| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/7/2009 2:35:39 PM | I think fellas nowadays use this equality badge to think that they don;t have to make much of an effort whatsoever .....
I so totally agree! You aren't a gold digger just for expecting a drink. I get so annoyed that men now expect women to do everything, be a career woman, bring up the kids, look after the home, and be great in bed, and all they have to do is drink beer and watch soccer! I want a real man who wants to look after his date/gf/wife and treat her to nice things (within his means), and who knows how to support his family.
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/7/2009 2:47:55 PM | | Face it. Women are all for equal rights... As long as it works to their advantage. I'll buy a woman a drink, without a second thought, if I want to. If I get the feeling that she expects it, then I probably won't want to. | |
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/7/2009 3:24:59 PM | This is such a dumb argument. Whenever I take a woman out (whether she invited me or not) I pay. It's no big thing, and if it ever gets to that point, I think it's time for me to stop dating. In fact, I'm to the point where it kinda riles me when she wants to pay because at no point am I intending on "buying" something from her. It's stupid and ridiculous.
However, if this is of importance to you, just bring it up at the beginning of the date. I'm just not seeing the rocket science of the topic.
Now, the only thing that I'd probably monitor is how many drinks she pounds down - not because of cost, but because I'm not into alcoholics. Sorry, that's my hang-up. | |
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:47:53 AM | The situation is unique. Normally, I would never buy someone I just met in a club/bar a drink, just so I could spend a few minutes talking to them. If they want to talk, its going to be because they're interested in the conversation, not the promise of free liquor.
However, these two were talking on line, so its not like they were complete strangers. I think if she buys the first round, you better believe he should buy the second. To me that seems pretty 50-50.
If the tables were turned, and he bought the first round and she asked for but didn't get the second round, then he shouldn't buy her any more... and probably end the date in short order. | |
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:32:35 PM | Sun Devil 92 - I have to thank you for sending me this thread. I can now see your point. I have two thoughts:
#1 feminism and women's suffrage are severely misunderstood by a majority of people, and
#2 my dating books are all wrong, even the ones written by men, because (some) guys don't appreciate themselves enough for us to appreciate them... 
To the original poster - he's a douche. forget him. anyone who shows up late and gets mad at their date, who is there on time waiting, has issues. | |
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/8/2009 2:41:17 PM |
The situation is unique. Normally, I would never buy someone I just met in a club/bar a drink, just so I could spend a few minutes talking to them. If they want to talk, its going to be because they're interested in the conversation, not the promise of free liquor.
For some women, it isn't the "free liquor", it's just that the act of buying her a drink signals to her that the man is interested in her/attracted to her. | |
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/11/2009 2:09:24 PM | | As more of a traditional guy. Early in the dating experience the man should always pay! The only exception is if a woman asks the man out. In that case the woman should expect to pay. However, if there's a connection on that date the man will gladly pay and schedule the next date! | |
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/12/2009 6:58:52 AM | My recent experience:
The first time I met the guy he bought all the drinks - I kept offering to get a round, but he would say no: I didn't want to cause a fuss so just accepted graciously.
The second time: he bought the first round, he got his wallet out to pay for the second but I was faster to get my cash out so I paid, and he paid for the 3rd round.
It's nice to have a guy *want* to buy you a drink, but I wouldn't feel comfortable if he paid for all of them. | |
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/12/2009 7:33:51 AM | When I go out on a date, I usually talk to the guy in advance about who is going to pay.
For example, I enjoy going to indoor football games. The last time the local team played, I was dying to go to the game, but I didn't want to go by myself, because it isn't safe to walk home in my neighborhood at that time of night. I had started talking to a gentleman about getting together, and I had mentioned I wanted to go to the game. He said he would love to go with me. I bought the tickets for the game. Why? Because it was my idea, and my passion, not his. We came to an agreement that he could buy dinner after the game.
I don't expect a gentleman to spend his money on me, but if he wants to, I can accept that. My last meeting, we went out for drinks. Since we didn't get a chance to discuss who was paying before hand, I took enough money to buy my drinks for the evening. The gentleman is this case paid for almost all of my drinks.
I guess what I am trying to say is it depends on the situation. If you didn't decide ahead of time who was going to pay, you can't really expect the gentleman to buy for you all evening.
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/13/2009 6:14:36 PM | first, you ALLOWED this man to get to you by staying and arguing. second, although it would have been nice to offer....you were EXPECTING him to. third, waiting 30 minutes for a date is YOUR fault...not his. all he should have done, out of consideration, is to call and let you know he would be late.
gold digger, no. assumptive towards others, yes. | |
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:50:53 AM | | hi well just read ur story so to speak and ur defo nbot were i come from which is belfast if women are in male company women dnt buy a drink at all we actually wud call a guy tight arse if he let women buy drink maybe u shud move over here lol | |
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| Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:36:48 AM | | He should pay for your first date and will if he is a gentleman. However I will say it should be an inexpensive date like just meeting for drinks. If he can't buy you a $3 dollar drink don't waste your time because that says a lot about who you are dating. And don't pay any attention to gold digger crap the person calling you that is probably the male with no manners that can't buy a $3 drink. You should have standards and always keep them. Now ordering $50 worth of stuff on a first date is just wrong but a drink, give me a break | |
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