Got a date in mind? Oink..oink.

I think alot of people are mistaken about this site and they should be in the sexual ads of it all. Sometimes men and women think low of themselves and have to somehow "fix" the problem. I know in a couple of situations I have been in, I didn't think the person wanted just that and its hard to tell. U have to just play the game and hope for a homerun. Best of Luck

That's the problem with any woman posting anything having to do with sex and not wanting it on a first date, or feeling offended that smeone came on too strong, in these Forums, at least as far as I can tell. There are men who jump at the chance to vent their frustrations and take them all out on her. All the women they dated and didn't get sex with, all the anger they feel, gets dumped on whoever expresses their opinion that differs from theirs. That's the way this seems to have turned out. No real effort or interest in actually understanding the original post or relating to it or empathizing with it... just an opportunity to bash and promote their manliness which is obviously frustrated or they wouldn't be here posting power trips on others, they'd be doing what they obviously know how to do best... be out there having sex. What's it to them, if they're getting it, if some poor girl feels put upon by the cads who want nothing but that? Only makes you fellas less appealing, not more, but please don't respond to me, as I'm sure you don't care what I think and it seems you're big and older bullies just enjoying pounding a younger girl's fragile emotions into the ground. Shame on you.

What don't u understand?..No offense but what I'm saying is people tend to think of this site as SEX SITE ONLY, WHAT PART DO U NOT UNDERSTAND?..I was telling her that she pretty much has to date someone and then the truth of them just wanting sex will be apparent..DO U UNDERSTAND NOW, HELLO?.........................................

I'm not soapboxing. I'm responding to a few particular people who have responded to this thread and if you read the whole thread, every page and post, you'd know, and you knew me and all my posts you'd know I'm no soapboxer or negative person, only in response to others who are. Just had to express this particular feeling on this one for specific reasons. Good for you for not being like "the others" and I'm not saying all people are any particular way. Unless you want to join them and their bandwagon and really are one of them.

^^^ If you're dating someone, there's a 99.9% chance they're hoping for sex sooner or later.
After all, when was the last time you heard of people dating because they wanted to stay *celibate*?
It is completely naive to think someone gonna only want to date you because you have a horse or you're interested in shopping...

.....Like I previously posted, it doesn't take 3 months to get "to know" somebody. And as far as getting a friend with benefits, well that would defeat the whole purpose and definition of what I'm in search of. ONE woman.

Well I'm looking for a woman who enjoys being with a man who is funny, loving, caring, romantic, and likes his man to be monogamous and honest. ........
So if you want to laugh, be respected, be thought of, have fun, than maybe just maybe I might be the man for you.......
So, if you're really looking for a kind, caring, romantic man please drop me a line and lets see what happens. .......
Look forward in hearing from that special someone. I have all the good qualities that your looking for in a man.

than why in God's name does a woman make a guy wait so dam long to go from a platonic relationship to an intiate relationship?

Because for many women sex is much more emotional then it is physical (not that it isn't about the physical aspect at all....just that it is MORE emotional). Therefore, when a women does allow a relationship to go to that point, it's a major statement of her feelings towards the man. If the relationship then does not work out, it hurts alot more. Therefore, it's much safer to wait. Imagine you have the hot rod car, motorcycle, whatever, of your dreams........Are you gonna let a woman drive it on the 3rd date or are you going to prefer to wait to see how much you can trust her with it?

Men and women view intimacy very differently, yet few people ever take the time to try and really understand the other side.

go on dates with one expressed purpose in mind, to understand if there is a possibility of sexual relationship between me and the guy---and this is answered without sex playing a part. On a first date, I'm looking to have reached an answer to one simple but truly pivotal question, "Could I kiss this man?"

If the answer is no, then 'dating' is no longer a valid concept for us---friendship may still be in the offing but dating is no longer possible.

the older i get the less i think about sex and the more i think about companionship.