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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:48:09 PM | | lol, this is funny me being a man that runs around in a beard and unkempt hair I'm so used to jokes with the guys a looks diss probably wouldn't be all that bad, besides you can't really do anything about your genes, honestly I been rejected both ways so I guess get rejected by your looks is worse, atleast personality disses the person may be physically attracted to you. | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:20:32 PM | | Personality would be harder for me. I'm not sure it's happened (generally if I get rejected and do know why, it has to do with either things that have nothing to do with me, or simple incompatibility, as opposed to dislike), but I am sure it would hurt - especially if I thought they were right about whatever the specific sticking point was! Although, then it'd be a learning experience, anyway. So, still not too bad. But definitely worse than being rejected for looks. | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 3:27:54 PM | I don't care why they reject me its not important . who cares .. what i don't is some skank who doesn't care for me hanging around after she makes that decision .vacuuming my money and time while having me carry her nasty ass around looking for another guy . but I do hope every one finds some one just like them . | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 3:31:17 PM | My favorite rejection of all time. She phoned me after our date to let me know that she was not interested in dating me.
"You are a nice looking guy and I think you have an awesome personality but I don't think you are my intellectual equal"
"awesome! I am not ugly. Just stupid. I can live with that!" | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 4:47:08 PM | I have no 'looks' and there have been times in my life when I was sick of being sorta cute at best in my youth, but looks fade and man did mine fade!  You know, when you look around the most successful people are not, for the most part, at all good looking. Unless you are talking about the industries where looks even matter, and some of them still have some ugly leaders, you will notice that most people don't spend too much time trying to be beauties, most of them have talent some where else than narcissistic exposure. Even great beauties don't spend much time on it unless it's part of a job they are doing. So yeah, I could care less about someone thinking I'm not good looking, I'm not, who cares, there are much worse things to lose or not have, like intelligence or personality or drive or just being a good happy person. Looks are about as meaningless a thing to possess, to me, as being able to whistle or keep a hula hoop up, sure it would be fun but if you can't, who cares? Being rejected for my looks, no worries, being rejected as a human being, wow, that's a bit cold, but really, not my problem, I'm fine with being me.
Don't get me wrong, I love looking at beauty as much as the next person, but I don't think it's much of a reason to like or not like someone, it just is. | |
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Savona
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 7:55:40 PM | I think your profile content is your resume'.
Problem is people are not reading the profiles,the profiles are deceptive in content and or intentions, or people have the 'reality tv' mentality and are just looking for the next top model. In either case, some are missing out on great relationships, be it lovers or friends. We can modify both looks and personality to some degree, but we are...who we are.
I would rather be rejected because of my looks, I may not be gorgeous, but at least I'm not a jerk. | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:21:04 PM | | I think rejection for personality is harder for me. I don't really identify so much with my looks. In Germany I was more judged by my whole person, not the way I looked, so I never based my self-worth on my looks. But guys that get attracted to me physically usually don't like that I don't fit their expectations of what they think I should be like. So, getting rejected after initially being accepted is harder for me. | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:27:06 PM | Definitely personality. What's even worse than that is intelligence (and yes, one person actually dissed me over dinner for that reason. Oddly, I was thinking he was probably a rocket scientist in the closet......go figure.)  | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:57:12 PM |
Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Meh...neither bother me.
I get by on my looks, just fine. And when I get rejected for my personality, it already tells me all I need to know that I would not have been happy with that person anyway.
So, no biggie... | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:35:23 PM | I agree with Savona.
It is about initial attraction. I can meet someone who's drop dead goodlooking and has a great personality, but if he doesn't connect with me, it's the friend's zone...sigh.
I can meet someone who rubs me the wrong way, get into a exchange of barbed wittisms, emotions are high and I can't stand him. But, somehow we keep looking at each other across the room.
Go figure.
As far as looks? I am confident in my looks and know that it's just the attraction factor at work. | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/22/2009 12:51:38 AM | Ummmmm...it's not better or worse really, and it's probably better not to consider a non-reply as rejection as that person doesn't know you or anything about you so they can't judge properly anyway.
I think I'm in the minority of women who get virtually no messages on this site. I've tried the "normal" style of profile - likes/dislikes etc, but gave up on that so now just have a profile on here to make people laugh. I don't care anymore if I get a message or not but have stopped sending them as it's a complete waste of time, the people I encounter seem to just want to chat for weeks on end and not actually date!
Is this still a dating site I wonder or simply an extended chat room?
Needless to say I'm happy with my looks and my personality - so who cares what strangers think?
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/22/2009 4:16:13 AM | Being rejected for my looks really doesn't bother me. I'm happy with the way I look, my man seems to like me, and I realize that I'm a "type" that doesn't appeal to everyone. I've pretty much accepted that since high school.
Now, if someone doesn't like my personality, I tend to take it hard. I'm pretty confident about my ability to charm just about anyone, so when someone seems immune, I feel a bit offended. Then, I might work on getting them to like me, no matter what! I'm not as bad about that as I used to be. I've recognized it for the approval-seeking pathology that it is! | |
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| Is it worse to get rejected for your looks or your personality?
Posted: 9/22/2009 6:35:53 AM | "Reject"?? .. I don't see it as rejection .. I see it as Incompatibility.
Why doesn't matter.
My "match" will have a similar level of intelligence - so we can communicate and "get" each other. For the same reason, our sense of haha oughta be similar - I don't want to hve to explain my jokes! hehe ..
Either we are compatable or we're not. I think "rejection" is a strong, nasty word that gets too much play and (for some) can have a 'sad' effect on their self-esteem.
Sorta like going to a restaurant for dinner .. You choose the meal that appeals to your taste budds most - doesn't mean you're rejecting the roast beef dinner .. just that you prefer the fish ..
One isn't 'better' than the other .. Just Different..  | |
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