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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:44:01 PM | OP, it sounds like you're saying that you're the only one getting slammed for stating that you're not attracted to a particular race. How do you know that others don't also get attacked for stating that they are, or are not, attracted to a particular race?
As for racial preferences, I don't have any. I like earth women no matter where they're from. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:44:32 PM |
im sure that if he put up a line that said White people only he would be labled as a white supremacist
Wrong. I'm black and I wouldn't necessary this to be racist. I think it would depend on the reasons why a person would only date a certain race or refuse to date a certain race. There's a huge difference between not being attracted to a certain race and not dating a certain race due to racist stereotypes. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:48:42 PM | | What is the quality or behaviour you find distasteful? Please put that in your profile, as it has nothing to do with skin colour. I know asians that behave and sound more Aussie than I do. It's racist! | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:50:19 PM |
Yes I did expect the email, but the question I am asking is why the double standard
What is the double standard???? Have you written any of these people that say they aren't into such and such race if they have ever gotten nasty e mails???
I can tell you from previous threads this has been an issue for others, so I am not sure where the "double standard" is...
I am wondering how many e mails do you actually get from Asian women that would make you feel like you needed to preclude them? Reason I ask is because sometimes we can save ourselves a LOT of time and negative energy if we don't put things in our profile that isn't a huge deal...
I could see if you lived in an Asian Country why you may want to put that, however I also could see where you would end up with a LOT of hate mail..
The answer seems obvious to me, if you aren't interested in a SMALL percentage of women, then "thank them for their interest and say you don't think that you and they would be a good match"...
No hate mail, or angry people to ask you why you are a racist.... OHHHH and I am not saying you are, BUT you asked the question, and for someone to exclude a race for a potential date comes across as racists to some folks...
Edit, sunshine you are stuck with this on your profile. LOL, so even though you have changed your profile, you have a thread reflecting your thoughts on not wanting to date Asian women...
Try not to get too ruffled... I still can't imagine that you are getting slammed with letters from Asian women, and the "hate" mail will quietly go away as time will pass to more tragic things. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:56:57 PM |
What am I peddling???
You are peddling the whole premise to your original post.
I hope some one can make some sence out of this.
You act supprised that you got emails when your profile states...
Im gonna get mail on this I know it.
Your getting a "pass" on this from everyone else...but I believe this was either an attention getting thing or trouble making.
Let's face it and I'm sure you won't admitt it...you are getting more emails and responses from Asian women and others than you would have without the comment.
Having said that...I don't have any problem with the stating of preferences on your profile.
I just think this whole thing was a "set up" for your entertainment. JMO
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Posted: 6/13/2009 1:57:34 PM | OP, it is racism because you are singling out 'race'. There are many shades of racism and sometimes just not seeing colour can be racist as well. See colour. See people. See souls. We are all one.
Canadian as not being a culture - how interesting. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:05:23 PM | i don't think there is any p/c problem in adding who you simply aren't attracted to in your profile -however it sounds negative, and that never works out well when looking for dates.
-i've seen some pretty hot chicks of every race, probibly isn't a good idea to discard a whole race.
-and is this a huge problem: (asian chicks flooding your mailbox with indecent proposals?)
-so if Lucy Liu begged for a chance to go out with you -you'd tell her to get lost?
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:12:17 PM | Do you think yourself and every other white person above asian people? Do you think they are unworthy of dating or do their looks simply not attract you in the slightest? If you consider yourself and every other white person superior to asians then yes you are racist. If you will not date asians because you believe they are not worthy of dating a white person then yes you are racist. Now if you just don't find yourself attracted to asian looks then no you are not a racist.
Don't worry about the dumba$$es who will brand you a racist for simply not being attracted to the looks of a specific group of people.I have never found white men attractive and no that does not make me a racist because I don't believe I am better or superior to white people.Beside white men tend to have quite a bit of body hair.BLECH!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:23:08 PM | Revilors - I totally agree with you.
OP - were you getting numerous mail from Asian women that you felt that need to put that on your profile? I don't think it's racist but it's certainly not very smart.
As others have said it's not what you say but how say it....negativity is not attractive. State who you are attracted to and others who don't fit the bill will refrain from contacting you.
Furthermore, this double standard that you perceive is just that, your perception - it's not based on fact. You have no idea how well or not those negative phrases are working for the ladies who have them on their profiles.
If this works for you - that's fine, but you knew you would e-mails about it so why start a thread? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:24:16 PM | I don't think its racist per se (as I do believe physical attraction is subjective) but the way it is conveyed may perhaps be distasteful to some folks.
Like many have pointed out, instead of saying what you are not attracted to, why not state what you ARE attracted to?
Some women prefer only men who are over 6 ft. ... Some men prefer only blondes ... some men prefer only women with 36DD cups.... and etc., etc., ... I see that stated in some profiles from time to time (well, maybe not the "36DD" one!  ) ... Doesn't bother me, if thats what they like then that's what they like. Again, the point is they stated the physical attributes that they preferred not what they didn't prefer. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:28:39 PM | It's a preference.
I don't find myself attracted to red heads.
I also prefer not to date a man my size or smaller in height and weight.
Preferences. All preferences. It doesn't make you a racist. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:34:35 PM | | I don't necessary think the OP is racist. But whenever a person puts "I'm not attracted to group X", some people will get offended. Not necessary just people who are members of group X. For example, when a man puts that "he isn't attracted to fat women" on his profile, some thin and athletic women will also get offended by that. In other words, it is probably more tactful to state what you want instead of what you don't want. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:37:28 PM | How about everyone get off their cross and just give it a rest. " He's a racist", who cares. Its his choice if he does not want to date Asians, perhaps he is racist but thats his choice. If someone does not like it why do they feel the need to say something.
Freedom of speech and freedom of choice, fun concepts until someone excersises them.
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Posted: 6/13/2009 2:59:34 PM | | Having a preference on who you are interested in dating isn't racist. That being said, I highly doubt you were being inundating with unwanted messages from Asian women before you added that to your profile. If you were, we can switch places in life since I've never had Asian women message out of the blue, but wouldn't mind if they did. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 3:05:09 PM | I don't even see the point of saying who you are NOT attracted to "racially" on your profile anyway.
If an Asian girl ever happens to contact you, just tell her you don't think you would be a match for her and move on. Don't even say to her, "Oh, I don't like Asians"...or, "I don't like fat ****es"...just say you're not a match and move on. It's so simple.
If you don't want to be LABELED as a racist, you don't have to bother mentioning it (race) on your profile. Just a heads up!
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Posted: 6/13/2009 3:08:34 PM | You're not attracted to asian girls? Is that some kind of sick joke? With their almond eyes and olive skin and beautiful, flowing raven hair?
I'm attracted to women, PERIOD! I could care less what part of the globe their ancestors originated.
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Posted: 6/13/2009 3:34:48 PM | I don't consider it racism at all, we all have preferences at the end of the day. The problem I have is that if an Asian/Indian/Chinese guy contacts me and I politely say no not interested, then they ask the question why. And yes it is because of their nationality and I simply am not attracted to them, it does not make me racist - I am honest from the start.
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Posted: 6/13/2009 3:39:51 PM | | I am not attracted to men, does that mean I am a feminist? No, its just a preference, just like yours is a preference. Unless of course your preference was due to some prejudice, which doesn't appear to be the case. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 4:02:39 PM | | As another poster said, just don't reply to asian women who contact you first. Does it happen so often that you need to make a special point of mentioning it in your profile? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 4:09:22 PM | | Why on earth would you put anything so negative anything in your profile? How many Asian women contact you on a daily basis that it has become such a burden? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 4:11:44 PM | | Yes, you are a racist. It's as plain and simple as the WASP nose on your face. Now grab your white hood, get off of POF and go burn a cross. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 4:39:47 PM | No it's not racism but as Revilors as so aptly said...why did you even bother to put it on your profile and then turn around and say you knew you were going to get mail about it? THEN you start this thread for, as far as I can see, no other reason but to get sh*t started.
I DOUBT that there are that many Asian women on POF and they all aren't messaging YOU. So it's ok that you're not into them but why bother? If you don't want to date them, when they email you say thank you but no thank you.
But you don't have to worry now...I'm sure that if any Asian woman were thinking it she ain't now. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 5:38:44 PM | If you're rejecting an entire group of people specifically because of race then it is racism. How can it not be? 
so if Lucy Liu begged for a chance to go out with you -you'd tell her to get lost?
Ummm....yes. She's kinda average looking to me.....slightly above average at best. She's only considered good looking because of the scarcity of Asians in Hollywood. Ask any guy more familiar with Asian beauties and they'd rank women like Zhang Ziyi and Gong Li much higher. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 5:50:04 PM | | I'm still trying to figure out why he won't date Asian women. *confused* | |
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