| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 3:00:48 PM |
Or is the quality and moral values on this site going downhill so fast I should leave while I still have my bankcard in my possession?
Is this happening to other women out there? Hello?
No ... this certainly has not happened to me.
Have you notified the POF administrators about his behavior? The cops?
And no, I do not think it is a reflection on the "moral values on this site" ... tho it certainly does speak volumes about the man. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 3:06:04 PM | Im going to share a kinda personal story here...There is a person on POF who I KNOW is a womenbeater,I know because I was his victim...That being said looking at him youd never EVER guess it,people can sweet talk you and look normal and be the POF serial killer,NEVER EVER invite someone to your house for a 1st meeting! | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:02:05 PM |
Somewhere the point of this post was lost - so lets just call it a day.
What was the point? Were we all supposed to take up a fecking collection for you or something?
Were we supposed to go find the guy for you and get your money back, or stop by and pick up your dirty laundry?
So what you got called out for making some bad choices, deal with like an adult.
Whining and taking all of your toys home with you just makes you look sillier then your OP did.  | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:21:51 PM |
Ok - ladies and gentlemen - this is a first thread post for me,
My advice, for anyone, read the forums BEFORE you post anything. You'll see a remarkably disturbing trend on any thread where someone is asking for advice, expressing upset or sadness (yes I'm talking about normal human emotion) or about an event or complaining about a bad experience.
It's like blood in the water.
Sorry this guy robbed you. Sorry you posted this and got attacked for having feelings. It wasn't your fault that he robbed you. Experience is what we get when we didn't get what we wanted, so now you're a less some cash and hopefully a little more wiser (hopefully) I see no reason to belittle you and make you feel small for having emotions and feelings and daring to express it.
He robbed you and you're upset about it, that's a natural healthy emotion.
Do I need to run the plates of every man I meet from here on in to see if his word is worth anything? Or is the quality and moral values on this site going downhill so fast I should leave while I still have my bankcard in my possession?
Is this happening to other women out there? Hello?
I would say don't let this one event make you jaded but do be careful and aware. I'm sure other people have gotten robbed and probably worst. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:35:13 PM | I am saddened by both the story of the date/thief and other's reactions to the thread. While it is true that inviting a stranger into your home is fraught with at least some danger, nobody does it with the expectation of being robbed or worse.
In one respect you are indeed fortunate in that all that was taken was some cash and you were not physically harmed nor was anything irreplaceable lost. In another vein you were even more lucky. For the price of a few dollars you found out the true mettle of the man without wasting the one true thing of value; your time. Please be careful going forward but don't let this experience overwhelm you. Otherwise a "date" will become conversation through the closed window of your car, with the car in drive and your foot on the brake. Thankfully, NOT ALL people are thieves or crazies. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:43:06 PM | OP,
I don't blame you for getting ripped off.
Drugs really are messing up the country. People are stealing and doing whatever for this crap.
So many things have changed in the last few years, moral and ethics are seemingly gone.
Society seems to be failing. Families are falling apart. People are changing for the worse.
I really don't know anymore. Hard to trust anyone. Pfffft..
And some people wonder why I hide out in my little corner of the world..
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| Now you're the funny one!!!
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:27:54 PM | I didn't appreciate how you did me like some kind of "lame" but it's all good, your loss!!!  | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:40:17 PM | Ok, we get it. You're child was not there during either instance. However, the current guy now has you address, may potentially know your schedule and could just as easily come back when you and your daughter are home and do something far worse than cleaaning out your wallet and coin jar.
I think everyone here is simply be safe in the future. Do not invite anyone to your home until you have met them at least a few times on neutral ground.
I have never had this situation happen to me simply because I do not give out my address until a few dates have happened. My number is generically listed in the phone book. I don't even give out my last name until I have met the person. I also took any pics with my kids off of dating sites and my girls are 15 and 20.
We're all just rying to offer some logical advice. Along with that you will have to take some heat, welcome to the forums. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:07:22 PM | Well, really it could have happened weather you met through POF or not. When you become willing to meet a total stranger weather off here or out there - you really dont know (until you know).
IM sorry for your experience, but be asure that not everyone is going to get robbed, and that you will probably be a little aprehensive from here on in, which (might) put any potential relationship you find in here (Suspicious) therefore your connections are going to be a bit awkward and
This really sucks for both you and any guy who is out here and is trying to find someone really cool.
Goodluck though and Godbless... WWJD <<<< The answer | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:20:13 PM | I'm sorry that happened to you, but there are criminals everywhere...including online dating sites.
In the future, I'd recommend not letting any guy come back to your home, if you're not sure about him yet. Not a good idea, mostly because it's just not safe. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:40:11 PM | | Yes you do. Ask any guy who EVER went out with me. They will tell you that I won't allow them anywhere near my job, my home, or my jeep until I've done a criminal background check on them. Lesson learned her girl. I'm dead serious about this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:50:38 PM | Wow you guys just like to talk trash don't you?
Get a freaking life! This poor girl got robbed and all you can do is verbally slap her around? I am sure she realized the mistake but tell me YOU have never met with a man off of here and eventually brought him home..or do you all shack up in seedy motels? | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:34:28 PM | Oh the lessons we live in life, each one leaves us wiser. Thnks to those of you who understood this post and fo your positive advice and kind words.
For those who felt good ripping a further strip of me - lol - hope you feel good about who you are and whatyou stand for. We all are humans, prone to errors. And - yip I made MISTAKES that I cannot erase.
But, my life goes on and I WILL be sure to next time and avoid further negative situations and male indivuals who appear to lack the right morals reguardless of where I meet them.
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:37:29 PM | Oh the lessons we live in life, each one leaves us wiser. Thanks to those of you who understood this post and for your positive advice and kind words.
For those who felt good ripping a further strip of me - lol - hope you feel good about who you are and whatyou stand for. We all are humans, prone to errors. And - yip I made MISTAKES that I cannot erase.
But, my life goes on and I WILL be sure to next time and avoid further negative situations and male indivduals who appear to lack the right morals reguardless of where I meet them.
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:13:47 PM | I. Report the crime to the police.
II. Get a copy of the book, "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker, and read it ALL.
III. Seriously consider psychotherapy, and I do NOT mean that sarcastically. Your behavior is not healthy; and with a helpless small child under your care, you cannot afford to continue taking reckless risks with both of your safety. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:50:11 PM | I also have rules that I follow, I never invite a man over, whether I meet them online or elsewhere, until I've checked their background as best I can. I check for a prison record, sexual registry and anything else I can check. I don't give out my place of work, my last name or any personal information about my family until I feel comfortable that I feel 'safe'.
I always drive my own car and meet in a public place on a first date.
The one time I broke my own rule, he had a prison record,
And yes, I have met men on POF with a prison record.... | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/11/2009 6:58:33 PM | | lol...about your psychotherapy, that might be best enjoyed by you! My child is not small and helpless EITHER. Life is a journey with many learning experiences, the guy who robbed me will get his dues. AGAIN my daughter was not present! | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:46:33 PM | | Im so sorry, no I have never been robbed per'se, but I have had people borrow things..DVDS, Blurays, Sweatshirts and they are loooooooooooooooong gone..Im so sorry you found such a , As we anglers say, "Trash Fish," I really am | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:47:48 PM |
It was bound to happen. I'm sure he just got bent out of shape by all the threads here about who should pay for coffee. Now he can keep dating until the funds run out.
lol; dang, now we can't even trust chivalry; were the proceeds paid at the expense of some poor schmuck who got stolen from his last date? :)
*what is this dating world coming to?* | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/17/2009 2:57:14 PM | | Yikes!!! blame the victim mentality is alive and well on pof! these posts are a fantastic example of the differences in compassion, education, past history, helpfulness, arrogance, and opinions of those that tread the waters of pof . it would be ignorant to judge everyone on this site based on the viewpoints of a few or many. there were those showing empathy as well as the tough love ones hoping you will keep yourself safe in the future. there were also the haters that i once thought were the norm. they are not. i have not been robbed but im aware that the possibility exists within any community. there are men that lie to me and other women on a daily basis as well as those who are sincere. unfortunately for all of us, sociopaths are very charming. there comes a point when ya just gotta jump in with both feet and land where you will making the best choices you can and try to have some fun along the way. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/17/2009 8:50:59 PM | Ok, Im confused you said you met this hump from this site and now he's a old boyfriend you met a while back, Good Lord.
Anyways look .... its sh1tty you were robbed, if its not the first time guys have robbed you blind, maybe you need to upgrade the men you desire? no. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:21:07 AM | "Yikes!!! blame the victim mentality is alive and well on pof! these posts are a fantastic example of the differences in compassion, education, past history, helpfulness, arrogance, and opinions of those that tread the waters of pof "
Well kennedy as you have stated you have never been robbed. I have and as most will attest to who have been robbed (and I take it it was the intentions of the OP in starting this thread) I put myself in that stupid situation. So blame the victim mentality NO!. After all he didn't break into her place or did he? | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:32:35 AM | | I'm really sorry this happened to you. I too had a guy to my house on the first date. He didn't steal from me---evenually broke my heart--but didn't steal. I'd have rather him taken my toll fund (knda like ur laundr $) then I'd have been mad rather than hurt. I have had to just suck it up and remember most people are good, don't get discouraged and ignor all the haters on this thread. good luck babes!!-g | |
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