| |
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/12/2009 10:46:59 PM | It's not all bad. You should read some of the stuff I got when I asked about interracial dating. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who thinks we're all part of the same race---human. | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/12/2009 10:56:19 PM |
Do you think most of us are single becasuse we hate the opposite sex???
No. I think a lot of people are angry on the forums because they aren't immediately getting who they want, what they want, when they want it, and/or how they want it so post the perceived hating forum threads as a means to have an adult tantrum relatively anonymously (no social consequences from the people they interact with daily).
Or because they are seeking validation for their stereotypes to make them feel better about themselves. If they're going to be single, might as well surround themselves with, and look for, people that agree with why and transfer blame to others.
Although, I don't think forum posters/starters make up a significant enough portion of the single population to believe their reasons for posting equate to why single people in general are single.
And these are people who want a date???
Who knows? They may simply be telling themselves they want to date, but don't really so sabotage themselves.
They may really want to date, but have absolutely no idea how to be in any kind of relationship so revert to childish behavior. Because the last meaningful relationship was with their parents...or in grade/high school. | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:08:22 AM | you got that right Passionate Gent.
The day when I find or when she's staring at me dead in the face. That right kind of love that I'm compatible with kinda of love will be the day my dark side dies   | |
|
R2D2_1
|
Joined: 3/25/2009
Msg: 30 | |
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/13/2009 12:19:03 PM | | This site reminds me of digging through that bin of baking potatoes at the super market. You dig and dig looking for that one with the right shape, that looks fresh and doesn't have to many eyes, and you finally find it way down on the bottom of the bin. Then you take it home and it's delicious. I'm still digging and I'll find it. Either that or I'll go to a different super market and try again. | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/13/2009 2:46:41 PM | Just the opposite from my position. I am here to increase my probabilities of meeting the opposite sex. I have found that I am meeting guys that my daily life would not cross paths with just by being online. So I have to disagree that we are "all here because we hate the opposite sex".
I think what you are seeing in the forums OP are people expressing their opinions on subject matter they have had experiences with but those opinions do not make the complete person as that is just one experience out of their lives that they are sharing.
I know that the topics that I choose to post under on any given day is partly based on my mood. What can I say....I'm a female and we are motivated by emotions in my experience and the literature I read  ! | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/13/2009 7:13:45 PM | snatch_n_grab wrote:
No. I think a lot of people are angry on the forums because they aren't immediately getting who they want, what they want, when they want it
C'mon, that's not fair - I gave it a whole NINE SECONDS - so I have a right to be angry! Do you know what I could've done in that NINE SECONDS I wasted??!?!!! How long is this supposed to freakin' take??? 
Sorry, just couldn't resist b@$tardizing some bit from a stand-up comedian I saw once. | |
|
| |
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/14/2009 8:08:23 AM | I bet, in truth, very few are here because the 'hate' the opposite sex.
By the nature of what it is...a forum....it's a place to 'write' about experiences, share experiences...and...let's face it...all experiences aren't' happy happy.
And there is a lot of back and forth...and niggley little showing of teeth now and again..(but, I think they're really just misguided love bites in disguise.)
Mostly, it's just regular humans describing their experiences ....which really makes it quite real, in my way of thinking, even if someone is 'pisssed off' ....it's real. And, hey, it's a lot more fun than reading a report....or 'study' about the differences between, the wars between the sexes.
Some people are just inherently bitter and prone to hate no matter what....but that's anywhere...so you might find a smattering of that here and there. eh....it shouldn't get anyone that bunched up....really.
So, there may be a war , or a struggle going on...at times...we learn a lot from adversity.....but my guess is that by far the Vast majority on here actually do feel great Love for the opposite sex........and since love is such a misunderstood concept, at times....well, we might need to bring out the band'-aids every now and again.
it's still the best reality show on the Web....
just say No to Hate
regards
Kimbo************************************ | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/14/2009 9:23:32 AM | | I'm here in the forums because I'm frequently bored, and am trying to expand my "relational education". I LOVE women (and some of them love me). I have better luck, though, meeting them in person. This website doesn't do me full justice. | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:43:31 AM | Is someone being mean to you?
I think I just read a post where you tore into a beautiful woman because of her picture.
If you are going to be mean to women that's what you are going to get back.
If she wants to post a pic in her bikini back off, that is her choice and it is more tasteful than that scowl you have on your face. | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:07:58 AM | Is someone being mean to you?
I think I just read a post where you tore into a beautiful woman because of her picture.
If you are going to be mean to women that's what you are going to get back.
If she wants to post a pic in her bikini back off, that is her choice and it is more tasteful than that scowl you have on your face.
No nobody is being mean to me. I was talking about hating in general like for ALL women or for ALL men. The stuff your talking about was a reaction to a comment that lady made TO me ABOUT me and I was usig her bickini as a example of how she was using the game of everbody wanting to look like Angela Joley and Brad Pitt. Any body cna do what ever they want in there pictures (accept there are some rules for that!!!). I don't think I tore into her to use your words. Sorry you don't like my pic but its a free country and you don't have to go out with some one with my scowl. Good luck fisihing to you.
And from your pictures I would say you are a beutiful women and should have no problems finding a great guy! So put tht in your pipe and smoke it! | |
|
| |
| |
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:45:41 AM | I don't think they hate the opposite sex, they hate the rejection and games they encounter along the way. I've talked to a few men here who seem like they hate women yet swear they love them.
Stay in this pond long enough and some get bitter. Bet one good match would change their tune. | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 10/27/2009 8:48:32 PM | I think what starts to get to people is:
- putting up with game playing from people who state that they don't play games.
- putting up with dishonesty from people who state they are honest and don't appreciate liars
- dealing with players who said they don't want a player
etc etc
If you've got JUST the right sort of twist to your point of view, though, seeing people engaging in such hypocrisy can be absolutely hilarious. Irritating when you've been on the receiving end, but bizarrely hilarious. | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 10/27/2009 10:01:17 PM | I belong to the EOHC... Equal Opportunity Hater Commission. I don't just hate men... I hate women too! JK.
It is entirely plausible to me how someone can hate the entirety of the opposite gender and yet seek to date them... because they seek to 'use' a member of the opposite gender to serve some nefarious purpose like ego boost/rocks off/prove something etc.
YAY! | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 10/28/2009 1:15:59 AM | For the most part, neither all of POF nor the forums section is full of people who "hate" the opposite sex. Let's just assume 98.9% of the people here actually like the opposite sex. It's dating that they hate. Or more to the point, their lack of success in dating.
If you're being contacted by people that interest you, if you're able to make contact and have a communication with people that interest you, if you go on dates on a regular basis and they're either nice times that don't go anywhere or you've become involved with someone....why would you start a thread here complaining about anything? You wouldn't.
BUT if you are getting no responses, or no one is responding to your first contacts, or you go on a string of ill-advised dates, or find yourself having a constantly bad time on dates....chances are pretty good you'll find a reason to start a thread, wailing away. You may just limit it to your own pity party, or you may extend it to everyone in a certain demographic (men, over 40, never-married...etc.).
Some people have had bad luck, sure. Others are in a fix due to age and/or location. That sucks too. But a fair number of people are their own worst enemy, not that it ever occurs to them. There's the old standby of guys who think that ALL women want is tall and rich men. There are women who think MOST men on this site are perverts or ex-cons or actually married. Some people can't help but throw out questions that are either completely pathetic ("She hasn't talked to me in three weeks-does this mean she's not interested?"), unanswerable ("When he said I was nice, does that mean he really likes me?"), or ones that they already know the answer to but can't resist a moment on the collective couch for support and attention ("We slept together and now he hasn't called me since then- was he just looking for sex?").
But, honestly, it's why some of us keep reading these things. Like a car crash, we can't turn away. | |
|
| |
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 10/29/2009 8:01:43 PM | Yea it does sound like that, but for the most part people write to release stings that were inflicted upon them. It isn't so much generalized but rather stigmiazed to an experience.
The best form of getting over something or if you need to rationalize something is to write it down and or talk about it. Here in forums you can do both!!!
So really....forums are a form of free therapy. I do not normally post in forums, I am more of a therapist....LMAO
(MR SmartFUN) Very well conversed......I like your hypothesis | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 10/29/2009 9:01:52 PM | And that amillio is why there are so many angry people in here. Lack of respect, common courtesy. You would think as adults we would treat each other decently yet some/most treat each other like garbage with no concern for their feelings.
People are crucified in these forums for everything under the sun. Appearance, habits, beliefs, on and on. No one is good enough. No one deserves one minute of our time if they don't appeal to us.
Sad when I see adults treating each other worse than we would allow our children to treat their friends. | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 10/29/2009 9:15:23 PM | Not at all.. I happen to ADORE the opposite sex.. My favorite gender to kiss, to talk with, to insert in.. to please.. to spend time with..
I just wont settle for someone bitter or feeling entitled. | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:01:25 AM | | What a question! Can you see how you are contributing to the extension of the problem by the way you asked it? I mean what if we said 'yup-thats why I'm here, bc I hate the opposite sex!' How would that help rectify things?? Geesh! Personally, I think the word 'All'-followed by the word 'men' or the word 'women' should be banned as thread topics! | |
|
| are we all here because we hate the opposite sex???
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:49:40 AM | I won't ever pay for a girl on the first date...i think in the day A guy should be a gentleman, but nowadays F that. If she likes me then she'll go out with me again, if not then even if I offer to pay the 2nd date odds are she'll just pass.
perfect weeding out method.
I wish people could just be honest, guys and girls. I don't hate women, I hate the games I have to play to keep them interested...like not calling or txting for 3 days after we meet...otherwise they think OOOH he's clingy? wtf no maybe i'm just genuinely wanting to say HI and be nice "hope you have a great day" put a smile on someone you likes face. NOPE thats needy and clingy. Then you have to limit the amount of times you call or make contact with her. Cant show any sort of compassion or feeling or you are EMOTIONAL..
it's stupid. I hate that. | |
|
| |
Home
login 
