| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/9/2009 9:59:22 PM | you didn't have any control of your first childhood, now its time to make the second one count...
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/9/2009 10:01:50 PM | | I have been far too responsible, dependable, councilor of a large teenage community, errand runner for elderly parents, etc ad nauseum. I would not change any of the past but now that I am ready to live again, I am looking for a man that is all of the above along with being a slayer of dragons, someone to make love with under the stars, have impromptu mardi gras parades thru my neighborhood, be able to be silly with; then regale our friends with the tales of our never-ending adventures! | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/9/2009 11:14:49 PM | | Oh, sure - sell the Harley, trade my mountain bike for one of those 3 wheeled things that are battery powered, stop jogging, don't climb any more trees to trim them, lightning will hit sooner or later, and just go sit in the park with those guys I pass every day. I don't know what they talk about, at least I think they can still talk but I imagine that's about the only part of them that can still move. | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 1:44:29 AM | i'm all for acting silly. i miss the nyc evenings sitting around with friends and laughing our as--ses off! humor is different out here. but, with kids 19-22, i NEED a sense of humor of some sort, just to survive!
as long as the bills get paid and nobody gets hurt, i vote for smart, silly, sensuous, kind, communicative and MONOGAMOUS. however, enough of my kids rap--he's gotta like jazz and be willing to dance. even if it's naked in the bedroom for starters! still, i'm usually the silly one in real life and tend to attract the "serious" personalities, although youthful in other ways.   | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 2:11:55 AM | I've gotta ask. Is there a rulebook somewhere that sets out what is age appropriate for me? Have those idiots in government passed some more laws I don't know about? Bottom line; what is age appropriate?
I have serious times and I have silly times. I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up! But I've grown up enough to know I have to do something until I figure it out :-}
To answer the original question - NO. Expecting someone to "act their age" is nothing less than forcing them into a societally acceptable stereotype. I'll never go along with that!
Cheers  | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 3:23:00 AM | | It's exactly age appropriate for old people to declare their ageless youthfulness and unwillingness to be defined as old, at heart. That is acting your age: When you get old, tell everyone you're still young at heart. | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 5:36:10 AM | How true! 
farceur wrote:
It's exactly age appropriate for old people to declare their ageless youthfulness and unwillingness to be defined as old, at heart. That is acting your age: When you get old, tell everyone you're still young at heart.
Knowing how to play is a free and wonderful gift that hopefully all of us received during childhood. No sense squandering it, eh?
You seem a playful writer and you're very good at it. So by all means carry on! | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:07:47 AM | OH how I hate this "act my age" business! What in the WORLD gives people the idea they have to act a certain way at a certain age?
I just don't understand this concept, it is so foreign to my thinking. | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:19:54 AM | All I ask, is that you be YOU....I have met far too many men in my past, who pretended to be someone they weren't. ...only to show their true self later in the relationship.
I think it's best if you have some of both in you...not too old to play...yet not too immature to be taken seriously when required. Hopefully, the playful times outnumber the serious, but I guess it all depends on what is going on around you at the time.
~DC~ | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:54:35 AM | | You should definitely NOT act your age, just act how you want to. I intend to NOT act my age either, and to grow old as disgracefully as possible lol | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:55:29 AM | To me, it is not about "acting"...it is about "responding"...whether that be to feelings, to situations, to people, or to life!
I don't "act" a certain way because I'm in my fifties, I'm not here to please other people, I'm here to please myself. As long as I am not hurting someone else, all is well.
I go with my feelings, and let them breathe. If I don't, I betray myself!
I can be a flirt, I can be crazy, I can be moody, I can be sad, I can be a jerk, I can be immature....but never question my heart!
footnote:...I do not "need" or "seek" the approval of others, as the saying goes..." you can please some of the people, some of the time, but you can't please all of the people, all of the time!" | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:21:44 AM | I like one line thingys, so here are a couple of them.
We don't stop climbing trees because we get old. We get old because we stop climbing trees.
This one I REALLY like.
The thin line that separates childLIKE and childISH can make all the difference.
I say be yourself...whoever you are. | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:25:49 AM | | If you are not acting from your heart and according to your true nature, you are a fraud. Sometimes you may need to act as others expect in order to get along and protect yourself, but this cannot be your only way of living, or you're not really living! | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 8:22:21 AM | | He should act exactly as he wants to, so long as he's not hurting anybody else or causing a breach of the peace, same as he should at any age ;-) | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 8:35:50 AM | | Act your age not your shoe size. I've had this said to me before and I've taken it with a grain of salt. If you are having fun and not hurting anyone in the process, then just do it. If someone is embarrassed because you are having a bit of fun, I think they are the ones that need to loosen up their shoelaces. | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 10:22:11 AM |
Should men act their age? Hell, yes.
Does that mean he is to be a 'grandfather, counselor....pillar of the community'? Hell, no. That is not what acting your age means. Acting your age, to me, simply means acting like a mature, responsible, adult. Not trying to act like someone who is a teenager or a young adult, if you are over 45, for example. Meaning, I suppose, adopting the current styles in language, clothing, cultural tastes, etc. It is incredibly boring to me to deal with a man who acts like the kind of guys I knew and dated 30+ years ago...someone who is more evolved is far more attractive. | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 10:26:42 AM | I believe there is a time and a place for everything.. As long as you do not go silly when you are supposed to be serious it should all be fine.
thecatsmeoww | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 12:13:55 PM | You should act how you FEEL,while respecting the IMPORTANT laws of God, man and gravity. Ask yourself if the limb you are about to go out on will hold you, and if it doesn't how far away is the ground? Newton and Einstein come into play here, and metaphorically speaking,the preceding advice can apply to pretty much anything, be it physical,financial, emotional,whatever.
Cindy O | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 12:36:55 PM | | life is short, do whatever it is that your inner being yearns to do...as long as it's legal and no one gets hurt in the process. | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 2:01:37 PM | | Acting is great ON THE STAGE seriously a person needs to be who they are not who they are expected to be. if you get involved with someone thinking your a "pillar" and you suddenly get in touch with your inner child (or inner hippie or whatever) then they are in for a rude shock and you decieved someone. Besides it is possible to be a pillar of society and a grandfatherly "father knows best" type sometimes and be a "wild and crazy guy" at others. Take it from an old parrothead who is a counselor and teacher and still in touch with my inner child and inner geek. its just ok to be yourself as long as you are not hurting others in the process. (btw i gave up chasing twenty year olds, those girls just run too darn fast ) | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:20:17 PM | ^^^^You HAVE to be a 'wild and crazy guy' to be a Parrothead!!!! I went to my first Jimmy Buffet concert just before moving from CA...they called me a 'virgin' bcause it was my first... what a wild and crazy evening...I never wanted it to end!!!!
OT: No matter how old...or young... a guy acts....as long as we can share some laughs, it won't matter!!! | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:28:02 PM | | For me there is a balance. I can't stand people who act and think like 'old' people, but I think what that means to people varies. I also have no patience for middle aged adults who behave like 'kids.' But there are so many variables. Wild and crazy, partying, using street slang, etc...turn off to me...but inner child, I like that...but I think it means different things to different people. You get young people who seem to have lost their inner child...so I don't know how much that one applies to age or just to personality. | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 8:47:54 PM | The thin line that separates childLIKE and childISH can make all the difference.
I say be yourself...whoever you are.
Yes, I like that too.
...maeflowers | |
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| Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/10/2009 10:26:18 PM | I think Mr Denver may have gotten this one right, too. . . .
The days they pass so quickly now
Nights are seldom long
And time around me whispers when its cold
The changes somehow frighten me
Still I have to smile
It turns me on to think of growing old
For though my life's been good to me
There's still so much to do
So many things my mind has never known
Id like to raise a family
Id like to sail away
And dance across the mountains on the moon
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