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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/14/2009 1:35:05 PM |
No I would not call you a racist but prejudice would seem to fit.
I think tee pain here....is closer to home on what you stated on your profile about Asian Women.
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Technically, yes, it's a preference, but, we would have to upgrade that to prejudice, since you felt the 'need' to mention it in your profile.
My question is...Why?
It makes no sense.
I'm not saying your reasons for not wanting to talk to a certain group of people don't make sense to you......
I'm sayin'.....What the hell were you thinking? Know what I mean?
that's a private thing...and if an Asian gal wrote to you...you could...kindly, I'm sure...reply to her in private about your preference.
It's a globe full of people of all kinds , colors, and beliefs, dude.
Personally, I like to roll with the whole deck of cards,
On a global scale, I'm nothing, man.....
with no power to exclude an entire race of humans.
regards
Kimbo*****************************************
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Posted: 6/14/2009 1:39:21 PM | As of today we do not have to have proof or evidence for personal preferences - especially when it comes to something as personal as dating. But the PC police is working on it. You will have to date in quotas and will be forced to have intercourse with at least three of each race, just so you don't have any prejudice to go by. Then again, by that time we will only have one race left anyway: the B/W indi-asiaxicans...
I say grow some balls and say what YOU like. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 1:52:42 PM |
OP maybe you just have to try one eh....you never know you might like it.
Ahh hell no!!! If it's green, you won't see this girl near it.....
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Posted: 6/14/2009 2:08:23 PM | | Just take it off your profile and don't respond to the e-mails from Asians. It is a preference based on what you are attracted to, and no one needs to know about, ergo whether you are racist or not becomes a moot point. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 2:18:08 PM | If the guy said he doesn't like to talk to Asians, would that be racist, or is it just his preference?
If he said he doesn't hire Asians, is it racist, or just his preference?
I would say that clearly it is racist to exclude people based on their race. The question is whether it is morally wrong, not whether it is racist. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 2:20:03 PM | | Just put down what you are attracted to, not what you are NOT attracted to. The ones that label you racist are just pissed that they can't have you. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 2:22:38 PM | good for you to state what you are not attracted to on your profile . I wish more men would do that. It would save alot of time and effort on the womans side when tryign t owrite someoen interesting who states qualities we have but fails to mention they wouldnt be attracted romantically to our looks/height/ whatever for whatever reason.
you are not racist. everyone is attracted to diffent body types romantically. doesnt mean that you are not respectful to all people as humans.
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Posted: 6/14/2009 3:31:06 PM | | I'm the opposite: I'm very attracted to Asian women...PHYSICALLY attracted to Asian eyes and facial features. But I won't rule out dating any other race...as long as the 2 important factors are in play: mutual physical attraction, and good chemistry. However, in my pursuit of Asian women over the years I have found out that I get along much better with Americanized Asian women, than native/foreign/etc. Asian women, unless they are looking to make American friends. I realize people are individuals but I'm speaking based on what I've seen. So if I see an Asian woman with an accent, my expectations/hopes lower based on my personal experience...but I will still be open if she seems interested in me. Asian women who have an American accent: YES PLEASE! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 3:53:39 PM | | I don't think it's racist. You can't help what you find physically attractive. I would caution you, however, to never say never. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 4:00:16 PM | | It's not racism. It's no different than not being attracted to blonds, or redheads, or pale women, or anything else that defines a person's looks. There is a certain 'look' to asian people, yes. Personally, from a completely non-sexual female standpoint, I think asian women are very beautiful......more so than 'caucasians'....I envy them that. However, that look doesn't appeal to you and that make it no more racist than not being attracted to someone who is blond....or whatever. IMO, anybody who posts a response otherwise, has previously been the subject of discrimination of some sort and is simply reacting to that. That is their problem - let THEM deal with it. Relationships (and love) are all about attraction - inside AND out. You shouldn't settle for less. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 4:25:38 PM | It's not racism but it's Politically incorrect (BLAHHHHHH ) to mention it aloud. Just stay clear of Asian women OP. | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:32:16 PM | I do not think your racist. Just a little different in your tastes. All cultures and races have beautiful looking women. Not everyone is open to exploring that. I think personaly you would be missing out on a whole bunch of beautiful, sexy women by excluding the Asian race.
Hmmmm...., maybe you could bypass your messages from Asian women on to me. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 6:42:48 PM |
I hope some one can make some sence out of this. I recently posted an add on to my profile that said I was not romanticly attracted to asians, since then I have recieved numerous emails that label me as a racist which I am far from. I have read numerous profiles that state they want only Black Men and so what is the differance here... There's no such thing as racism in dating, it's called preferences. Good luck in your search. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 6:46:23 PM | | That is far from racist. You like who like and you have a right like only Asian women. Those people are closed minded. I see nothing wrong with dating outside your race! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 7:04:01 PM | [quote=EdwardPartSix ]I would say that clearly it is racist to exclude people based on their race.
Your profile says you're seeking a woman. Clearly your a homophobe. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 7:12:17 PM | | It is racist because you're assuming that all Asians look alike. True, there are some strong typically asian features, but there exists a high amount of variation amongst individuals, which you have still automatically ruled out. Hot is hot, no matter what race they come from, so the fact that you are dismissing all asian women out of hand seems suspect. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 7:34:05 PM | OP,
Instead of saying who you're NOT attracted to (negative), indicate who you tend to be attracted to (positive).
For example... instead of saying you're not romantically attracted to Asians, say instead that you "tend to be attracted to... ummm... dentists" (as an example).
Then you could also add that you're opposed to any kind of bigotry... particularly from Anti-dentites...
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Posted: 6/14/2009 7:35:49 PM |
Your profile says you're seeking a woman. Clearly your a homophobe.
A homophobe is someone who fears or hates homosexuals. I am not that. I am sexist when it comes to who I would date. Is this wrong? No, not at all. Is it wrong for someone to believe that he isn't attracted to Asian people? No, I can't say that it is. However, I do not like the way some people say this is a preference and there is nothing wrong with preferences. All racism is essentially a preference of one race over another. Why is it wrong in some instances and ok in others? | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 8:12:45 PM | | Isn't a racist someone who fears and hates ? So how can the OP be a racist simply because he has dating preferences, yet you also have dating preferences that exclude other men and don't feel that you should be villified? | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 8:37:58 PM | Of course it is not racism.
Racism is the belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race.
You are not stating or even inferring that you (or your race) is superior. You are simply stating that you are not attracted to a particular race. That is a personnel feeling/opinion and we should be allowed that without offending people. I think ANYONE could think of a particular trait that they are not attracted to. I wish people would think about that and be honest with themselves. Me....i'm not attracted to woman with blond hair. I know it may seem shallow, but I can't help it. I just don't find it attractive. Many people are not attracted to me for one reason or another. Maybe because i'm white, or my weight, or height, etc.... I would never dare to hold it against them. We all are attracted to certain things and not to others. What is the big deal. We all bleed red and I keep that fact close to my heart......but we are not going to be equally attracted to each other.....no matter how bad some people want that to be a fact. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 8:43:57 PM | | Q, Daddy: No I really don't think so. Your preference is your preference. I can kind of see how someone could be offended though. (Considering our racial history here in the States.) It's still a touchy topic. But everyone is different. All blacks don't only date blacks and then some do. If you're not attracted then you're just not attracted. As one poster stated, maybe you should just focus on what you do like. I mean no one is attracted to everyone. I've read some black guys profiles on other sites that stated that they only wanted to date white women or Hispanic women or Asian women. I wasn't offended. I don't know them. Why am I going to send them some long drawn out email about it? I tend to like taller men but hey that's just what I'm attracted to. So maybe to keep the peace if you don't want to be cut up in the emails just state what qualities you seek, etc. At the end of the day no one can make you date or respond to someone you're not attracted to. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 8:51:14 PM | Just because he stated it in his profile does not make it a determining factor to prejudice. He is or he is not. I do not believe he is.
""unreasonable feelings, opinions, or attitudes, esp. of a hostile nature, regarding a racial, religious, or national group.""
His feelings are not unreasonable. His feelings are an example of the laws of attraction. You stated that you roll with the whole deck. I am assuming that you mean every race. I respect you for that and have no reason to doubt you. BUT....I would think that you could still exclude a group of people based on other traits. I.E. Are you physically attracted to all big woman, small, thin, tall, short, red, brown, blond hair. I could be wrong....but every psych study of human nature and attraction would say I am right. If you exclude a particular trait among people that you are not attracted to, then are you either prejudice or racist?? I would say no you are not. You are simply being human. You don't dislike those people....you are just not attracted to them in a way that you would start a relationship. Lets not forget this is a site to help us perpetuate that action. | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/14/2009 8:52:14 PM | no its not racism, might be better off saying who u want though instead of who u dont | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 9:50:46 PM | | Dude, don't let it get to you. You have the absolute right to say whatever you want, and to describe your romantic interests as clearly as YOU choose. Ignore those petty people. YOUR life is not infinite, and your happiness is not guaranteed. Find happiness and let those people wallow around in their ideals, finding failure in trying to impose them on you. | |
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