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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:11:40 AM | Sex.
If a man you've met on here tells u otherwise, they are LYING. Be thankful that u have guys like me to bring u the realness. 
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| what is it men really want?
Posted: 6/13/2009 8:15:09 AM |
Ok Ash ^^^^^ as you stated there are plenty of woman on here who just offer unconditional sex nothing else then why is it that those who seriously are looking for relationships get picked on by those just want a leg over? Why not stick to their own type?
They don't usually state it in their profiles, The ones that do are usually on hundreds of 'favourite' lists, and so have plenty of choice. The blokes messaging you have probably been turned down by them already. At least you can choose which ones you reply to.
While I like to think I can 'suss people out' on here by chatting to them (I'm certainly better at it than I was when I started using these sites ten years ago), You still can't really tell until you meet them anyway, and even then, it's not always straightforward, as plenty of others will testify. The thing is, if you give up looking, they've won, and you are the loser. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:15:53 AM |
That's drifting out of the subject of what men want and pushing towards what you want.
She clearly has tattoos and not hiding that fact. So if you read the context of the post, you will find this irrelevant.
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:33:24 AM |
really, where are they hiding? was that an option i missed when i setup me profile?
Maybe you should rewrite your profile, Fly. btw, the joke about the hydrogen atoms made me laugh. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:47:41 AM | My 2 cents......good men want a woman that has a stong sense of self, who stands by what she believes in, they want a woman who is not insecure and like herself because she believes in who she is, she doesn't manipulate and use her sexuality to get her man that is only a small piece of who she is, they want a woman who they can have fun with, they want a woman they respect. They don't want a woman who whines all the time, they want a woman who has boundaries and life outside of them they won't be manipulated, he wants a woman that will let him be the man and won't emasculate him.
Sure the girl that gives everything away right our of the gate may have him for the short term but he will most likely grow tired of her because she is all about him and has no life of her own....most men like a challenge and to be kept on their toes, they want to be/feel inpsired....not a needy girl a whiner or game player.
My dear the men you have been attracting just aren't good men.......they're a lot of men that are just out for instant gratification because they themselves don't know what they want, because a lot of what men have experienced is not a independent woman with a sense of who she is....a lot of woman are flaky and none of what I just described.
If woman were more confident and set boundaries for themselves men would have to step up their game because the old tricks would not be working any longer.
I'm with you sista.....quality takes time. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:53:48 AM | i once went on a date from here and the man told me i wasnt for him because i was far too independant ....but i love that quality in me and love it in other people too
at least i aint a whiney needy **** like alot of women out there, i support my self have my own believes, and my own mind
so if thats what a man is looking for then i could be it and if not then hey i will remain single lol | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:15:51 AM | Your mistake is that some 80%-100% contacted you first and you chose from that lot with a good ole fashion whine, no doubt being unaware of what true choice (just a wild guess on my part). Fortunately the odd "nice one " got through in your case. I see little wrong with dilleas or ash comments. And infact given my opening statement and your last post OP, it does make you a little needy (IMO) and more prone to fall for the wrong types.
As for liars or folk that fill your head with nonsense I would agree there not always easy to spot.
Totters of to slay his 3rd dragon of the day | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:24:23 AM |
Your mistake is that some 80%-100% contacted you first and you chose from that lot with a good ole fashion whine, no doubt being unaware of what true choice (just a wild guess on my part). Fortunately the odd "nice one " got through in your case. I see little wrong with dilleas or ash comments. And infact given my opening statement and your last post OP, it does make you a little needy (IMO) and more prone to fall for the wrong types.
As for liars or folk that fill your head with nonsense I would agree there not always easy to spot.
Totters of to slay his 3rd dragon of the day
good reply but.............
as i am looking to make friends only the fact that they wanna sleep with me after 3 hours makes the mind boggle .........after all IMO a friend isnt someone you sleep with :) | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:53:55 AM | Well, one guy's third message to me was 'I'm looking for an angel in the kitchen and a sl ut in the bedroom. Is that you?'.
I responded 'No, sorry, I like to be a slut in the kitchen too'.
You can't really generalise what men want or are looking for - some are looking for real love, others for a bit of company, and others again for just a leg over. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 10:05:23 AM | Dilleass~~~~~hey will always find an excuse as to why they were an innocent party, specialising in turning a blind eye to all the alarm bells...and rush back to ‘warn’ the others and whimper...nauseating ,mendacious trollops the very equivalent of the sleazy men they abhor....
Always a pleasure to meet a man who really likes women.... | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 10:12:31 AM |
A legover followed by a full english, once a week with no aggro in between.
Well I can tell you that that is NOT what I'm looking for! Completely unsatisfactory.
If she can't take the time to cook me a full English every morning she can sod off!!  | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 10:35:31 AM | Speaking for myself.. lack of complications .
With the world economic situation , leading to downturns in work , the departure of the ex,
getting to an age where pettiness is no longer amusing , trying to reaffirm who I am to myself, just finding someone that does not complicate the entire retinue of my world, yes
this is what I am looking for . heheh might as well stop banging my head on the wall , maybe the pain will stop too.
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Posted: 6/13/2009 10:37:42 AM | On a personal level, I would be grateful for a decent slave to shave me, a decent opponent to debate with, and a duck which doesn't have a tendency to split.
On a general level this is an extraordinarily deep philosophical matter - indeed, one worthy of consideration amongst high-minded men. What I cannot comprehend is how this matter is being discussed in relation to how it affects women. They are after all mere chattels and whose consideration should be at best merely acceded to as circumstance dictates: i.e. within the confines of running a household. Anything else is beyond them. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 10:41:27 AM | men want sex
women want relationships........
and its very hard to distinguish between the two. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 10:44:22 AM | lol beetle i want sex too ....but i aint just gonna give it away on the first meet
thats been my problem you see | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 11:01:18 AM | ..they're a lot of men that are just out for instant gratification because they themselves don't know what they want..
SAMANTHA44 you are my new heroine your words ring the bell for new breed of women to come up and show, look I vlaue myslef, I am not an " arse flashing vodka swilling tart"
I went on a date with a lovely guy from dublin and we had some chats before hand and hed read my profile obviously and knew I was celibate and didn't drink but admitted later he had seen that as a challenge and came down with every intention of seducing me.
When we had spent a cracking night together for like 9 hours chatting laughing and sharing he couldnt believe how much of agreat time we had without sex or alcohol.
He said the best part was getting a connection with another human being on a different level to anything he had ever expereinced before. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 11:07:41 AM | thanks beetle
i was beginning to think i was doing something wrong by having standards lol | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 11:39:52 AM |
he couldnt believe how much of a great time we had without sex or alcohol
I must be living my life wrong, I reckon you can't have a good time without either sex or alcohol, and you can't have a great time without both!  | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 12:31:21 PM | Dilleass
It was in answer to the post by SAMANTHA44 that men dont know what they want and when one presents an alternative and sticks to ones guns it can still be enjoyable, and can be an enlightening expereince. A lot of men assume the woman expects sex so they are both in this misconception of each other place that none has the torch to escape from.
I would love to get physical with a partner but I need a deep and menaingful connection first ie LOVE so that I can bear my soul with him. Otherwise to me it's just not worth the effort or the possible downsides ie emptiness and feeling used.
Please don't be so cynical, at your age it is cringeworthy to watch sometimes. | |
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