As for the bad boys and players, their behavior is rewarded. Why should they change?

Yeah, they may be back on the market, but will another experience like getting jerked around by some alligator in high heels change them from decent to overly cautious?- and after the next time, from overly cautious to jaded?- and from jaded to aggressive and abusive?
Life is a learning experience ladies, so don't be shocked that some men are learning what you are teaching...

Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?

Why is it that when a woman thinks this way about the male gender, most people will just shrug their shoulders and think oh well she is having a hard time. In other words she will still be socially accepted

But when a man is thinking this negative about the female gender, he has issues, he hates women, he hates his mum, he is not normal, or his attitude is the fault and not the women. And with that, he will be a social outcast.

What it comes down to is that when a man is negative, it's his fault and he needs to change but when it's a woman who is negative, there is only a very small minority out there who would consider it being her fault and she having to change.

When will social equality prevail?

An estimated 7% of women and 6% of men in a current or previous spousal relationship encountered spousal violence during the five years up to and including 2004, according to a comprehensive new report on family violence.

The report, which uses data from the 2004 General Social Survey (GSS), showed that the overall five-year rate of spousal violence has remained unchanged at 7% since 1999. This means that an estimated 653,000 women and 546,000 men encountered some form of violence by a current or previous spouse or common-law partner.

In cases of current relationships in which emotional abuse existed, 25% of women and 19% of men experienced violence. Examples of emotional abuse include being isolated from family and friends, having no access to family income, or having property or possessions destroyed.

In contrast, in current relationships where there was no emotional abuse, 1% of women and 2% of men experienced violence.

DURHAM, N.H. -- A 32-nation study of violence against dating partners by university partners found that about a third had been violent, and most incidents of partner violence involve violence by both the man and woman, according to Murray Straus, founder and co-director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire. The second largest category was couples where the female partner was the only one to carry about physical attacks, not the male partner.

Straus’ new research also found that dominance by the female partner is even more closely related to violence by women than is male dominance. These results call into question the widely held belief that partner violence is primarily a male crime and that when women are violent it is self defense.

“In the 35 years since I began research on partner violence, I have seen my assumptions about prevalence and etiology contradicted by a mass of empirical evidence from my own research and from research by many others,” Straus said. “My view on partner violence now recognizes the overwhelming evidence that women assault their partners at about the same rate as men. However, when women are violent, the injury rate is lower.”

Straus will present his controversial research at the Trends in Intimate Violence Intervention conference in New York City May 22-25, 2006. This research is part of the International Dating Violence Study, a multinational study of violence against dating partners by university students. A consortium of researchers around the world collected data from 13,601 students at 68 universities in 32 nations.

In the paper, Straus calls for an end to the focus on men as the only perpetrators of dating violence, saying the refusal to recognize the multi-causal nature of the problem is hampering the effort to end domestic violence and ignoring half the perpetrators. As recently as December 2005, the National Institute of Justice refused to consider applications for funding that dealt with male victims.

“Changes in policy that acknowledge men are not the only perpetrators of partner violence are needed immediately,” Straus said. “It is time to make the prevention and treatment effort one that is aimed at ending all family violence, including spanking children, not just violence against women.”

Straus is the author or co-author of more than 200 publications, including "Beating the Devil Out Of Them: Corporal Punishment By American Parents and Its Effects on Children." More information on the International Dating Violence Study and papers reporting results are available at http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/.

What it comes down to is that when a man is negative, it's his fault and he needs to change but when it's a woman who is negative, there is only a very small minority out there who would consider it being her fault and she having to change.

No man wants to admit that their gender has major problems.

A real man knows that there are a large percentage of men are down right sick.