I can't really see why you're not getting SOME response.
You know, if you guys REALLY want to know what ladies like in first contact messages, and what she is likely to reply to try searching the threads, there are loads of them dealing with first contacts. Lots of the ladies that posted on them will still be on here.
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| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 1:16:40 AM | | Unfortunately it has a lot to do with looks at the beginning. If youre a good looking guy then you get lots of attention. If youre not then you dont. Thats why people who dont put a pic up at all get little response. Unfair? Maybe but we all need to be attracted to the person we're intending to date. But as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder so maybe one day ... | |
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| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/26/2009 2:27:10 AM | Unfortunately it has a lot to do with looks at the beginning. If youre a good looking guy then you get lots of attention. If youre not then you dont.
Damn it, I knew i was doing something wrong !!!
*goes off to find a random pic of a good looking bloke to use on profile*  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2009 3:47:35 PM | Pmsl, i was down the pub earlier and a gorgeous girl started chatting to me, things were going great till i realized that she thought i was a drug dealer, and was trying to score some drugs off me.....
Damn...i think maybe i should get a haircut lol
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| Have any of the guys on this site had much luck with dating?
Posted: 6/27/2009 6:55:11 AM | Depends on if good and bad luck are combined......
Im isolated on the IOW which kinda limits things, that 10 min ferry seems more of a problem than an hour down the motorway....but hey ho it is what it is.
So from the Island members, ive hada lots of chats, several dates that neither have clicked together on, but it gives us all a chance to practice our people skills so its never wasted time.
Besides its only got to work the once and lead to something, and your whole perspective on the time spent here will change instantly!. | |
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