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Posted: 6/13/2009 6:04:25 PM | | I don't think it is necessary to put on your profile. You can just choose who you respond to and who you don't respond to. I am highly doubtful that flocks of asian women are even messaging you to be perfectly honest. Why tell the world you are not into a specific group of people? It seems petty. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 6:08:05 PM | | wow people why dont you let this die? he has changed his profile> I dont think he ever intended on causing this much uproar. People carry things way to far sometimes. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 6:16:31 PM |
well I am sorry if I have offended anyone as I stated , I am not a rasist and thought it very curious and that it was a realistic question to pose....
you may not be a racist but you sure spell like one.............
OP why are you trying to sell it so hard? you keep repeating it over and over that your not? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 7:03:28 PM | | I have preferences too.But I dont put it in my profile.now I'm glad i didn't.but i've seen it elsewhere and didn't give a thought before now.but in the time i've been on here none of them have contacted me and if they did I would treat them like anyone else.There's always gonna be something someone doesn't like. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:11:03 PM | | cutie: If Canadians don't have any "culture" and your from Alberta, guess what? You probably also have no "culture". At the very least you have absolutely NO class given the ignorant statement you made. Yay. One more person to put on the POF loser train of people nobody should ever date. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:31:54 PM | It IS, indeed, just a preference. A racist preference. But I would actually prefer knowing where I stand before trying to contact someone.
OP--keep in mind having that on your profile will keep Asian women away, and perhaps very may other women as well--the ones who think you're racist and are offended by your statement.
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I DO find it funny that men are saying he's racist, but if you put "fatty" instead of "Asian", then THAT makes sense to the guys, it's just a preference. Guys do the "no fatty" thing ALL THE TIME. "I prefer slim athletic women" or "I keep in shape, I expect YOU to be in shape as well" blah blah blah. Whenever I see something along those lines, I think the guy's a tool, and move along. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:34:59 PM | In the broad sense, yes you are being racist, but people should still be able to maintain the right to choose whom they prefer, or not, to date based on ethnic persuasion. That doesn't mean they are saying they are superior to another race simply by excluding Asians from their "wishlist"
It's all good, as I think ALL ladies from ANY ethnicity are beautiful to me, so feel free to promote my profile to those Asian ladies that you are not romantically attracted to...
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Posted: 6/13/2009 8:43:25 PM | I don't think I have ever been contacted on any dating site by an Asian woman.
Wouldn't it be silly to add something like what OP has to "ensure" that I wouldn't?
I also don't want to hear from one armed Eskimo women or Mexican women with flatulance problems. Wait! One armed Eskimo are okay. I just decided.
Sheesh. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:05:27 PM | I DO find it funny that men are saying he's racist, but if you put "fatty" instead of "Asian", then THAT makes sense to the guys, it's just a preference.
But....but....Asian people can't change their ethnicity. 
VVV I think it comes down to why someone is not attracted to a particular race. Not being attracted for physical reasons is a preference but not being attracted for stereotypical reasons is racist.
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:09:28 PM | no Q daddy.. that doesnt make you racist.. Its a preferance.. Everyone has somthing they are attracted to.. Some men prefer blondes, some prefer brunettes, redheads, and some prefer Grey. Some men like petite women, some like voluptuous, some like bbw,It is all just a preferance..Some people like chocolate.. some vanilla.. There may be somePeople that look at it as a negative racist attitude. But there may also be people that think you could be closing some doors to some pretty Amazing experiences.. Not only with people who are different from you.. but in everything in life.. YOu just never know what the next door holds.. Thats the way I look at life in general.. Never say Never..  | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:11:18 PM |
Some people might take it as racist, though the reason is subtle and might be hard to explain. But that won't stop me from trying.
If you don't want to date Asian people, you can just not reply to contacts from Asian people. Nobody has to know why you didn't reply; people don't always get replies--they can just move on.
But if you actually mention it in your profile, it could seem to some people like you're heading off any contact with Asians. It's like you really don't even want anything to do with them--like an email that you don't have to reply to is already too much. Like "Ick--Asian--get it off my computer screen!"
And if that impression is true, then yes, mentioning it would be an expression of racism.
Very good point Azalea. Op ought to know that a lot of people are sensitive when it comes to things like this..and I am sure he knows..I just don't see the point of him stating that he doesn't like Asian women outright. He could have simply just not mention anything and if he gets a message form an Asian woman..just delete it..or just reply stating he is not interested. Its really that simple. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:15:59 PM |
I personally don't really think we should mix "races.
and why is that? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:23:56 PM |
that might seem like a good example to you 5tarrynight but the OP's profile doesnt denegrate asian people in any way... it simply states his preference.
he doesnt talk at all about reasons why this is his preference or trash asian people at all.
im sure that if he put up a line that said White people only he would be labled as a white supremacist
you really aren't getting it..seriously...the point is that its NOT necessary for him to state what he stated..what good is that gonna do?..how will that benefit him in anyway?...I dont think its racist..BUT as i said before..OP is a grown man and he should know that there are people who are gonna be offended..so why state something in your profile that is not necessary to find what he is looking for?..does it take 20 minutes to delete a message?...last time i checked it take less than 5 seconds....anyway it was just a dumb stupid thing for him to say...and anyone who cant see that is, needs to wise up | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 10:54:51 PM | Yes, it sort of is, but not in the damaging way it usually happens... You could simply keep the profile as is, and tell anyone who harrasses you about it to bite you, because you are free to choose/state whom you are or are not attracted to.
However, since you are receiving negative attention, I'm wondering why you felt you needed to put that detail in your profile in the first place, and keep it there after.
Unless this is a veiled attempt at discussing why it is people point out that they prefer or don't black partners. M | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 11:53:11 AM | It's not racism--just your preference--I wish POF had that option, to choose what race you want to date, so people wouldnt be bothered. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 11:55:20 AM | PS: I like all races, would date them all.
Matter of fact, I want a child with each race (jokes)
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Posted: 6/14/2009 12:07:43 PM | | And superficial. And yes, you are. Why is it when these dumb threads pop up, the op can never spell? | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 12:18:08 PM | I don't think it is racist at all. We don't really get to choose what type of person we are attracted to. If you're not attracted to Asians than why pursue a relationship with one?
As long as it is a physical attraction thing and not based on any prejudice about Asian women than it is a personal preference and has nothing to do with racism.
If someone put on their profile no morbidly obese men or women would they be racists for discounting someone based on their physical appearance? Expand that to any type of woman, if I wasn't attracted to blondes or red heads? Am I now a racist for making a judgement based on their physical appearance? Yeah sure they could be a great person, I'm not denying that, all I'm saying is they don't give me a woody, and I think that is important in a relationship; or have relationships changed so much that we MUST give every potential prospect a chance no matter how little they get our blood pumping?
MUST we judge every person based solely on their personality? The answer is yes only if we are simply looking for friends, if you're looking for a mate, that special someone, or even a FWB, physical attraction is very important. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 12:31:42 PM | Wow.....someone posted that this thread should die a quiet death, but since I have been on vacation I have to say a little something - actually I don't need to say anything as Revilors said it so succently....
And SagMan4u #28 - I can't even comprehend your neanderthal logic - jeepers! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 12:46:57 PM |
I DO find it funny that men are saying he's racist, but if you put "fatty" instead of "Asian", then THAT makes sense to the guys, it's just a preference. Guys do the "no fatty" thing ALL THE TIME. "I prefer slim athletic women" or "I keep in shape, I expect YOU to be in shape as well" blah blah blah. Whenever I see something along those lines, I think the guy's a tool, and move along.
I think there is a major difference between stating "NO fatties" and "I prefer slim and athletic women". The first statement is rude. But the second statement is a more tactful way to state what you are interested in.
I think it comes down to why someone is not attracted to a particular race. Not being attracted for physical reasons is a preference but not being attracted for stereotypical reasons is racist.
I agree.
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Posted: 6/14/2009 1:14:58 PM | I'm going to assume that your "attraction" is mainly based on looks, so if you were to meet a woman that didn't look Asian even though she is, would you stop seeing her when you find out she's Asian ? If so, that is racist, but to have preference is not in itself racist.
If say you only like "Caucasian" women, I'm sure you won't like every Caucasian woman you meet, so why assume you won't like every Asian woman you meet? But having a preference for Caucasian women isn't itself racist. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 1:19:22 PM | First off, the OP should not have stated "no asians" on his profile if he didnt want conflict.
Second off it seems silly as to how quickly he has been labeled a "racist".
What if he was asian and stated "no white women"?
Think thered be as much hoopla? Bet not.
But its still the same idea. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 1:22:09 PM | | I prefer the white ones, they glow in the dark. Does that make me racist for my pref....nope. | |
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