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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/19/2009 12:34:33 PM |
It was bound to happen. I'm sure he just got bent out of shape by all the threads here about who should pay for coffee. Now he can keep dating until the funds run out. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/19/2009 1:34:51 PM | My sister dated a loser for about a month. Before she kicked him bye-bye, he stole some of my parents credit cards. Maybe just 1, I don't remember. But it was their "emergency" card(s) that they had tucked away just in case so they didn't realize it for a week or 2.
I don't think he was into drugs but he was def a loser.
here's the thing, she didn't meet him on the internet.
ANd this happened, oh, maybe 18 years ago?
Losers stealing from their dates or friends is nothing new. It's been happening for a lot longer than the internet or POF has been around.
Sucks but that's why we have intuition. ANd, well, meeting a stranger is always taking a chance. Smooth charming sociopaths can cover up their criminal intent for a good while, I suspect.
Not sure what the solution is other than to not have a date in your house right away, run an internet search on him, and listen to your intuition (and your friends). If something seems off, it probably is.
K | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/19/2009 1:37:32 PM | My sister dated a loser for about a month. Before she kicked him bye-bye, he stole some of my parents credit cards. Maybe just 1, I don't remember. But it was their "emergency" card(s) that they had tucked away just in case so they didn't realize it for a week or 2.
I don't think he was into drugs but he was def a loser.
here's the thing, she didn't meet him on the internet.
ANd this happened, oh, maybe 18 years ago?
Losers stealing from their dates or friends is nothing new. It's been happening for a lot longer than the internet or POF has been around.
Sucks but that's why we have intuition. ANd, well, meeting a stranger is always taking a chance. Smooth charming sociopaths can cover up their criminal intent for a good while, I suspect.
Not sure what the solution is other than to not have a date in your house right away, run an internet search on him, and listen to your intuition (and your friends). If something seems off, it probably is.
K | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 7/19/2009 2:34:02 PM | | Never ever bring your date to your house or be alone with him for the first date. You are very lucky he just took money and not harm you in any way. Always meet in a public place until you are very comfortable with this person. It is hard to read a person because Im sorry there are fakes out their | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:14:40 PM | | i have never been robbed by anyone on this site. an invitation into a persons home is not an invitation to their money or their property. thieves know this. i dont understand why anyone would question it. there is a degree of risk involved whenever we trust someone regardless of how long weve known them. whats the magic number of dates? when do men preying on women become responsible for their actions without someone projecting the blame onto the woman. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:32:06 PM | I have a sweet kind and loving girlfriend who has been ripped off by several men she has dated and not one was from internet dating.
The problem was, she let them in her life too soon. Brought them to her home, shared her bed and then cried when they took her belongings.
One guy came to her house one morning when she was about to leave for work. She had only known him a week. He said he stopped by in his truck because he was in the area. He also showed her the coffee he spilled on his shirt and was upset because he was going to a job interview. He wanted to clean his shirt. She bought into it. Told him she had to go to work but he could make himself comfortable ( she was in love ya know) and to go ahead and lock up when he was done.
He did make himself comfortable. He ate her food, took what was in the cupboards, took her jewelry, her T.V., sound system, her safe deposit box with the key, computer, and even her iron.
You would think she had learned her lesson but nope, she has since been ripped off by guys at least three more times, that she admitted. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/3/2009 11:51:42 PM | | Yeah this happened to me after dating for awhile the guy riped me off something wicked then I found out that everything he had said to me about himself was a lie. I still think there are alot of good guys out there but I will be much more careful in the future and hey he taught me alot of good lessons. So not a waste of time really just a waste of skin. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/4/2009 1:21:08 PM | POF dates aside, your story made sense to me when you shared @ previous robbery. When we experience trauma, and have not fully processed the emotions, we recreate aspects of the painful episode until we are finally able to forgive it/ them, etc. This is not any criticism of you who had the initial suffering, just a hint to let you know that until you find ways of releasing the first incident, it's possible you may recreate it in other areas of your life. We humans have ways of spinning themes ( unconsciously usually) in circles in our lives, until we get it. I trust that you are seeing this for what it is and moving forward in your life  | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/4/2009 1:31:37 PM | | I feel for you in essense you were looking for someone you could trust and that trust was mislaid. I even understand the point about them being from here. I cannot say to you that no one one here or in real life will ever do this to you again. What I can say is you have to take steps to protect yourself and your child in this world we live in. The only thing any of us can really do is plan for the worst,hope for the best and be prepared for whatever may happen. I can remember the feeling of violation I expericed as a young boy when while we were on vacation our house was burglarized. It hard to ever feel safe after that happens to you . Life does go on after but its never gonna be the same, but you can minimize the damage caused by the applications of a lil common sense. Good luck | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/4/2009 2:09:06 PM | Oh yea I totally meet a guys on here and the first thing I do is invite them to my house without ever meeting them before , where I then leave out my purse for them to take all my money and leave them unattended so they can also steal my laundry funds. Im just awesome like that!
^T^ | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/4/2009 5:17:40 PM | | pity ur canadian cuz i dont have can dollars or id replace what he stole just to refresh ur intrest in us fish guys we are not all bad u know but a lot of the time us nice guys have to suffer from the actions of the bad guys am i right or am i right guys huh | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:03:08 PM | You need a sense of humor in this life.
What you need to is to tell the guy you forgive him and that he deserves another chance. Put a wad of cash in the open with a spy cam rolling. Invite him over and get his theft on tape. Then let the fun begin.  | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:13:58 AM | I don't exactly understand? WHERE WERE YOU when this was happening? It could have been worse. I see you say you have a daughter, where was she? It could have been worse than laundry money. Bringing this guy into your home was a huge mistake.
NO one screens the members of POF. anyone on here can type ANYTHING they want. they can "reinvent" themselves every week if they want or need to.
Many meetings are in order PRIOR to bringing someone home. Would you meet a guy on the SUBWAY and bring him home? Same thing here on POF. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:54:00 PM | hello Raremodel68
I have to agree you , negative and self-righteous, after reading many post's and trying to start my own thread .
I got the same lame low IQ repreply.
i wonder what people are thinking, with their ass or with compassion , kindness is free cheap and easy to give , with better benefits.
i have been ripped off many times ,, some my fault ,, some for being a nice guy ,, some for being a butt.
life goes on , what i have learned is never quit being honest ,, its our greatest value and best way to move forward . | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:58:57 PM | I hate it when that happens, but you never know. I had one steal all the paper towels from my house and plastic spoons.
Go figure. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/5/2009 1:00:52 PM | hello Raremodel68
I have to agree you , negative and self-righteous, after reading many post's and trying to start my own thread .
I got the same lame low IQ reply.
i wonder what people are thinking, with their ass or with compassion , kindness is free cheap and easy to give , with better benefits.
i have been ripped off many times ,, some my fault ,, some for being a nice guy ,, some for being a butt.
Life goes on , what i have learned is never quit being honest ,, its our greatest value and best way to move forward .
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/7/2009 10:43:14 AM |
Ok - ladies and gentlemen - this is a first thread post for me, and oh how I wish it was for something positive. Unfortunately, it is not.
I met up with an individual from this site who felt quite comfortable stealing every bit of cash I had in my purse. Furthermore, he then depleated my laundry funds of multiple quarters and loonies to zero before leaving my home.
Do I need to run the plates of every man I meet from here on in to see if his word is worth anything? Or is the quality and moral values on this site going downhill so fast I should leave while I still have my bankcard in my possession?
Is this happening to other women out there? Hello?
I'd say your first mistake was meeting the guy in your home.
Go out for coffee, lunch, or just meet someplace public to size someone up before you let them come to your home.
If the guy doesn't at least OFFER to pay for your coffee, lunch, or whatever, then I'd say it's time to move on right there...
If he talks about 'Getting Even' with someone, then he's probably one to avoid.
Not very good 'First Contact' fodder for conversation, but if the guy is obsessed with revenge or getting even, then it will come up in conversation very quickly.
See if they have a job, or sense of entitlement to things.
Questions or conversation about giving, (big brothers programs, battered womens shelters, wounded vet organizations will quickly bring out the streak for giving or taking).
If someone is doing reasonably well, supporting themselves, taking care of parents/children, working full time are usually pretty good indicators of them having moral fiber and a conscience.
If they are 'part time', 'not working right now', got fired because they are so much smarter than the boss was and someone held a grudge against them....
These are all pretty good indicators they are 'Takers' and not 'Workers' or 'Givers'.
If they talk about 'Partying' or getting drunk/high a lot, take that as someone that is irresponsible and childish, and not ready to be serious about anything.
If they invite you out for dinner and movie or dinner and drinks, then they are probably someone that will show you some respect,
If they talk about taking you 'Partying' or want to head straight for a bar or hotel, then they are probably not what you are looking for in a long term relationship.
Screening out the children (of any age), party rats, and the self absorbed is a subtle process. Listen to what is said, not what the guy is trying to get you to believe! | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/7/2009 1:12:14 PM | No, this has never happened to me--my purse never leaves my body since it contains my Taurus Titainium revolver and my concealed carry license.  | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/7/2009 10:56:51 PM | I've been robed by the pond myself.
P. S. He is still here, the love ran out after a year when the money I had gained from the sale of my parents home ran out. Then so did his love for me. LOL
So be careful.
Don't bring any dud's home, especially if they need you to pay their child support, glasses ect... for their child, and themselves.
Then take off like a dog at dinner our when the funds are gone.
There are too many hounddogs on the run on this site, you have to keep your whits about you. Don't fall into the trap. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/7/2009 11:11:04 PM |
Ok - ladies and gentlemen - this is a first thread post for me, and oh how I wish it was for something positive. Unfortunately, it is not.
I met up with an individual from this site who felt quite comfortable stealing every bit of cash I had in my purse. Furthermore, he then depleated my laundry funds of multiple quarters and loonies to zero before leaving my home.
Do I need to run the plates of every man I meet from here on in to see if his word is worth anything? Or is the quality and moral values on this site going downhill so fast I should leave while I still have my bankcard in my possession?
Is this happening to other women out there? Hello
fool me once shame on you............fool me twice shame on me. | |
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| Robbed by Another Fish from this Pond!
Posted: 8/8/2009 12:44:20 AM | OP:
Was going to send you a private msg but, am blocked for some reason from doing so. I was going to offer some donation to help you over it.
I'm sorry it happened. There's too many people around like that, male and female alike.
Friends had one of their friends contact me about doing so house cleaning when I was laid up with back surgery. She came over to see what the work would involve and ended up stealing my $250 digital camera. Cops were on her doorstep in minutes, could see her standing in there and wouldn't answer the door. Ended up not going anywhere and they wouldn't do anything about it.
Another I'd dated several times just FWB. After she'd gone, dam'd if she didn't steal the new replacement camera that was sitting by the computer to download pics. Didn't discover that until the day after. From now on they're in the drawer out of sight. Valueble's are put away too, best I can, at least the small stuff.
Good luck, sorry about all the running down you've had to listen to here. | |
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