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Posted: 7/3/2005 8:56:21 PM | I've met a couple, and I wonder how thier heart sustains the mass...
Either way, I like a girl I can put my arms around (All the way around), thats all.
I'm not one to date no Jabba-the-hut. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 8:59:30 PM | | Domeroth and thats your choice noone can change your mind for you! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 9:05:30 PM | I don't know why I'm even talking about it. I'm not seeking. HAHA!
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Posted: 7/3/2005 9:06:56 PM | big yes,overweight yes,but obeise no!
true the heart is what counts,but as nice as a person could be,i could not
deal with obeise women! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 9:07:15 PM | The only ugly person I ever knew was a guy I first met as a freshman in high school.
And he was definitely ugly by anyone's description: pock marked face, turned up nose so you could see inside his wet nostrils, one smaller sized eye lower than the other larger one, receding chin that drew back to a bulbous Adam's Apple that had prickly hairs exuding from it, overly large ears that seemed to be vestiges of an early growth of baby wings, crooked teeth that wound around each other, and lips that were so large they appeared swollen.
After about fifteen minutes talking with him, his facial features took on a new posture and some characteristics dimmed. During another fifteen minutes of conversation, the marked contours seemed to smooth. Then, when we met after school to walk home, my first notice of ugliness was replaced by facial character. Soon after we became pals, and then best friends. He was no longer ugly.
Hope it answers your question Innocentvixen! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 9:10:41 PM | Like I said in my first post in here,once you get to know the person,
suddenly,looks don't fall in our critiria anymore!
Knight Rider! | |
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| Looks?
Posted: 7/3/2005 9:15:42 PM | | Well then define Obeise? | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 9:27:08 PM | obeise to me vixen is someone well over 500 pnds or more,and then,over 400
is too much for me! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 9:39:52 PM | Looks are a lot more important to men because we are far more visually stimulated (in general) than women. Women have a tendency to look at a wider variety of traits than men do.
I think the best thing is to stop focusing on the areas of lack and start focusing on your positive qualities. If you come across as needy or desperate via your actions, speech, or body language, that will be a turn off. At least that has been my personal experience. I've been with enough LSE (low self esteem) women to know that there is no chance of anything long term with such a person.
Also, maybe you are scared of success on some level. Some people sabotage themselves. Maybe there are some simple things you could do differently if that's the case. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2005 9:56:24 PM | | Well then i am far from obeise to you Knight | |
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Posted: 7/8/2005 9:31:14 PM | unfortunately, there's this difference of preferences between the males and females. Males always put looks first, they are dunderheads and can't seem to get out of that mindset. If a girl has enough attractiveness, then they qualify her on those other qualities.
On the other hand, the female doesn't look at a man's appearance first. She looks at his character and his wallet. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2005 9:35:35 PM | | men are rather "visual" creatures...but i think you're a doll vixen... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 2:28:32 PM | Yes, looks is important. If there is no physical attraction then I don't see the point in a relationship.
Alot of men like the so called "hot Cali girl", but wanting and being able to get are two different things. | |
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Joined: 6/19/2005
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| Looks?
Posted: 7/9/2005 2:51:25 PM | | looks dont mean a thing. of course everyone is attracted to someone that looks good, but alot of good looking people are shallow and pains in the a**! personality really does mean alot. i have seen people for the first time that i thought were really unattractive but as i talked with them and gotten to know them over time they become attractive right in front of my eyes! and i dont just mean women i date, these could be women that i am just friends with. i know when i walk thru the mall women arent going out of their way to get a second look at me, but i also know the people that know me (dates or friends) love me to death because of the way i am and the way i treat them. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 3:03:21 PM | vixen you're a doll to me!!! I don't judge anyone,just 400 and up pounds is extreme,and yet they could be,and mostly
are the sweetest people in the world!
Just like me being judged as too skinny,or don't look such and such a way,and as I stated
before,who you fall in love with may just take ya by surprise!
When it comes right down to it,attraction must co-existe with personal choices!
Knight Rider! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 3:05:37 PM | | Vixen hun...do you believe you are attractive? If so, or not, explain why... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 3:23:45 PM | Vixen,
You are such a sweet girl, im sure some guy will find you attractive for who you are on the inside, not what is on the outside. True beauty is in the eye of the beholder. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 3:43:12 PM | | Puh-lease. Women are every bit as shallow as men. The funniest I ever read (not here, and paraphrased) was "respond if you think other people will think we look good together..." It gets no shallower than that! Looks only get you in the door, anyway - eventually, you have to talk. Chemistry is an odd combination of physical attraction, personality attraction, and timing. Even chemistry only gets you in the door - eventually, you have to build trust, caring, etc. It's not simple, and there are so many potholes, which is why there are so many singles (obviously). | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 6:16:18 PM | | Looks mean a lot. I have to be physically attracted to someone before dating him. Looks though are relative to individuals. What I think is gorgeous, another may think is crap. My daughter doesn't think the last guy I hooked up with is good looking at all and he's closer to her age than mine... but I think he's hot, so there you go. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
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| Looks?
Posted: 7/9/2005 7:02:50 PM | I think looks can open doors for people, especially for the more attractive people.
My dating criteria is I want a man that looks healthy. In other words, I do prefer men, that when they bend their heads down, they can see their feet. Other things I look at when dating, is how he carries himself, does he take pride in himself and can clean up good?
I know I can stand to lose 20 pounds and am working on it. Last week, I hiked 4 miles in Mount Rainier. I also have hiked the Grand Canyon; ride my bike at least 16 miles/day on weekends; lots of walking during the weekdays, and swimming as well. I'd like for the man that I date, he can climb a flight of stairs without huffing and puffing.
The most important thing is that he takes care of himself (emotionally, spiritually, physically), and will work with what he does have. If he has an awesome smile, and when I look into his eyes, his soul is alive and young in spirit, that is a big turn on for me as well. That aside, his personality will matter the most. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 7:19:41 PM | | For me, I judge the face. Body type, I don't really care about. But pretty face....yay for that. But I'm only talking about the INITIAL attraction...if I talk to the pretty face and it's pretty much BORDOM PLANET or EGOTISITCAL ISLAND...then no I will move on. I wonder if those places actually exsist..what fun destinations those would be! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 7:21:11 PM | | Vixen, for personal reasons, not in myself, but in one very close to me, I have strong problems with someone expressing and showing an ugly dislike for what they would call fat women. It's a terrible thing, and this girl's life is nearly destroyed. There are some I would kill if I could but that won't help her. She will die at an early age. Suffice it to say, people shouldn't make fun of overweight situations no matter what the cause. Her friends, except for one have all forsaken her. So she doesn't care anymore. I could go on, but will stop here. It's a very sore subject with me. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 8:03:46 PM | I have to go with arachnoidalseainme (sp) on this one. What I think is as beautiful as can be, my best friend may think is dog meat. However guys in general can agree on what a hot woman will look like. It is what comes out of their mouth the first time you talk face to face with that person that matters.
I know some people that are physically beautiful, that have a hard time tying their shoe laces. Also the other way around. Some people who will never be on the front cover of Cosmopolitan are wonderful people.
The problem is finding that person that is both for you. That person that you meet for the first time who you cannot keep your eyes off, and at the same time can carry a conversation longer than: "What you thing about the weather?".
That is the trick.
Someday I hope to find that person.
Canadarox_71
Growing old is inevitable,
Growing up is optional.
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Posted: 7/9/2005 8:10:19 PM |
Are they really all that important in a relationship?
There isn’t anything wrong with a person finding someone they are attracted too. It’s a misnomer to suggest that being attracted to someone physically is some sort of superficial biasness. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2005 10:21:43 PM | | yes people tend to go solely for looks at first and don't actually try to get to know the person personality wise. If they took the time to get to know you they would see your inner beauty. Cheer up there is someone for everyone, it just takes some of us longer to find them than others. | |
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