If you really had taken that seriously, you'd realize that you had sex with him because you liked him and wanted to have sex with him. Instead, you had sex with him because you expected something more than just sex. If you only have sex when you want sex and you don't expect anything else, you can never go wrong because you'll always get exactly what you expected.

Apparently, you both did do what you both wanted to do. Your objection is that you didn't get more than that out of it.

What difference does it make if you read on the forums or found out through personal experience that there are men with that attitude? Does that change your mind about not wanting to date men with that attitude? If you don't want to date men with that attitude (and you shouldn't want to), then you don't want to, regardless of whether or not you read that there are men with that attitude.

So your answer is to never have any expectations so I won't be disappointed? That just won't work for me. I will always have expectations.

I don't expect a guarantee of any kind of relationship. I do expect to enjoy the sex. I also expect not to be thought a whore because I want to enjoy sex even on the first night. I don't think that is too much to ask for.

Because I find sex gets better with someone over time, I would prefer a steady partner than a string of one night stands.

If I play it safe and hold off I may not find out that he subscribes to the double standard. If I do find out later, I may decide that all of his good qualities out weight that.

Also, while I know I shouldn't, there is a part of me that cares what other people think of me. So while I might not like rules, I will play by them.

Why are those things mutually exclusive? Nothing stops you from having sex when you want to have sex and developing a relationship when one develops. I've had several one night stands turn into relationships.

That means you're just helping to perpetuate that double standard.

In that case, you're accepting the rules other people impose on you and you have no reason to complain. As I see it, no matter what I do, someone won't like me because of it, so I might as well do what I want to do.

The women who have sex because they WANT to are the only ones who aren't whores.

It's the ones who trade sex for respect, security,love and a relationship that are the whores...they have sex in EXCHANGE for another thing be it feelings or whatever.
The women who have sex because they WANT to are the only ones who aren't whores. They aren't using it as a commodity.

Can we perhaps upate that to clarify that we're talking about women who KNOW what they hell they're doing and WHY they're doing it... rather than some women who thinks (at the moment) that she WANTs to have sex, and then changes her reasoning behind it after the fact... or is doing it for the wrong reasons (ie desperation, naive, clingy, (insert whatever bad reason here)

I'd venture to ask,and what of the MEN who think that sex mean's nothing but a way to get off and could care less about a woman's feelings

Or the reality that you guys know the only way you should even be having sex with us is if you give a sh*t and don't just exploit our emotions knowing full well that as women,having meaningless sex isn't our goal!

Anymore than you schmoozing us to get laid just to turn around and "change your mind" and be hit it and quit it WHORES yourselves!

I think the true whores are men who take full advantage of the fact that you realize that there should be some sort of emotional exchange between two people before sex even happens,but are too selfish and full of yourselves to consider taking a decent route to our p*ssies and sticking around after you "got some"!

What happened to CARING about us as people before you stick your d*cks in us.We ARE human beings with hearts ya' know! Sorry I can't say the same for 'men' with your attitudes!

Sure,we women tend to not be able to compartmentalize love and sex like some of you men can,but that does NOT make us "Whores" in anyway shape or form.
If anyone is "f*cked up" it's you men.Yeah,I said it!

And what of the men who LIE to get what they want sexually speaking?
They don't use fake emotion as a commodity to get laid?

I say we women STOP putting out at ALL until men learn to respect us as HUMAN BEINGS and not cum buckets for thier emotional unavailabilty!

One guy even told me, after the sex of course, that he wouldn't see me any more because I put out too soon. Why did I have sex on the first date?

If you only have sex when you want sex and you don't expect anything else, you can never go wrong because you'll always get exactly what you expected.

If it happens the night was worth it and there is no further drama since I am not going to pursue a relationship with a girl who puts out on the first date. If she can resist when we get hot and heated on the first date then that moves her up the chain and gives her more longterm potential.

Don't do it, just lie and say you're on your period and can't if you actually like him.

honestly if a women sleeps with u on the first date, do u look at her as a whore?? or is she still "girlfriend material" ... do u automatically think she does this on all her first dates??

I don't want sex with anyone I don't deem relationship material

If I have sex on the first or second date, it's because I'm horny and don't see the man as relationship potential so if he thinks I'm a slut or a whore it's irrelevant.