| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/17/2009 11:14:41 PM | The reason I'm single is the last guy I dated told me, after asking all the supposed right questions ... he had issues ... I said we all have issues ... but he'd fallen in love with me and didn't know what to do ... he wanted me to know he was finally willing to share his issues with me ... a 17 year common law relationship and a 13 year old son that keeps them together, an he's just the sofa king ... honesty from the start would have been much more appreciated but thas not how he rolls...didn't want to be "da other woman" and here I am...    can't do much worse | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/17/2009 11:15:48 PM | The reasons that I am single
*Most of the women that i have dated want to live their life in the clubs and bars
*Some of the women that I went out with smoked or did drugs which is a major no, no in my book
*Most single women nowadays have 2 or 3 kids and in my case I would rather date someone without kids
*Some of the women that I have dated didn't want kids and in my case I would love to have a little girl or boy someday.
*I have not met any quality single women
*All except 1 woman that I have met online and on a chatline prior had lied about their looks, which is a major turnoff. Who want to date a liar.
*Most of the women that I have dated before trying the dating services were at the clubs and bars and in my case I hate the bars and clubs with a passion so therefor I do not go to them. And since I don't do the bar nor club scene anymore it make it a lot harder to meet single women. | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 5:23:42 AM | It would be nice if they told me why they aren't interested. Heck, it's common courtesy to at least respond with something like. "No thanks, I'm not interested in going out because of this reason". Blah blah blah, you get the idea.
Actually it's not common courtesy to get a reason why someone doesn't have any interest. What you want is a yes or no so you can continue or move on. Expecting reasons why is just looking to get your feelings hurt, and it does you no good anyway, since different women like different things.
Since a non response is a "no" all you need to do is move on...
Get a profile review, look up information about writing messages, and have good clear pics....and of course look more offline than on, so you don't depend too much on dating sites. | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 5:52:50 AM | | I have dated and enjoyed the relationships that came from that but, with maybe one or two exceptions, no one has invited me to form a deeper bond. Oddly, that happened too often when I was married. I was not about to do anything that would have hurt my wife. I suppose I need to learn more about myself. Who knows? | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:04:59 PM | Watching It All wrote:
I am single because I need to feel 100% safe and secure. As soon as a man opens his mouth and talks for about five minutes or so I feel unsafe.
I missed the "about five minutes" part, and just read it as as soon as he opens his mouth - then I'd say the only real fear is if there's severe enough halitosis that you run the risk of losing consciousness! 
Sorry, I don't mean to make light of potentially serious situations, but my initial misreading just lent itself to that conclusion!
womaninprogress wrote:
Since a non response is a "no" all you need to do is move on...
I was about to object to this, but then I realized that I actually don't know if I agree or disagree with it.
On the other hand, what are your thoughts about after meeting or a first date if no reason, explanation, or anything is given? One might say tepid responses or no further communication is a "no" - but then again, I know women object quite strenuously when the man doesn't get back in touch. | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:23:35 PM | Jess,
I'm with u on that one i wont settle for anything less till i get what i want my MR RIGHT!
In a dating book I read (written by a woman), in order to find a Mr or Mrs Right, YOU need to be a Mr or Mrs Right, too. It goes both ways. Many times people have the perspective of the world revolving around themselves: "I'm me, this is who I am, I don't change, blah blah". Well, not necessarily. You don't change for people for THEM and them alone, you change for the betterment of yourself, which ends up making you a better commodity because you're a better person. Not directing this at -you-, but a food-for-thought for everyone.
Also, sometimes we can be a great person, but not "fully suitable for a relationship at this moment".
Being single is not "a loss", "lacking something required for fulfilment", "a void"... or like being unemployed. Makes me roll my eyes when people take that position, and that's why the question "Why are you single" is a silly one if asked out of the blue. You mine as well ask "Why are you married?", another odd question. Being non-single in general shouldn't be a goal. That means having a relationship is one's first priority, and second priority is the "who". No other reasoning or claims to self-described pickiness can trump that if one sees being non-single as a goal.
I see the first priority as the "who", and there's nothing "wrong" or "lacking" being single when there is no "who". It isn't until you find someone you connect really well with that you should want to be non-single -- with them, after you've gotten to the point of knowing them well enough. | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:36:50 PM | Well reading through all the pages I think everything has been said my biggest thing is, when u r browsing online trying to make a couple of friends and I mean that in a platonic way ppl are still really shallow about talking to u. I read a post about not getting a reply or not. To me if you do get a reply even if is a "no thanks I am not interested"atleast the person is taking the time to acknowledge u noticed them. I have read through profile again on the friends search and on a lot of the profiles that women post it states they are up front and honest so why not tell em ur not interested u would have to if u were apporached out on the street right??
I guess I am single because I have murphys law sydrome lol. I have tried to talk to ppl online and ib person and nobody will acknowledge me. So what is wrong here?? To many past judgments with women I.e. Past relationships. Again I am single because ppl are shallow and are to busy to take the time to know someone for who they are instead of what they look like. | |
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| So why are u single we all have our storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 5:35:54 PM | I'm single because my ex and I moved in together, roughly an hour from where we grew up, so I could go back to college and work full time. She got mad that I expected her to clean up after herself (considering I was at a full time college course and full time employment I didn't think that was too much to ask). We lived together for a year, then she cheated on me and moved to Ottawa with the other guy (who I thought was a friend of mine up until he did that). That was after nearly 6 years together.
Also I find it incredibly hard to meet new people. Online I don't get responses and I'm one of the shy ones that's really bad at talking to new people in the "real world" | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 6:17:23 PM |
when u r browsing online trying to make a couple of friends and I mean that in a platonic way ppl are still really shallow about talking to u.
This is a dating website.
(a) Friends, a statistical majority of the time on a dating website, means FWB, regardless of what you "say"
(b) Otherwise, it could mean platonic -- this is NOT a platonic website -- they don't owe you attention anyway. | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 6:24:55 PM |
I was about to object to this, but then I realized that I actually don't know if I agree or disagree with it.
On the other hand, what are your thoughts about after meeting or a first date if no reason, explanation, or anything is given? One might say tepid responses or no further communication is a "no" - but then again, I know women object quite strenuously when the man doesn't get back in touch.
No explanation for what exactly? I'm not sure what you're asking. At the end of a meeting if I like a guy (and yes, that's what I worry about - I don't care if he likes me or not...) I will let him know that I'm open to meeting again. He can take it from there or not, so if I don't hear from him again I assume he doesn't agree.
Either that or I got a guy too nervous or intimidated to toss the ball back and a guy like that's not my type. I don't expect them always to initiate, but once we've met and gone out, he's gotta be able to take it from there. | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 6:34:53 PM | "Either that or I got a guy too nervous or intimidated to toss the ball back and a guy like that's not my type. I don't expect them always to initiate, but once we've met and gone out, he's gotta be able to take it from there."
well to keep wih the analogy .... if she tosses me a ball that generally ends the date cause i have a bad habit of throwing it back too hard... most women dont take kindly to a busted nose.... but hey i like the idea of making dates a full contact sport, if that was the case i may actually have a shot here !!!!!
about the only way i can feel intimidated by a woman is if i meet her and find that her definition of "average" or "slender" means that all she needs to do to win a wrestling match is sitting on me !!!!
so i guess i just found out why im still single.... dating is NOT a full contact sport !!!! damn.... | |
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| So why are u single we all have our storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:27:43 PM | I'm single because I can't find a guy who likes me and I also like him. I'm not crazy picky either. I don't know what to do anymore :/Back to the drawing board lol.
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| So why are u single we all have our storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:35:01 PM | | I guess I'm single because I don't put myself out there enough and I am a total workaholic so that puts a damper on my dating life. But even when I'm not working unseemly hours, I just don't make the effort to put myself out there. Sometimes I figure its not worth the effort and other times I figure nothing will happen no matter how much effort I put in. | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/18/2009 9:12:40 PM | azureorb: """"""""""a) Friends, a statistical majority of the time on a dating website, means FWB, regardless of what you "say""""""""""""""""""""""
That is so NOT true. That was offensive. | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/21/2009 5:58:39 PM | | I am single because I am a little picky.....I expect a guy to have a job, some intelligence, the ability to shave and wear clean clothes, and to not be a drunk. Is that too much to ask???? LOL | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:26:09 PM |
I am single because I am a little picky.....I expect a guy to have a job, some intelligence, the ability to shave and wear clean clothes, and to not be a drunk. Is that too much to ask????
Well yeah!! Need to shorten the list..such as have a job and wear clean clothes..or some intelligence and the ability to shave..or have a job and not drink too much..
*disclaimer: this post is entirely tongue in cheek, before y'all get offended. | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/21/2009 6:57:18 PM | im single because i haven't found someone who wants me for who/how i am; not saying im perfect or right for everyone, but anyone i date i want them for who they are..not who they might be.
there are lots of good women around, just not women who are a)good for me or b) that im good for; so until i find the right fit...here i am | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/22/2009 7:17:30 AM | | I'm single because I haven't found someone I feel I can be with or someone who wants the same things out of the relationship as I do. I'm not one of those girls who gets into a relationship with just anyone for the sake of not being single, I would rather remain on my own and wait for something and someone amazing than settle for whatever I can get. I could never do that to myself or the guy it's wrong to lead someone on and let them think that you feel something that you don't | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/22/2009 8:31:45 AM | I am single therefore I respond here .. I can invest because I have no flesh to invest my energies of desire into elsewhere, although I believe I met him a few days ago... not from this site ..luck showed me a connection of consequence .. and if he acts I believe we will be.. I could see the decency in this man's eyes .. something I have not seen in a long long time in someone, it blew me away to see that depth in the flesh of another .. very rare cosmic molecular unification.. when it happens, time nor physical presence is immaterial.. it just is.. . connection of two minds.. less the flesh in its highest form is very rare.. you have to have that element for the grand unification theory to just "be". When it occurs you cannot miss it . you cannot deceive yourself it is the highest calling seeing the same in another.. just blew me away...
when I act to the energy of love , given to me by my ancestors.. ... I will no longer be a pof forum poster kid .. I can adapt to creating in real life more desirably than cyber space,it is the calling of all to reach love in a higher form than who we are now .. or we would not search.. .. I believe love is better served up tangibly to act in our deeds to see in the mind of another .. that we are their one true thing.. .. our senses respond in greater appreciation to our truest part of who we are.... nothing cuts deeper than bonds born of love in action...
Being single is not an affliction .. it is a choice .. a choice made because I believe you need to "feel" that you believe in order to act on your desires for the one you believe is the one.. .. and I need that same feeling in reciprocity .... alone is so much better than bad energy... life is what you make it on a singular level to contribute to other lives .. it makes great people "feel" great.. I believe we are so much more ..and til the day I go I expect that of myself .. and search for it in others... | |
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| So why are u single we all have are storys!?!?!
Posted: 6/22/2009 10:08:46 AM |
This is a dating website.
(a) Friends, a statistical majority of the time on a dating website, means FWB, regardless of what you "say"
(b) Otherwise, it could mean platonic -- this is NOT a platonic website -- they don't owe you attention anyway.
That is an eggcelent point you bring up....! That explains a lot. Either way I shall stick around I like being in the forums.
I am single because I am not in a good position to be with anyone right now (Employment Relocation Reasons). | |
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