| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 5/15/2009 7:26:39 AM | Theres something that i forgot to add
We have to accept that this is after all the weird wide web ok . Im not asking for reports on my profile but ive basically kept it simple and to the point . If someone see yours and is interested then no doubt you will get some sort of feedbanck and poss a message its like the lottery . You gotta be in it to win it . I totally agree about the disgruntled bloke whos got nowt but grief on his plate and vents his spleen somewhere ( go into any chat room and watch for a while ) in fact the women can be far more viciuos at times, Also theres also a lot of women out there who despite all the flannel are actually just timewasters and flakes and do it as a form of amusment and even possibly to get their own bit of revenge on men sad but true . All I can say is try and get a good shit filter in place and dont get too wound up about it .
Happy fishing . | |
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Posted: 5/22/2009 6:39:39 AM | Woody,
Having just joined this site, I have to tell you how refreshing it was to read your Dating Guides (both for men and women). They are enjoyable, witty, and sad to say, needed. Thanks for taking a somewhat touchy subject and making it fun!
Kudos to you.
M. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 5/22/2009 9:04:24 AM | Ok, Ladies and gentlemen. I am going to show you some hard facts. Take a look at my bio. I just finished 2 weeks of social research about what women want vs what they say. I can tell you that it is a mixed bag. Tell your friends to look at the bio also. You are going to be amazed that I had so many women contact me and most wanted to chat with me. There were some good girls that read and deleted or sent me a nasty one back. But they were not in the majority.
You can contact me through that bio for as long as they leave it up. afetr that, you can contact me at (ericvandervert AT yahoo DOT com).
Thanks for reading and would love to answer any questions or hear comments.
Eric | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 5/22/2009 11:14:33 AM | Brilliantly written! However.... I'm surprised that there was no mention of challenge in this thread! A lot of guys on this website are more or less nice guys. A lot of women say they want a nice guy but the truth is that none really do. What a woman wants and what she says she wants are two different things. The nice guy (aka The "Wimpus-Americanus") is incapable of being a challenge by his own means. A man who bends backwards to please a woman may get through the door but he wont be able to keep her for long. Women respond to challenge and that man falls short of that. Her interest in him will slowly drop and she will grin and bear it until she finds someone new, then she will give you the famous Womanese*
*I need some space
*Its not you, Its me
*I'm in a rough time in my life
or my favorite:
*-Woman of interest- is not available right now. Please leave a message after the tone. Beep!
Translation: I don't like you anymore. Buh-bye:Bye:
What you want is to be a challenge while remaining a gentleman. If you can do that her interest in you will actually rise above where it was when you first started dating. "How does one do that?" Its difficult and it takes practice but it can be done.
*Learn to say "No". Dont put up with all* her nonsense. Women test men, you know.
*Don't be too available. Give her space
*Don't be clingy or pushy. Take your time
*STAY OFF THAT PHONE. Unless you're planning a date. Keep it short
*Don't ask "Do you like me?"
*If you dont know what to do, DO NOTHING. Don't call to talk about it! Disappear! She will wonder where you went, and if she's truly interested she will call you.
*Keep some level of mystery to yourself. Stop wearing your hearts on your sleeves and spilling your guts guys.
*Keep all subjects light and be funny. No heavy topics. Be cool. Try to be a modern Cary Grant
As for online dating, there are a lot of people on this site just to get their egos stroked, I'm sorry to say. A lot of women are not here for dating at all. But that just means you need to weed out the ones who are here to waste your time and give you false hopes.
*You should be sending at least 40 messages a day. Anything less and you will probably die at a ripe old age with an empty inbox.
*Your profile is only as good as your worst picture. Get at least a couple professional photos taken (or be cheap like me and find a photography student)
*Dont come acoss too heavy. I must reiterate. Dont put "Im divorced and looking for a new wife" in your profile.
*If she's interested, ask her out to lunch or starbucks. A 1 hour date. If she give the Womanese about "its hard for me to find time because I babysit and work nights" Move on. She'd make time if Brad Pitt asked her out for lunch, right? It's not a matter of "she cant make it" its more an issue that "She doesn't want to"
We have to learn to move on. If she wants to get to know you by email first, she's wasting your time. 3 to 5 emails then 1st date
I could fill this page (or several) but you get the idea. Fellas it is NOT too much to ask that your woman sees you up on Mount Rushmore smiling right by Lincoln. Get a woman to love you to death and she will even stay thin for you Lol. Above all, I repeat, be a gentleman. We are not here to take advantage of women, we're here to love them, right? Any woman who disagrees with what I've said is counterproductive to her own cause. Remember: Women respond to challenge! Keep fishing guys | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 12:57:09 AM | Yeah I completely agree with the previous person. Write a book on the etiquette of online dating please. For all of the girls who are tired of crappy dishonest men, and for the decent guys out there who get a bad name due to the fallout.
Keep rockin!
J | |
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Posted: 7/4/2009 5:11:23 AM | Some very interesting points of view. Whilst I agree with a lot of Woody's view's I did also find a lot of it quite patronising - I would have thought that 95% of that was basic common sense/good manners and would have been better expressed in the positive i.e. what to do instead of what not to do.
Forgive me for skim reading much of the replies but Return of the Badboy's post was very good. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 12:34:59 AM | Return of bad guy, I totally agree on the whole challenge thing.
My last gf was IN LOVE with me. Then, things started fading, the relationship got boring a little. She mentioned she liked being with me because "I'm not very demanding." Allow me to translate: you're not challenging me enough and its okay for now but I'm going to need a change here, or you're going to have to change or we're done. She then ignored me, and avoided the whole "I want to dump you" by just saying "I don't know" when I asked her if she was mad/upset/wanted to break up. So I was like, "ok, what's the f*cking problem then?" She says, "I just need to be 'me' for awhile." Translation: you aren't in my plans for the future, f*ck off!
I have kind of learned, that not getting pissed when she can't spend the night (I honestly could have cared less), not getting pissed when she cancells last second to hang with her friends (again, I could honestly give a sh!t) is not the way to go. I should fake that I'm pissed that I can't spend every f*cking moment with her. So, maybe I'll lie about the fact that I really don't get that pissed, that I don't need to spend every single minute with my "girl" and that I don't expect sex every time she comes over to my place, and just pretend to be mad so she has something to work with.
Oh and for the ladies, here's what men "want," ok?
Feed us
F*ck us
Shut the f*ck up (Chris Rock said it, it must be true :) | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 5:31:39 AM | Lifewithout[ Oh and for the ladies, here's what men "want," ok?
Feed us
F*ck us
Shut the f*ck up (Chris Rock said it, it must be true :)]
I would like to hear more men comment on this. Does it really boil down to this at the end of the day? It does seem to be true. lol! | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 6:40:44 AM |
Feed us
F*ck us
Shut the f*ck up
What on earth is this tripe? If all women think this is true, then it's Game Over for all mankind. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 9:52:57 AM | manforrent[[[works for me
now if i could find someone who
actually knows how to cook
can actually F*ck half decently
and knows how to Shut the F*ck up]]]
El Oh EL....am I messed up for thinking this is funny? Maybe I just love Chris Rock.
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 7/13/2009 12:28:29 PM |  Dude if you write a book I will buy it. Everything you said from Emotional Transference to the so called Nice Guy syndrome, Door mat, fake pictures. Its is amazing how some people project on to others what they really feel about themselves. I have been polite with the woman that don't show interest in me. I gives me a great feeling inside to know that she has chosen not to choose me. I am okay with that because at least she going for the guy she really want.. I know that sound elementary but it makes a lot of sense to me. If you remember the movie White Fang II when the young man falls for the pretty Indian gal. Well the brother of the gal lets him know that its the woman that pick the man. I don't think that culture is very far removed from our. If only more guys would do a little less drinking during the movie so they can comprehend whats being said. As you would say "don' advertise yourselves as a child when you get rejected"
Dude you rock
croalive88 | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 10:24:22 PM | | Thanking you for sharing your insight and all, Woodrow. I'm going to be honest though, I've never once been guilty of any of these atrocious crimes against the online dating community. Sadly though, it seems that I would have much better luck if I were to start practicing these behaviors. If anyone reads this and has time to waste, tell me what makes me appear to be a waste of time on this website. Or just just lie to me and tell me that my inbox is deleting messages before I'm reading them, that would make me feel a lot less frustrated with dating in general. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 7/24/2009 12:07:30 AM | 8. Don't use that tired old "Abandoned in the forest I was raised by wolves..." story or anything else that has "been around the block a few times" ... at least not if the women in your dating pool have also been around the block a few times...
9. If your pic is good enough and/or you have a good enough career or make enough money (the former more important if you're younger; the latter if you're older), disregard #8. All you need is to not come off as a total loser, and you're golden.
But, ribbing aside, the guidelines are pretty much on the mark.
The one important thing I'd add is to have fun. | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 7/31/2009 11:44:17 AM | | And for goodness sake, please use punctuation marks in your profiles! I don't even read past the first line if it's a run on paragraph anymore! | |
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| Online Dating Guide for Men: Part Deux
Posted: 10/26/2009 10:10:46 PM | | If you want help with writing a profile, I suggest hiring someone to do it. I tried trysweettalk.com. It's great. A friend recommended it. All the best! | |
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