| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 8:33:50 AM | | Wow, firstly no there are plenty uf us good decent men that meet your criteria...almost all decent men are available at one time or another have you seen the divorce rates.........besides you are only 23, I dont know to many 23 year old men out there that are ready to settle down ...change it back to dating and go from there... | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 8:39:51 AM |
Made a mistake doing what? Not taking pity on a man she never wanted to see naked? Not keeping someone around she'd never be serious about? If a woman isn't attracted to a guy, there's nothing to regret and go back looking for. Attraction is the end of the line - if it ain't there, there's nothing to regret besides a possible friendship with someone who'd get drunk and ask you out every two months.
Choosing not so great guys over guys that have their ish together is one thing, but if the attraction ain't there, it ain't there.
I also firmly believe that no one knows what these women go on to do in life. I'm sure it's rewarding to envision them having a crappy life as a result of not being attracted to you, but it's unrealistic to assume any other guy she dates will treat her badly, and that if one does she'll immediately think of you. It's pretty entertaining to watch some of the stories these men tell about karma tho...so thanks for the good read.
The mistake she made was that she blew off the 'nice" guys who liked her..and then went for different types of guys who she had sex with..and now she realized that they just used her for sex..now she is running back asking "where are all the nice guy"..how many times do we hear women asking that question?..MANY...a lot of women do that..especially older women but younger ones do it too..when they have been used and abused by the "bad guys"..they retort to start looking for the "nice guys"..i may be wrong and Op may not admit it..but i am pretty sure she is one of those girls who have been used for sex a few times and then the guy disappears... | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 8:52:46 AM | ^^^If all the guys she blew off she wasn't attracted to, the fact that they were nice was incidental - plenty of attractive men are also nice, BTW. If she's wondering where nice guys are that she has attraction to, then she's basically not guilty of getting rid of anyone.
You're assuming that she had any interest/attraction to these men. I am sure if she did she would have done something about it.
Again, nice is a trait required to be considered as human, it's not a bonus and it has nothing to do with attraction and chemistry. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 9:08:23 AM | In my opinion, decent men INCLUDE men we'd like to sleep with. So I guess I'm talking beyond decent. David Beckham decent. Maybe my standards are too high and that's my problem.
I think you answered your own question. Very few men would met this requirement. The men that do will have plenty of other women that are interested in them. Sometimes being extremely picky or having very high standards can be a dealbreaker to a man even if he matches what you want. I think people who are extremely picky about who they date often ( not always ) are very demanding and hard to please in general. Or they are going after people who bring "more to the table" than they do. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:17:42 AM |
I think people who are extremely picky about who they date often ( not always ) are very demanding and hard to please in general. Or they are going after people who bring "more to the table" than they do.
I believe this statement to be very true for a lot of people that complain about not finding good, decent people to date. It's ok to be picky - as long as you have the same qualities to bring to the relationship that you are being picky about. Nobody likes to carry someone else through life, they just want the company whether life's treating them good or bad. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:28:30 AM | Clasical wicked shoe theorem
Girl gets 100 pairs of dubious shoes thrust under her nose. (100 emails)
Girl bemoans the content whiny style.
Girl requires a new pair of shoes (actual shoes)
Girl visits many shoe shops, a great many shoes shops.
Girl chooses from a gabillion million shoes she went to the actual bother of looking at - real choice.
Thus in theory many a girl, not all, hold in higher esteem the action of picking a new pair of shoes as opposed to the complete apathetic inaction of choosing ones true love and have the brazen cheek to whine about it.
No wonder Iam tottering doon to the shop for that bottle of wine again | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:30:44 AM | Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
i'm starting to really believe that it is.
It's true. The only heterosexuals males left are us ***holes. Deal with it.
And some have no trouble getting dates, or being in relationships.
Deal with that as well.. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 12:17:54 PM | turned out to be a gay guy who just really wanted to marry a woman and have a family.
wait a second here, so if a guy just wants to settle down and marry a (woman) and have a family he's now considered a homo?
PLEASE tell me thats NOT what your saying. That's several levels of messed up thinking right there.  | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 12:56:15 PM | look im ugly as ****, im not gay. that being said, im still a good guy. well i think im a a good guy. not all the guys are ***holes. me for instance, im no player im not a ladys man at all. i have trouble talking to women. all my life i wanted to be a mma fighter. since i was 2 i wanted to fight. i must be a violent person right? the hell with you. im not. but because i tell the truth about what i like in my profile, i get shit from girls, most wont even message me back to say **** off. it just sucks that people cant be more understanding.
id like a chance with a nice atractive woman, not all guys or girls are the same. and i want to settle down, just not right yet. im going after my dream and god himself cant stop me. but a girl would be welcome in my life, im not despreate but i really want some female company. well maby alittle despreate. but i dont want a ****ing wam bam. or just a friend. i want someone thats going to love me and be honest and loyal. because thats the way i am. o yea and oppisites attract, so wtf do people not talk to me because i dont like the same music or same anything as them? i never did youga or im not a vegetarian, but i would try to do it. you get my point i think. its ****ing hard to meet even mrs right know theese days. let alone mrs right. no im babbleing so ill shut up. im not gay, or a ***hole. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 1:19:27 PM |
In my opinion, decent men INCLUDE men we'd like to sleep with. So I guess I'm talking beyond decent. David Beckham decent. Maybe my standards are too high and that's my problem...
Power = responsibility Are you sure you are ready or even want that responsibility?
You're not in love with a man, you're in love with power. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 2:48:44 PM | I looked at your profile OP. You have very little about yourself written, but plenty of requirements necessary in a partner. Indecent men won't read your profile and will message simple because you are decent looking. Decent men will read your profile, see nothing of interest to write to you about, and move on to profiles with women that are a bit more interesting.
Its fine to have standards, but you don't need to dwell so much on them in your profile. The people you are trying to filter out will still message you since they didn't read your profile to begin with. The guys you might be interested could possibly think you're too picky, uninteresting, or high maintenance and not bother messaging you.
Think of it this way, there are plenty of walls and barriers you put up to prevent people from messaging you. There's almost nothing in to attract people and make people want to message you. You'll attract more flies with honey instead of vinegar.
Also, having nickelback on you profile is huge minus points. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:02:35 PM | | Travian, many women might find your profile of no interest, ever think about that? to say that decent men will find nothing of interest to write to her about sounds like a generalization, and the word decent is very subjective. Are you the official POF profile reviewer? | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:21:08 PM | I think Travian might be onto something here. Since she says nothing about herself except about where she lives, what possible attraction could be generated from her profile? He is not being overly critical. I believe his assessment is bang on. What would you call a guy who messaged based on where she lives and what she looks like?
There are common enough criticisms of guys who contact women based on nothing. So when a decent man sees there is nothing and passes, how can fault be found with that? You don't still have that Guys-Message-Us-Without-Reading-Our-Profile Cake. It's been eaten.
Travian is simply stating that by the standards so often eschewed here, this is exactly what is happening. It's not a bad thing that they pass her by. It shows that they are actually searching, not just mailing every poor soul who shares the same area code. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:27:40 PM | | Why is her profile of no interest? I see a lot of profiles of women who have no interests listed or they list shopping or hanging out with friends or going to clubs or drinking, and they seem to be a favorite of a lot of men. A lot of men tell me they are decent and I find them not decent at all. Most descriptive terms are subjective. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:33:11 PM |
I see a lot of profiles of women who have no interests listed or they list shopping or hanging out with friends or going to clubs or drinking, and they seem to be a favorite of a lot of men.
I suppose pointing out the painfully obvious might not work here, but I'll give it a shot.
No one's put a ring on their finger, now have they?.... | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:35:43 PM | | waaawaaawaaa where are the good guys, omigawd, he's under 6 feet, you're kidding, right? What??? He doesn't make a six-figure income?????? Get that lazy bum away from me! Fer sher!! Like totally, get that gagger away from me, he'd never impress my friends! He's five pounds overweight??? Oh that will just never do...tell that fat pig to lose eat a salad and go to a gym! None of you losers are good enough for such an exhalted, esteemed princess like me! I loved your entrance, now let me see your exit! Talk to the hand! Oh wait, just go away! | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:57:59 PM | "Yes. All single straight men are jerks, players, unattractive etc."
And losers and bums and freaks and wimps and lazy and stupid, don't forget those............unless of course he's a mllionaire or arm candy, that changes EVERYTHING!!!!  | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:08:47 PM |
In my opinion, decent men INCLUDE men we'd like to sleep with. So I guess I'm talking beyond decent. David Beckham decent. Maybe my standards are too high
Do you honesty think a guy like Beckham would be attracted to a woman like you? Ok, don't answer that question.
It's posts and people like this that give internet dating a bad name. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:09:16 PM | | No. There are plenty of decent guys out there still. I think the prolem is that women sometimes look in the wrong places and expect too much at first. Make any sense? | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:18:28 PM | " David Beckham decent"? There's your problem honey.
First:
Most of us have TESTOSTERONE in our system, not estrogen...
Second:
One day," When you actually grow up.", you might be able to appreciate things like," Oh I don't know." broad shoulders, and a barrel chest? Perhaps you'll trade in your appetite of feminine facial features for a man with a stern looking brow, Roman nose, and a filled out jawline.
Third:
What you're describing as 'decent' is a scrawny little pretty boy. Of course that type is going to 'play' you. And that's because the particular type in question is in high demand, but low on supply. Jesus, no wonder the lesbian population is at an all-time high.
Home Plate:
And so sorry to disappoint, but most of us are not members of the castrati. If that is the standard that you set for us? Then you had better be it's equal... And based on what I've observed, had, and compared?... You're not. Not even close. So, why would David Beckham want to marry you, if you're not even his female equivalent.
But best of luck, in your never-ending pursuit of finding Mr..... Perfect.
P.S.
I could easily break Mr. Perfect in half.
The End | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:23:30 PM | Yes. Everyone who is of any value is taken or not into you.
Of course, the entire idea that "everyone who is good is taken" is always somewhat paradoxical, because they obviously weren't taken before they were taken. And if they were taken before they were taken, then they aren't "good" because they must've been cheating.
Basically, any time you use a phrase that includes "every" or "all" you're wrong. | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:41:03 PM |
There are plenty of decent guys out there still. I think the problem is that women sometimes look in the wrong places and expect too much at first. Make any sense?
it makes perfect sense...hammer meet nail | |
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| Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 6/13/2009 4:54:30 PM | What's the saying a good friend told me? Oh yes!
"The odds are good but the goods are odd."
I've kind of kept this in mind when guys contact me. Hell I can give you a quick run down of the guys I've met here
1.French Military Medic who also happens to be a crossdresser. Cross dressing doesn't bother me, not even asking to borrow my lip gloss. But when it comes to the point that you're messaging me at 4am in the morning freaking out while dressed as a poor copy of Avril Lavigne.... yeah, no. He also said that he wasn't interested in me, he was just using me because he was at sea for six months with "six hundred sausages" yeah..... gender identity issues much?
2. Stalker. Simply put. Oh, and he also wears WAY too much quartz crystal. Like, a quartz bracelet on each wrist, a piece in a stone cage around his neck; hell, when I asked to borrow his gloves because my hands were cold, there was a piece of quartz in it! Hell! Even most new agers don't wear that much quartz!
3. Another military guy, after two weeks said that he loves me. And I'm like, back the train up, you've only known me for two weeks, you do NOT know for sure if you love me.
There are decent guys out there, some of them I'm really good friends with actually. They're out there...somewhere....
*sits on a dock and throws out a fishing line*  | |
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