| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 8:34:09 PM | padraig06....
You are so right!!
Ladies, first indication of how you are going to be treated? Look at how he treats his mother. BIG SIGN.
And...he's a man's man...grab him... | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 9:00:23 PM | No guys do not always think about sex when they meet a woman... but their intentions as a man are already there when they meet you .. if he is a man of higher intention you will know immediately by how he responds to you .. this guy gave you something initially unknown but ultimately a gift..
as for feeling small and degraded ... what in blazes does a beautiful and decent young woman have to feel small or degraded.. what did you do.. ? you believe me are not in anyway to blame for his behaviour .. you do not own his behaviour .. it belongs very clearly to him. Yes you own your sexual identity and you should be very proud of how you handled that situation ...you used your internal intuition and it paid off .. you found out that some will come along that are not deserving of your friendship.. they are an insult to your good intentions and intelligence .. I believe you should feel... feel outrage.. and justifiably so.. you do not own his behaviour and you need to understand that by allowing yourself to "feel degraded or small " you are giving him power over your being that he is should not have ..... You need to talk to someone that loves you .. besides you .. or talk to you in a mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself and you would never allow yourself to be used in any way by any man ... that your precious being deserves to be treated as special as you know you are... if you have someone that can hold you ... to allow you to release yourself from this .. it will help you evaporate what needs to go so that you can feel that you are not small, that no one will ever degrade you and that you have complete emotional control over your own sexuality and no one has the right to insult with innuendo .. your sexual being.. this was a valuable lesson which will alter your pathway to greater strength and dignity for your will and your sexuality . | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:07:16 PM | Yes, I think about that stuff all the time...what's a virile, passionate, hot chili pepper eating dude to think about besides work and making sure mi mama is happy and well-looked after??? Do I act on it? Nooooo...that's what separates responsible adult men to pimply-assed teenage boys. Only one chica to do that business with for me (sometimes, like once a month if I'm allowed). | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 9:13:11 PM | | Why would you feel small? He wanted something you didn't, so don't be around this guy. And how does this man make everyone only think about sex and what does now-a-days have to do with it, do you think people use to not think about sex and now they do? Lots of women like casual sex and wouldn't care if he screwed you also, he asked, you refused, what is the point of the post??? | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 9:14:03 PM |
So is Sex all that anyone ever thinks about now a days?
No. Just today I thought about the following:
The hot weather
My car and how long until I can get it fixed
All I need to do for the old apartment to get it cleaned
How am I going to fit my bed in the shoe box I live in
Why is this woman's breath so horrendous
liars
coworkers being d!ckholes | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 9:40:23 PM | I can't speak for other females....but...yea...I pretty much think about sex alot...I sure hope that never changes.
As for you feeling small and degraded...well...only you can make yourself feel that way...
The guy "liked you" so he felt he had a chance with someone else and you were his back-up plan. Wanting to sleep with someone and follow thru are two different things.
It's your body, emotions and it's your decision to decide who does and does not touch you....it's also your decision to decide how you feel about yourself. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:48:00 PM | I think about sex a lot but for most guys, sex is easier to talk about than dating or sappy things. Sex makes us feel great, and the
sappy stuff has only hurt us from what our past experiences have showed us.  | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 9:49:40 PM | SteveFunSmiles Very well said and so true!!!
There is a difference between sex and making love...everyone may not "get it" but for those of you who do, you understand what I'm talking about.
Is sex all that everyone thinks about? Well....If it isn't then you aren't doing it right...lol Joking! If you don't hold sex as an important major aspect in a relationship then either the sex you are having sucks or you suck at having sex!!!! Of course all other aspect of a relationship are very important as well.
Sex is for cheaters and single people who don't want a relationship or a relationship with that particular person. Sex can also be with someone you care about and are falling in love with and once you fall you start to make love. Either way It's a choice people have however, meaning less sex is just that. I prefer to make love. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 9:54:15 PM | I think about my job.
I think about the forums.
I think about novels...alot. I love fiction.
I think about my financial situation.
I think about revenging myself on people who have hurt me, but it's purely imaginary. I am not the vengeful type.
I think about my cat Nico, who has been ill lately.
I think about my friends and how we will spend the weekend.
I think about my family.
I think about starting a green business.
And sometimes I think about SEX. It is kind of mixed in their with the other stuff.
But when I am with a guy, I think about it a lot more than I usually do cause then it becomes a possibility. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 10:03:47 PM | To the OP, consider this - young men especially will treat you in a manner in which you instruct them to. No, I'm not blaming you for presenting that you should be considered only for what you were worth sexually. But much of the discussion leading up to the date indicates to the young man what it is you're interested in. If you're speaking sexually, dressing scantily then ta da 2+2 = getting laid.
If all the men you date arrive at the same conclusion it could be you and what you're presenting.
If was only this ONE man? Then consider him the loser and move on.
This is what is meant by being choosy about the men you show interest in.
Hold yourself with high respect and do not allow someone else to degrade you.
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What a bunch of crap!!
I've met men who I talked to on the phone for all over 15 minutes, didn't talk about sex during that time frame, and all they were interested in was sex.
I don't instruct men to think of me as a 'sexual object'. If I dress scantily you shouldn't be the arse and a**ume I'm asking for it. If that's the case wtf do you do in the summer when it's hot and you're out for the night? lmao
Men like to fish, some men just throw out the line thinking they'll get lucky and reel some woman in. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 10:10:34 PM | Hey Sassy L! Good to see you, I can't e-mail you, I'm a female, but nice to see you and I'm faving you so you can e-mail me if you want, say hellol
Hallie | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 10:27:33 PM | Sex is what it is all about.
Why do people pad it and try and infuse some deeper meaning?
Sex is the most basic of our primal desires. It is something that WE ALL share, and is common through all races and peoples of this planet.
Birds do it, bee's do it.... you all know the drill.
Is it all we think about? Nope, I have kids so sex provided me with a distraction and a reminder of birth control.... OOPS... back to sex again.
It is the foundation of US. It is inherent in almost everything.
Yes it is all we think about. Do you really want to think about recycling?
A resounding fuk yes.
A fuk? yes.
Think about it. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 10:58:01 PM | I have a lover I care for very much, and only see every few months if that, when I think of him yes I can't help but think of sex. I'd prefer a relationship long term but seeing as he refuses to commit [cultural differnces etc.] I can only appreciate what we've had. Normally though I can get along without sex just fine but then girls are better at this than men LOL!
He's just soooooo hot in bed though OMG!!! | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:34:42 PM |
Go back to GSB's post and she will be the wise Sage.
It's all in how YOU present yourself.
Men are very astute when it comes to how they instantly catagorize a woman. Three columns form in the head (big). The headings of each column are:
Will She? Won't She? Hmmm...I wonder...?
It's where you desire to be. Raise the bar.
Hey guys/gals -- this is not a hard and fast rule. There are some PEOPLE with a huge sense of entitlement who will just keep trying to get what they want, and let's just say it's sex.
They will try to get it from ANYONE - has nothing to do with how the person presents themselves.
Case in point, I recently contracted with a new agency for work.
After talking to the person in charge of assigning work ONCE on the phone, DURING THE SECOND PHONE CALL, he asked me how I was and I said "Fine" and he said "I bet you are, WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO SEND ME A PICTURE."
What commenced was him badgering him to send him a picture. There was no mistaking why he wanted the picture, and when I made it clear that I thought this was inappropriate and he needed to stop, did he?
NO! He did it more. This man has never seen me in his life. He only spoke to me twice on the phone.
It's nothing to do with me. That's how he is and he's probably done it to many other women before me. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/13/2009 11:52:58 PM | Hardly. Sometimes I also think about sex.  Of course not. As for your situation, well, if you accept the unacceptable, it's on you, not him. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 12:26:01 AM | I think this guy is more interested in having sex than getting to know you. I don't blame you for not accepting it. I wouldn't either unless I was up for it at the time.
Yes, there are guys that only think sex and would worm their way into your life just to get what they want. They are here on pof, heaps of them.
If you ask me if sex is all anyone ever think about, I would say sex is as important too when it comes to relationships. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 1:19:06 AM | Sex is 'Overrated' Making Love is where it's at....
, and you need to be in a 'Relationship of Substance' to begin to understand what I'm writing
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 3:28:51 AM | Here's my two cents.
Sex is what separates a realtionship from a friendship. Then again I say this as a guy that has too often been the dependable friend that the girl comes to but doesn't sleep with.
So any relationship needs sex to you know...exist. Else it is not a relationship.
Anyway with that said. Guys want sex whenever and wherever, and most of what we do is with said intention. This is not a bad thing and I it is my honest opinion that no man should ever be condemmed for it. With said, not every man wants the same amount, and most of us are decent enough to keep our sex drives under control. The real scoundrel's are the ones that lie, cheat, and mistreat others for it.
To the OP. Your story is a little vague. Could you give more details??? What exactly did he do to make you feel small and degraded??? Did he deceive you or hide information from you?? I would think that THAT is the real crime. | |
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