| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/15/2009 12:02:43 PM |
That is far from racist. You like who like and you have a right like only Asian women. Those people are closed minded. I see nothing wrong with dating outside your race!
Now, the second part is wrong-- | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/15/2009 12:08:50 PM | Yes...it's racist.
If you have to ask...then it almost certainly is....
And,OP,honestly,since there aren't that many Asians in this country or on this site...what, other than calling unneeded attention to yourself, would even possess you to put something that silly on your profile?
If you aren't interested..ignore them and move on... | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/15/2009 12:30:49 PM | | you dump white paint on a black man and say "see that's better, now you look like me" | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 1:04:55 PM | | Well to me it sounded a bit rude on your profile...If you would just put what your attracted to instead of what your not then you would'nt have this issue like the other person said..In all honesty you might of just wanted the attention who knows... | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 2:00:30 PM | The OP is an ***hole for sure.
He lives inGrande Prairie Alberta, middle of nowhere in the freezing cold Canada. The whole population is less then 50 thousand people, and majority are White.
Looking at the OP's profile, I doubt many woman contact him, let along Asian woman. But the OP decided to go out of his way to state that he's not attracted to Asian. I wonder why.
OP, can you explain? | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 3:18:22 PM | Personally, I am not attracted to men.
So does that mean I hate half of humanity? Or I am sexist? But the big question is? Who cares. Why bring attention to something that is not going to make a da mn difference. If you are not attracted to Asian women, then don't date them, period. Instead of parading how much you do not want something. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 3:23:18 PM |
Both are racists. As i posted on the interracial dating thread other day that reply is equally applicable here.
Personal preferences in dating, whether it be height, weight, race or whatever has nothing to do with being racist, or bigoted or whatever. A person is attracted to whom he/she is attracted - period - and need not apologize for it. Equating prefernces in physical attraction to racism trivializes real racism and is demeaning to those who experience it. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 3:44:18 PM | | I am not seeing how it is racist when you fancy some certain looks or the others. It's a very personal matter. Racism involves doing harm to others one way or the other, how can there be harm in the fact that you personally don't fancy certain looks? I'm not offended when someone writes on his profiles "I fancy blonde ladies"... So what? | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 4:51:36 PM | I LIVE AND HAVE LIVED IN GRANDE PRAIRIE ALBERTA CANADA ALL MY LIFE, MY PARENTS WERE BORN HERE, GRANDPARENTS MARRIED HERE...
You explain why where he lives makes him an ***hole you dont live here and clearly YOU FIT THE BILL.
P.S Im not defending him because he doesnt need to be defended IM TALKING ABOUT MY HOME TOWN!
GRANDE PRAIRIE ALBERTA
although only just over 50k people live in the City withing the county of grande prairie 72k people live with in a 20 mile radius and within a 30 minute drive 120k people are considered covered by this communities services and facilities
we have a thriving Live theater, a Regional College, an international standard Class A art gallery, in the process of being built is a $82,000,000 Aquatics and Wellness Multiplex. There have been 4 new schools including a highschool ( making that 3 in the community) and 3 k-9 schools in the last 5 years. I DARE YOU to say any of that even remotely simular about an american city of the same size and our distance from a large metro area. | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:56:54 PM |
I hope some one can make some sence out of this. I recently posted an add on to my profile that said I was not romanticly attracted to asians, since then I have recieved numerous emails that label me as a racist which I am far from. I have read numerous profiles that state they want only Black Men and so what is the differance here...
IMO:
I don't think stating a personal preference relating to attraction is wrong,...but could be a little racist (maybe not in a bad way, but you are generalizing by race), I see it being the same as preferring one type/style of art over the rest of styles/types & beauty is in the eye of the beholder...so who can argue what you prefer.
Maybe open it up a bit more then be more selective as you have options :
eg: "I am very attracted to......" --(describe qualities and maybe you will get less of a negative response) | |
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Posted: 6/15/2009 5:16:43 PM | OP -- There is no difference. They are both stating preferences. This has been done to death. Too many namby-pamby types out there labelling it as racism because they feel they have to champion those select few that are excluded.
You are putting your preferences out there for all to see. It's really no different than the filters that POF employs sitewide. Must Not this and Must Not that. Those are exclusions too. They help narrow down the field for you. This saves you from wading through several mails or interested parties that you don't like or don't prefer.
It's not racism at all. Too bad there's still so many namby-pambys out there that would still see it as such.
It's a preference. Nothing more. Nothing less.
What he ^^^said.
Stop allowing the PC crowd to futz your mind with fuzzy logic, and with their attempts to "hang" labels on you.
You're not saying that you "hate" asians. You just don't want to be in a relationship with one. It's merely a preference.
Even "if" you only wanted to date within your ethnicity, it would only be a preference. You aren't promoting "hatred" by your preferences.
Personal preferences in dating, whether it be height, weight, race or whatever has nothing to do with being racist, or bigoted or whatever. A person is attracted to whom he/she is attracted - period - and need not apologize for it. Equating prefernces in physical attraction to racism trivializes real racism and is demeaning to those who experience it.
This ^^^ quote truly bears repetition. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 6:34:01 AM | Most posters don't realize that OP went out his way to state that he doesn't like Asian lady.
If you do a search in his city in 50 miles distance, there is only ONE Asian lady on POF. Why the ***hole OP felt the need to state his dislike of Asian women in his profile?
His comparison of some white lady preference of black guy is nonsense as well. Those ladies are likely to receive emails from other race which they're not attracted to. I highly doubt the OP received any email from any Asian gal.
If a person wears bullet proof vest into battle field, he's smart. If a person wears machine gun proof vest into an desk job office, he's either stupid or paranoid.
For no reason, the OP stated his dislike of Asian women in his profile, why? He's either stupid or racist. I think he's both. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 6:49:22 AM | it seems rather presumptuous to preclude asians right on your profile. i mean my god, all the single asian women of the world must be burning a path straight to your door because just can't wait to meet you, right???
if you don't like presumptuous, try tacky. or negative. it's both.
hey i don't like azzholes but i don't waste a second of my time making public declarations about it, i just shoo 'em away if one happens to show up.
in the end you're only painting yourself in a poor light by putting something like that on your profile. whether or not it's racist is completely beside the point. | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:43:29 AM |
It is racist because you're assuming that all Asians look alike
Racism is not based upon looks or attraction......How asinine to make such statement.... | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 10:09:52 AM | Well I'm sure it's some kind of ISM to someone somewhere.
Dramatic people in need of something to b1tch about will always find what they are looking for! Something to b1tch about! | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 11:36:18 AM | You people are disturbing..
You can't even functionally find a happy medium.
Person A:
Is desperate to get this redundant point across that this is some how "preference".
Yet completely ignores the fact that THERE IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PREFERENCE AND EXCLUSION.
But saying so makes you seem as if you have some clairvoyant grasp on dating and social stigma.
Person B
Claims that everyone is racist for any reason.
It is loose loose. Close this thread, the stupidity is deplorable.
Yes, stupidity. Not ignorance. You people are too old to be arguing just to argue.
The same people are saying the same things they've said a hundred times over.
Come up with something prolific, and unique, post the thread, then have it deleted by some mediocre jealous person. That way we could at least have a glimpse of something new, before we read pages of redundant, ignorant "I have to prove I am better than you." b.s.
Jesus christ.
I'm gonna go back to plowing my woman before her flight leaves. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 11:38:34 AM | Dramatic people in need of something to b1tch about will always find what they are looking for! Something to b1tch about!
I guess yours is b1tching about dramatic people. 
~Justin | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 11:45:37 AM | I guess yours is b1tching about dramatic people.
~Justin
+ like 4895723958729 points.
Yes I did expect the email, but the question I am asking is why the double standard
What double standard?
I am willing to bet you wanted to put black people, but that isn't POLITICALLY CORRECT.
To say you wouldn't date any asian is to say they all look alike<---More repetitive bs.
So yes, it is racist. You think you are bringing something different and insightful to the table, but you arent. This is something that has no stock in the debate realm because the logic itself...
IS FUKCING SIMPLE.
You know the answer. You got your attention, move on.
Better question, why do white suburban boys speak Ebonics when they aren't often exposed to black people?
This is a question that defies logic. Ask this one. It's like they think turning their hats backwards gives them black super powers. (B-ball, breakdancing, super jumping, huge c*ock powers.) | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/16/2009 11:50:52 AM | I just want to know what exactly it is about asian women he finds so "unappealing".
~Justin | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 2:08:50 PM | Hmmm... If I come across profiles that state that, then I'll just move along. Obviously not everyone can be attracted to me. It's not racist... Though I disagree that it's double standards. Many women who state this probably get emails too. I think I've read some on this forum.
However, I do agree that maybe try to state the positive, instead of the negative (term wise). Like what one poster said, state what you are attracted to, instead of what you're not attracted to. But really it's not racism, you just don't really know how to word it. :) | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 2:45:01 PM | I think its a little closed minded.
I have a certain "type" I am after. But sometimes there is someone who is not my "type" but has something else exceptional to offer.
Lets do the analogy with icecream.
You say, "I only like chocolate ice cream."
But you try other flavors and eventually you might stumble upon something else you like and thus diversify your tastes.
You don't know all asians. So you can't be sure that there isn't one you would find attractive. Unless for some reason you find them absolutely repulsive. But I would find that hard to believe. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 3:59:11 PM | I don't think its at all racist to have sexual preferences. Some people like blondes, others like brunettes. Some like other certain body features, and skin color or other race defining features such as the way the eyes are shaped, lip shape, straight hair vs curly, etc, etc, etc.. There is absolutely nothing wrong being being attracted generally to a certain race or not being attracted to a certain race. I know of Asian girls that only want to date white guys and are not attracted to their own race. What kind of racism would that be? its not racism.
Now on the other hand if you are saying that you don't want to date Asians because of or some other racist view, well then yes it would be racist. But if you have made it clear that you're just not attracted to them, then I say, no foul. | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:07:56 PM |
Better question, why do white suburban boys speak Ebonics when they aren't often exposed to black people?
In that case, is it even proper ebonics? I guess it would depend what medium they are getting it from..... | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:16:47 PM | | I'm reading all of this and thinking....yah this poster has a point, and that poster has a point, and I can understand that persons perspective....but still am not able to clearly understand how someone putting the fact that there not interested in a particular ethnicity on there profile would make them racist...... please someone enlighten me. Tell me this, if I were to put on my profile that I "PREFER" Asian women, for example, would that make me a rascist? I agree it is bad policy to put on a profile that your not attracted to a someone because of there race, I mean I think that is just rude really...but saying that I am attracted to certain people because of there race would be acceptable, and in effect means the same thing...that the person is not as attracted to other people because of there ethnicity.......In short , the OP may be rude, but racist... | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 6:27:59 PM |
In that case, is it even proper ebonics?
Ebonics is anything but proper. Nothing more then a concept developed by people to lazy to speak proper english.
I think the REAL question is: why does anyone speak Ebonics? | |
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