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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:06:38 PM | Perhaps he has a lower sexdrive than you...
Obviously it is an issue for you so perhaps you should ask yourself what is most important, him or a functional sexlife and also, can you continuing living your life like this? | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/9/2009 1:28:57 AM | Interesting, how sex seems to be the ONLY reason anyone stays with someone, and its women who wont go with a guy who wants sex, then when he stops doing it all the advice is "LEAVE NOW"....
However i'll bite (as i never do sex), check for drugs, medication, stress (this is a HUGE one), and Aspergers Sydrome, yes the last one will be very hard to tell, however its either stress or AS.
AS cant be treated its a state of mind so depends how you feel about the whole thing. | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/9/2009 1:29:35 AM | | Sounds like this one's 'lousy in bed'. Some junk I read said that a guy feels like getting all cozy after he gets off. I think the ultimate insult would be to get him off (with your clothes on) and then hit the bricks immediately afterwards, as if his sexual need were an inconvenience to you and the rest of the day. I'd have cut the loser loose five years ago. Love, Titus | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/9/2009 1:29:57 AM | | In that case no it wouldn't be wrong. Have you tried talking to him about such things as Tantra, compromise, roll playing, shit something? In my opinion a guy is guaranteed an orgasm, I mean seriously, I've never once heard of a minute lady but there's been far more minute men than Paul Revere and the Raiders! Thus, the man needs to be encouraged to learn about his body, learn control, learn restraint, and learn attention oriented skills so he can take care of his partner's needs prior to his own. A lady isn't guarnateed an orgasm as easily, it's just a matter of body contour I guess you could say. Sometimes men just need to be reminded of that. Personally if I was you though I think I'd break it to him or tell him to kick rocks cuz it won't change if he isn't willing to change. Right? | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:19:31 AM | Now you're thinking. Sometimes subtlety doesn't work. Sometimes honest conversation doesn't work. Get even with him. Get what you need first and then roll over and ignore him.
When he gets pissed enough, tell him you did it deliberately to show him what it feels like. | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:31:50 AM | EASTENDWOMAN...No wonder why your divorced.
You NEVER get even with your partner or anyone in life for that matter.
You communicate and express your needs, and if something is NOT RIGHT in your relationship at the time, you FIX THAT PROBLEM and make it right, so NO ANGER IS HARBORING INSIDE OF YOUR SOUL...you will be able to have sex over and over if you just THOUGHT OUT YOUR PROBLEM BEFORE GETTING EVEN.
If your a good enough woman, any man would see that and never let you go.
But you would not know that I can tell by the writing.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/9/2009 11:00:56 AM | There are a number of points here : you have been together 5 years.
Was it sex from the begining and do you live together? Could it be the old married couple syndrome? Or is there a true physical problem or is he getting it elsewhere, or are you just taking longer. Are you both just plain bored with the sex and with each other. How long have you been engaged. If you can't talk to one another now openly and honestly, it may be time to surrender the ring and move on. Better to be hurt now when you can walk away than if you go through with a wedding that could end in divorce. Sooner or later you may cross the line just to be sexually satisfied. | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/9/2009 11:34:14 AM | | Fiance for 5 years? What? In many states if you are living together that long you have a common law marriage. Didn't your mama tell you that no one buys the cow if you give the milk for free? 5yr old fiance is foolishness! And please don't give the excuse of waiting to have money for a big wedding if you have been playing house and already enjoyed the honeymoon. The guy has no respect for you because you haven't given him a reason to. | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/12/2009 7:03:51 AM | Here's a simple solution - and it really WORKS - the best $10 investment you will make any time soon
I would highly suggest what they call a vibrating egg which is plastic mini-egg sized vibrating thingy - about the size of your thumb. It works best in the woman-on-top position because it won't shift location. As in real estate, location location location and the location is directly below your pelvic bone and above his.
You will be AMAZED at the "satisfactory" results of this little $10 device. You will have NO issues reaching your "happy place." You can buy one at virtually any intimates store in town. Buy one with at space for at least 2 AA batteries. Be careful to turn the dang thing OFF immediately after you don't need it as if you remove it and set on the bed vibrating away, it will quickly wear itself out.
Seriously - go buy one TODAY and you will be pleasantly suprised at the multi-orgasmic results.
If you look at my posts I'm HARDLY the "sex doctor" but THIS one is a no-brainer.
Click on the following link to see one.
http://www.dearlady.com/db.cgi?sid=9071209444434&db=default&Department=Adult+Toys&view_records=GO&ww=on&Popular=Common&sb=7&sort=Price&so=ascend&Category=Vibrators&Features=Bullets&nh=1&mh=1
Let us know HERE - if this helps.
Best wishes to you and yours
Jack
"Love Doctor" of the moment
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/12/2009 12:04:22 PM | Hello,
You can take or leave this advice. I am hearing that you have talked to your fiance about your unrequited sexual finishings. If your finace doesn't care about your happiness, then obviously he doesn't care about you. I am sorry to be the one to tell you this. I realize that you have been together for five years, and yes that is a long time. But it will seem like an eternity when your actually stuck in a marriage where your partner is starting to continually not think about your needs, even when you ask him to do so. It always starts out with just one thing, then another, then another untill eventually the neglect of your partner is too much for you to bear. You have opened the door of communication, now the ball is in your partners court. If he fails to see and help you with the issues that you have maybe he isn't suited for you. | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/12/2009 1:33:04 PM |
Forget the sexual problems, why would you be engaged five years and not married
Exactly sometimes the engagement is a stalling technique.He np longer needs to impress you or wants to please you.You state you love him and you must to be so patient.He does not feel the same and is taking you for granted.Think carefully of marrying this guy.
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/12/2009 2:06:47 PM | | It sounds like the two of you are a perfect match. Why break up and unleash yourselves on the unsuspecting populus . Lets see... you are on a dating site while being sexually and romantically involved elsewhere, and he is a selfish prick in the bedroom. Which is worse? I call it a tie. | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/12/2009 5:42:56 PM | he's a selfish man and he doesn't care about you. you should leave him. Fiance for 5 years? what a joke!
Would it be wrong of me to retailiate by getting mine and then getting up and walking away with no worry about how it affects him?
you should get "yours" as quickly as possible and then go shopping! and when he complains, just tell him, "pay back's a b*tch!" | |
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| My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry
Posted: 7/12/2009 6:51:29 PM | | If you are at the point where you are having to consider "retaliating," it's probably time to walk away. If you have told him repeatedly how he is making you feel, and he just doesn't care, I don't see the point in continuing your relationship. This kind of thing will carry over into other parts of your relationship. He will start (if he hasn't already) just doing things (or not) with no regard to your feelings, and that's not a relationship. | |
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