| Is it racism when....
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:42:23 PM |
No sense of entitlement from me. The point I was trying to describe was just because YOU ARE a WOMEN or MINORITY does not mean that my rights/prerogatives/priveledges should suffer or be minimized....and as a white male over 50 years of age they must certainly have.
I guess we disagree.... As a "white" woman with certain privileges, some of which are unearned and a feature of my "white" and middle class birthright in a racist and classist society, I do NOT feel that I "suffer" or am "minimized" when my "rights/prerogatives/privileges" are sometimes subordinated to those who's birthright has not so privileged them.
Then again, I am not a proponent of "color blindness", either. It's just another way of not seeing what needs to be seen.
As far as your words "averse racism" I don't total agree. Averse is "having an active feeling of repugnance or distaste". Repugnance is having a strong dislike. Yes, I do not like "racism", however, my point was to say that I'm tired of the racism geared towards whites and men(reverse discrimination) when in fact I should have said "adverse racism". With the word adverse meaning "causing harm" or "harmful".
AVERSE - Having a feeling of opposition, distaste, or aversion; strongly disinclined.
ADVERSE - Acting or serving to oppose; antagonistic: adverse criticism. Contrary to one's interests or welfare; harmful or unfavorable
The definition of aversive racism I embraced can be found here:
http://academic.udayton.edu/race/01race/racism10.htm
Had I lived with overt and/or covert racism all my life, I doubt I would be overly concerned with having "adverse" feelings towards people who, knowingly or not - intentionally or not, have unearned privilege that I do not enjoy, or which they don't recognize or acknowledge. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:01:26 PM | | Hey, you can’t help who you like; never ever worry about what someone else thinks of you. It’s what makes us individual. And if they don’t like it then give them a lesson in sign language ha ha. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:05:59 PM |
I guess we disagree.... As a "white" woman with certain privileges, some of which are unearned and a feature of my "white" and middle class birthright in a racist and classist society, I do NOT feel that I "suffer" or am "minimized" when my "rights/prerogatives/privileges" are sometimes subordinated to those who's birthright has not so privileged them.
Then again, I am not a proponent of "color blindness", either. It's just another way of not seeing what needs to be seen.
AVERSE - Having a feeling of opposition, distaste, or aversion; strongly disinclined.
ADVERSE - Acting or serving to oppose; antagonistic: adverse criticism. Contrary to one's interests or welfare; harmful or unfavorable
The definition of aversive racism I embraced can be found here:
http://academic.udayton.edu/race/01race/racism10.htm
Had I lived with overt and/or covert racism all my life, I doubt I would be overly concerned with having "adverse" feelings towards people who, knowingly or not - intentionally or not, have unearned privilege that I do not enjoy, or which they don't recognize or acknowledge.
....smart women rock the world. They just do. They fcuking rock the world.
Sigh...goddamn I love a smart woman..... | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 4:32:19 PM | I've not problem with those who choose inter-racial dating, but by the same token, I want to preserve my own heritage by dating within my own Celto-Germanic heritage. If the PC brigade deem that "racist" then I have an issue with that, especially when few condemn the Orientals and South Asians for having similar stipulations.
In short, I believe it is perfectly fine to wish to date within your own culture only, but not acceptable to undermine others who think differently. It's all a matter of personal choice, imo. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2009 9:24:57 PM | "Heritage" has never been, is not now, nor will it ever be a static enterprise. This is not Nature's intention. Just ask a geneticist or the American Kennel Club.
Every generation does, however, seem to produce those who think they are at the apex of Nature's evolutionary plan. This assumption goes by different names at different times. I'm content to call it othering. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:01:42 AM | | bah, it's just a preference who cares and wants them anyway! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:15:53 AM | | I guess Grand Prairie, Alberta must be swimming with asian chicks for the OP to specifically list them. I can count all the times an asian woman has contacted me through POF on zero fingers. I mean, in the off chance an asian woman were to contact you (probably like 100,000:1 odds) why not just respond with "Thanks, but not interested"? | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:39:14 AM | I don't think you're a racist, dude. that's ridiculous. i'm not attracted to obese men because it's a chemistry problem. so? preference/chemistry/race preference/ethnicity preference. so what? blah.
of course i'm so narcissistic that it's difficult to think any dude WOULDN'T want me lol (working on the narcissism thing *g*) and i also get turned on looking at my bod mostly.... sick huh?
peace
*smokes pipe* | |
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| Is it racism when....
Posted: 7/3/2009 1:22:22 AM |
I guess Grand Prairie, Alberta must be swimming with asian chicks for the OP to specifically list them. I can count all the times an asian woman has contacted me through POF on zero fingers. I mean, in the off chance an asian woman were to contact you (probably like 100,000:1 odds) why not just respond with "Thanks, but not interested"? I couldn't agree more.
Did anyone notice the OP hasn't been on this thread for awhile? Did anyone bother to look at his profile lately? It doesn't say anything about Asian women. Apparently, he made some sense out of all the replies he received and adjusted his profile accordingly. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 3:21:22 AM | Why would you say that?
Just don't respond to the type you are not attracted to and don't hurt people who have not hurt you.
I am not asian and wouldn't respond to a profile that demeaned another race just to demean them.
I am not attracted to a lot of types but am not going to point out something they were born as, to hurt them.
I won't date a hunter, but that is a choice they make.
It is very different to say I prefer to date _________
Than I am not attracted to _________
You are stating an entire race is ugly or repulsive or beneath you.
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Posted: 7/3/2009 5:24:30 AM | How about...
DONT SAY NOTHING AT ALL!
If a Asian, ching chaw chow chicken fried rice sends you an email.
READ-DELETE! How hard is that?
Who cares if people think its racist. Take it off your profile
before other good girls sees how Pre-Judaical you might be,
and deal with the skinny, hot, nice long hair cute voice having
Asian girl that emails you and just delete it then having it on
your profile shows how picky you might be and to deal with.
But its just a thought  | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 7:59:25 AM | | I also find it funny when people ask "Why the double standard?!" In the OPs situation is was the same thing, just he was to have preferences without people taking him to task for it. Whatever! If you get that bothered by what others think of your dating preferences, stay in the house! | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:21:44 AM | | Listen,.. I am not sure what the odds are .. but if we get a goat with the hiccups.. an iranian terrorist with his pants down around his ankles .. my neighbour who hates sex but loves to take pictures.. and three asian women .. a dog with tourettes syndrome.. and five big .. I mean really really big black guys all in different shades .. and oh yah they can have sunglasses on k.. and you .. can we do.. a flick together .. hah.???. i just love plenty of .. "it" .. oh yah.. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:31:27 AM | | IMO- it is racist, but who cares. Get your rocks off with the one you want! You already know the answer, and many people understand where you are coming from, but won't dare say it. Virtually everyone has a hang up against a certain group of people unless they are Pollyanna. Maybe an Asian lady did you wrong or your parent fought in Vietnam (espousing horrible words against Asians), or grandparent fought in Korea or WWII, who knows. The truth is that we all have hang ups even if we lie and say we don't. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:40:35 AM | It doesn't matter wether or not you are attracted to different races, but the fact that you posted that...
Well, you're an idiot.
Most women of substance, whatever race they are, will read that and think,
wow.
Personally it makes me uncomfortable.
How can it not?
If a Asian, ching chaw chow chicken fried rice sends you an email...
This is so offensive. I'm not easily offended, but wow. I feel pretty awful. I actually have tears building
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Posted: 7/3/2009 8:49:36 AM | | Some people are attracted to people more like themselves, some people are attracted to people way different than themselves. It doesn't hurt to state your preference, however, you didn't have to mention the Asians. You could just say what you ARE looking for. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 12:54:13 PM |
YOU'RE OUT OF YOUR MIND. I AM THE FARTHEST THING FROM BEING GAY.
Just FYI, I get more ass(females) than a toilet seat.
By the way, I have NEVER heard anyone ever imply or say those words to me.....NEVER. Congrats on being the only human being in the world to misread who I am.
Sorry dude, its you who is gay and find me good-looking right?? That's okay, alot people find me good-looking, your NOT the first.
As a gay person, I find this most reassuring. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 1:46:09 PM |
Just FYI, I get more ass(females) than a toilet seat.
This is completely unnecessary, and would seem to contradict what you've posted elsewhere. Simply too much information for me. I wonder why you constantly need to assert your so-called masculinity in the forums over and over again.
Please, just stop. BTW, I am in no way flirting with you.
Thank You........ | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 1:57:18 PM | I actually had to replace the toilet seat in my house this week, so my new toilet seat is completely dominating me in the ass(females):toilet seat competition.
Also, I'm wondering if we can't insult a few more genders/cultures/races in this thread, it's like we're not even trying anymore. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 2:34:27 PM | | I am wildly attracted to slant-eyed devils! Is that racist? | |
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Posted: 7/3/2009 2:56:58 PM | Wouldn't it just have been easier to screen your e-mail rather than putting something explicit on your page.
If you expected the e-mail, then you expected the controversy, so some part of you really wanted to start this thread before you even added it to your profile.
The simple need to have a discussion in such depth about something that quite simply is irrelevant as long as the woman in question is smokin' hot reguardless of skin color, is what makes you a sore thumb.
Sure, maybe you are attracted to certain physical characteristics that are less common in women of Asian decent. Then go with putting up those possitive characteristics you are looking for rather than ones you aren't and classifying that as a racial group.
Chances are you're probably wrong in your own assumptions. Take Tia Carrerre for example she's Asian, but I bet you wouldn't turn her away if she tried to jump you.
Think before you post.
I'll give you the benefit of a doubt and just say you're a fool, because you're either a fool or a racist. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 3:54:00 PM | If your sole basis for rejecting an applicant for a job is race, then that is racism. Yes.
Rejecting a potential mate based on race, height, weight, ability to cook or even their favorite color is PERFECTLY acceptable.
People really need to stop thinking the way they FEEL they SHOULD be thinking.
This is stupid. I'm not attracted to fat women. I'm not attracted to really tall women.
I'm not attracted to men and I'm not attracted to black women.
Should I date fat girls because "Fat chicks need love, too?" No.
Should I date tall women, because I feel bad for discriminating? No.
Should I date men because they want me to? No.
Should I date a black girl even if I'm not attracted to her? NO!
A relationship is not some corporate entity subject to governmental regulations and penalties for discrimination. If you want a relationship to last, you need to be fully attracted to the person you're with. If there is something you don't like, ANYTHING, and it will stand in the way of your happiness... it will ruin your relationship, no matter how society tells you that it's okay.
People seem to be afraid to say this, but people from different races/cultures ARE DIFFERENT!!! They ARE.
Stereotypes develop through constant observations of a particular group by a large number of people. A large number of people that aren't afraid to call it like it is.
If some guy doesn't like Asians, and you're an Asian... don't date him.
If you're a cute Asian and you like white guys... message me. I love Asians ;) | |
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