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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:32:42 PM | I didn't read all four pages of this thread but I'm confused about what you describe as a complicated personality. It isn't apparent from your profile.
I am wondering if you spend the first meeting going on about how you function on several levels at once, etc. If you spent a lot of time on that subject when I first met you I would be bored and want to leave probably. That entire self description sounds like a lot of meaningless egotistical hogwash, no offense.
In fact I function on several levels at once and frequently rework at lot of my communications and viewpoints and preferences as I go along because I become aware of connections and relatedness between topics and experiences that may not be so quickly visible to others or which may just be obscure. It just seems to me a lot of the women I've met have a low tolerance for anything out of the ordinary personality-wise
Come on man, this is so much inflated ego cr*pola I can't deal with it. | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:50:30 PM | | I think it is your arrogance that makes them not want to date you for too long. It's not about her "ego" at all. Intelligence can be attractive but dates are not the place to use it unless you are dating a woman just like you. Then both your egos could be deflated from non stop competing. Have tolerance with others and try not to consider yourself the smartest person in the room. Dates are supposed to be fun. Not a test. | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:56:30 PM | OP I am looking for a man that isn't the same as all the others. You would probably be him.
BTW you are not unattractive.
The only thing that concerns me is that you didn't include my starsign in your list of possible matches.................LOL  | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/16/2009 6:02:55 PM | | OP, just be yourself. It does not matter what anyone on this thread thinks. There will be a gal out there that will appreciate who you are and the man you will be. High intelligence is no match for perfect chemistry and desire. So many miss out on so much because they are too busy trying to answer the questions rather than to examine who is asking them or why. Lighten up, be silly sometimes and seize the day. | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/16/2009 6:58:08 PM | There's a new dating website called "Plenty of Complicated Egomaniac Narcissists". You should check em out!
Now see...I shouldn't be laughing but woman!!! Tsk, tsk...and you used just 2 "big words".
OP look. We get that you're smart and that you think on a "different level" than most of us. I'm just as "smart" as you are but even I know when I'm starting to sound like a blowhard..and then I shut UP. BUT...don't you think you might wanna tone that down a bit when you first meet someone? I'm NOT advocating dumbing down. Actually, your last response unfortunately proved to many what has been said already. You don't need to use "big words" as a way to prove your mettle. Please understand--women. don't. care. You'll bore the heck outta someone who finds you really interesting because you think you have to impress her with your English skills. You don't. That doesn't impress us. Opening the door, pulling out our chair--HELL, showing up on time, sober and not a grab ass is downright impressive! And something tells me you KNOW this but that for some strange reason you're not confident enough in what YOU bring to the dating table to tone things down. Thus you're kinda puffy...and stuff.
I'm seeing someone who's got several graduate degrees and his passion is English lit. I, on the other hand, and trying to finish my damn bachelor's degree...BUT am just as passionate and as intelligent as HE is--his words, not mine. We use "big words" with each other because it's...well hell it's like mental foreplay and because we both know we understand what's being said. Even with all of his "fancy booklearning", he has NEVER once made me feel small because I don't have the paper and initials behind my name. He recognizes that being smart and intelligent 1) don't always go hand in hand and 2) can be had without spending a fortune on degrees. After all those classes in English Lit, he became a freaking stockbroker. Cause he loves it.
If you spend as much time playing mental giant games on dates as you've tried to here, I get why the women have a tendency to not stick around. What's the line from that Shania Twain song? "That don't impress me much." It don't.
You're smart enough to know that you didn't need to write all of this...
This time I'm going to find a real woman--not a misandristic (don't ask, just look it up) (nice use of the word, btw, impressive but transparently simple to understand) reptilian. Also, making gratuitously derisive and insulting comments (oohh....more "big words" that are taking up space!!!) about the OP such as repetitive insinuations of mental illness or ADD, is just beyond the bounds of decency, and is only one of the very many posting rules violations found on this thread. With the exception of one or two decent civil responses, you all need to be ashamed as to how little civility, maturity, and self-control you have been able to bring to this discussion thread. The use of thinly-disguised profanity, smilies, semantic jokes and tricks, blatant misquotations and mis-attributions (you should have just used one of those, now you look like you're trying to show off) of what the OP actually wrote, blatant attacks on the OP's profile and personality, and finally flaming (baiting the OP for a response) (even the "unwashed masses" know what flaming means...lol), all of these should qualify to have your posts deleted and memberships reviewed by a mod or an admin, though that is not my decision to make. Character assassination, to be sure, is not what Marcus had in mind as the purpose of the Forums here at POF (actually he probably gets amused at some of the stupid crap that's out here, just like the rest of us) .
JUST to say "to hell with you ignorant ass people." You do know that...right?
Here, my friend...is what I leave you with...take what you want out of it ok?
"Brevity is the soul of wit"
Shakespeare's Hamlet, 1603
Or...
"Book smart, common sense stupid."
My dad, pretty much all of my life.
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:21:37 PM | Complicated? Complex? Multi-faceted?
So, you won't just be happy with a BJ, a sammich, a beer, and the remote?! LOL
Come on....you'd be a little satisfied, right? Right?
You are a little different, but that's OK....this is a big pond, and there is a very wide variety of species. Whatever you do, don't change who you are. Some quirky chick will love you just as you are. Good luck and happy fishing! | |
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Posted: 6/16/2009 9:53:45 PM | In fact I function on several levels at once and frequently rework at lot of my communications and viewpoints and preferences as I go along because I become aware of connections and relatedness between topics and experiences that may not be so quickly visible to others or which may just be obscure. It just seems to me a lot of the women I've met have a low tolerance for anything out of the ordinary personality-wise and lose patience with me rather quickly.
Don't we all work at many different levels? Most of us has more tools in our tool box besides just a hammer.
I have found that women have too much tolerance for just about anything and everything.
What they must contend with would drive me nuts inside a weeks time. I'd go insane , running and screaming into the night! ~ I find tolerance abundant in most women, it's a woman natural nature and comes easy for them. They are born "mothers"
Maybe you just had a run of bad luck with your recent choices. ~ We "do" that you know?
What amazes me about a woman , is their ability to be attracted to a "talker" a "mouth" someone that won't shut up! Women seem " unable" to see him for what he is , a attention whore and a "drip" .
This is one of women's biggest weakness ~ they like a talkative man. A man that will talk to them.
It's understandable I suppose, But the way I see it , "the handwriting is on the wall" they just don't see it coming, ~ A sucker for a noisy braggart. ~
So, in a sense , women bring this job of feeding an ego on themselves by the men they choice.
I know many noise men, ~ their numbers are great. They are in love with their own voice it seems. I find their conversation very banal more times then not. Their conversations are usually about themselves and stays there!
Most women don't seem to bore with it however! ???? gets old fast for me.
I've offered to pay them to shut up being at my witts end and unable to find an exit.
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/16/2009 10:13:37 PM | To the Original Poster.
What you mentioned about
"I am becoming alarmed at the lopsided ratio of the number of women I'm "meeting" versus the number of women I'm "keeping"."
is actually a GOOD THING.
it's an automatic qualifier.
It keeps you in tune with women of quality as opposed to women of quantity.
However if IT IS a Majority of Low Quality women that you seek then i openly recommend acting/pretending to be a low quality male.
If on the other hand you would rather have women of a higher caliber then all i can recommend to you is
BE YOURSELF.
by the way i'm sure it's obvious by this posting that i think you're a pretty cool guy.
just continue to be YOU. Trust me. being a high quality male is a GOOD THING.
i'd love to have more of your qualities. | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/17/2009 5:46:23 AM | Hey Spicy,
Adelaide, South Australia is pretty far away from Tampa , Florida. Thanks for the kind words. Sorry to have to meet you here on this thread. For some reason my initial and I thought pretty straightforward query has been hijacked and turned into a vehicle for vicious personal attacks by a small number of disaffected women and men. Some of the stuff masquerading as "writing" is beyond anything I've ever seen in the Forums. Most appear to be motivated by group race and gender identity politics. There are no individuals anymore. We are now either identified by the color of our skin or who we sleep with. I am hoping an admin or a mod closes this one down. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2009 6:24:09 AM | Fantastic post!
I'm a huge believer that with each experience / exposure (people/places/events) - "we" as individuals do grow. How comforting to know/ have the capacity to be open to new things and learn. I suspect you're a curious bug ~ not a typical category much less personality "type". Infinite patience is a real life challenge but not a deterant if you truly seek a quality partner. The exposures (meetings) are just as valuable (to you) as the lopsided ratio of "keepings" - an extremely attractive quality (imo). | |
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Posted: 6/17/2009 6:28:51 AM | I personally think you could have "framed" your quandary better and avoid much of the gaff.
You speak of "complicated" and fail to develop in what way. ~ Lots of blue sky!
and above all, you speak of threaten a "woman's ego" with this "complexity".
Are you a hit man for the mob? ~ A mole, entrenched double agent with the Atomic commission. ~ or working toward a doctor's degree in medicine and moonlighting as a plumber in the evenings.
I've seen women with grand ego's ~ I had and held very aggressive, ambitious women but to threaten their ego implies weakness of character. The very nature of such women implies , weak character is not a part of their make-up.
A strong , powerful woman can kick a weak man ass in a hurry. ~ if he's coming from the , Me Tarzan , you Jane angle. ~
Some women like it this way, ~ these men are easy ~ or appear easy to them ~
Now if you are not what you seem to be, ~ Houston, We've got a problem.
You can call this complex if you wish, ~ I'd be more inclined to call it fragmented character, ~ running a ruse.
I love ditsey blonds that's got a mind like a steel trap myself. ~ George Allen's " Gracey" ~ life is never dull with such a woman ~ and you get a hard belly laugh every day you are with her. You are always on your toes, ~ every sentence is bait to hide a sharp pointed hook.
I've learned that getting a woman attention is one thing ~ keeping it another.
Labeling and packaging is everything ~ it seems.
Now if they will allow this one last posting ~ I'll be done here and wish you well.
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/17/2009 7:37:14 AM | Now lets all be good little fishies and say "oooooooo, you are so smart, and so superior, and so evolved compared to the average woman. However do you find a woman compatible to date, on your same level? There are so few out there that would qualify. And yes, when I come across a man of such a level, there is no way that I could even consider keeping up with his thought patterns, and it totally makes me feel inferior, so I don`t want to date him because I know it and it hurts my inflated ego. I just don`t understand those big words he uses. He is so smart.
You are so right, and any woman that is allowed to be in your presence is so lucky for the chance to grow and learn from your knowledge, if they could only get past their grandiose ego problems. I totally agree OP."
There, ya happy now? : | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/17/2009 1:28:14 PM |
Some of the stuff masquerading as "writing" is beyond anything I've ever seen in the Forums. Most appear to be motivated by group race and gender identity politics. There are no individuals anymore. We are now either identified by the color of our skin or who we sleep with. I am hoping an admin or a mod closes this one down.
Or maybe you could just stop responding, since constructive analysis of your paradigm isn't passing through your egotistical defense mechanisms. Until that happens, why bother? The first step is to look inward, instead of at the world, at large.
To paraphrase Pogo, "You have met the enemy and he is you."
(Question posed to Leonard Bernstein: "If you were to do it all over again, Mr. Bernstein, would you still fall in love with yourself?)
Many offered insight, while you lacked the insight, to see.
But who among us understand those who are deified?
We all are much obliged for your condescension for the sole purpose of endowing us with your invaluable pearls of deep wisdom.
We'll stay tuned for your next ascension. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2009 9:31:32 PM | | same thing applies in the workplace as well as dating. I'm not dating her to get her validation, I'm there because I CARE about her. Weather you like me or not, at the end of the day I can leave saying I did my best of being myself and the rest is up to her weather or not she wants to be with me. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2009 4:29:02 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^
What on EARTH are you talking about? This isn't about the workplace...go read the original post again.
Better yet...are you like the OP? Extremely smart and educated but unable to seal the deal with a woman who might be your equal or your better?
.........that's what this is about... | |
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| Does a man with a complicated personality threaten a woman's ego?
Posted: 6/18/2009 7:52:35 AM | As a woman I will not consider that it is my problem if a man decided to have a complicated personality and for sure it will not threaten my Ego. It is his problem that he is incongruent.
....I am becoming alarmed at the lopsided ratio of number of women I'm "meeting" versus the number of women I'm "keeping". Anyone else male or female have this experience ?
The way I grasped this quote is you have some specific description of women for your harem, so you select from all the women you meet what to keep.. I don't need to have a MENSA IQ to decern this, and to understand why the ratio doesn't tally.
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