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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/12/2009 7:21:53 PM | I believe I am a good man and definately not taken. Just been shot down so much, that I'm a little 'gun shy' is all.
It is not bad for a woman to take the lead in some instances. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/12/2009 7:35:03 PM | OP,
I'm sure some decent guys are probably gay but their not all taken. Beleive me guys say the same thing about women. Either taken or gay, or total pyscho, which I'm sure applies to guys too.
Anyway, I'm not suprised that your hard press to find a guy that knows what they want in their early 20's because they don't. I'm 28, I dated girl whom was 25 and she turned out that she just wanted to have fun. You could always date an older guy.
In reality, your young, have fun. I'm really suprised that guys aren't just falling over you to get your attention.
Thats just my 2 cents. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/12/2009 8:11:43 PM | | I have a fair amount of single male friends and they all say the same thing you do - where have all the good women gone. I think that, today, more than ever, people in general seem to be much more guarded and aren't as openly friendly as they could be. Good people ARE out there. They're all over the place. But at your age, I wouldn't be too worried about it. But looking for guys for you (in their 20s) I doubt you're going to find a guy mature enough to handle a relationship. Most guys don't really begin to really mature until they're at least in their 30s. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/12/2009 9:20:48 PM |
I'm sure there are plenty of decent guys out there. But I'm willing to bet you passed a lot of them by because you were not attracted to them so now your being negative on all men because of it.
I agree with this. The OP I am sure had a a lot of nice good guys who wanted to go out with her...and like most typical women..she didn't want them..and now that she has been used by a few guys for sex mostly and whatever else..she is now bitter and wants to get back to the "nice guy"...now she realized the mistake she made..
A lot of women are like this....luckily you dint get pregnant..that would have made your dating life a lot harder... | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/12/2009 10:44:43 PM | | LMAO...Thanks for the laugh. Your blog brought a tears to my eye (I am still laughing)....I know there are good ones out there. It's just like sift through the chaff to find the wheat. Thanks for playing..... | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/12/2009 11:29:36 PM |
I understand that everybody knows what they like but your never going to get everything in a single package.
I disagree. Depends on what you want in the package, but it's totally possible to find it all in one package. If it's not, then I guess I'll pass on my shipment. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 12:27:09 AM | | Well I think some woman are nuts and I would like to find one that’s not so nuts. A woman who appreciates the time and effort we guys take to dine and wine you. I’m a sweet nice caring guy and well when I really like a woman I pull all the stops. The nice restaurant, the concert, and then some dancing. I tried every avenue to find someone who I really liked. I found that someone one day, we talked for a couple of hours to get to know each other we made a connection and made out. I made a date with her for the next day but she decided I was not good enough for her and sent me a text saying she did not want to date me. Like I said women are nuts... I was a perfect knight and shining armor (decent guy) but she did not take. So your answer is yes we still do exist. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 12:50:17 AM | | I know for a fact that alot of guys that I would happily date are married. Many of them are the dads at the school or even guys I see up at the local shops. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 2:49:32 AM | i tell ya some times....
if your a nice guy she thinks your gay. If your laid back she thinks your a doormat. if you have an opinion your an a$$.
Some days i think it would be a heck of a lot easier just grab my dog, my gun and my shine. Then proceed to build myself a cabin in the back woods and become a hermit.
if i didn't have this thing called "hope" i probably would have already. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:06:44 AM | They're all taken! I got the last good one! Mwahahaha! 
But seriously OP, you're still young, and guys in your age group need a few more years before they can be considered real people. j/k 
Also, I hope you were kidding about the David Beckham standard, because, while I don't personally find him all that appealing, you have to realize that someone with his looks and status is more than likely going to find a famous pop star to date/marry, not just another pretty girl on an online dating site.
Just be patient, and try messaging guys whose profiles you find attractive. That's how I got my guy- and trust me, he's a keeper!
Alternatively, you can always venture over to one of the many "nice-guy" threads, and find numerous fellas who will be happy to worship the ground you walk on and let you get away with anything and everything.  | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:40:39 AM | | See I think your all missing the point. Women say the want a nice guy ,talk to the nice guys but never date them always find something wrong with them. then they date the bad boy and get hurt talk again about dating a nice guy its a cycle. I know this use to be the bad boy before I got married never had a problem. After my divorce I looked at life differently and know I'm the nice guy,good job,and no drama. It alls boils down to I like myself now before I didn't. How can you luv someone else if you don't like yourself thats the bad boy curse they don'tlike themselves. On the other hand when you become comfortable with yourself it scares women away. Everyone think about that because thats what it is. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 4:48:13 AM | | I NO ITS A SAD STATE OF AFFAIRS, COME TO WALES WERE RESPECT AND HONESTY STILL MEAN SOMETHING, WERE MEN ARE MEN AND SHEEP ARE NERVOUS LOL, ONLY JOKING HUN, WHATS IT ALL COMING TO AND WERE IS IT ALL GOING TO END, TAKE CARE CANT IMAGINE YOU BEING ON YOUR OWN 4 LONG,MY ANSWER IS DONT TRY SO HARD, ALL GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT X | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:55:36 AM | I believe the foundation to a good relationship is give and take. In the modern day of gender equality women are allowed to both ask and accept invites. Blokes too. How many ladies have tried asking fellas instead of just sitting there?
p.s. "you can't make an omelette without breaking eggs" | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 5:23:19 AM |
So I guess I'm talking beyond decent. David Beckham decent. Maybe my standards are too high and that's my problem.
I didn't see this the first time around until someone else said something...seriously??? I guess he's better than Brad Pitt. Way to shoot yourself in the foot girlie. That's funny and sad that you honestly believe that's the standard of man you should be seeking. That type of man's not even attainable to women in his circle...lol. And guys on POF who are writing the OP telling her that you're a good man--good luck with that. She has told most of ya'll you ain't up to snuff and ya won't be. Save your emails and begging--if you're not "David Beckham decent" then leave her alone. You won't ever be what she wants.
BE in a relationship with me, put effort into it, and if you meet someone else, like I said before, THAT'S THAT. We go our separate ways.
This takes 2. You need to speak up and flat out ask BEFORE YOU SLEEP WITH HIM what you all are doing. Be clear about what his objective is. Realize that just because you spend time with someone, go away with them and sleep with them that they do NOT owe you the "official girlfriend" thing. You're under some delusion that time spent together will qualify as BF/GF time. And you're learning that ain't so. If you are dealing with someone and you don't open your mouth BEFORE you get naked to ask about this--and I say this to you, simply because you're whining about it--then don't expect them to shout out to the world that you're his GF. If you can be with him and have the expectation of enjoying things then great. A MONTH of sex and whatever doesn't always mean relationship.
Why is it that NO GUYS seem capable of understanding/doing that?
I hope you feel better and hope that you realize you've tarred all men with your sad standards. There are men who are quite capable of giving you what you want but...
1) they don't have the looks and body of a British soccer star who doesn't play soccer enough to be a soccer star but he can sure model some undies
2) they don't have that money or those connections
3) they're probably older than what YOU want to date and therefore not interesting to you
Again, men on POF who are going on and on about being nice and decent...here she is. BUT if ya don't "bend it like Beckham" you can't get in the door! | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 5:36:39 AM |
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
WTF????????
What I've read mostly is total nonsense. A relationship is a big commitment and don't settle for anything less than the reality of your dream.
I agree!!!
OP had one experience with a guy she claims to be gay then starts an idiotic thread that shows her ignorance..... | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 8:27:05 AM |
I'm sure there are plenty of decent guys out there. But I'm willing to bet you passed a lot of them by because you were not attracted to them so now your being negative on all men because of it. I agree with this. The OP I am sure had a a lot of nice good guys who wanted to go out with her...and like most typical women..she didn't want them..and now that she has been used by a few guys for sex mostly and whatever else..she is now bitter and wants to get back to the "nice guy"...now she realized the mistake she made.. A lot of women are like this....luckily you dint get pregnant..that would have made your dating life a lot harder...
Made a mistake doing what? Not taking pity on a man she never wanted to see naked? Not keeping someone around she'd never be serious about? If a woman isn't attracted to a guy, there's nothing to regret and go back looking for. Attraction is the end of the line - if it ain't there, there's nothing to regret besides a possible friendship with someone who'd get drunk and ask you out every two months.
Choosing not so great guys over guys that have their ish together is one thing, but if the attraction ain't there, it ain't there.
I also firmly believe that no one knows what these women go on to do in life. I'm sure it's rewarding to envision them having a crappy life as a result of not being attracted to you, but it's unrealistic to assume any other guy she dates will treat her badly, and that if one does she'll immediately think of you. It's pretty entertaining to watch some of the stories these men tell about karma tho...so thanks for the good read. | |
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