| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/12/2009 1:23:53 PM | Ok now you just got all these guys started and now they wont ever shut up. If you want good advice dont look for what a guy wants, cause we are all idiots (No matter what any of us say we are). First thought that ever runs threw a guys head is not "Oh i wonder if she is good at math" or "Oh i bet she is outgoing". It's normally "Damn she is hot"
Our first reaction to anyone is either a body part, example: Legs, breast, eyes, hair, teeth, ect.. or their voice. Mainly physical reactions are first.
Then we tend to pick away at stuff we dont like, for example: Her hair is to short, or she is to immature, her teeth are crooked, small stuff like that.
Best way to know what we are looking for, is just be yourself. Dont be fake, dont post something on your profile that you only did once in your life, "Oh i like hiking, camping, fishing ect.." but you have only gone once and you was 12.
We more or less wanna know what your into now, if all you do is work, go home and chill, then let us know that. Cause really unless your just young and have no responsabilities then your most likely not going out 7 days a week clubbing.
As far as "Skills" go, every girl is different, as well as every guy. If your a country guy, then you probably like a country girl that rides horses, or likes to work on a farm. And if your a city guy, you probably like the girl that likes to dress up and not get dirty.
What girls mainly need to relize is guys dont just look for one thing, we have several things we go off of, but mainly be yourself and dont try to rush into anything with us and you will be fine.
As far as your comment of
"why it is soo difficult for both parts to find the right one if it is pretty easy to go on a date." It's cause everyone is looking for something that are never going to find most of the time. Women are looking for that "Perfect Man", Great job, good sense of humor, loves to be wild, but yet can stay at home and cuddle. and Men are looking for that "Perfect Woman" , wild crazy, but loves everything that guy does, takes care of him, hand and foot, ect...
And it's easier to go out on a date and say you tried, then to say oh "he/she" just wasnt for me, but i tried. And it's always easier for the female cause they have nothing to lose except time. Guys gotta put energy into, money, ideals and alot more into each date.
What you may see as "Oh the guy is suppose to do that stuff" is why your probably still on a dating site looking for the perfect guy. Instead of thinking what can we do to help each other.
Of course this is just my point of view on things, and not everyone has the same ideals or opions on things. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/12/2009 5:34:53 PM | What am I looking for? My new friend, a trusting friend, my new companion, my new partner. I am not looking for a new wife. I have an active and successful life. I am looking for my best friend I can steal away from my public life with, and travel, and treasure hunt with, and discover all our dreams and personal adventerous with, and find our 'Cocoamo' with, and just relish being in each others company.
But,....most of my dates are women that are still living with thier daughters, and tell me how they love thier grandchildren, and they should because they babysit them while daughter is working. Oh, that will change, as soon as a new job opens for grandma,......pending.
Sorry, but I haven't given up, but geeee, I need to pick better or something. Why would anyone living in an unstable environment ever think they could be serious about actually dating and starting a new relationship? I don't need that. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/12/2009 8:56:21 PM | martial arts lvr wrote:
Everyone is looking for something different.
LOL!! Of course, I wanted to belabor the irony by saying that I am looking for what everyone else is looking for.
That said, I am looking for a woman with an irrational fear of beets.
(Hey, it probably makes as much sense as anything else - or at least feels like it, at times!) | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/13/2009 9:31:51 AM | | Skills (not related to sex): Well, conversational communication skills, sense of humor, sophisticated, a bit of an athletic, tomboyish side so she doesn't mind getting "down and dirty" in some physical activity. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/13/2009 4:32:13 PM | Well Latin_Girl,
I want my woman to have skills like Wonder Woman combined with the skills of Jenna Jamison, Deanna Troi on Star Trek TNG and Lisa Cuddy on the TV show House.
Okay seriously now... umm... I want her to have the skills of Wonder Woman with a friend named Wonder Girl who comes over a lot...
Alright... SERIOUSLY now... the skills I want in a woman... Hmmm... I want her to be able to:
-ride a bicycle
-have some sort of career that earns her enough to live
-Not be a slob, but not a clean freak either
-has some basic cooking skills
-Understands the basics concerning money and understands things like interest rates, mortgages, the importance of paying bills, etc
-Drive a car with stick shift (or be willing to learn)
-Work a computer well enough to be able to log into Plenty of Fish
-be able to read
-Be able to write complete sentences with proper spelling, grammar and punctuation.
-Be polite enough and have enough social knowledge to not embarrass me in front of friends or family
-Have good enough hygiene that she doesn't stink... but not be paranoid about hygiene to the point that she's having 3 showers a day
-be able to carry a conversation and have an opinion and doesn't freak over hearing something she doesn't agree with. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/13/2009 4:40:16 PM |
what's wrong with txt speak?
WNECchick,
What's wrong with txt speak? It's annoying... that's what's wrong with it.
It's fine for texting on a cell phone without a full qwerty keyboard... but in every other situation it is just really irritating to see the English Language get butchered just because someone is wants to spell 'though' as 'tho' because they're too bloody lazy. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/20/2009 3:06:48 PM | I would say best friend and lover at the same time.
which means sharing some similar interests. or be willing to learn mine/teach theirs.
I personally like someone who has a spirit of adventure and a bit of ambition.
I always hate when i see girls go to university/college only to end up working a dead end job because they dont want to bother getting into their field.
I would consider it a bonus if they are blond ;)
and to get really nit picky,
i am bothered if someone is allergic to 18 different things, is extremely picky and have big emotional baggage that stop them from doing things in life. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/20/2009 4:50:32 PM | I personally love it when a girl is really easy going. I hate girls that just want to nag and nag and nag. Plus common interests always make even the best girls seem better. I mean, I personally HATE when a girl turns my radio dial from my Rock station to the Christian station. It makes me want to shake a baby! If she just turns my radio up on the right songs it makes me happy :-) oh and just as long as I don't have to turn up my system to drown her out :-P
Earlier in this thread someone said that men are looking for attraction and attraction is emotional. I want to officially throw the B.S. flag on that play. Yes, we are looking for attraction, but for men attraction is much more so at a mental level than an emotional one. If she were right, then it would be much more common for guys to walk away from a one night stand and actually try to keep in contact with the other person. It's a mental thing, with a little bit of sexuality thrown in.
Most guys will talk with a woman merely because she looks hot. They will forego the fact that she might have no personality, at least for a while. But most guys will stay with a woman if there's a mental connection there (not so much emotional until way later in the relationship, talk about 3-6 months that begins to fall in place) and the conversation and just hanging out is fun. A girl could be hot as hell and could put out every night, and be wild in the sack, and I still would not stick with her longer than a week if she had no personality and made things awkward.
Anyways i'm off to work people. PEACE! | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/20/2009 6:53:42 PM | | I'm looking for someone who can train my pet monkey to dance the Samba de Gafieira or just really funny, sexy (inner sexy) and can hold a conversation before we make out. | |
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| What u guys are really looking for in a girl?
Posted: 8/21/2009 3:01:23 AM | Aside from the obvious I'm looking for a couple very RARE qualities.
Obviously I'd like someone whis pretty to me, is sweet nice and all that jazz. But also has a sense of logic, common sense, and good thinking skills, and doesn't make quick stupid decisions regarding the relationship, VERY hard to find that in a women as most of those are generally male qualities. I'm looking for those kinda qualities as in how they deal with a relationship. | |
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