| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:10:27 AM | | Why would his being a man whore make you feel degraded? Just walk away and be thankful you found out before you slept with the guy. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:19:30 AM | | I didn't read all the post on this topic. People do think about sex. People do think about a lot of other stuff too. Relationship are about both. Put yourself in the other person's position and try to figure out what they are thinking and try to figure out is that in line with what you want. If it is great, if its not tell yourself "I like my check please" and move on. Its really that simple. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 12:39:38 PM | Thoughts of the day thus far:
I need to get my car's oil changed. Make sure they check the AC too. Gosh it needs to be washed. Maybe I'll just use the window thing when I go fill up with gas after work tonight.
I need to fill the bird bath things and water the plants at the house I'm taking care of. Heaven forbid the birds don't have bath water.
Laundry! Don't forget you have a load in the dryer.
Do I really have to go to work? It's hot and there's too much stuff I need to get taken care of.
Damn, my entire right hand is swollen from the cut I got yesterday.
Hmmmm...not many cop cars. And the ROT rally is ending. Hopefully I won't be too busy at work. It is Sunday afterall.
Ooh, look. There's stuff to read on the forums. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:05:38 PM | yeap, pretty much. What else is there to do after the hobbies, work and for some the kids? kidding 
A male co-worker being a typical guy with a beer and gun in his hand once told me this:
If women didn't have holes we would have hunted them down in the beginning and they would be all extinct.
Jerk! I hardly speak to him anymore... | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:06:32 PM | | First and foremost the guys who expect **** on the first night are little boys there not men. You have to earn a women's trust before she can smoke your blunt and have calm love making with you. Women remind me of the weed plant they fill me up with THC and calm me down. If a women starts to argue spark a blunt and tell her to smoke the problems away and I'm guaranteed she be sweet than mango. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:13:05 PM | OP,
Instead of simply saying 'yes'... I decided to take the approach of what *you* are offering and if any of it trumps sex in terms of pure interest from a guys point of view.
So let's see what we have here:
-A horse with a college degree related to the horse
-Amusement parks
-the Gym
-Being outside
-You live with your parents
-You know how to pay bills
-You listen to music
-You have AIM and you're on Yahoo.
So... tell me... do you seriously believe anything listed here would be able to compete with Sex... from a guys point of view? Hmmm?
Well let me tell you... I don't see anything in your profile that would make me stick around if there was no possibility of sex.
There's no hot car, no interesting place where you live, your career (while I'm sure its a good career and you like it) isn't gonna do it... it's not like you're some sort of star... I'm sorry... I'm seeing NOTHING that you are offering that is anywhere near as interesting to guys as sex is.
Hell... if you were an amateur stripper that'd make some guys want to hang out with you... but again... that's only because of the sex connection. Or if you worked for one of the top-level sports teams in New York, that'll be something to a lot of guys. Or if you had a really hot car... I'm sure some guys would date you to get a crack at being in that car... Hell... get yourself a Koenigsegg CCX or a Ferrari Enzo or a Lamborghini Murcielago or even a Lotus Elise and *I'll* date you just for the car... at least for a little while.
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:27:20 PM |
Hell... get yourself a Koenigsegg CCX or a Ferrari Enzo or a Lamborghini Murcielago or even a Lotus Elise and *I'll* date you just for the car... at least for a little while.
Yea,but as you were driving away in her car, you'd be thinking "you know what would be good about now - sex and maybe joint like the guy prior was thinking"....wait a minute he was thinking about getting high and that's not thinking about sex. I think I have an answer, we don't just think about sex, we think about getting high too! | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 6:42:26 PM | Well Majesticbeauty,
I'm didn't say it to be mean. But you can't deny that I'm telling the truth... and sometimes the truth is scary and cuts like a knife.
But c'mon... I dare you... Look at your profile and tell me of a single thing in it that that you think is more appealing than sex from a guy's perspective...
And yeah yeah... you want to believe that you'll be loved for your personality... and I'm not saying that won't happen. But it doesn't happen right off the bat.
Quietcowboy,
Yea,but as you were driving away in her car, you'd be thinking "you know what would be good about now - sex and maybe joint like the guy prior was thinking"....wait a minute he was thinking about getting high and that's not thinking about sex. I think I have an answer, we don't just think about sex, we think about getting high too!
Actually, I don't smoke.
But seriously... if a chick was driving me around in a Koenigsegg CCX, I'd just be sitting back and soaking up the experience and watching her shift gears... watching a woman shift gears is a turnon in itself... | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 7:30:28 PM | Hey OP, before you diss the men... its a personal choice you make... you and you alone are the one who decides whether you are having sex or not having sex. Just because everyone thinks about it doens't mean that it happens all the time....
I admit there are times I think about it too, but it is my choice of whether or not to act upon those thoughts - not the man who is there or not there. It is my choice and my choice alone. I can't blame the other sex for my thoughts or my lack of thoughts. I can't blame them for any decision I make, good or bad as they were my choices. I made them freely and without pressure to make them.
EDIT: Oh one more thing... Sex is an important part of a relationship and if you are not compatible, it makes for a very unfulfilling sex life.... | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:09:15 PM | | After reading the first few posts in this thread, I asked my girlfriend if it was alright to think about sex. "Sure, dear," came her quick, unblinking response. "As long as you do it alone." | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:17:00 PM | I'm probably like a lot of people.... my libido has always been in "overdrive" but you learn to deal with it. When you're with someone who's on the same level, it can be mind-blowing but you have to keep things in perspective and get out of the bedroom now and then. ;)
Yes, some of us think about sex often, especially having sex with someone we're attracted to but that doesn't mean we're disrespectful perverts either. I was with a girl in college (my first true love) who couldn't even have sexual relations (abused at age 11) but we were together almost two years. So while sex is important, you come to realize it isn't anything to base a strong relationship on. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/14/2009 11:34:40 PM | Men don't go from point A to point Z. You can pretty much tell who is and who isn't around just for sex. Sometimes men only want one thing. Hell sometimes I only want one thing! If he told you he wanted something serious then he's an ***hole. Sometimes guys might like you but not want to put there eggs in out basket. At least he told you. Sorry you felt like shit  | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/15/2009 12:07:31 AM | | girl i know what u mean most of the messages i have gotten on here always end up asking me for dirty pics or they wanna meet up and **** MEN I HATE TO BREAK IT TO U NO RESPECTIBLE GURL WANTS THAT ONLY WHORES DO! so make ur choice good girls or someone who's been around | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:20:28 AM | SagMan4u......I can't speak for all ladies however, for myself and after years of reflection with my girlfriends....perhaps the answer to your backward question is...we don't like to have sex or make love to men untill we are comfortable with the relationship. Now, that could be for many reasons...maybe we don't want to feel used and disgarded...maybe we don't want to get hurt...maybe the man hasn't given her enough reason to make her feel wanted...maybe we don't want to come accross as too easy, cause we've been told many times by guys that they don't keep the easy ones and we don't want that number to rise...maybe since it takes time to get to know someone, we want to make sure the guy isn't some sort of idiot or player...maybe we respect men and relationships to want to take the time to get to know you first and not hurt you in some way. And just maybe we have respect for ourselves.
Once you have sex it changes everything to a different page. If you jump into a relationship too fast...have the sex (for some women it means comitment)... and find out down the road that he isn't the right guy for you...or we aren't the right one for you, it is harder to get out of the relationship especially with kids involved. It shouldn't be a game and if you need to ask this question just maybe.....it isn't the women you are dating that are lacking. | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:51:57 AM | zekestone....wowww that was kinda harsh. I would like to think she has more to offer than material stuff. Everone is entitled to their opinions...that mentality is exactly what Iand alot of other ladies run from!!! Run forest run!!!
Well with exception of the kind of girls that want nice cars, money, big houses, jewelry...I would think that a man would want to be wanted for himself not what material things he has...and vise versa. Oh and way to go...lets knock her down a few pegs...make her feel worthless. For all the men out there looking to date and wanting sex...this kind of mentality most likely won't work out too well for you!!!! | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/15/2009 8:05:32 AM | SagMan4u....After tons of emails, hours upon hours on the phone BEFORE I ever meet a woman, than going out with that woman for over a month, when is it the time?
Well let me think about this for a fraction of a second...someone makes a profile...they chat on line with you...they could be tell you anything you want to hear...this is the perfect place that perverts, playes, stalkers, killers like to dwell and find their prey. They could date you for a month or 3 months. All you know about that person is what they have told you and you hope that it is true. For anyone level headed with common sense...that is not enough. Have you heard of the freaks who get a girl to trust them and end up killing them?
If a girl wants to get to know you before she puts out, you should respect her for it. If you can't wait...get a friend with benefits...if she isn't worth waiting for then surely she isn't the one!!!! | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/15/2009 10:05:54 AM |
zekestone....wowww that was kinda harsh. I would like to think she has more to offer than material stuff.
Yes it is harsh... but if she's offering more than sex and the material things listed in her profile, please let me know what it is...
And you can run away all you want... but all you're running away from is someone who's telling the truth. Everyone seems to assume that the truth is always gonna be nice and work in your favour. But in reality, the truth just is... it is neither good nor bad... and sometimes it works in your favour and sometimes it doesn't.
If you got a problem with what I say, you might as well advise OP to go for guys that lie and BS her... because that's exactly what you're suggesting in an indirect way.
Well with exception of the kind of girls that want nice cars, money, big houses, jewelry...I would think that a man would want to be wanted for himself not what material things he has...and vise versa. Oh and way to go...lets knock her down a few pegs...make her feel worthless. For all the men out there looking to date and wanting sex...this kind of mentality most likely won't work out too well for you!!!!
Of course *everyone* wants to be wanted... but as I said, that doesn't come instantly.
But I am trying to get her to look at her profile in a critical fashion and ask herself "is there anything here that I'm offering that is more interesting than sex?".
If she does, please... show me where it is in her profile... because her profile is what I'm going by.
My goal isn't to knock her down... my goal is to get her to *think*.
If my words make her feel worthless (and any THINKING person wouldn't feel worthless at my words), then she has some serious self-esteem issues and it just drives home my point that she needs to work on herself so that she does, in fact, have other interesting things to offer, aside from sex.
(sidenote: This is advice I follow for myself. Just see my list of interests and you'll understand what I mean...)
My mentality works very well for me because it filters out all the people dishing out BS... and I've got news for you... plenty of women are just as good at dishing it out as any man.
And here we have OP complaining about guys wanting only sex... but she hasn't asked herself "what am I offering, other than sex, that would interest a guy?"
And whose fault is that? Is it *my* fault for merely pointing that out and _GOSH_ being honest?
I don't think so... | |
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| Thank gawd...
Posted: 6/15/2009 11:26:39 AM |
No, of course not. Sometimes I think about beer, too.
MMmmmmm, beer and sex...
...for attractive women who don't themselves or life too seriously, and who don't suffer from self importance... | |
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| Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about?
Posted: 6/15/2009 11:34:57 AM |
So is Sex all that anyone ever thinks about now a days? I just recently had a guy pretty much want to sleep with one girl and then he thought that he was going to sleep with me tomorrow. i have never felt so small and so degraded before and this was coming from the mouth of a guy who so called "liked" me...which i think all he had in mind was sex. So i was just wondering if this is all that anyone thinks about now a days and their life revolves around it. i sure know that mine doesn't but that is just me.
Not sure why you'd feel "small" and "degraded" because somebody asked you (and I'm assuming they asked) for sex in a manner that wasn't to your "liking." Are you inexperienced in dealing w/ other people or just men,in general?
If you have limited interest in sex...or no desire for sex...or have hang ups related to sex...let the other person know BEFORE you accept an offer for a date.
That way...you have made your position clear and the man can can make an educated decision on whether or not he wants to date you.
Too many women play too many games and then get "angry" and "hurt" and "upset" when they haven't made it CLEAR to another adult how things are going to go.
Ladies...you may get less dates...but you'll likely have less problems if you are straight w/ people from the beginning. | |
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| Just for the record...
Posted: 6/15/2009 11:38:09 AM |
Too many men freely admit to hitting it and moving on--and there are women who do too but oddly enough, guys don't complain about that (wonder why).
...every time it has happened to me, I complained. I've posted about it too.
Back to your regular programing... | |
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