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Ependa
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| | Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?Page 6 of 14 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14) | oral fixation , or the pleasure created in giving your partner intense pleasure...or, if she's lucky, a combination of the two  | |
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| Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 1/31/2010 10:49:58 AM |
Sex isn't about the physical functions - it's about the brain. It's exciting to see someone that's very excited. The excitement builds on itself and hopefully each partner becomes more turned on by their partner's excitement and it keeps growing - otherwise you may as well just masturbate...
This post gets a Gold Star.
As for the submissiveness of giving oral sex.....um...NOT....I think of it as TOTAL DOMINATION!
This post gets a Gold Star.
I certainly don't see it as an act of submission, but rather of being in control.
And there are so many variants to it that I can't conceive getting bored of doing it!!
Personally, I find it very erotic and sensual, the whole play, teasing and enjoying him (yes, you read that right!). And there are many things I would like to try that haven't been done because of that breakdown in communications when it comes to talk bluntly about sex and what each one wants.
I've had orgasms giving a BJ. Although it's not the only thing I would want to do when having a sexual encounter with a partner, I think there are very few things more arousing than giving oral to a man.
This post gets a Gold Star.
You get the picture...
Personally, I can say all of these things, are the same reasons why I love to give oral to a woman. The more I'm into her, the more of her I desire. If I could crawl inside of her, I still wouldn't have enough of her.
There's nothing more pleasurable than making your lover go into an altered state by your actions.
And nothing more beautiful than a woman who you've made lose complete control, and become primal.
It's the best.  | |
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| Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 1/31/2010 10:53:00 AM | women are as men loving opposite sex as well. It is instinct that arose them when come to sex. They are not lesbian so they like opposite sex and love it when doing sexual parts. Their homo arose and they just enjoy and satisfy in their head not physically. They will get tired when their mouths worn out. | |
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consa
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Msg: 129 | |
| Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 1/31/2010 5:24:11 PM |
If you think about it, there is no physical reason for a woman to be aroused by giving a blowjob, any more than if she had a big sausage in her mouth.
So why do women become so aroused giving blowjobs?
Good question.
I recently received a PM in FB from a woman who said that she needed an uncut penis to satisfy her "orally as well as vaginally." The "orally" bit got me thinking. The mouth has no genital nerve endings. Where is this woman coming from? I still don't know, but I accept that what she wrote me was sincere.
A lot of women aren't all that excited by seeing a penis. But some are, and I suspect that internet porn is going to swell their ranks in the future. (Deep down, men and women are less different sexually than we think. A lot of "femininity" is cultural conditioning.) If a hard penis thrills you, there is nothing more intimate you can do with it than to get your eyes and lips right up against it. That done, exciting the penis with lips and tongue comes very very naturally. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2010 5:33:56 PM | I can only speak for myself when I say there is nothing more exhilarating than knowing I have probably thee most important part of the man in my mouth...along with my teeth and tongue and while I know I may be giving him an immense amount of pleasure, I also hold the power to inflict a whole lotta pain....that is not only hot...it's priceless  | |
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Posted: 1/31/2010 8:11:16 PM | Most women have an oral fixation and they like the control over their partner that oral gives them.
Usually this is the only time a woman has full control sexually.
Anal or Vaginal, the guy usually determines everything and has the final word.
Women have told me they like oral because it gives them an idea of what's to come later, that feeling a guy's erection in their mouth leads them to wonder what it would feel like inside of them in tighter spaces, smaller places.
It's best if you withold oral until a woman really wants it, that tends to yield the best results.
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Posted: 1/31/2010 8:23:24 PM | This is going to be unpopular probably but just IMO it doesn't seem like she is in a "dominant" position at all when on her knees (or however) performing oral. That just doesn't seem dominant to me. Not remotely.
Maybe that's coming from a particular male viewpoint (well obviously it is) but that's how I feel. I feel like she is being more like submissive and "worshiping" or "adoring" her man's penis. Just the same as I feel the man is then likewise being "submissive", in a sense, by going down on her. I'm not saying I disagree with people doing either act; it's great in fact.
Both acts are (when a couple is in love) loving and giving acts, yes, but I don't view either of them (the woman sucking d!ck, or the man eating pu$$y) to be positions of "dominance" over their lover. IMO it's closer to the contrary.
After all, some guys will joke (in private) about how quickly they got some girl to "go down", and they didn't even do it themselves in return.
Now for some of the men I know and have associated with (and this is probably a cultural thing I realize) going down on a woman is viewed as something you shouldn't do. Or at the very least you shouldn't go around bragging about it. It's viewed by these guys (not saying I share this view particularly , because personally I like doing it and I'll admit that) as being "submissive" to the woman, letting her "use" your mouth to get off. And they don't view this as something that should happen.
And yes I know that the teeth are in close proximity to the vital male member with the bj, but I mean come on....that's hardly an argument for "dominance". I mean, if she's even remotely thinking of ever biting into one then she's hardly suitable for contact with other human beings (male or female) and she shouldn't have anyone anywhere near her in the first place much less sexually. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2010 9:24:44 PM | | I'm just wondering why the BJ HATERS like Cat and that other chick bothered to check out this thread...they've made it CRYSTAL FRIGGIN CLEAR in other threads how they feel...so why the hell come pollute a thread that is about LIKING and even LOVING sucking d1ck...with your negativity? | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 12:23:13 AM | I stumbled accross this thread while reading some other forums. I have read it from the first post to this one. I have a double major in psychology and sociology. During my time in post-secondary education I was able to take two different classes, one in womens issues, and the other in human sexuality.
In the womens issues class we covered in a certain ammount the roles women have played in sexuality over the last 50 years. As for the other class, human sexuality. Well, that class was not only truly exciting to sit in on but also to listen to personal views on basically every aspect of human sexuality, but, also the fact that we could converse freely within the classroom.
Now, how does this pertain to me and this thread. Well I was once a bad boy in university and turned good at the time of leaving university by now ex-wife. I have seen many women who enjoy giving a good blowjob and those who do it to please their man, and those who don't like and try it to never do it again, and those who would not consider it at all.
Some I think dislike giving bj's because of whatever personal views and life circumstances have happened and might consider it wrong. So to judge others and say any woman who would give a bj has low self esteem or no self esteem is wrong. It is not for them to judge others. Accept your own personal views about bj's and don't try and apply your values to others. And, the same can be said for those who enjoy it for the many reasons listed. Passing judgement on someone because they don't like it either is not appropriate.
I believe there is still a stigma to a certain ammount about women who admit to liking giving blow jobs. I applaud people who are willing to share their personal views and experiences about an issue that still has some personal taboos about it.
Now with that said, I have found that through my limited experience and education ( more education.....stats from the kinsey institute ) that about: 30% of women enjoy giving bj's, 8% of woman say its the most exciting part of sex for them, 28% neither enjoy it or dislike it, 20% do it because they feel their partner likes it but they don't enjoy it, 10% have tried and will not do it again and 4% have never tried it.
My ex-wife fell into the 20% group. I am not to sure why more women say they don't like it. I think its the new trend these days that bj's are becoming more socially acceptable.
There is even a new book out recently about teens and the rainbow club, and another one titled " The blow-job the new kiss goodnight! " . Both covering teen sexuality.
As for me..... well I enjoy giving and receiving oral sex. I think its the most appealing thing to see my lady enjoying herself. Enjoying herself so much that she loses control and she is in such pleasure that I was able to give her that it becomes a bigger turn on for me.
A little extra for those who are on the fence about bj's. Shaving your man cuts down the bad odour or even trimming short helps a lot. As for those who don't like the taste of semen that can be helped also. You can find info about foods in your diet that make semen taste a certain way, which foods to avoid and which foods provide sweet tasting semen etc...
Well I hope this was not to boring of a read. Personally I love oral sex | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 1:44:36 AM | A lot of women just want men to know how much they hate them for feeling, cousin. They want men to feel but only feel about the things they wish for them to feel about. That is why calling a man an unfeeling monster is so important. But when men can feel, they are mocked for those feelings by being called a big baby, or people going, 'wah, wah, wah!' to them to mock the fact they do feel becaues men are suppose to be so tough.
Then there is the old getting kicked in the groin and laughed at because the big man got hurt and he's funny hurt because we thought he was so tough and look at that, he ain't tough at all.' It's hard being a balanced heterosexual, red blooded, decent, Homo sapien kinna guy with a sensual wish list these days. The only one's who seem to want to satisfy male passions are obscure women who want to do a background check on you before the first date, hookers, lap dancers, milking your pocket Hooters Girls who will be nice to you therapeutically, prostitutes and cam girls. They all seem to not have a care what kind of sexual fetish you come to them with, they promise they will understand as long as you bring plenty of what they do love; cash. But try getting a loving woman to do that. Most of them seem to all be pissed of at men because no matter how many gifts you give some women, how many implants and botox, dinners and movies etc. You can't fill a spiritual void with material things. So most are and never will be satisfied. Much less satisfied with you as a man. So this is just another forum for their venting about that dissatisfaction and what they don't want to do for men because all men want is sex. But all most women want is Everything in the world but. And they get it and still won't think about what a man wants. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 4:35:11 AM |
If you think about it, there is no physical reason for a woman to be aroused by giving a blowjob, any more than if she had a big sausage in her mouth.
So why do women become so aroused giving blowjobs?
(And don't tell me they don't!)
Don't be crazy. Are you really comparing a sausage to a penis? A sausage in your mouth evokes hunger, a penis in your mouth evokes arousal, the tip of a shotgun barrel in your mouth evokes fear. Three objects similar in shape, three different emotions. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 9:14:13 AM |
A sausage in your mouth evokes hunger, a penis in your mouth evokes arousal, the tip of a shotgun barrel in your mouth evokes fear. Three objects similar in shape, three different emotions.
Okay I have to ask, did I miss something in seeing how a shotgun barrel is similar in shape to the other two phalic symbols? Or just a comment about putting something in your mouth and causing a particular emotion? | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 10:41:34 AM | I have been with women who were turned on by it, because it puts the woman in total control of the mans sexual organ.
See it like this... at the point where a woman is giving oral sex to a man.. she is in total control... unless she gives up control.. the woman is in control of the pace and the action and basically have the man at a weakened point where he is at her beck and call..
she has her lips, tongue, teeth and hands that focused on just the penis and testicles..
Some women love the idea of the only time they have total control of the man with his most prized body part almost literatly wrapped on their fingers..
When a woman is giving oral sex to a man ( because of the sensitive of the penis) she can bring the man the ultmost please or the utmost pain within seconds...
A power trip some women love... | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 10:47:20 AM | My point is proven by MagicalMary....
That at the point when a woman agrees to give oral to a man.. it be very good or VERY bad....
And there is some theory behind that idea that some women fantasize about just biting or hurting a man during oral sex... the women who secretely want to do that can enjoy oral sex because they feel like its the only time when it could happen and the man can do nothing about it.
However, there are some women also who are just pleasers and get off on making the opposite sex happy without the power trip.. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 1:20:44 PM | wow....
i looked at her profile and it does not say lesbian...
however, i believe another poster added that for women, the act of oral can be ruined at a very, very young age by either ultra religious beliefs OR by a forcable, mean early sex partner that made the act of doing oral sex a horrible experiance which (no pun intended) leaves a bad taste in her mouth.
We men, forget that many, many women are taught that sex is bad and only for making children. And therfore any sex act where children cannot be created is unclean and ungodly.
Also, we men forget how many women in their teens are raped or forced to perform oral sex on 1 or multiple partners. So, as time goes on, giving oral sex to a man brings back terrible memories for a woman. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 1:25:56 PM | I think more women than will perhaps openly admit it get off on the idea of being somewhat submissive , so to speak, in a safe scenario with a person they know and/or love, by orally pleasing their man. Rather than this whole d!ck in their mouth power trip or whatever that some of them claim it is. What else is actually "supposed" to be viewed as a "position of dominance"?? When they're riding on top receiving anal??  | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 1:56:53 PM | Well, yeah, girl on top vaginal sex is a position of dominance for sure...
For one thing, we control the depth and pace. And we can lean forward and hold his hands/arms down. (In fact I did that last night for the first time...was kinda cool - the arm holding down thing that is).
Perhaps dominance isn't the word. But how about "in control" or "leader". After all, if the chick just sits there on top, not a helluva lot will be going on...he can't thrust effectively in that position. He can thrust a little, but not a lot.
And... a bj can be dominant or submissive. It just depends on the guy and girl. If he wants to be dominanted, then she will d ominate him... If she wants to submit, then she will be submissive.
Partly that depends on his physical strength and partly their dynamic.
Here's this... Tie a guys hands to the bedpost with him on his back. She gets on top and sucks him off. THAT is dominant on her part. He can't do squat to make the bj happen or not. Sure he can thrust up a little w/his hips, but she can move back. She can sit onhim and wait til he stops thrusting his hips up... and only then will she suck on him. SHE is in control.
Tying one up of either gender takes away any differences in strength.
If he ties her hands to the bedpost, then he is in total control. And he can facefvck her and he will control the depth and speed. Sure seh can still bite but let's assume she's not a cruel sadistic person.
(and of course yeah there are safewords for both genders)
Usually we don't go as far as tying one up, but still, he can lay back on the bed w/his hands at his sides - givingher total control over his pleasure. YES it's an illusion of control, but still...his pleasure is totally dependent upon her actions. Dominant for her.
Conversely, she can be on her knees in front of him and he has his hands on her head pulling her into him and controlling speed and depth... pretty dam* dominant for him. And yes she can also control speed and depth in that position if she chooses with her hands on his azz or hips (or shaft).
BUT...for many of us, it is indeed a loving act, done to give our man pleasure. Not an act of dominance or submission. Just done because we love his c0ck, we love the way it feels in our mouths, and we really, really love making him feel good.
Sex is supposed to be about sharing pleasure. Giving and receiving. Making it fun and good and happy for both of you. And a bj is just a very simple part of that. It's really not something to deeply analyze to me.
And no, it's not because we all want to be dirty sluts...although I'm sure that's true for some women, but not all, and not the majority. @@ Sex ISN"T dirty or slutty. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 2:06:52 PM | And as in most cases...
there are different view points. some people feel its dominance, some see it as a loving act. and some see it as a way to get the most of out someone.
Well... to some a blowjob can be as psycological as a political debate. Depending on life experiances | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 3:21:16 PM | I cannot seem to understand this analogy. You are comparing apples to oranges. I am surprised you would enjoy sex in any form with an attitude like that. I cannot see why you would ask this most obvious human instinctual act would be a turn on for us women, with whom it comes naturally to enjoy all the male sensual body parts.  I am not going to begin to explain the differences between the two .One is an inanimate object...get it? Geesh. Shaking my head in amazement. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 5:06:00 PM | I have a newsflash for the guys who think a woman can't get off sucking on your nob---um, we can, just like some men can get really aroused just by licking a woman's vagina. Sexual foreplay is arousing...kissing can be arousing...and for those who think a chick on her knees is in a 'submissive role' ----don't count on it----speaking in terms of being a switch---I can top from the bottom because a Dom/me role is useless without a submissive (role).
I get what I want....and he thinks he's being the top dawg....nah, I control the pace....and even if he decides to get aggressive I can always slow em down with just a quick tweet of his man sack or a little digital probing... Regardless, I enjoy oral copulation--more so giving than receiving, but that is just me. I enjoy how I can make him feel with just my little mouth and hands. Some folks get off on stranger things than giving oral pleasure...I mean really...lol.   | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 7:37:28 PM | For me it has nothing to do with dominance or submission. I just like it. When I see a nice looking penis I just want to explore it with my tongue and mouth. Feel it in my mouth, the skin is so soft and different areas have slightly different textures and get different responses from the guy. I love to feel it getting harder in my mouth and it does excite me. Then when it goes down my throat it's exciting, especially hearing the guy moan or gasp. I like to feel that I can make him feel as good as he can make me feel.  | |
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Posted: 2/1/2010 7:44:25 PM | I don't think I could be with a guy that didn't let me blow him. Really. It is my favorite thing to do sexually and non sexually.
I love the feeling of putting something so powerful yet vulnerable in my mouth, taking it soft and making it hard, feeling the texture of his head and then his shaft in my mouth. being able to act like a kid having fun with bubbles or in the water, and just do whatever I want- making noise, sucking, licking, nibbing, rubbing, caressing, kissing.
I like seeing the look of anticipation on a guy's face, how he watches you as you take care of it, I love when a guy is resting on his elbows and watching innocently, I love when the guy closes his eyes and rolls his head back
I love the texture of his balls and how vulnerable they are
I love being able to change speeds and positions and changing up the arousal and pleasure for me and him
I love that you can take the same techniques you do, but changing something as simple as the speed or variation can make the entire blow job feel different.
I love when his****is in your mouth and it stirs
i love the drops of precum that slide down
I love starting on my knees him standing, then changing it up to him sitting, not using my hands at times, having him bob my head up and down, I love going on all fours as he fingers me while i do it, i usually get on my knees while he is lying down on one side of his body, i love having him straddle me while i'm lying down and fucking my face,
I love that a girl giving a guy head gives him control in a way, but for me it feels like i have control bc i have something so important and sensitive of his in my mouth and i can control whether it makes him cum or make him scream .
Wow, i can't even continue I am so turned on.
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