| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 1:52:27 PM |
Is there some kind of requirement or rule that says everyone has to break through social constructs? Are all social constructs bad? How does one decide which are and which aren't? Who decides?
You decide of course. I would argue (in the sense of making a point rather than getting into a fight) that unexamined social constructs are what is limiting. As one is born into a world where they are told (it is actually so subtle one does not need to be "told" - more like one grows to understand) they must behave a certain way or what being a "real woman" or a "real man" is.
If you examine the myriad of social 'rules' we have, and choose them then it is self expression; regardless of whether it is being in compliance with them or something different.
As far as "bad" I prefer to look at it through the lens of effective or ineffective. If something isn't working in ones life, it is rather ineffective to continue to do it.
*wonders* So.. If you're a gay man and you approach, does that mean that the one who waited for your approach then has no ballzzzzz?]
Oh the gay guys get it figured out, no worries. Think of the poor, poor lesbians, now THEY deserve our sympathy as they stand on either side of the room, waiting for the other one to approach first!
edit to add:
Ah Belle, I am very happy that my moose balled sweetie and I don't much care who approaches who first. Although I admit I HAVE been tempted to post on "The problem with Sagittarian men" thread just to stir things up, lol. | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 1:53:28 PM | So.. If you're a gay man and you approach, does that mean that the one who waited for your approach then has no ballzzzzz? Makes you wonder how homosexuality for men and women affect this topic. Would two "traditional" lesbian women never approach each other? Does the first one to make contact become the "man" for those social role diehards?
edit... ok, margo beat me to it. | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 1:57:26 PM | ^^^^^well you still got the top and the bottom with gay guys...my best friend is a gay guy and he NEVER approaches other men, they come to him.  | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 2:02:25 PM | Verityone
You mean kiss ***?
No, not kiss azzz - Since when is making peace kissing azz? Making peace in the first instance is to understand, secondly not to subjugate yourself or the other party. You can’t take the view of win lose – someone kissing azz is not making peace it’s just a time out for the next round. Bit like tower of Bable, just flapping in the breeze till someone is a “winner”, that’s kissing azz or hoping that someone kisses your azz.
I'm not regretful of my views, opinions or perceptions on the topic. If peoples' feelings get hurt over my opinions, that's their problem.
Is it their problem? or perhaps they may view it as your problem, or it may be just soothing words for the ego.
I accept that differences exist, but fail to see why I would have to respect those differences, or feel obligated to not voice negative views on them...
sure voice your views, nothing wrong with that it's all part of resolving or understanding, co-existance.
Respect differences - you fail to see why you have to respect differences? No one can force anyone to think or not to think in a particular way nor is anyone, not me anyway, suggesting that you should or must ACCEPT those differences, but when you say that you cant see why you should RESPECT those differences you are setting yourself up for others not to respect your differences either, it's called closed mindedness, single mindedness.
Perhaps a little like this thread has become in some instances - stuck in mud.
I don't care for PC dialogue. It's contrived.
Is it? It's a form of dialogue just like talking on the phone, sending an email, a fax, a telegram, one might say that face to face dialogue is also contrived, perhaps to some it is, perhaps they don’t know any other way. | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 2:09:22 PM |
Quit whining and may the best win. I agree.. and to think .. only 20 more pages to go.. 
Seriously though.. I didn't know "the mating ritual: was a contest and one had to "win" something.. which, of course implies that there will be a loser somewhere is all of it. Perhaps I'm taking your comment too literally??
*smiles* Good point regarding the predicament of the lesbian community, Margo.. Perhaps I'll infiltrate a lesbian chat room and see how they charter the "Why some women want their woman" to come to them"  | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 2:19:04 PM | Wishes Granted
No need to infiltrate unless for other reasons
All types of relationships of the romantic kind have the same dynamics - perhaps what lays at the core is that we are human, same emotions and responses only attraction is different. | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 2:20:09 PM |
While your there...........Don't "****foot" Around !
Aye, Aye.. No d!cking around.. will be had .. Strickly bizzness. *salutes*
On Edit.. to True Samauri: Yes.. but according to the "mating ritual" (snorts) both the "lady" cats will be rolling around enticing and a teasin and neither one will ever make the first move. | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 2:21:23 PM | lol...
to post on "The problem with Sagittarian men" thread just to stir things up, lol.
You could. I would say "surprise" him. They hate being bored. But, they have a wicked wit. Could be entertaining. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2009 2:31:10 PM | ^^^ I'll ask the lesbians what they think about the sagittarian men. or, should I ask the gay men that question> ??? rats, I can't take the pressure.. You're on your own.
*What page are we on???
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Posted: 9/29/2009 2:49:05 PM | Why would a "libra" want to know? .. I'll let you weigh your anwer .. .
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 2:57:25 PM |
Seriously though.. I didn't know "the mating ritual: was a contest and one had to "win" something.. which, of course implies that there will be a loser somewhere is all of it. Perhaps I'm taking your comment too literally??
Of course you are!
Sucks when you try to manipulate the "game" and you lose.
Now, let's pick apart the word "game". Let's see ~
Game: A game is a structured activity, usually undertaken for enjoyment. Key components of games are goals, rules, challenge, and interaction. Games generally involve mental or physical stimulation, and often both. Many games help develop practical skills, serve as a form of exercise, or otherwise perform an educational, simulational or psychological role.
Gameplayer: A person who enters into the game and plays to win with the best of his ability. According to Chris Crawford (whoever he is), the requirement for player interaction puts activities such as jigsaw puzzles and solitaire "games" into the category of puzzles rather than games.
In meeting and dating, it is player interaction -hence a game. If you can't get it, are alone all of the time, then it becomes "solitaire" or a "puzzle". 
Game Plan: Ahhh strategy. Go online dating and get a profile review and then go on the forum to learn what to do about connecting with the opposite gender. Prepare for level 10 assault on your preconceived thinking. Lose any innocence you ever had and it is boot camp as far as being over sensitive.
Game: Wildlife that is hunted. Women? Men? If men just sat there and waited, they would be hunted out fast and extinct pretty soon. Does, I mean women, are left alone for most of the time as they are valued and protected.
Ante up. | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:32:36 PM |
Sucks when you try to manipulate the "game" and you lose.
Can't you see, she's just playing games
Her fantasy, she's just playing games
Now the tables have turned
And you're feeling like you should
Now I know, ooh I know, how it goes
But I never understood
She's a wolf in sheeps' clothing, you know
And it's time to make her play
All the games she's been playing with you
Can't you see, she's just playing games
Her fantasy, she's just playing games
You started something
Or maybe you tried
But you had it coming
And I got you under my thumb
Starting something
I'll settle the score
I'm owing nothing
I'm out the door
You've got her on her knees and you know
You've got one thing that she needs
Should it be that she's losing control
Can't you see, she's just playing games
Her fantasy, she's just playing games
... Courtesy of Loudness "Just Playing Games"
In the type of manipulation (game) you describe .. You can only lose if you THINK you have .. | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:36:22 PM | Moose not wait for doe to approach him. Moose scratch ballz and Moose have all doe's Moose want.
Sag Moose da best.
vvv Doe speak now. | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:40:31 PM | ^^ hmm... couldn't handle us gals talking 'bout your saggy balls behind your back, eh?
Isn't it kinda hard to scratch dem balls when they are in someone's purse, dear? Oh wait, I forgot, it's only the men who don't approach women who have their ballzz in a purse. I keep getting this stuff confused. | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:44:08 PM | You Dame right It's Margo Stand back boys she's coming through!
hhmm... couldn't handle us gals talking 'bout your saggy balls behind your back, eh?
Isn't it kinda hard to scratch Dem balls when they are in someones purse, dear?
Brilliant a great 2 liner I cut and pasted for future reference.
To funny | |
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Posted: 9/29/2009 3:46:39 PM | I'll pose that question in the gay men's chat room... I bet they'll have the answer about whose ballzz are in whose purse... BRB
BTW: Moose ballzzzzz is a gourmet delicasy in Northern Ontario. Best keep yur sweety down south .. ;0) | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:48:48 PM | Moose ballzzzzz is a gourmet delicasy in Northern Ontario.
Trust me, wishes, moose ballzzzz is a gourmet delight anywhere I go.
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:50:50 PM | | Why women want guys to come to THEM....cuz they want to lure them in and abscond with their prairie oysters (if you live in the west...aka moose ballzzzz if you live in the east). | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:55:23 PM | Holy guacomole batgirl,
DBB and Chame!!!
Hey, yooose guys are still here...and teaching me new phrases...kewl
Hi ya!
Irish
ot...cause we still keep coming to them...sheesh...ya'd think at this stage in the game we'd have learned better.... | |
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| Why women want guys to come to THEM
Posted: 9/29/2009 3:55:48 PM |
want to lure them in and abscond with their prairie oysters (if you live in the west...aka moose ballzzzz if you live in the east).
Margo!!!!! Chameleon is trying to abscond with my moose ballz.
Hey, chameleon, how come you don't look different each time you post?
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