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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 6/11/2009 6:03:24 AM | I would say for me, I am looking for someone that cares about how they look. Don't get me wrong, its great to have a lady that will go out and get dirty with you but it is also great for them to be a bit girly too. I know how men complain about waiting on a woman to get ready but in the end, we are usually very happy with the results.
She would have to have some class. No trashy talk (bed room is good though. LOL), swearing like a sailor and burping, etc... She should have a warm inviting and caring personality and be affectionate. She should have some intelligence to her and be laid back enough to enjoy life but be wise enough to know when to be serious.
She should be willing to try new things and have fun. She shouldn't be a drama queen. Don't get me wrong, DRAMA is OK but there is a difference between being a queen and having normal drama. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 6/11/2009 9:06:15 AM | Positive attitude.
Common sense
Takes care of self(no smokers)
Likes dogs
Intelligence
Shares common values and ideals.
Beautiful smile.
Affectionate and loving.  | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 6/11/2009 10:46:25 AM | cew011473 wrote:
No . . . swearing like a sailor and burping, etc...
Hey, HEY wait a minute! I'm actually impressed with a woman who can burp in a window-rattling kind of way (ok, admittedly at home or among a bunch of friends who are doing the same, rather than, say, at an elegant restaurant with a dress code).
On the other hand, as to swearing, well, I grew up in central NJ, and, swearing really wasn't swearing so much as it was just a form of punctuation. I understand the 5 boroughs of New York are similar in that regard.
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 6/11/2009 4:29:32 PM | Latin Girl Oh-Nine,
What are we looking for in a girl, looks-NO, Cuteness-NO, Physical Attraction-NO, I would think that to answer this, one must really sit back and think. Gee, can she walk a chew bobble-gum at the same time, is she feminine, does she have morals, traits, values, and beliefs that are attractive. Does she flirt with everything that has that extra leg, and can se just be herself on the very first date.
Does she have a sense of humor, that slight being feisty personality, and is she self confident with the person that she is.
Some men are looking for just that proverbial, “Arm Candy” and will settle for an IQ for sixteen if she is BB & B (blonde, beautiful and built) but for me, I need something that is fun to talk to, that can carry on conversations with men and women.
We all hope for that girl next door type but there needs to be a realistic approach to that, as “the Girl Next-Door” concept departed us back before Pentium Processors, but those are just my thoughts.
I am looking for a girl that knows well enough that I am going to open every door for her and that will wait just a moment for me to do so, that I am going to (after she chooses) order her food for her, and as for being able to cook, it is much more rewarding and romantic if the two of you cook together, so I guess the bottom line is does she know of how to be a lady.
All men want a lady that is down to earth, and was not spoiled rotten by being, “Daddy’s Little Princess”, because that defining her as a Princess is our job men, and this is the warm fuzzy that we all seek.
And low maintenance, that is key. Will she be easy to date, easy to please, make our job as the guy easy, or a living hell.
When we fall in love, we usually think that's all we'll need to be happy. However, when reality sets in and we have our first real argument, we get hit with the realization that our partner isn't perfect.
In the beginning of a relationship we do our best to give our partner the benefit of the doubt, expressing our love and goodwill, even when we're upset. However, as time goes on, it can get harder to resolve arguments and, therefore, harder to feel loving and forgiving towards our partner. It's at these times that we start to ask ourselves, is there a secret to making a relationship last? Is it really possible to live happily ever after?
The answer to these questions is, "Yes!" However, the hardest question to answer is: How do we do it? How do I have a lasting, happy relationship that doesn't end in a painful breakup?
The first thing to remember is that keeping a partnership healthy and happy requires work and that it will not happen on its own -- just like a flower won't grow if it isn't watered and fed. Relationships need nurturing, tending to, time, and energy! We often forget that a couple contains two human beings who both need to be appreciated, heard, valued, and respected.
With this in mind, I adhere to these seven ways to make a relationship last:
1. Keep the lines of communication open. If you don't know how to express your feelings and/or have poor listening skills, learn to get better at both. You can read a book, take a class, or get into counseling. Good communication requires both the ability to express and listen.
2. Don't sweep your fights under the rug and think they'll magically resolve themselves. Do your best to resolve your first argument as soon as it arises so you won't have the same argument for the next 50 years, in different forms.
3. Remember that you love your partner; therefore, you want the best for her/him. Give her/him the benefit of the doubt when you feel angry, hurt, or disappointed. Talk to your partner; don't make assumptions.
4. Don't take your partner for granted. Tell your partner every day something you appreciate about her/him and how grateful you are to have them in your life.
5. Your partner should never feel like your enemy. If they do, something is wrong; remember that you fell in love with this person. If there's so much anger that you feel like you are enemies, get help somewhere as quickly as possible.
6. Gauge your relationship. Notice and don't ignore the warning signs if you're not talking, you're less affectionate, you're fighting all the time, and you're not happy. The sooner you acknowledge you're having problems, the sooner you can begin to solve them.
7. Always remember that you have the power to change behaviors in your relationship through different tools of self-discovery. You don't have to stay stuck in unhealthy ruts.
Good, lasting relationships are made up of two conscious individuals who have the desire to work on themselves with the determination to stay focused on the importance of their relationship. They do not take their partner for granted. They have their partner's best interest at heart and, therefore, build trust with their partner. When arguments come up, they don't ignore them. They address the issues and try to resolve them. When they see warning signs that their relationship could be in trouble, they act immediately and look for new ways to relate to each other.
This can be accomplished by anyone who is willing to take the time and energy to make their relationship a priority in their life. Nurture your partnership as it so richly deserves! You CAN live happily ever after, not with magic, but with work, awareness, and knowledge of yourself and your partner.
So, I require a gal that is emotionally stable, independent, non-dramatic, does not and cannot play head-games, but the bottom line is that I desire a woman that that can make soft/sticky sweet/tender love to me without being snot-slinging drunk. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 6/11/2009 5:09:44 PM | I could not honestly answer this question without drawing the ire of the majority of women here.
What I want/need is very, very specific.
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Luckily, I do know some girls who are exactly my "type" and luckily my type tends to be attracted to me. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/10/2009 4:11:43 AM | Aside from some of the tasteful skill sets already mentioned, I'd prefer if the girl actually has a license to drive.
I've known a couple of girls who have an innate lack of confidence and fear of getting behind the wheel and don't even want to be bothered with the idea at all.
It's not an issue about willing to give her a lift. It's just a life skill and form of independance that would really help in family situations as well. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/10/2009 1:29:20 PM | Im looking for someone that can finish my sentances, someone that keep up with my wit and sense of humor, someone I can kiss at night and in the morning, someone who allows me to rub her feet when shes had a long day, someone who doesnt need to always take 3 hrs to go out in public,someone who is confident in herself and independant but not full of herself and knows when to be dependant upon her man.
Someone who lives for the little things in life, family oriented, trustworthy,someone who doesnt feel the need to party 24/7 , someone who is real and down to earth, someone that values relationships as much as I do, who will fight for me as I will her, someone who will be there for me through good and through bad, someone who takes care of herself phsyically, and if shes cute thats a bonus, nice eyes never hurt either...
Im sure I could go on, but if one of you women are all of the above, wait no more send me a messege..lol
I only ask what I would give..! | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/11/2009 3:58:20 AM | | good oral skills, can make some mean beef stroganoff, must enjoy kickin butt on ps3 call of duty and making little kids cry with her trash talking, walking in stripper shoes, horse whispering, throwing a tight spiral, and landscaping. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/11/2009 4:33:13 AM | their music loud. their food meat. their driving fast. no hippies, no herbivores, no herpes
smart enough to be able to learn new things, but not overly smart has to have emotional problems.
a desire to give a sloppy bj every once in a while
NORMAL BODY TEMPERATURE! 90* with 80%+ humidity IS OPPRESSIVELY FREAKING HOT. 75 degrees in direct sunlight IS OPPRESSIVLEY ****ING HOT! 65-68* with low humidity FTW | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/11/2009 5:06:06 AM |
good oral skills, can make some mean beef stroganoff, must enjoy kickin butt on ps3 call of duty and making little kids cry with her trash talking, walking in stripper shoes, horse whispering, throwing a tight spiral, and landscaping.
I hope you mean cod 4 because w@w completly sucks | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/11/2009 5:31:58 AM |
I knew dudes liked Ninjas. Yus!!
Of course we do. Have to. It's in our secret rule book. (Oh sh*t, I wasn't supposed to tell you about that...)
BTW, ^T^, you have an utterly interesting profile, but I can't send the first email to tell you so. Good thing we cruise the same threads. Say Hi, and let's chat... | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/11/2009 5:37:46 AM | I think most guys are looking for the same thing that girls are looking for. (Do I have to call them "women"? It seems so old and formal, but I digress.) Intelligence, humor, a sense of adventure, willingness to try new things. Looks are sort of important as an initial attractant, but a woman with the above characteristics will usually do what she can with what she's got, and, you know, that's usually not bad at all.
Big dealbreakers (at least for me) are closemindedness, lumping every guy into some huge "loser bin" based on your most recent unhappy relationship, possessiveness, being judgmental, poor hygeine, and, as somebody said above, using txtspeak (or poor spelling and grammar in general).
If you want to make yourself more attractive to men, do the things that make you happiest, and you'll glow in a way that will attract people with common interests and attitudes.
Best to luck,
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/11/2009 9:44:43 AM | Singing. I've always admired and been attracted to women who can sing. I'm not talking about singing along to crap on the radio, and not the "ability" to sing like all these mainstream pop stars either. They all suck. More along the lines of opera quality singing.
Gardening. I'd definitely like someone who can garden well. Anyone can spit a few watermelon seeds into the ground and watch them grow, or buy a tree and dig a hole. Along those lines, if she can create floral arrangements, I'd be impressed!
Baking. I love pastries, cakes, and cookies, especially around the winter holidays! The best ones are those made from scratch, not this Betty Crocker nonsense.
Biking and swimming. If she can't ride a bicycle or doesn't know how to swim, I will think less of her. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/11/2009 9:53:43 AM | yawn ...well i want a girl passionate about life, loves her family n friends, someone who enjoy having fun like maybe kareokee or out for a beer or two, who like to take an adventure and travel to a destination and make a road trip out of it. even someone who would like to swim or hike at a location, play some sports or go to haunted locations and be ghostbusters!..main thing though that we enjoy eachothers company!  | |
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