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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 7/3/2009 3:05:29 PM |
: The more complicated the better! Means that mind is working overtime
did you ever see or read "A Beautiful Mind" or "One flew over the Coo Coo's nest"
Waste no time reading stories of matters of the mind.
If people "appear" busy, they probably are - at something!
It's interest that Kirk Douglas bought the rights to do a film on the book "One flew over the Coo Coo's Nest " some 20 years before it was ever filmed. No one would touch it!
I guess the world was just waiting for Jack Nicholson .
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:19:41 AM | Random thoughts here after reading posts and responses from the OP.
1- The most brilliant minds I met in my life, man or woman, lived the most simple lives.
It was practically an honour just to be in their presence and just admire how they mastered abstract concepts and they were ABLE to communicate them in simple terms. These people simply have nothing to prove. They are just that brilliant.
2- The most complicated men, (in my case men), were the ones that were smart enough to know just how limited they were and they are the ones with a chip on their shoulder...
I leave it to you OP to judge for yourself in which category you think you belong.
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:35:05 AM | Attn: Dancecard
Yes I did read and see One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest- Jack Nicholson and Louise Fletcher (as The Nurse Ratchett who won an oscar) were outstanding.
Beautiful Mind was superb, and maybe the only Russell Crowe film I love.
Complications make things hard so that there is enrichment and enlightment. Without it, life would be as lackluster as the hair on an anorexic. | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 7/19/2009 7:09:16 AM | Hope this is not off topic but here are quotes from one of my favourite physicists. He did advance our understanding of the universe. He died trying to find the equation of the universe... Albert Einstein.
I picked the quotes that to some of you posters may related to.
If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.
Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.
Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former.
Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.
The one that gave me a chuckle this morning and that I found appropriate to this thread is:
The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits.
Here is the link...
http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/a/albert_einstein_10.html | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 7/19/2009 10:20:11 AM | Just don't get in my way while I'm engaged in very similar activities. Many women think they are deep but in all their attempt to be "different" or "deep", what they inevitably become is just like every other woman who is trying to be "different".
Obscurity is refreshing. Obtuseness isn't. My mind is usually a four-ringed circus, thinking about many things at once yet with the ability to compartmentalize those things which require my immediate attention.
When I meet someone, they usually can't keep up or don't want to hang on for the ride of their life. Most people, you will find, just want to keep it simple preferring to think in black or white unable to conceive of the middle ground or anything remotely inbetween or on the outskirts of same. | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 7/19/2009 10:38:03 AM | I have met alot of men with "complex" thinking. Actually, I would surmise that most of us are not simpletons. But I think the essence of trying to be with someone else, and enjoying the time spent mutually, is where your focus is put.
So next question is, why do you date?Why do you want the company of another human? Is it for interaction? Is it to share ideas? Is it for validation? Is it to have an audience for your own thoughts ? Is it to educate, so you feel superior (again validation)
I think a whole lot of men, at least the ones I have met, are so into the "impressing" with all of their expansive conversation, their fascination of what is going on in their own heads, that they often tend to interact with others as a sounding board or an audience. A one way converation.
For these people, there is no real interest in an exchange of information and ideas.
It is all about validation and how "they" feel about themselves. It has often not even occurred to them , the possibility that they may be boring, the other person may not be as fascinated with their intellectual ramblings and every thought pattern. They are so immersed in their whole thought, they assume all others would also be. They haven`t learned to edit. They haven`t learned to listen. They haven`t learned to care about the needs of the "other" It is self focussed, self ingratiating,and self centered.
They suck the very energy out of those arround them with their need of validation and ego strokes.
So for people like this, they will probably go through myriads of dating partners, burning out each one after a short period, and wondering why no one wants to be around them. It would never occur to them that they may not be pleasant to be around.
They think that they are just fascinating. So others should think that as well. But in reality, when people walk away, they are not. | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:13:59 AM | It doesn't me personally...I am a complex personality myself...I can usually understand a complex person if I spend time with them...It's certainly not easy....it really depends on their level of cooperativeness or willingness to be social on the level needed whether that be dating or friend or long term...Some people do not like complex personalites b/c it takes a lil work to learn why they are the way they are... or requires work and energy in getting to know them....you can't blame them....they may prefer someone like themselves...you just never know really what someone will accept or be willing to try...
Sometimes opposites attract too....A complex personality may be attracted to a simpler person...doesn't mean they are always compatible...It takes ALOT of work...I am a complex person that has been involved with someone that lived a simpler lifestyle than my own.. I can accept them quite well...but I am afraid I've had occassions that the other half did not understand me.... | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 7/31/2009 12:45:03 PM | | This is still going on? I will assume the op is still being banished for his complex thinking. I have tried to help but I see that I previously was scorned for trying to stop the controversy. If you are a complex thinker OP and want to reach women on a personal level then have them start a topic when you are on a date. Even if it's the weather. I will be the first to admit that my vocabulary is not as great as yours. The way you speak to people on here is, in my mind, how you speak to people in your everyday life. Read your own extensive words. It does appear you are talking down to everyone. I would not call it a case of ego's. No one likes to be put down or made to feel stupid. I know others on the topic can keep up with your large vocabulary and maybe you didn't want the "simple" minded people like me to comment. I am trying to answer a question to a topic that you posted. | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:56:08 PM | To be fair to the OP, he did need to defend himself from a lot of unnecessarily sarcastic, mean-spirited, callous attacks on here. I think he's a pompous, arrogant, self-aggrandizing narcissist that revels in his overly-active image of superiority and delusions of grandeur, but he definitely has a right to answer verbal assaults and stand up for his principles...lol.
Oh, and I love desert_wildflowers post 306.
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:15:53 PM | Hi Mo...long time no see...
I thought desert's post pretty much summed it up...I lurked on this thread for awhile..and resisted the urge to react emotionally...for myself, if how a man ( or woman) talks to me engenders bad feelings, not good ones...I wouldn't want to be around them either...I don't know if I am complicated...probably not..but, I think I am reasonably intelligent, and I think most men "get" me. I would never talk to them in the way the OP did though, even though I could... | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 8/3/2009 7:33:34 AM |
I'm more or less a "Renaissance Man" , active and inquisitive in several areas of endeavor. I'm not that easy to categorize, at least not using the terms most women choose when describing their ideal mate. In fact I function on several levels at once and frequently rework at lot of my communications and viewpoints and preferences as I go along because I become aware of connections and relatedness between topics and experiences that may not be so quickly visible to others or which may just be obscure. It just seems to me a lot of the women I've met have a low tolerance for anything out of the ordinary personality-wise and lose patience with me rather quickly. I am becoming alarmed at the lopsided ratio of the number of women I'm "meeting" versus the number of women I'm "keeping". Anyone else male or female have this experience
I don't see much in your profile that is original or interesting. I was hoping for sophistication consistent with your claim of being a renaissance man. What I find is someone who on the one hand seems to be wealthy, but on the other hand is making onerous demands. The upshot is that you will attract a few relatively shallow women, but they will be unable to meet your demands, or have the patient love that you need.
I'd tone it down a bit. Maybe say you love biking and nightlife and let it go at that. | |
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