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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:25:40 AM | | Wow! Who have you been hanging out with? As others have already stated, sex is important to all mammals. If it wasn't, there wouldn't be anyone here. So I think we can take it as a given that sex is important, except for a few asexual beings. But I would think that with the 40+ crowd, they would have learned that a little bit about delayed gratification and also that there other important things in life beyond sexual gratification. I am frankly surprised that you have come to this conclusion about older men. The only way I can make any sense out of that, is to speculate that perhaps some of the men you are meeting are on the rebound from a bad marriage and are still (hopefully not permanently) gun shy about getting involved in a more meaningful way. For myself, sex is nice, but I find it is a more intimate experience with someone that I know better. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:31:55 AM |
We need to free willy that's far more important. ( the way he slapped my azz and licked my)
Well maybe you can work something out then. You free his willy, and he'll slap your azz. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:43:19 AM | Far from it. When my baser needs have been met, I think about everything from philosophy to technology, etc.
Whenever some need hasn't been met for awhile, that usually becomes my focus. It could be sleep, it could be food, or it could be sex. Based on evolutionary differences, I think men tend to think about sex a bit more often than women, and may tend to pursue it more avidly. Basically, life IS about sex - everything else - however important and necessary - is secondary to the drive to reproduce, and mainly exist to support reproductive success.
And even when I'm getting plenty of sex, and even though I think about other things, I will often still think about the next time I'll have sex! | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:45:36 AM | | yes....either getting it or not getting it or being wanted only for it or not being wanted for it or how to get it or how to not get it or what to do before or what to do after | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/4/2009 8:59:08 AM | Sex runs through my mind a number of times in a given day for a variety of reasons. It could be someone I was thinking of, a beautiful woman I exchange a glance and smile on the street, an advertisement of a bikini on a passing taxi, or a phone call from a friend with a sexy voice. The male libido is visually oriented and this information is stored and filed away, to be reaccessed when in the company of a love interest and heightening sensual pleasure at that moment. Beautiful, sexy women are like the choices in a dessert/pastry cart although there is no need to taste all. They can be admired from a distance while I share my intimacy with someone special that I have an emotional connection with. On the flipside, there are men looking for a quick release and prefer an accomodating woman to facilitate. Women have "the goods" and the power and can determine how they want intimacy, on what terms and with who/when. Unfortunately, I continue to see too many beautiful women give their power away to easily and therefore are labeled "easy". Hope this helps. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:33:24 AM | | The human race wouldnt be here if we didnt think about it every day. Its somewhat fun to do these forum things. I think I am getting addicted and I should go out and enjoy some of the non-rain weather. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:38:52 PM | | to answer your question: NO we dont only think about that, and because of my em well I aint gonna say, but about 80% of the time my mind is on work, food, tv, and other stuff like feeding my cat. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:04:38 AM | | In answer to your question. Yes. Sex is a man's primary concern. I just read a post by a man who is now married to a woman who gave him 'the best sex in his life'. And now after they are married, she can't be bothered and he's trapped. It's their achilles heel, so to speak. They base every other decision around sex. If you chat with other men who deny that fact, they're lying to cover it up because they know they have to con a woman with words of 'love' and 'relationship' in order to get SEX! | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:00:21 AM | "Sex is like oxygen, it's only a big deal when you're not getting any."
It's a classic joke but oh so true, in my case as well. Now that I'm in a great relationship and that need is being met along with emotional needs, I couldn't care less how often I have it. But back during the last two years that I was single and starving, I would have stomped anyone that even dared to get in my way.   | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:31:15 AM | | Sex has to be important, and look at it in a loving way, it is the most expressive way to share and show your love for someone | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:39:18 AM | nope, yup, nope, yup, nope, yup, nope, yup.......
Isn't everything we do, done to aid in getting sex???
Think about it.... I mean really think about it. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:24:53 AM | | Sex is a natural thought process, but honestly some people know that it's going to happen so they are confidently comfortable digging into the dirt and having fun in the other ways (which quite humorously will make for better sex). Do I getta Hallajure?! | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:40:51 AM | It does seem that sex is all anyone is worried about. Whatever happened to deep and meaningful relationships. Sure I agree that sex is important in a relationship, but to what extreme should it be? And it seems to be so hard to find a decent guy that is willing to wait for it!!!
No it's not. Chicks just won't date this guy. Seriously you have to find a woman who wants to wait because if you say you want to wait the chick will suddenly be pushing to lay you, then feel rejected. Women are generally contradictory by nature and rarely know what they want. (And when they get it they want something else. LOL)
-Nate | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:47:43 AM | I think for the most part, sex is something natural to think about. It is fun, sometimes exciting, and is everywhere one looks. It is used to sell things from food to clothes, and can alleviate depression and menstrual cramps. How can 1 not think much of sex?  | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 7/10/2009 6:08:21 AM | humptyhump1984:
There are two different types of guys
1) guys who want a woman just for sex
2) guys who want a woman for a multitude of reasons, including sex
Either way, guys want sex. You just need to figure out if that is ALL he wants, or if there is more."
Basically, the guy who said this is my hero. If I was 900 pounds I'd get it tattooed on my body, but alas I'm not so I don't have enough skin.
Face it, dudes are going to want to bang you, and the ones that don't are either secretly gay or don't have a penis.
Read this and learn girls.
While you read it remember that:
a) You are still single
b) If you want to play scrabble on your honeymoon, why are you here?
Now be honest with yourselves. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:16:21 AM | | I agree with you. Lets face it all humans think about sex. Us woman would be lying to say we don't get urges or thoughts too. Some people are just on "overdrive" for lack of a better word lol. And it is pretty easy to figure out what a persons intentions are. If they are making a whole bunch of sexual comments or jokes upon first meeting you then usually they tend to try and put the move on you before the night is over. I don't have a "set" amount of dates I will go on before becoming sexual involved or anything. But I do let my date know that I am not "easy" and will not be quick to lay down with anyone until I feel that sex is not all they are looking for. It is hard to try and find a guy that is willing to wait . I have been on many dates where the man intentions are pretty much clear and if thats all they seem to want then I just move on to the next date!!! | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:22:33 AM | | no... many blessings for health, faith, family, generousity, service, finances, sustainability,cooperation, contribution, love | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:30:02 AM | No it's not. Chicks just won't date this guy. Seriously you have to find a woman who wants to wait because if you say you want to wait the chick will suddenly be pushing to lay you, then feel rejected. Women are generally contradictory by nature and rarely know what they want. (And when they get it they want something else. LOL)
-Nate
I am just speaking from my experience. I have dated lots of different men and have come across alot that seem to put sex first. I am not contradictory and know exactly what I want, some people know what they want and others dont lol. Sex is something that is in our faces everyday through t.v. music, etc. I am not afraid of sex, I am just the type of person that prefers sex with someone I have feelings for. To each their
own, I just think that waiting for a few dates is best for me so I can make sure that is not all he wants or expects. There are plenty of people out there that are willing to have one night stands. As mature adults I think honesty is the best approach for two people to come to an understanding about there sexual desires! | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 10/18/2009 8:38:09 AM | | single people do not have it just laying there beside them everyday when they wake up...they have to go searching for it each day...it takes a man awhile to find and talk a woman into it...this can cause a man to become obsessed with the whole process of getting it...because it is not guarenteed to him... | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:21:42 AM | | Well, true. Sex for women isn't a high priority unless she hasn't had some in a while or her libido is not pretty high. But a woman can get turned off pretty quick even if she was planning to have sex. If I notice desperateness, and the chemistry isn't as high on my part, he acts like hes don Juan, his cell is blowing up and is aloof, not focused on me but acting like a hornball, no - hes not getting none that moment and beyond. When on POF I get repeated how you doing sexy, and can I marry you lines without getting to know ME as a person, no matter how hot they are, they lost their friggin chance. Like the other poster said, there are plenty of other ****s around for them to get into. But from personal experience, once I am caught, they dont want to leave, I have boot them out. Once I am settled in, sex is awesome. And fear of a man wanting sex shouldn't dictate your dating scheme, in general yes they want that, but some guys there actually take time in courting you, interested in getting to know you, are attracted to you, and like the dance it takes to seal the deal. But think about this, you wouldnt want to get stuck with a bad lay either, its better to test out the chemistry in the sack, just in case you get the romeo who is clueless there. Because sorry men, there are some of you can talk the talk but not walk it. | |
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